There comes a time in ones life when a person knows they need to change something so their lives can be more enriched and meaningful.
There comes a time in a mother's life when all they hope, wish and care about is for their children to be happy.
People change in their own good time. They do not change if they do not want to and they do not change for anyone but themselves. That's when it works. Circumstances and situations give a person permission to keep doing the same things over, to stay in unhealthy relationships and continue to beat ones self esteem down.
That person will remain in their own dilema of unhappiness and will not fulfill everything in life they really want to achieve when they stay on the road to self destruction.
Codependency is a sickness and it is a dis - ease (get it?) with self. Being uncomfortable with self is in fact the biggest form of low self esteem and eventually leads to people pleasing and saying yes when they really mean no. My daughter followed in my footsteps and I can only say that she must've picked it up through all the unhealthy behavior she saw me in during her young life.
It takes a heck of a lot of practice to change ones thinking around. Those unhealthy beliefs about self eventually leads to the soul going bankrupt. Spiritually,mentally and physically beat down. If you have not read my first story of my daughter's turmoil read on here>>>> I Saw Your Face In a Crowded Place
After being separated for over 2 years (and separated three out of the five years) she finally divorced her now ex husband. Over the past 2.5 years she focused on paying her debts (incurred during that turbulent marriage) and has been employed and went back to school two months after she left him over two years ago.
They say (in AA, NA and CA- Codependents Anonymous) that the first step is admitting. In turn we learn new tools and put it into practice. I have watched my daughter grow ....again. Of course there were more trials along the way but nothing she didn't go through and handle.
And then it happened. She met her knight in shining armor. Literally.
Other people can see things that maybe they could not because we are looking from the outside. I saw the transformation of a young lady who was still healing from the past and taking a risk in a relationship with someone she recognized as a healthy minded individual. Of course they had their little quirks to fine tune their relationship (and more to come I warned them! :) Bottom line...they are happy and look happy...and it feels happy.
They finally exchanged their vows yesterday.
It was a joyous time for all and I watched my daughter enter into a world so different than the past. It's called Change with a Spring Fresh Future.....a MARRIAGE. A union of souls. Everything about the wedding, the families getting together and our luncheon just felt....RIGHT.
My daughter is happy....and that's all that matters.
Forward Ho!
No looking back now....just good times ahead!
If you put your cursor over the picture there's a message there LOL!
Congratulations DORI & GERARDO!!
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You must be so Proud...Not easy being a MOM is it??
Congratulations Sally...
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I'm elated, ecstatic, jubilant but very tired today :) :)
As you can see, I've been very busy....the transaction that William Johnson referred to me is already funded but our Bureau of Conveyances held onto it one more day....will close tomorrow.....and of course...my part time job in our c21 office and getting ready with Dori's Wedding.
Welcome to the family Gerardo!
(he doesn't really know what he's getting into with all of Dori's family mmooooahhh haaa haaaa........!)