If you feel like you are consistently putting unreasonable demands on yourself and others, or that mistakes are totally unaceptable at work or in your personal life you may be a perfectionist.
Although high standards are important in order to achieve any degree of success, there is a difference between wanting to do your best and feeling like a failure if your efforts fall short of an unrealistic ideal. Often times our society rewards perfect acievement. However, perfectionists fail to see their behavior as having a downside.
Perfectionism is a personality trait that is often linked with mental health disorders such as depression, social anxiety, and obsessive compulsive disorder. Factors that are linked to this include genetic makeup, family pressures and upbringing. An example of this would be. children that had parents that stressed perfect manners, appearance and school achievement.

Many perfectionsists hold the following beliefs:
*I must always be perfect in what I say and do.
* It's unacceptable to make mistakes.
* If I can't do something perfectly, I shouldn't bother trying.
* There's a right way and wrong way to do things.
* It's what I achieve rather than who I am that is important.
However, there are negative consequences to perfectionsism. These will manifest themselves in varying degrees depending upon the person. Whenever these traits interfere with your ability to live and enjoy a normal life they need to be addressed.
Some of these traits include:
* Low self-esteem. Perfectionists never feel good enough and often label themselves as losers.
*Depression. Since perfectionists often fail to live up to self-imposed impossible standards, perfectionists have a tendency to become depressed.
*Rigidity. Perfectionists often need everything to be done a certain way.
*Compulsive behavior. Perfectionists can develop compulsive behaviors in an effort to maintain order in their surroundings.
*Harsh self-criticism. Perfectionists often look for mistakes and imperfections in their and thier coworkers' work and have trouble seeing value in a project that deviates from an established norm.
*Procrastination. Perfectionists who fear failure can become immobilized.
So you are a perfectionist. What can you do about it?
Perfectionism may be treated with cognitive strategies that help the person challenge and change his or her beliefs regarding the importance of perfect behavior and results.
If you want to overcome having the need to be perfect all them time than begin to accept yourself and others as fallible people who are not lesser beings because they make mistakes or fail to achieve greatness in everything they do. This can take time and effort to be turned around, but once it is done you will be able to live a fuller, less judgemental and less tourturous life.
Hope this helps some perfectionist realize they are human and enable them to enjoy their lives more.
Many of the ideas in this post came from the book "When Perfect Isn't Good Enough," by the author Martin Antony should you want to read more on the subject.
Remember, you are good enough just the way you are. Your worth is not based on what you achieve. I often think of a child that is free to just be themselves and enjoy the moment.
