I had a client who wanted to buy a home but he was in bankruptcy.
I have a client who is going through a divorce and am looking for some advice.
I currently have a co-worker who is desperate to close a deal......
I was reading a post this past week on a parallel topic and began to wonder if some of these people actually are posting "anonymously" about themselves. I mean as I write this we're over 142,000 members. I'm thinking that there are a few people who just don't know how to get questions asked and answered without feeling that the world, or at least the A.R. World (if posted as a members only post) will be judging them if they were to share their true dark secrets in cyberspace.
Last week I read a post that earily sounded like that. Especially with the cliche lines of "I have a friend", 
and later, "this isn't about me." Now it very well could not be about this person, but I got to thinking what would be so embarassing that you can't ask for the help of 142,000+ members. I've asked numerous times about problems and issues that I'm having with my business, current transactions, clients, client headaches, client problems, parenting, spirituality, faith and what not. But I just come out and ask.
I think that there's a misconception for some folks that you need to be perfect if you're going to present an image out there in cyberspace. Not for me. I'm more concerned with being transparent. As evidence of that I'm not shy about my political views. So politically some people love me and others hate me, but surprisingly, even those who are anti my political beliefs are cool with me as a lender as I am with them in their profession. I want to work with like minded people, but, alas, I digress.
There are things that don't need to be shared with the public. I used to do counseling and the pain of some relationships and the pain of abuse and certain people means that not everything needs to be shared with everyone. However, Active Rain provides it's greatest resource in the people that are active here. I feel confident that 99% of the members of Active Rain won't even read this post. But to those who do read it, I value their opionions and welcome what they have to say even if it's different than what I have to say, you know? Photo taken from www.usefilm.com/images/2/5/1/0/2510/642599-medium.jpg
So what's Bettag's beef? It's threefold:
1) Do you think people behind the "I have a friend who......" in their posts;
2) I think it's OK for some people. Ultimately use the resources here at Active Rain. If you're having a difficult time and don't want the world to know it's about you, then at least, use the resources. Use Active Rain and the relationshiops;
3) Ultimately, if you can share your problems (and are comfortable enough to admit that the problems are, in fact yours), you may just get that special someone to step out from behind the curtain to get you the help and assistance you need.
Just my .02 cents.
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