I am having the wonderful privilege of getting to know my father-in-law better. We are taking care of my father-in-law because being in a nursing home was destroying his spirit. Even though his body was deteriorating, his mind is as sharp as a tack. He really would not have lasted long in that environment.
(I have to admit I am selfish, too. I get enjoyment and satisfaction helping him. I know, and many other people who care for their parents know it is work, but for me it is a labor of love.)
We are moving his things from his apartment which has been his long time home. There is quite an eclectic collection of items everywhere. I decided to tackle a walk-in-closet of long forgotten things. Mind you, as a child, the attic was my favorite place in the whole world, so digging around in the closet was like being a kid again.
As I plundered and packed, I would bring out items for Dad to look at. Stained shirts brought back memories of parties, shoes, red, white and blue shoes were part of his Fourth of July ensemble. I was tickled to have found the patriotic shirt, and matching socks. Dad told the story how my mom-inlaw threw away the matching pants. I guess he rescued them from the garbage, but has not seen them in years. Sadly, I didn't find the 1776 pants in my excavating of the closet. Note to self: go on eBay, and complete his outfit so he can wear it this July.
I found a couple of tuxedos. One with tails! I put on the tails, went into the living room and performed for my father-in-law Young Frankenstein's "Putting on the Ritz".
I feel like I just discovered something exciting when my father-in-law tells me stories about his life. I was amazed when I learned that he went to France and bought a ventriloquist puppet! I asked my husband if he knew that, he said no. See, I discovered something amazing!
There is more to pack-up, so I guess the show continues: "Bob Ruthman - This is Your Life", and it not over.
All I can say is there is so much wisdom and treasures to be found in our elderly. Those that still have their parents and grandparents are so fortunate! Pick their brains and savor their stories!