The last 18 months of my life I have totally focused on honing my leadership skills. Wow. What a ride! The biggest thing I have learned is that I really have a lot to learn.
This is exciting and an opportunity to keep moving. Keep going. Meet new and exciting people and keep growing.
I have found that I am either in a state of decline or a state of growth. As much as I would like to say I am in a state of stability, I am painfully aware that stability doesn't exist. Another way of looking at it is this:
- Unsuccessful people laser their thoughts on survival
- Average people laser their thoughts on maintenance
- Successful people laser their thoughts on progress

Successful people are the movers and the shakers. The relationship builders. The "just do it" people. These people are the ones that make things happen. They don't sit around and talk about it. They don't get a committee to buy in, they don't overly plan things and have conferences about it. They just go out and take action.
I remember my first broker. I thought he was going to absolutely choke when he saw me take off. There was paperwork flying every where and I didn't have a clue what was going on...I was selling homes. I sold six homes my first month in real estate. I was having a ball! I was in my element of talking to people and marketing and making
things happen. It wasn't the high market yet in Phoenix and my broker didn't quite know what to make of it and he was dying inside...he questioned everything I did, "Do you have a disclosure for that? Did you let them know that it could backfire if they do it that way? You can't do that!
You did what? You told them what?"
Now, I was all about dancing within the parameters of the law and doing things right. I just didn't have it all figured out yet. I would hear my competing, (I use this term very loosely), broker on the phone and this is what he said:
"Well, the house does have termites. What can we do? Well we can cancel it, that's what! They should have known the house had termites before they ever listed it. This is something they should have taken care of!" He was using what I tell my children is....THE ANGRY VOICE.
I am thinking....YIKES! I was questioning myself and wondering if I was doing it right because I had just had a conversation about termites and my conversation with a first time home seller with termites went like this...
"Yeah a few little termites is no big deal. Everyone in Arizona has termites and they are not the aggressive kind like back east, they are sort of like Arizona State workers, one chews and the other four stand around and watch! Let's just get em treated and get you into your next home." Of course it closed and they bought another home with me.
I remember my very first deal. I was trusting him because after all, he was the broker. I put the closing on a Friday. Duh. It didn't close on Friday because it didn't record. My seller was a bit emotional anyway and I called to tell her.
She said, "I am not okay with this! They should have closed. What are my rights? "
My response was, "Um. That's a great question! Let me call my broker and see what he says and maybe I will have him call you, okay?"
"Sure." She says
I call and talk to him and tell him I don't know what to do. Of course in my gut I did, I was just paralyzed in fear and not stepping into my leadership. He agrees to call her and then call me back. Ten minutes later he is on the phone saying she wants to cancel and re-list it on Monday.
"WHAT? Are you kidding me? Why didn't you save it?" I am borderline hysterical at this point. "Just forget it, I will call her myself."
I make the call and ask what is going on and she replies, "Cancel it. Screw them. They should have gotten this thing done. We will re-list it on Monday. I talked to the broker and he said I was completely within my rights to cancel and they just lost their earnest money too! They won't see a red cent of that and they will just have to go find another house. They shouldn't have messed with me."
Ut Oh. My mind was racing. "Okay, so, I have dealt with you for the last two months and I can see how much integrity you have and I know you are not the kind of person that would throw people out on the street after they have done everything in their power to buy your home. Do you know they are sitting in front of the house with all their stuff in a moving truck that is supposed to be back tomorrow morning? They have no home to go to. They sold theirs and moved out. They have the money, it has funded, it just didn't record. I know the kind of person you are and I know you do the right thing and pulling the plug on these people does not sound like you at all....what is going on?"
She is crying now and struggling to get the words out, "My new neighbors don't like it that I have a horse. I don't know if I will be able to keep my horse here even though the REALTOR in Tucson told me that it was horse property. I am so sick of being jacked around by people."
"Alright, so let's get this thing off your plate. Re-listing it is dragging it out. Let's get these folks into their new home. They loved it because you made it a home for them. It is a good thing. It will all be done on Monday and you will have your money and then you can deal with what you need to deal with in Tucson, okay?" I continued. "As a matter of fact, it is a young couple and I feel it would be best to allow them into the house over the weekend and make it right for them. The utilities are already in their name and a quick call to your insurance guy and we can make this a win / win. Sound like a plan?"
"Well, okay. Thank you, I do feel better now." She says.
So....my lesson here was trust myself. I don't need to turn it over to someone else. I don't need anyone to bail me out. I have the answers inside of me and you know what? You do too! Trust yourself and everything will change for the better for you too!
Now, go sell a house!