I see this happen all the time lately. In some of the larger Real Estate franchises one agent pits themself over the other with higher production. Does that make them necessarily a better agent? Well it does mean they sell more houses during the year compared to another agent/team/group. Then the rankings go up on the board. Susie is #1 for the city, John #2, Cynthia #3, and so on. While raw numbers and rankings are good from knowing what is happening in an area and provides friendly competition, it draws out an ugly side of life as well.
Are You Battling The Green Eyed Monster?
You know what I am talking about here. Jealousy. This problem in all our lives can be seen just about everywhere you look. She's better looking than me. He makes more money. That person is so much more popular than I ever will be. They always win all the Group awards at my office. This is getting so old and I am sick of hearing about it each month at our Realtor office meetings. Look on Active Rain, a social networking site which for contribution purposes tracks your time here with points. Oh Melissa in my county has 75,000 points. I have only 20,000. I have to beat her and rise in the rankings. Everything she writes about is worthless anyway. I'm better than her. Do you see where jealousy takes you down this very dark path? Is someone with 150,000 points a BETTER person or necessarily smarter than someone with 30,000 points? Are they a Member Active Rain god? At some stage it is all pointless when you think about it if not downright silly.
Jealousy starts in our heart. It is not something easily dismissed. Like handling temptation you have to DEAL WITH IT. From the early biblical days of Cain and Abel the brothers where one murdered the other over a sacrificial offering, jealousy is VERY REAL and powerful.
It can be even stronger in women with higher levels of emotion. It has its roots in anger. It comes from thinking scarcity and not abundance. Men can be very jealous of others from a competitive standpoint. You feel you are lacking something or WANT what someone else has.
The real truth is that you are not lacking anything. Take money for example. Yes, dollar wise your bank account may not be as big as that other fellow, but you have other riches in your life like love and family and friends and God which rust can't touch and moths can't destroy. Much of jealousy stems from self-esteem issues. Sure we say we feel good about ourselves, but then why are we acting this way? Something is not right inside. It can be about control. Are we too controlling and need to let go? All are forms of insecurity. It is not easy being emotionally healthy for any of us, but in today's complex world here are some ideas to help out:
Catch yourself falling into a situation of being jealous and say STOP.
Check your attitude in the mirror each day.
Don't compare yourself to others which will lead to misery.
Compete only with yourself.
Say I am OK as I am just as I am right now.
Say I am loved. Because you are.
Don't let the Green Eyed Monster ever sweep you away in his tentacles. You are so much better than that. Be the BEST YOU and you will have all you need in life.
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