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In Real Estate, Think First, Then Be Nice

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Real Estate Agent with TopBroker Network Real Estate

Sometimes it's tough being a nice person. Seriously, it can be a load on a person's soul. Since acting as a landlord for my dad-in-law's house this last year, twice, my "nice" has gotten me into trouble. We nice people mean well. Heck, that's why we're nice. In my case, our tenants (three young women) had some problems come up and needed our help. "Niceness" to the rescue!

First Issue? Washing Machine.

It had gotten stuck in the middle of a cycle. Waiting for Mr. Sears to show up, he discovered that a dryer sheet had inadvertently made it's way over the inside basin, got caught in the motor, causing it to basically stop working. When Ms. Tenant asked if they would have to pay for the repair, I first told them probably not and not to worry. <LOUD BUZZER RINGS. WRONG ANSWER!> Mr. Sears informed me that the problem was not cause by normal wear and tear (How could it have? Washer was less than a year old!) but rather, by that little tiny dryer sheet. Ms. Tenant reluctantly writes a check for the repair.

Second issue? Plumbing.

About a month ago, they call with a big clog problem, so I call Mr. Plumber. Everyone should be so lucky to have my plumber, as he came the same day I called and immediately snaked the entire plumbing throughout the house. When finished with the yucky job, he calls me and says there was way too much food and that whoever is renting the house, they need to understand that not everything should go down a garbage disposal. And when using a garbage disposal, don't forget to run a lot of water too. Oh, and nothing should ever make its way down a toilet other than regular toilet paper. (And we had just had a new main serwer installed about 4 years ago) So again, after the fact, Ms. Tenant asks if they owe us anything and naturally, I tell her, no, it's no problem, just remember to not put so much food in disposal, blah, blah, blah. <WRONG AGAIN!> Besides, she was stressing out in the middle of trying to find a third roommate (the first two or the original three tenants would be leaving by Mar. 1st), time was ticking away, and I didn't want to add to her stress by having her pay for a plumbing issue! But you see, there's this thing called a Rental Agreement. Yeah, I remember signing that. I mean, I'm a Realtor for heaven's sakes. Gotta know my contracts, right? Yes, well, there's a very crucial line under #11 A in the California Lease Agreement which states:

"Tenant shall be charged for repair of drain blockages or stoppages, unless caused by defective plumbing parts or tree roots invading sewer lines."

I knew this before answering her. I reacted before thinking. As you can imagine, Ms. Tenant hasn't been too happy with me. First I tell her not to worry, then turn around and tell her, "Hey! You know how I told you that you probably wouldn't have to pick up the tab? Well, I'm too accommodating and don't think before I speak. That, and I really like you and want you to like me too!!" Good grief. Twice I make the same mistake. Think I get it by now??  Fortunately, pragmatic tendencies wreak throughout my partner/hubby. This is an example of thinking before reacting, when he wrote:

"Please keep in mind Ms. Tenant, that when you all originally moved in on March 1, 2008, the plumbing was in good order, and all routine and even unexpected repairs and maintenance necessary to keep it that way (including whatever repairs are required to fix the bathroom faucet this coming Saturday) were performed and paid for by us as your landlords, per the terms of the agreement.  An example of normal wear & tear was the replacement of both the washer & dryer as they had reached the end of their useful life, and not as a result of any neglect and/or abuse by you guys, versus the subsequent and more recent washer repair which the Sears technician found was due to negligence.

So in fairness to all of you, and to us, we double-checked today with our plumber Brian XX, to get his professional opinion as to which he thought it was: (abuse/neglect or just normal wear & tear) in this case.  What he recalled when we spoke with him today, was that it was what he called an 'over-use' drain clog, meaning: too much food going down the kitchen sink, without enough water running down along with it.   So in his opinion, it was something that could have been avoided, and therefore, not ordinary wear & tear."

He is the Shakespeare of practicality. My hero. My practical teacher. And guess what? He's nice too.

Jennifer Allan-Hagedorn
Sell with Soul - Pensacola Beach, FL
Author of Sell with Soul

Carin - I SO hear you! I'm a very nice landlord and usually it works for me, so I'm not going to stress over it... but after my experience last fall with the squatter renter, I'm not nearly as trusting. Too bad, really.

But I can't tell you how many times I've given someone the benefit of the doubt and then wished I could retract my words! To the tune of tens of thousands of dollars...

Mar 28, 2009 02:22 AM
Carin Arrigo-Zimmer
TopBroker Network Real Estate - Orange, CA
TopBroker Network Real Estate

Jennifer, the thing that frustrates me most is that I'm a Realtor! I read contracts, I learn contracts, I study contracts. Do you think these young women, our tenants, would ever consider working with me in future real estate ventures? This is my number one characteristic flaw I see in myself. Not the end of life as I know it, but something I'm more aware of each day, determined to change this behavior.

I'm not looking to be Nurse Ratchet here, only to gain some control over the situation. This is where my weakness creeps in. It's also the strenghth of Mr. Z. You see, he's a master at leadership without being a complete ass. (okay, sometimes he is but for other reasons.... you understand my point.) I so admire this quality in him. That's why we work well together as a team in the landlord department.

I think you've grown a lot in this area over the past year due to your experience. Yeah, it's a bummer about distrusting a bit more than before, but it's great you've recognized this behavior in yourself and have moved on baby!

 

Mar 29, 2009 11:23 AM
Bill Saunders, RealtorĀ®
Meyers Realty - Hot Springs, AR
www.BillSellsHotSprings.com

Hey Carin,

You can still be nice and be a landlord. As always there is the difference between pride of ownership and pride of leasing...the two are not at all the same. You are the "lord of the manor" as the landlord and have a basic responsibility to protect the investment, whether it is for another as an agent, or for yourself as the owner.

Even mild neglect (minor oopses) will add up over time. Yes, these problems were small mistakes made by the tenant, but with rather large cash outlays for you had you not passed them back to the cause..the tenant.

My guess is that you are providing a nice, well maintained place and a more than timely response in the event of a problem. This is your responsibility, and you are doing it well. If you tip your hand and worry about a future soi possibility, many tenants will pick up on this and sweetly beat you to death with it.

You can still be a nice person, a caring person, and a fair person. Fair is a 2 way street. Just like in being a REALTOR, we are all about clients and ethics, but we do not have to be a doormat. I struggle with the same things.

One of the best things is the letter. It serves as not only a nice explanation, but also documentation that it was their fault and no fault of your own. Your copies may serve you very well if there is a larger problem down the line...you have a file that you had had issues with the tenants before.

You can do it...you can do it...you can do it and still be nice and fair. They are nice, but they are tennants and you are the lord of the manor ;)

all the best...

Apr 26, 2009 11:51 PM