Last night, thanks to Twitter I found an interesting post on a previously unheard of site, at least for me.  The post is named "10 Business Words to Ban,"  the site: Harvard Business Publishing.

Our choice of words in conversations does matter.  Word selection becomes increasingly relevant as we present our views on-line in blogs and other forms of social media.

From the post, words to avoid include:

  • As well as
  • And/or
  • Value added
  • Net-net
  • Out of pocket

We might all agree that certain words, terms, and phrases, including those cited above, have been overused to the point of invoking a certain feeling of doubt or distrust when we hear them.

Simply said: the words we choose are determinants of real emotions felt be others based on their personal experiences.
  For example, I've learned to question the motives of anyone who offers a product or service for free, but then adds the words: a $ _ _ _ value. 

Do you agree?


There are other words whose meanings have been diluted by overuse that aren't included on the list.  The expression "Paradigm Shift" has been overused to the point of being ridiculous, as has"price point." 

Why not say that something costs $ _ _ _ ?  It's less stuffy and more direct than saying that it has a price point of $ _ _ _.

"Consultant" is another word that's been abused through overuse.  By definition, a consultant is guaranteed a fee, not a commission, for rendering advise or judgment.  The vast majority of self-proclaimed consultants are in fact salespeople. 

Is that so bad?

I'm thinking that "social media strategy" and "google juice" are "on the path" (another overused expression) to becoming inappropriate due to excessive use.

Can you think of any other words that should be avoided because they've been spoken or written to the point of making others uncomfortable?

 

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Ed, I like this post! The latest word that I find to be overused? Transparent or transparency! ;-)

 

11:05am • #1
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I love this post! 

I have often said to folks who comment on something I have said or someone for whom I have written something, "words are my life".

Of course, that statement isn't to be taken literally, but it makes a point.  That point being that when someone loves the language as do I, the words chosen to make statements or used in conversations often reveal much more than intended by the speaker.

Your point about speakers who make statement and then ask for confirmation or acquiescence have always appeared to me to be manipulative and controlling.  My response is usually "quite the contrary.  I disagree completely."

This is a tactic that motivational speakers/trainers teach and use effectively - - - at least for the folks who fall for it.

Words are my life.

12:08pm • #2
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Irregardless - I see and hear it all of the time, and it is not even a real word! LOL

Thanks for sharing and have a great day!!

- Harrison

12:08pm • #3
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Man, Harrison already got to my biggest one.  My wife uses this "irregardless" all the time and it drives me crazy.

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How about controlling words like "You Should"  or "You Need to"....  instead of...what do you think about?  Just a thought... :)  Good one Ed!

 

12:15pm • #5

Thanks Ed, always good to receive input on words not to use. I'm glad to see you put into print words that make my skin crawl lol

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Words I would like to leave behind:

mortgage mess (who wants their profession tied to a mess?)

Subprime crisis (who still believes subprime was all there  to it?)

main street/wall street

implode

negative equity

"neg am"

housing bubble

liar loan

declining values

economic meltdown

closed forever

Real-a-tor

jobless

foreclosure

Bankruptcy

 

Gosh, let's ban these words for a week and maybe a turnaround will finally commence.

 

 

 

 

 

12:38pm • #7
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Ed - I am not so much opposed to words overused as to words misused. However, I agree that some have become tedius, though that is really dependant upon context.

12:39pm • #8
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Thanks for your out of pocket Blog As well as the value added and/ or words that net-net increasing our Active Rain Experience. 

 

12:42pm • #9
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Hi Ed!

I like Janet's list the best, she is on the right track when it comes to words that need to be stricken from our language! 

-Lisa

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Interesting that you found this via Twitter. Because of its 140 character limit, Twitter helps us to become better communicators by 'forcing' us to choose each word wisely. I'll add just about any kind of expert to the list -- neighborhood expert, short sale expert, etc. -- many of those self-conferred titles are completely meaningless.

12:52pm • #11

Irregardless

One entry found.

Main Entry:
ir·re·gard·less           Listen to the pronunciation of irregardless
Pronunciation:
\ˌir-i-ˈgärd-ləs\
Function:
adverb
Etymology:
probably blend of irrespective and regardless
Date:
circa 1912
nonstandard : regardless
usage Irregardless originated in dialectal American speech in the early 20th century. Its fairly widespread use in speech called it to the attention of usage commentators as early as 1927. The most frequently repeated remark about it is that there is no such word. There is such a word, however. It is still used primarily in speech, although it can be found from time to time in edited prose. Its reputation has not risen over the years, and it is still a long way from general acceptance. Use regardless instead.
craig
12:56pm • #12

Hi Ed,

Thanks for the great insight. Vey helpful. I wish people would buy houses w/o talking to them.

