listening: COMMUNICATION RESULTS (cause for pause)
- 08/18/19 09:47 AM
We can only process so much data whether it is deliberate (seeking) or submitted (awareness) at one time keeping in mind how much can be retained? What is necessary? Do we allow ourselves to drift or be distracted or do we maintain a reachable and inviting alertness until an interest or prompting appears? Too little or not enough can be controlled subject to two things..
HOW MUCH WE CAN PROCESS
The desire to do anything is not talked about enough. Desire is necessary if one is to truly rise to an occasion under attainable & willing circumstances. You can force yourself or others … (21 comments)
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listening: IT RUNS THE WORLD SO GET WITH IT!
- 04/28/15 12:10 AM
I am talking about communication. All forms from breath to breath to global shout-outs and yes, even our phishing messages into outer space that we hope someone will answer. Nothing gets done anywhere unless we communicate it. How we communicate is another good subject too. The point is, it runs the show!
SWING WITH ALL YOUR HEART
How many times have you listened to someone and had trouble hearing them? Many of us have heard others say "speak up" or "what did you say" or I'm sorry, I didn't hear you" and many other follow-up statements. The point is that when at bat, they … (13 comments)
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listening: YOU JUST NEVER KNOW
- 11/20/14 04:39 AM
You see people everywhere and they are public relating who they are and what they do in their coming and going and you never know what is really going on in someone even when you engage them. We forget that trust, vulnerability, permission and outright personal sharing is something people just don't give up to anyone
THE LIFE TRAVEL COMES WITH PAIN
Be aware of this however. The person who you are passing by, talking to and looking at... is carrying around issues. WHAT ISSUES? Life as we know it and then the personal bumps, valleys, injuries and hurts that come from being … (5 comments)
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listening: SIMPLE LEARNING AS YOU GO (life lessons)
- 10/30/14 06:44 AM
When I was a kid, you don't know the obvious things but you will in time. The question is what will it cost to learn them and when of course. Take learning to ride a bike. It is rewarding when things are going well but you have to be prepared for the falling off part. When I fell, I scraped a knee or an arm. I learned!
OH MY KNEE
You learn to not skip steps going up and down a staircase and to hold on to the banister and the first time you fall, hit your shinbone or worse, you get the lesson down … (14 comments)
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listening: CAN YOU HEAR ME NOW?
- 08/23/14 01:15 AM
When someone says..excuse me or what did you say or I didn't get that, I repeat it and think no more of it. However, if that keeps coming up for me during the day and in different places, I have some self-reflecting to do. What this means is that I may not be enunciating or speaking effectively. Yes, I know I said it and I sent it...but it was not received!
SENDING & RECEIVING
We don't realize when we are not broadcasting at optimum because that requires feedback, input and response. Some people will just nod in your direction or voice a sound letting what you said go … (9 comments)
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listening: LEND EVERYONE YOUR EAR AND NOT YOUR MOUTH
- 07/14/14 02:54 AM
Someone told me this one day because they thought I talked too much and didn't listen enough. Of course I disputed it making their point ...lol. I never forgot that little phrase and from time to time I experimented with it. It holds up quite nicely. People like to borrow ears and those that do lend them out are always kept busy and never alone either
THE EAR AT WORK
The other day, I ran across someone who keeps bees. I overheard a conversation and it spiked my interest. I jumped in with some questions and then let the bee keeper have the floor. It was … (7 comments)
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listening: COME LET US ARGUE TOGETHER?
- 06/26/14 03:42 AM
How about "COME LET US REASON TOGETHER" instead? How are we to appreciate the different points of view, (and believe me, they exist), when we can't get past the argument stages? To disagree with someone is to be expected. To argue right or wrong is to overreact. WHY?
