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Your Personality is your Niche

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Real Estate Agent with Tomson Burnham, llc Licensed in the State of Oregon

I accept the fact that not everyone will like me.  That is okay and I use it to my advantage.  You should too.


rosyI know...weird way to start a post....it's okay with me if you don't like me.  Makes me sound anti-social or something, but really I'm not.


Everyone has different values and different ways of looking at life...all you have to do is scroll through about 10 posts on ActiveRain to see just how different we all are..  The online world is your local coffee shop, but you have the good fortune to have coffee with people in Texas, New Orleans, Georgia, and California, all at the same time.  Within your local community you have good friends and people...well, people that you dread seeing because they just rub you the wrong way.  Your personalities just don't mesh.  It's not a big deal in your local world because you have other friends who think you are fabulous.  


I know, I know...you're thinking, Melina...you're rambling....hello, get to the point because if you are like me, you have the attention span of a flea and you need to be entertained or you're moving on...


Niche...that seems to be the real estate word to be successful.  "Find a niche," coaches scream at you...horse properties, condos, or a local neighborhood.  I agree that is a good idea.  Know something and know it well.  I think this applies to your person. Know yourself and know you well...because in the blogosphere, your personality is your niche.


If you read my posts they are filled with data because I like it.  I'm not a perky chick...not a lampshade wearing at a party kinda gal..  Me...I'm a great listening,  sarcastic, analytical data geek.  That is who I am, and I use that to my advantage by sharing my personality in my posts.  I don't pretend to me someone I am not which brings me good business, and GOOD business is what I am after.


geekI have limited time in my life for work which means I need to maximize my earning power. As a owns my own brokerage, working full time, married for 17 years with two young children woman, I don't have a lot of time.  Time is very valuable to me and is not something I can just go get more of at Target.  As such, I am cautious about how I give it away.  If I am going to give my time away, it has to be because I think it will get me what I need which is GOOD business.
 

What is GOOD business?  It's
simple...working with clients that value me and what I have to offer them.  I can't be everything to all people.  I already know I can't, so I don't try.  Some people look at my massive amounts of data charts and want to run away.  My charts scare them.  Others think they have found their perfect real estate agent.  GOOD business is trying to find those clients that think I might be their perfect real estate agent.   If you are who you are on your posts, then people will like you or hate you...either is okay, because there will be enough people who like you.  You want to interact with those people who like you, your style, your way of doing things.  I personally believe that it is better to only get 50 leads in a year and close 30-40 transactions off that, then get 250 leads and only close 30-40 transactions.  The less time I spend on converting leads to clients the better off my personal life is.  I'd like to have a life outside real estate...


Most real estate agents can name those clients that they have dreaded....you know the ones that the name comes up on the caller ID and your hand jerks away from the phone like it is on fire.  Chances are there is nothing wrong with that client...what is wrong is the personality fit.  Their perfect agent has a different personality.  Why spend your time working with people who aren't going to glow about how great you are?  That's what you want.  You want client evangelists...clients who think you are so great that they will preach to their friends that you are the best thing since the iPhone (and as an iPhone loving geek, that is saying something)!  


angel and devilReal estate is in a tumultuos time and it makes no sense to expend energy on people who rub you the wrong way.  They aren't going to have a good customer experience and  you will dread working with them.  Not a good combination for future referrals...and that is the goal because future referrals are free and are essential to the vitality of a successful long term business.  


You want to surround yourself, whether online or in your local community, with people who mesh with you.  You want to network with agents in the online world that have similar values to you.  If their clients like them, chances are they will like you and have a positive consumer experience.  You won't have to harass them for referrals because they already think you are awesome.  


So remember...the next time you write a post...g
o out and be yourself.  Whether you are an aggressive person, data loving geek, or everything is rosy kinda of person, don't make excuses or back down because someone doesn't like your style:  Be yourself.. You'll be better off in the business world and your personal life for it


Remember, your personality is your niche, the rest is irrelevant.

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Susan Mangigian
RE/MAX Preferred - West Chester, PA
Chester & Delaware County Homes, Delaware and Ches

You guys had coffee??

Mar 26, 2009 10:51 PM
Jessica Horton Jessica Horton Realty
Jessica Horton - Jessica Horton & Associates - Griffin, GA
Jessica Horton: I'm not #1... You Are!

Lisa said, "Great post, thanks for sharing. ;p"

No...she didn't!

Mel:  Seriously, I need more points  this was a great post. Some folks just don't recognize talent when they read it.  Alas, my super-duper hero powers have been taken from me and I'm only a mere mortal, but I would pin this baby to the front page for a week if I still had them.  :)

Just know this:  You don't ever have to pump your own gas and I envy you because of that - I hate pumping gas.  Off to FB to start some more rumors about you and Amanda.

Mar 27, 2009 01:12 AM
Melina Tomson
Tomson Burnham, llc Licensed in the State of Oregon - Salem, OR
Principal Broker/Owner, M.S.

Lisa-I think I need to bribe Rich with some crab for another gold star...

Susan-Yes we had coffee and talked about Jessica behind her back.  But being the upfront person that I am I like to let Jessica know when we are talking about her. You'll have to go to REBarCamp PHX to have coffee IRL.

Jess- she did say it...I think it's because she taught blogging the other day and her brain is fried...

As for pumping gas...it's very irritating most of the time.  Sometimes you have to wait 5 minutes to get someone to come over and start the dang pump...

Mar 27, 2009 03:18 AM
Lisa Heindel
Crescent City Living LLC - New Orleans, LA
New Orleans Real Estate Broker

Can't you people see my tongue in my cheek??  LOL!  Seriously, this should have been a feature and I'm disappointed that it's not...