1:00pm • #13

I like the idea of leaving words behind, if you ever want to learn how to use words to there maximum potential and be extremely deliberate in what you say, talk to Joe Stumpf or sit in one of his 3 hr presentations that your local mortgage/bank will put on in your area. You will quickly learn words are extremely important and what you say and how you say it all make a difference. 

The words (as well as) I think we learned that in writing for college a 100 level class or maybe even in grad 10 or 11 that we shouldn't use that anyway. Ahaha. 

Here is to speaking with words that speak. 

 

Cheers!

1:15pm • #14

Love the post! I love anything that gets us thinking about how we sound to other people in our day to day life blogs. JH

Jacob Haddan
1:16pm • #15

I cringe when I hear, "It's ALL good!" I hate that!

Cheryl Cairns
1:22pm • #16
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Sorry but - could not resist...  (too much practice making sentences out of keywords to boost the google juice I guess).

###########

Well, this is a tricky subject as well as one that could be net-net and/or value added.

Effective Immediately, Transparent Talking Houses should be purchased out of pocket irregardless of condition, in spite of mortgage meltdown, sub prime crisis, neg am or any other housing bubble condition except liar loans which are always suspect. 

Main street and Wall Street may both implode otherwise.  If you don't make the purchase then declining values may cause final economic meltdown and the entire US Housing Market could be closed forever.  At this point, all Realitors would be Jobiless, and facing their own foreclosure or bankruptcy - or both.   

However, As a Word usage consultant, I can make a free offer ($300 value) and add some google juice at a very special price point of only $79.

If too many people claimed this free offer, the resulting Paradigm Shift might lead to global warming or some other imbalance, so this is only good for the first 10 callers...

And them there are my own favorite candidates:

Hurry - act now because quantities are limited and offer expires soon. Offer subject to change without notice. All facts believed accurate but not Guaranteed. 

 

1:27pm • #17
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Ed - Very interesting post!  While I very rarely use the last three phrases, the first two I use all the time.  I also agree with John Novak about twitter making us really think about we use words.  I'm sure that's one of the many reasons I don't twitter (or is it tweet).

1:53pm • #18
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Ed,

Nice find on the link to Harvard Business Publishing.. excellent resource.

Thanks!

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My personal peeve is close proximity. Why is it the general public does not know the definition of proximity means 'to be close to' so this is like saying it's 'close close to'.

The other thing I can't stand is winningest. It's NOT a word. Just because sports commentators used it a lot to describe Don Shula does not MAKE IT A WORD! ;-)

 

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Love this post Ed!  Guilty as charged.  The thing about these over-used phrases is that once upon a time they were fresh in inventive.  Trouble is that the problem of over-use is a moving target.  

2:06pm • #21

How about the work "like." I have heard other brokers tell their client I like this house. Who cares what the sales person thinks, Its not their checkbook. Another use for like, I like thought I should go and like respond to this post. That usage like bugs the like heck out of me.

2:29pm • #22

Thank you Ed,

Well written and great advice.   I say "just get to the point"!

 

2:45pm • #23
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Ed, Great post!!  My favorite word is letigious, I just like the sound, not the connotation.  But, I do understand what you mean.  I dislike the word empathize or sympathize.  I find them demeaning in so many ways when used not as they were intended. 

3:01pm • #24

Great post!  In this era when it can be hard to determine a writer's intent from an email - our choice of words becomes much more important.

My pet peeves: 

We post "pictures" online of our listings, not "pitchers."

The words "you know" inserted in every other sentence.

The word "okay" inserted at the end of almost every sentence, but not as a question, rather as a demand that you agree!

 

 

3:02pm • #25
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I just feel confused reading all this, as well as trying to determine if I even ever got the whole "value added" concept and/or how to use the phrase "net/net"...maybe I should buy a book out of pocket so I can grasp the subject better. Oi.

3:08pm • #26

Ed, you have touched a topic dear to my heart.  Word track is everything.  If we intend to make our point clearly and effectively, each carefully chosen word counts. . . especially in this world where listening is the second most important talent!

Julie Jones
3:11pm • #27

Ed, you have touched a topic dear to my heart.  Word track is everything.  If we intend to make our point clearly and effectively, each carefully chosen word counts. . . especially in this world where listening is the second most important talent!

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"Crisis" of any sort is greatly overused. Not everything that happens in the world can possibly qualify as a crisis.

