There is an old saying to the effect that "something" happens. Personal tragedy is impossible to avoid. People we love betray us, get hurt, killed, or suffer any number of other catastrophes. One event is bad enough but the fortitude of even the strongest amounst us is often tested by a full-on assault from all sides. Tragedies tend to come in clumps. When they happen, they can make things worse for us by taking us away from the very business that sustains us through these varied gut shots.

It is normal to feel overwhelmed and incapable of functioning under difficult personal circumstances. I have recently experienced such a crisis. I would like to share with you some things I have learned to make it easier on you when you have to go through 7 levels of Hell only to discover that there are 14 levels.

Winston Churchill once said, "When you are going through Hell, KEEP GOING". There is much wisdom in this statement since, afterall, what is the alternative? The first thing I suggest you do when you reach a major personal crisis is to take time off. A week or two will not only give you a chance to deal with your emotions but it will give you an opportunity to seek out support mechanisms. We all need friends and family when we are in pain and this will give you that opportunity.

But also take time to make a plan of action. What will you do to deal with this new crisis? Then make it part of your daily routine and calendar. Set aside specific time to meet with doctors or attorneys or other professionals who may be needed to assist you. Don't wing it! Make crisis management just another account to be acted on and reconciled in your agenda. It is difficult to compartmentalize your feelings but that is why you take time off at first. At least then you will have time to regain functionality.

Don't deal with it alone. Talk to your co-workers and broker. Let them know that you are dealing with a crisis and that their support will be appreciated.

Finally, decide to accept that blame is a fools paradise. Don't get caught up in investing energy into blame. Focus on solutions. It will be better for you, your soul, and those around you.

God Bless