I MAY NOT BE WHERE YOU ARE AT
Leave some room for subjectivity and growth to kick in. Not everyone sees things the same way yet when they do, it does make things go smoother. But then, we don't have to address the smooth and happy as much but instead the parts that need refinement and … (12 comments)
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listening: CHALLENGE YOURSELF WITH THIS: LISTENING
- 02/02/14 11:29 PM
Pick a day any day and decide to make it a day where you practice listening. Not just NOT talking but listening to what others are saying. being attentive, eye contact, giving your full attention to the person and as an option, ask questions for further listening training
I WONT TALK...
Listening is a lot harder than you think. Most people's first reaction to wanting or attempting to listen will be to think that they will just silence themselves thus becoming what is left..a listener. Not so. Rocks and walls are silent but they are not good listeners. NO. More is required from you
IT WILL … (10 comments)
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listening: WHATS I TALK YOU LISTEN YOU TALK I LISTEN CALLED?
- 01/28/14 12:40 AM
Dialog. No need to reinvent or make up a name for something that has been going on since Adam & Eve. It doesn't matter whether it is personal or business either. We are compelled to use what we have been given or it is taking away from you or withers away on its own
HOLDING IT IN
Use it or lose it is no urban myth. We were not intended to have secret agendas and hidden feelings. Keeping things in puts undue stress on the body and its inner parts. Organs cry out after a while because of all the internal pressure and withholding
WHAT ARE YOU SAYING?
Conversation has been … (24 comments)
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listening: HOW YOU SEE IT IS CALLED POINT OF VIEW
- 01/27/14 12:46 AM
Point of view remains part of the human journey and we bring it with us everywhere we go. Everyone has one too. It is how you see things and then what you do or think afterwards. It runs the world and affects us all professionally and personally too
KNOWING THE PERSON HELPS THE PROCESS
You stop judging someone when you come to know them. To know someone takes time and desire to do just that and during this process you will discover how that person feels and thinks. Here is where it can become dicey or enlightening depending on how you handle … (6 comments)
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listening: BE THE WORD OR BE THE WISE
- 01/22/14 02:09 AM
A WORD TO THE WISE. The two key points in the title are the 'word' and the "wise". If one recognizes what is being said as beneficial, then wise kicks in automatically. If one doesn't, then the "word" cannot complete its cycle. It goes elsewhere looking for someone that can appreciate it
LEARN FROM THIS
That's why it is important to learn from your mistakes and not just clean them up. There be a lesson there or two and sucking the marrow out of the occasion is wise food. You not only eat wisdom but you give it out as well.
SENSE … (5 comments)
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listening: OPPORTUNITY KNOCKS WHAT IF YOU DONT HEAR OR SEE IT?
- 01/08/14 08:42 AM
I am of total belief that opportunity abounds always everywhere never ceasing to reach out and want to go to work. Where the system breaks down is on the receiving end of it not the sending part. If the mindset we live in remains limited, then so does your growth
THE ENEMY HAS BEEN SIGHTED...IT IS US
I see people hard set in their ways in so many professions as I go about my daily business. Sometimes I say something and sometimes I just observe. One thing remains constant and that is that what we are searching for, that success is right there except the Forrest gets in the … (16 comments)
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listening: THE COMMUNICATOR HAS THE RESPONSIBILITY TO COMMUNICATE
- 06/05/13 11:15 PM
How often in college..... I used to see hands go up with puzzled faces on the first day of class right after the syllabus was handed out. Just first glance at the class instruction tells you that something is not clear and the questions that followed proved it. People think just because they have written or said something.....that it was received. That is your first mistake and unless corrected, your last....
IT IS THE RESPONSIBILITY OF THE COMMUNICATOR......TO COMMUNICATE
A speaker, teacher, parent or person in authority who has been doing this for a while becomes aware of how important interacting … (9 comments)
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listening: BEFORE WOE THERE WAS WHOA IF YOU LISTEN
- 05/06/13 01:48 AM
I used to do a lot of jail counseling. People who are behind bars don't want to be there. Loss of liberty, not being able to choose ones company, loss of privacy and being treated with indignities is not the way to go.....These people are in WOE.....Prior to entering their WOE.......they were in the WHOA.....stage....Let me explain......