 

1 a: the turning point for better or worse in an acute disease or fever b: a paroxysmal attack of pain, distress, or disordered function c: an emotionally significant event or radical change of status in a person's life

2: the decisive moment (as in a literary plot)

3 a: an unstable or crucial time or state of affairs in which a decisive change is impending ; especially : one with the distinct possibility of a highly undesirable outcome b: a situation that has reached a critical phase

3:31pm • #29
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At the end of the day I am really tired of people saying At the end of the day!

3:55pm • #30
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All of the above are good comments and I agree completely that words are important.  I'd just like to mention something we all know.  The most important part of any communication, well-phrased or not, is that we actually follow up and do what we said we'd do.  For a great example on how to lose credibility, look at politics (take your pick of party).

 

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Bottom line...

It is what it is!!!

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One that bugs me is 'won't last at this price'.  I know what they mean, but I just want to say, 'well, what price will it last at?'   Silly, but some things just strike the wrong chord or something.

5:08pm • #33
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Ed, this reminds me of a game we used to play called corporate bingo. All the squares were corporate buzz words and it would be one way of passing the time in boring corporate meetings.

5:14pm • #34

Great thoughts! Too many trendy buzz words make the person speaking seem phony. Thank you!

Barbara
5:22pm • #35

Eclectic - maybe this is only in the Antique Business but if I hear that word one more time I think I'll scream.  Oooh, I even dislike the way it sounds when I type it. And by the way I agree with Barbara.

5:39pm • #36

Wow, I can't believe irregardless is actually a word. Thanks for the post :) Although none of these words bother me per say, when used incorrectly I can become annoyed. Keep up the good work!

5:47pm • #37

Ed:

I have to agree with Janet in response #7.  If we quite using some of the negative words in talking with clients or blogging the industry will be better off.

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Well, I don't have a word of my own come to mind but I have been entertained by reading this list of comments. Thanks for the blog.

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Very interesting post. Definitely one that's got me thinking.  I think that using any "big" words if you don't truly know the proper meaning and context to use them in should be a NO-NO.

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Phone tag drives me crazy. My other pet peeve is general consensus of opinion. Since a consensus is general opinion their is no need to add the extra words. How about, it goes without saying. If it does why say it?

7:44pm • #41
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I think we will soon be adding the word "czar" thanks to the new administration. I also vote for "guru".

In my former life, we had a national sales mgr well known to butcher the pronunciation of certain words. However, he topped himself at one speech when he said "exasturbation". Eye roll, please!

8:11pm • #42

Here's two that drive me crazy.

When I say Thank you and the response is "no problem". (whatever happened to "your welcome")

and when someone says "Have a good one".   What's that really mean?  Have a good what?

8:26pm • #43
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Hmm, definitely don't like to hear 'like' used as so many teenagers do. Problem with it is more than just teenagers do it now.

Uhhhmmm, fillers and uhm, like extraneous words.

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"We leveraging our comprehensive technical platform, highlighting our overriding commitment to dynamic strategic solutions." 

It is pretty common to read nonsense like this on websites and in sales packets.  When I do run into stuff like this, my first thought is to question why the company thinks it's okay to waste my time.  Must I really wade through these meaningless words and phrases just to figure out what it is they do?

ANother one that gets me is the "Combined Experience" or "Collective Experience" non-information.  "100 years of combined experience" can mean 100 people with one year's experience each.  It tells me nothing.  I still remember the industry 'experts' who were touting their collective six years' experience to draw students into their classes.  Better to just leave your experience level out if you see a need to combine it.

Thanks for another great post, Ed!

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I agree with Jim, the word I am tired of hearing crisis this and crisis that- as my general manager was saying we are amist a Crisis Crisis.

8:58pm • #46
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I'm with you Joe #41, playing telephone tag and lookie loos, who made up that 2nd word anyway??

Kathy B

8:59pm • #47

Words, words. We are running out of language. I'm still watching old movies where words like "gay" had diferrent meanings. Sombody is always trying to change the language. English was my second language and it changes continously. Italian, my firstand Spanish my second hardly change at all. Whoever controls your language controls your thinking! Use the words that best describe what you are attempting to say and mean. Transparacy means just that. If you or your language is not clear, then others have perfect right to be suspect of your communications and maybe your intent. You should not have to go to bed every night  to awaken with a new sleep induced vocabulary. However, whatever your choice of words, be sure that they express a clear and understandable meaning to the hearer. We have all sorts of socio/political agendas attempting to intimidate our thoughts and our hearts. Just do what is right to the best of your ability and listen to the customers. Ask them if they understand you. If not, try again!!

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Ed- We should avoid words in marketing to consumers that they do not understand, ie: real estate lingo that is foreign to the average home buyer or seller such as Loan to Value, Back end ratios, CMA, etc.

