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The "Golden Rule".... how Golden is it?

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How many of you believe in the Golden Rule? How many of you believe in a specific religion?  The unique concept of the Golden Rule or the Ethic of reciprocity as it can be known, is that it is a fundamentally moral principal. Meaning that you don't truly need to be a part of a religion to believe in this rule. Many of us have faith which can sometimes be confused with religion. You can believe in something and use this as your focal point in life. There are 21 different versions in the world from 21 different types of religions. Besides, there is a mixture of religious beliefs and secular beliefs.

 

taxi I am not here to preach religion or faith. But I will tell you one that I follow. Confucianism : "Do not do to others what you do not want them to do to you." Analects 15:2

Before I tell my story, let's go back 7 months. I was in a restaurant for lunch one afternoon. I found a cell phone where we were seated. I decided to scroll the phonebook to look for some information. I came across numbers for his parents and his girlfriend. I left messages for them all, letting them know that I had his cell phone and to call me. Sure, enough, he called later that day. 

My story : I was in the city Saturday night and after dinner, we decided to go to a lounge in Olde City in Philly. As we headed home, we took a taxi to the PATCO, since it drops me off about 5 blocks from my house. Well, as I got home, I realized that not only did I not have my cell phone with me, but that I was missing 2 of my credit cards. (1 was my MAC card)

My Treo 750 phone must have popped off my belt and I must have dropped 2 of my cards when reaching for my money in my pocket. (I carry a money clip) Well, luckily I took the time to put my information in my phone. The cab driver called my work today and told me that he had my phone and cards. I am meeting him tomorrow. I am more than relieved, because that is not a cheap phone and you can't carry insurance on it because of its price.

   

Golden Rule

 

Here is a book that I highly recommend. Written by T. Rost. This insert is written from George Ronald Publisher Ltd.  

Description:

Affirmed and discovered anew in every generation, the Golden Rule is a part of the inheritance of the world’s peoples. It is taught in one form or another in all the world religions and systems of belief and can be found among the traditions of the world’s most ancient societies.


This book looks at the Golden Rule as it is variously expressed in each of the major religious systems in the world today. To the author, who approaches his subject from the Bahá’í viewpoint of the fundamental oneness of religions, the Golden Rule is a prime tool for the increase of understanding and dialogue among the different faiths. It has particular relevance to today’s world where more and more people find themselves challenged by life in a multi-racial, multi-religious society, and where the true challenge is increasingly perceived as the evolution of such society into a unified, diverse and peaceful world civilization.

 

Summary : The world works in mysterious ways. Think before you act. Relate to situations in your life as if you were on the other side of them.  How do you treat others? What do you expect in life? Out of life? 

And for a great story with a great message, please read this post by Lisa Hill : SETTING A GOOD EXAMPLE

 

On a side note :  I did a search to see how many members have written about this so as not to duplicate anything. And if I didn't mention you, I apologize, there were many. But here are a few good blogs that I came across also.

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Jeff Belonger
Social Media - Infinity Home Mortgage Company, Inc - Cherry Hill, NJ
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Jacob...... You bring up a very good point in regards to 'karma' and repercussions per se. And thank you very much for those very polite comments/compliments.

Missy..... yes, remembering it daily is important for several reasons. Especially in a positive manner. And thanks for the kind words.

May 21, 2007 12:20 PM
Marc Brinitzer
Big Valley Mortgage - Sacramento, CA
Good stuff Jeff.  We could discard virtually every other moral law and the world would be a great place if people lived by this alone.  Think what our industry would be like!
May 21, 2007 01:00 PM
Joan Mirantz
Homequest Real Estate - Concord, NH
Realtor, GRI, CBR, SRES - Concord New Hampshire

When my son was small the phrase I seemed to repeat the most was"how would you feel if someone did (said etc) that to you?"

He is now grown and is a kind and thoughtful young man.

What a different world this would be if everyone lived those words of the golden rule!

May 21, 2007 01:52 PM
Jeff Belonger
Social Media - Infinity Home Mortgage Company, Inc - Cherry Hill, NJ
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Marc..... I agree.... it sounds too easy though and not everyone can be the same. Our industry?  Wouldn't be too easy then and less stressful, if everyone worked together?  In harmony?  Thanks for the compliment.

Joan......  I totally agree. Sounds like you raised your son well. Thanks for showing that.

