Communication. What a crazy word.
When I think about this word, I automatically think of communication as having a clear understanding in what two people are talking about. They COMMUNICATE and HAVE A MEETING OF THE MINDS. It's fascinating to me to see with all the dialog that happens in a day, and all the "communication" we receive from media, computers, etc. that very little is truly understood. I can have (what seems to be) a completely understandable conversation with someone, and yet things can go so terribly wrong. Whether I have understood that someone else was going to "get back to me", or I am misinterpreting what someone says; for example, I was told a condo had "casino carpeting". I turned that into "Vegas carpeting". Innocent enough, and maybe the same thing, sort of, but I could have sworn I was repeating verbatim . When I tell my toddler, DON'T HIT YOUR BROTHER! He didn't know I meant "don't bite, don't kick, don't touch your brother!". And we had to go through every one of those! I thought I was being clear. HE thought I was leaving loop holes! It's an ongoing challenge to communicate so that you really listen without interjecting your own agenda. It's almost impossible to not to finish another person's sentence. You want to be so quick to "relate" ie, to understand...that you might not. And we don't want to appear silly by asking too many questions, that we just nod. Good thing we are not tested on everything we should know about our day. MY WHOLE POINT is, since communication is nearly impossible to regulate, interpret or repeat verbatim , we should be very careful how we word or phrase something, especially in repeating another's words. We might not be "correct", and we might not have "understood" what that person was saying. With that said, I purpose giving everyone the "BENEFIT OF THE DOUBT" if we are ever upset or confused about something we may hear that may not be positive. It's been my experience that most of the time, anything bad has been a misunderstanding. Most people do not try to create scandal and stress in their own lives or to say things to deliberately hurt others. Granted, I am sure some do, but most of the times I have experienced misunderstandings, they are worked out if a person hears both sides. If someone is unhappy with someone for some reason, try to put yourself in the other persons shoes. If they had an opportunity to explain, would it be what you thought? By giving the person the benefit of the doubt, you create less stress for yourself, too. I realize there are some people just out to say bad things, or create DRAMA...but a greater percentage of time...IT'S SILLY MIS-COMMUNICATION. Good luck even understanding this! I "goggled" How to Communicate Effectively" and I got an interesting thing from Solbaram.Org (whatever that is) but has some pretty interesting things I am going to check out later. . Am I understood?????HA!
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