As far as 'and' goes, well, I have no clue how I would right without using 'and'. It used to be considered a run on sentence but that sentence structure had become much more acceptable.

Last but not least - I speak my mind. If what I say offends someone else, they don't have to read my blog. I am not politically correct nor do I ever want to be. That is why most people read me, they love the way I just tell it like I how see it. Katerina

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Ed: Janet really said everything that I think can be said. I really liked her comment. This is a thought provoking post.

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Antidisestablishmentarianism. Very bad, especially on twitter. Avoid it at all costs. 

10:15pm • #51
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Get rid of:

1.)  SOI -- Sphere of Influence

2.) Swine flu

10:22pm • #52
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Ed: Great information.. Always something to think about. The no no words can get you

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Hi Ed -- Great post.  Push the envelope.  Ya know...You Betcha <already, pun>...quality customer service...#1 Agent in all of the Milky Way

10:57pm • #54
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I can't think of some other words to avoid, but I do know that words can act as very powerful sales tools assuming that you use them in the right places.

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I like Janet's list and also the review of irregardless with background checked.  It's funny to me that I didn't even know what Google juice was not so very long ago.

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One thing I have to keep remembering is to focus on my audience - industry jargon is gibberish to those who don't have to use it on a daily basis!  Thanks for the good post!

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My list of words and phrases that make me cringe ....

1st of all ... ANY MISSPELLED WORDS OR SIDEWAYS PHOTOS

Rare find!

Won't last long! 

Whatnot

Priced to sell

 

 

1:41am • #58

Add the following four words to the list:  due to the economy

Jo-Ann Cervin
1:45am • #59

On the reverse, there is a great book called Words That Work, which examplifies how people should phrase things. 

On the words over used, the media should quit watching and listening to each other to get all their information...which causes mass hysteria (H1N1, aka Swine Flu).

Elizabeth Martinez
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I appreciated this blog, As well as the list of words And/or phrases that are overused.  The Value added to this post by actually giving the words themselves and your opinion gave me an out of pocket experience as opposed to the net-net.  THANKS...lol

 

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"Real-a-tor" makes me cringe every time I hear it!  Especially when it comes out of the mouth of a REALTOR!!!

Words have distinctive meanings, and should be used accordingly.  They can be soothing, start wars, destroy relationships, or create heroes from mediocrity.  They can convince or manipulate people's emotions, feelings, and actions, and should be used with great respect and thoughtfulness.

Words & Phrases that bug me...

     "Now" at the beginning of sentences (Take note, newscasters and reporters)

     Using the wrong spelling for common words, such as There & Their, Too & To, etc,

     Using an apostrophe where it should not be used, and leaving it out when it should be used.

     Using contractions unneccesarily, especially in business correspondence or professional settings, and even in everyday conversations and writings, weakens what is being said or written.  It is much more effective and stronger to say "Cannot" instead of "Can't", "Will not" instead of "Won't", etc.

      

 

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A net-net is good for a fish-fish.  Certainly when a catch phrase becomes overused, it wears thin quickly.  Most young people are fundamentally lazy- and do not want to make the effort to improve their vocabulary, nor do they truly understand the origins of words and their precise meanings.

English is a diluted language- unlike for instance, Portugese, which is a very precise language. English blends words from many other cultures. Latin, French, Italian, Spanish, and has certainly been degraded with each passing generation. Not cool, kewl, or sweet.

In the new vernacular "sick" is something good. Which makes no sense. 

"Like" is a term for comparison

"and" is a conjoiner linking two thoughts in the same sentence.

I am stickler with my children and am constantly correcting them.

Thank you for this interesting post- it is good to know what the experts from Harvard feel are incorrect usuage of business terms.

 

 

 

 

3:37am • #63

Reading this post was a great way to start the day! A person is defined by the use of his/her native language.

One phrase that I dislike: "Long story short", or "To make a long story short." Thinking before opening the mouth would make the story short, anyway!

The use of many words  when a few would be more effective is one of my pet peeves.

Two of the most important books in my office are Strunk and White's The Elements of Style and Harbrace College Handbook.

Marilyn Robertson, Town & Country, Realty. Johnson City, TN

 

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6:42am • #64
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Misuse of words as well as:  congruent or incongruent?  Thank Tony Robbins for that error.

6:48am • #65
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I had hoped to respond to each comment in some way, but can see now that it's not going to happen.  The Active Rain response never ceases to amaze and impress me.  Thank you all for the really great comments.

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"Lender may reduce commision"

Oh how I really hate that one!