May 21, 2007 02:48 PM
Karen Hurst
RICOASTALLIVING.COM - Warwick, RI
Rhode Island Waterfront!

The Golden Rule...As others have said, "What a world this would be if it were practiced by all",

 Alas, it is not practiced by all but preached by many!

 

May 21, 2007 03:09 PM
Cyndee Haydon
Charles Rutenberg Realty - Clearwater, FL
727-710-8035 Clearwater, Beach Short Sales Luxury Condos &Homes
Jeff - glad Karma rewarded you ! I am a huge believer in the golden rule - I just believe it's a great way to live, give and do business.  
May 21, 2007 03:44 PM
Jeff Belonger
Social Media - Infinity Home Mortgage Company, Inc - Cherry Hill, NJ
The FHA Expert - FHA Loans - FHA mortgages - USDA loans - VA Loans

Karen.....  Again, that would be too easy...  ;o)   Besides, don't get me started. You know how I feel, especially about the preachers. Thanks for your input.

Cyndee....  Hey...as much as so many of us wish this would happen more. I am glad it doesn't sometimes. I like to be different than others and to differentiate myself others. Not sure if that sounds selfish, but just last year I gave money back to 3 different tellers because they gave me more than I was suppose to have received. That happened to me once when I was in the service....so I never forgot that also.  Thanks for stopping by.

Overall.....Just not sure why this one didn't take off as much. More views in a short time. Is it because not everyone believes in this?  hhhhhmmmm

May 21, 2007 03:51 PM
Kaye Thomas
Real Estate West - Manhattan Beach, CA
e-PRO, Manhattan Beach CA
Jeff- Very nice post.. I've always subscribed to the theory you are treated the way you treat others.. it has always made lots of sense to me.. The Golden Rule is the glue that keeps us civilized... wish more of us practiced it more often
May 21, 2007 06:04 PM
Jeff Belonger
Social Media - Infinity Home Mortgage Company, Inc - Cherry Hill, NJ
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Kaye......  thanks for the nice compliment........    it's a great theory and I had tis discussion with someone last night. Unfortunately it doesn't apply all of the time. A friend of mine left her jacket in this particular place over the weekend and it was never returned. I guess not everyone adheres to this theory.
May 23, 2007 12:10 AM
Teri Eckholm
Boardman Realty - White Bear Lake, MN
REALTOR Serving Mpls/St Paul North & East Metro

Jeff--Funny how this topic doesn't always get as many hits as some of the more controversial topics on AR. Ethics are so important that any post on the topic should get a star in my book! Thanks for listing my article...It was in response to several posts that lead to ethics conversations. As professionals in the real estate industry, we have to care deeply about the golden rule and karma! Glad you got your phone back and cards! Great post!

May 25, 2007 01:41 AM
Susie Leavens
Cornerstone Real Estate Company - Keystone, CO

I have a fun story relating to this topic.  This past ski season my husband and I found a nice digital camera on a ski run at Keystone Resort (just 4 miles from our home).  There was no identifying info anywhere on the camera.  We skied down the run and asked people in the lift line if they had lost a camera. No luck. We notified the lift attendants too.  We then rode the lift up and did the same thing at the top.  We repeated this several times, but Keystone is a big resort so they could have been anywhere by then.  Again, no luck.

Later that day my husband downloaded the photos (making sure to leave a copy of all photos on the camera). There were hundreds of photos with lot's of family photos going back as far as Christmas. I could tell from the many exterior photos that these were visitors to our area and not locals. I just knew the owners would dearly miss those precious photos of their kids.  The last four or five photos taken showed kids sledding down a snowy hill.  Ah ha, could these have been taken around Keystone??  We felt like detectives.  I recognized the area because of something way in the background.  There was just a small corner of the house showing in the picture, but it was taken from the backyard, so that made it harder to find. I knew the neighborhood but I had too much going on at work to look for the house. My husband drove around on two separate days looking for the house.  HE FOUND IT, but no one was home. 