Mar 27, 2009 04:34 AM
Melina Tomson
Tomson Burnham, llc Licensed in the State of Oregon - Salem, OR
Principal Broker/Owner, M.S.

Lisa I am a very serious person and don't get that whole tongue and cheek thing...

Seriously, Rich requires that I send a monthly bribe of dungeness crab in order to be considered for a feature...I must have forgotten this month...

Mar 27, 2009 04:50 AM
Jessica Horton Jessica Horton Realty
Jessica Horton - Jessica Horton & Associates - Griffin, GA
Jessica Horton: I'm not #1... You Are!

@ Lisa  I do *get* tongue-in-cheek.  I've been known to do it too (every now and then).  You know I think you're the da bomb!

@ Melina  I would gladly wait.  I hate touching the gas pump thingy. All the attendants were so nice to me.  Must be my slow-southern drawl...

Mar 27, 2009 06:09 AM
Russell Lewis
Realty Austin, Austin Texas Real Estate - Austin, TX
Broker,CLHMS,GRI

Semi-Lucid? Paul? Very serious? Lisa? I am glad I subscribed t0 your blog, very entertaining! Did you ever send those mushrooms to Jason?

And Amanda...who's Stan? 

 

Mar 29, 2009 08:32 AM
Bryant Tutas
Tutas Towne Realty, Inc and Garden Views Realty, LLC - Winter Garden, FL
Selling Florida one home at a time

OK Melina, I don't have the power but here's a little star from me. I hope it helps :)

So I don't really have a star. How about a pair of BB Boxers instead? 

Mar 31, 2009 11:06 AM
Karen Cooper
Karen Cooper | Sr Mortgage Loan Originator ! NMLS # 223305 | First Federal Bank of Florida, Ocala, FL - The Villages, FL
Helping Homeowners w/Home Loans in 27 US States

Bravo, Melina! It is easy to forget this concept, that we can't please every one every time, and do we really want to try to do so?And oh boy, do I understand the concept of time being our ultimate commodity as working moms! Wading in to the world of Internet marketing was a very difficult step for me, coming from the land of "repeat and referral only" for so many years. Still is hard, sometimes, figuring out what I'm okay with sharing, and what I'm not. Then, you go and post a comment under a set of BB's boxers, and you wonder what beady eyes are reading what you write ;->

Mar 31, 2009 04:48 PM
Melina Tomson
Tomson Burnham, llc Licensed in the State of Oregon - Salem, OR
Principal Broker/Owner, M.S.

BB 13 BB faces is way more powerful than a little ol' gold star...

Karen...I didn't even think of the beady eyes looking at me...dang...

Apr 04, 2009 12:22 PM
Thesa Chambers
West + Main - Bend, OR
Principal Broker - Licensed in Oregon

I agree... but hey even if you don't like me could you send me your Central Oregon Referrals.... just teasing I think you hit the nail on the head of what attracted me to your blog in the first place with this one..... be transparent - totally transparent and the right business will come to you

Apr 06, 2009 05:44 PM
Andrew Haslett
Van Warren Home Inspections, NAHI CRI - Fort Knox, KY
Heartland of Kentuckynulls, Best Home Inspector

Melina,

This post is a great reminder for me, especially that each of us has something to offer.

This certainly seems to come from an attitude of abundance, despite that you read all the bad news :-)

http://activerain.com/blogsview/1027998/Are-You-Fooling-Yourself

 

Apr 10, 2009 03:23 PM
Melina Tomson
Tomson Burnham, llc Licensed in the State of Oregon - Salem, OR
Principal Broker/Owner, M.S.

Thesa I'm looking forward to meeting you, and you on my list :)

Andrew I think I am an odd duck in that negative news motivates me, for the most part.  I think it gives me a sense of urgency that I sometimes lack when times are good.

Apr 10, 2009 03:49 PM
Debbie Walsh
SHAHAR Management - Middletown, NY
Hudson Valley NY Real Estate 845.283-3036

Great post!  You hit the nail right on the head!

Apr 12, 2009 12:07 PM
Melina Tomson
Tomson Burnham, llc Licensed in the State of Oregon - Salem, OR
Principal Broker/Owner, M.S.

Shirley welcome to AR.  I encourage all my AR friends to harass welcome you.

Apr 16, 2009 11:01 AM
Suma Kakani
Northern IL Realtor - Keller Williams Success Realty - Prairie View, IL

I feel the same  way Melina. Even though it's an old post, I'm just viewing it today. Great post. thanks a lot for sharing with us.

Apr 17, 2009 01:10 AM
Melina Tomson
Tomson Burnham, llc Licensed in the State of Oregon - Salem, OR
Principal Broker/Owner, M.S.

Well Suma thanks for stopping by my post.

Apr 17, 2009 09:03 AM
Tanya Nouwens
Immeubles Deakin Realty - Montreal West Island, QC
Montreal Real Estate Broker & Stager

Came here from Leslie's post.  Suggested :)  There's wisdom in them thar words, Melina.  The journey to knowing ourselves is often a difficult and trying one.  Kudos to you for having done it.

Nov 02, 2010 02:31 AM
Melina Tomson
Tomson Burnham, llc Licensed in the State of Oregon - Salem, OR
Principal Broker/Owner, M.S.

Tanya you do realized that you suggested a post that's over a year old? 

I actually think most people know themselves, Tanya, but I don't think that they accept that who they are is okay.

Nov 02, 2010 07:19 AM
Tanya Nouwens
Immeubles Deakin Realty - Montreal West Island, QC
Montreal Real Estate Broker & Stager

I do realize that, Melina, but what you say in this post is not dated...and stranger things have happened :)

Nov 02, 2010 02:10 PM