As you go through life and life's circumstances, even if you are running a business, you encounter many choices and some hard decisions. Most of the time, those decisions consist of not doing something or the stopping of doing something incorrectly. In order to … (6 comments)
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listening: NO CURE FOR FOOT IN MOUTH AGAIN FOUND
- 03/09/13 10:17 PM
It makes its way into every business and personal transaction. It runs rampant and random too. This is something that we have inherited and apparently there is no cure. Its symptoms are very obvious only after the fact...never before. Consequently the ones infected become embarrassed and even humiliated swearing never to travel that way again...but to no avail
NO ESCAPE AND NO CURE..YET
For try as we may, it follows us around like a new born chick follows the mother hen. We are aware of it, but powerless to stop it. Some have it worse than others, but all show symptoms. … (8 comments)
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listening: YOU LEARN QUITE A BIT WHEN YOU BITE YOUR OWN LIP
- 12/14/12 10:55 PM
That's right my friends. If you (and forgive me for being blunt) SHUT-UP and listen more, well you will discover a treasure trove of data just waiting to make its way toward you and to service you. Those that suffer from foot in mouth or loose lips would do well to shut down all operations and make the coming year different just by becoming a good listener...
THE PROBLEM IS IDENTIFIED
You can do it even though I will tell you that the learning curve is quite challenging. You will be up against some of the greatest and stubborn forces you … (6 comments)
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listening: YOU LOST THE HOUSE NOT THE AGENT
- 10/23/12 01:07 AM
I attended a complaint hearing where the buyer who was rejected brought a complaint against the selling agent. This rejected buyer insisted that his agent file the complaint. The basis was that the house sold for less money than the rejected buyers offer and he couldn't understand why the highest bid was not accepted (his) by the bank in this short sale
LESS EMOTIONS...MORE FACTS
The communications between the agents was present, but not optimum. You see they let their argument control the discussion instead of the facts which I will reveal. If they were calm and communicated, it all would have … (9 comments)
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listening: YOU GOT MY FULL ATTENTION
- 08/24/12 02:06 AM
Everyone wants attention. In fact, if you want to be famous, well off or powerful, give people attention. Once they have received their full of attention, you will then get yours. It is a good trade and someone has to go first. I am suggesting that YOU be the one to do so. Listening...lending someone your ear, if done correctly, is a very powerful tool
LOVE VIA LISTENING... CAN BE IN THE AIR
When you LISTEN to someone and they get it, they have a sense of being validated, respected and valued and that comes across without you the listener having to … (0 comments)
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listening: PERSPECTIVE: COMMUNICATING YOURS and UNDERSTANDING THEIRS
- 08/14/12 06:29 AM
Point of view rules the world and when a person comes to understand another point of view, they are now in that persons world. That is an honor and a responsibility to be a good steward of the invitation, the trust and to treat it accordingly. DO NOT BE TEMPTED TO ARGUE or this coveted opportunity to learn will be lost
WHEN I SHARE OR WANT
Here's a good question. Who should go first in sharing perspectives. Well if I am out and about and I have a need, I am going to communicate that and then monitor the feed back … (7 comments)
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listening: BEING OVERHEARD CAN BE GOOD OR BAD
- 07/23/12 05:20 AM
If you ever have been out in public and stumbled upon a conversation or a person making a statement, it becomes interesting because people everywhere in whatever they are doing remain fascinating to hear, watch and unfortunately judge too. Some people remain more interesting and hold your attention while others repel you away with their small talk
THE COURT HALLWAYS
If you have ever visited a court house where criminal, civil, or family proceedings are being held, there is no end to the conversations, meetings and exchanges one will see and hear in the hallways outside of the court rooms. While interesting … (2 comments)
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We can only process so much data whether it is deliberate (seeking) or submitted (awareness) at one time keeping in mind how much can be retained? What is necessary? Do we allow ourselves to drift or be distracted or do we maintain a reachable and inviting alertness until an interest or prompting appears? Too little or not enough can be controlled subject to two things..
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