He called me at the office and I looked up the owners in public records.  They were 2nd home owners and their phone number was not listed.  My husband left a note (on my business card of course) taped to their door asking if they had lost a camera.  Later that day we received a phone call and sure enough the friends of the owners had lost their camera, but had since left Summit County to go back home.  They offered to come pick it up at our home, but we live in a remote area, so since we knew where they lived we drove the camera to them.  They were very pleased and said their friends were amazed that someone would go to the trouble to find them and return the camera.  They asked my husband how in the world we found them based on the few pictures taken in the area.  My husband said "My wife is a local Realtor and KNOWS the market!"  What a nice guy! 

My husband and I felt so good afterwards.  I'm so happy to know they didn't lose all those pictures of their kids at Christmas.  Sorry for the long post, but I just had to share.

May 25, 2007 02:20 AM
William J. Archambault, Jr.
The Real Estate Investment Institute - Houston, TX

Jeff,

Well Done!

Glad I found it, you've been busy and it got buried.

Strangely, I was writing about Religion, the Ten Comandements, and Marine General Orders myself, those thing we learn so young that affect us all our lives.

If you get a chance take a look at: Stone Tablets / Bill's Rules For Loan Rep's

Bill

May 25, 2007 05:11 PM
Jeff Belonger
Social Media - Infinity Home Mortgage Company, Inc - Cherry Hill, NJ
The FHA Expert - FHA Loans - FHA mortgages - USDA loans - VA Loans

Teri.....   I agree, but what are you going to do. The general public loves those reality shows...shows that aren't reality. Just as in blogging. And I agree about the Star thing. And who knows if stating this never gets me another one. I truly thought this should have gotten one. In any case, thanks for your polite compliments.

Susie.....   Sorry?   Susie, that was an AWESOME story.  I am touched....  I have done stuff like that, but never to that degree. Yes, you seemed like detectives.  Thanks for sharing this and for putting a pleasant smile on my face.

William....  thank you very much. And yes, this did get lost in the shuffle. I did another blog later that night that put this in 2nd position. In any case.... thanks for stopping by and I'll check out your post.  jeff

May 25, 2007 06:09 PM
Jacqulyn Richey
Prominent Realty Group - Las Vegas, NV
Las Vegas Real Estate
Great post, so I've included in http://activerain.com/blogsview/109897/The-Best-Posts-Never (even though it did get quite a few views) -Charles
May 28, 2007 11:38 AM
Ed Rybczynski
Integrity Real Estate - Havre de Grace, MD
Your Source for Local Real Estate

Jeff

I just learned of this post thanks to another out there tonight that highlights great articles that didn't receive the attention deserved. Great job on this one buddy.

 

May 28, 2007 11:44 AM
Lisa Hill
Florida Property Experts - Daytona Beach, FL
Daytona Beach Real Estate
The best thing about the scripture that instructs us to "do unto others as we would have them do unto you" (as opposed to karma) is that God allows for grace. With forgiveness, we don't have to GET what we deserve when we screw up =)
May 28, 2007 11:50 AM
Jeff Belonger
Social Media - Infinity Home Mortgage Company, Inc - Cherry Hill, NJ
The FHA Expert - FHA Loans - FHA mortgages - USDA loans - VA Loans

Charles.....  I truly appreciate that. You listed some very good posts and I am honored to be in that group.

Ed...... thanks a lot, that means a lot to me. You have been getting a few featured lately. Great job.... and thanks for the kinds words.

Lisa.......  this is a great point. Thanks for sharing this......

May 28, 2007 03:44 PM
Allison Werner
To Be Announced - Middletown, NJ

Hi Jeff- Thanks for the book recommendation. "What comes around, goes around" is what always comes to mind when I am thinking about the "Golden Rule". There are many ways to say it, but treat people with respect, and they all seem to return the "favor".

May 29, 2007 02:35 AM
John Evarts
Classic Property Management of Santa Clarita - Santa Clarita, CA
Good stuff. I believe in the Golden Rule with my whole heart. It doesn't always happen the way you portrayed, but if everyone followed it, what a world this would be.
May 29, 2007 08:20 AM
Jeff Belonger
Social Media - Infinity Home Mortgage Company, Inc - Cherry Hill, NJ
The FHA Expert - FHA Loans - FHA mortgages - USDA loans - VA Loans

Allison.....   I agree and I wish so many more would think and do the same. Well, I guess life does have to be a challenge. Thanks for stopping by and for your input.

John......  again, I agree.... but even if we moved forward....  and people took a different attitude at times. Thanks for the compliment.

May 29, 2007 05:19 PM