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Mispronunciations bug me.  One I hear too often is 'supposebly'.  I don't know how they spell it, but this is how I hear it!

 

Phrases that I'm tired of hearing are:

think outside the box

let's percolate on it

mainstream media

LOL

soccer mom

 

I'll be self-conscious not, trying not to use any phrases others are tired of hearing!  Thought provoking post.

7:08am • #68

I think we should add: "fixer-upper" (spelling varies by user), great potential and diamond in the rough.

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Karen

I think the world would be a better place in the phrase "think outside the box" was never spoken again.  I'm sick and tired of hearing "soccer mom" too.

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Oh yeah, "fixer-upper" really has to go as well.   It's grammatical demise is long overdue.

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I'm reading through the comments and have to agree that "at the end of the day" is another phrase that has "overstayed its welcome."  We really have to get over some of these overused words, not to mention those that are misused.

I know someone who habitually substitutes the word "gold" in place of "goal."  How do you politely handle something like that?

 

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"Long story short" is another phrase that has "seen its better day."  I hope everyone takes the time to visit the Harvard Business Publishing site.  It appears to have really good content.

7:31am • #73

I have to agree with response # 30. "By the end of the day" makes me cringe.

Harold Smith
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I agree some phrases are over used and the need to communicate effectively is important.  Thought provoking post......

7:47am • #75
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Ed, LOL reminds me of romance novels from a century ago, when heroines said "La!" to punctuate their remarks.  (I'm pretty sure the heroes didn't say "La!"). 

Ed, I was thinking about you yesterday, wondering where you were and now you pop up....roaring back onto the stage.  Good to read your post! Elizabeth

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I feel that communication is everything.

7:53am • #77
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Hi Elizabeth

It happens to me often, I have a fleeting thought of someone from the past and then somehow they appear.  I'm doing well.  I really like what I'm doing and particularly the company I'm working for. 

I hope you're well.

Ed Ryb

7:55am • #78

My current peeve is "space," i.e. "in the realm of..." It's ambiguous and pretentious.

7:59am • #79
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Don't you just hate that one.  Conversational ambiguity really is problematic.  In fact, the word "problematic" deserves a spot on the list.

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It is very true that words that get used to often or incorrectly lose their impact over time to most people. We almost get burned out or sick of seeing and hearing these words and phrases.

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Hmmm. I think that the use of words depends on the personality of the writer, the extent of their vocabulary, and the purpose for which they are writing. While I agree that some words should be eliminated because they just grate on the nerves, that doesn't mean that they don't ahve a place, depending on the circumstances in which they are used.

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That's really funny!  I was just about to hunt for "irregardless" in the dictionary, because I remember a big issue/news story on new words maybe 8-10 years ago and Webster's or Oxford laying out some type of guidelines to add a word to the dictionary.  And in the next couple of years looking for and/or waiting to hear some of them.  "irregardless", I think ain't had been in for a while and words like webmaster, dot-com,and I even think e-mail was entered as "email"... But, if I remember correctly, the criteria had to do with a certain number of people using it AND it had to grow in to the older set, not just be a slang term that teenagers used.  So, I guess there were enough (annoying, when it wasn't a word) <smile> people using the improper term "irregardless" so they made it a word?????

Oh and this might be a point for discussion.  How totally I understand that using happy faces/sad faces (emoticons) <---another real word...  is inappropriate ettiqette in business.  Sometimes, I think it is helpful for the cyber-reader to be certain where you're coming from.  So, if I were to write a letter whether emailing or send it snail-mail.  I would
NOT use emoticons.  But, in a semi-relaxed, business, but informal business environment.  I do not see a problem with it.  Do you?  (as you can see, I don't) :-)

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I for one am pretty tired of hearing the words 'HOPE' and 'CHANGE' .....how's it working for you?

My other pet peeves are southern slang like 'Get 'er done' (I HATE THAT) and people who constantly say ' you know what I mean?' after every sentence.

 

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This was a great discussion!  I enjoyed reading all the comments, but Lenn's really resonated with me. I detest sneaky dialogues from sales people intended to manipulate the client into doing what the salesperson wants them to do.  (That's not acting as a "fiduciary", is it?  That betrayal of the concept is fodder for a whole post.)  Lenn - I LOVE your response of "quite the contrary. I disagree completely."  It is perfect!

9:12am • #85

The words of a man are a reflection of what is in his heart. Truth and sincerity are most desired by clients. It is cultivated in the heart and proceeds forth into our speech. It can be seen, regardless of the words used to express it.

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The one phrase that I hated the moment I heard it. I promissed I would never say it. And now I cant stop saying it.

NO PROBLEM !

Used so often. In the early days as it was working its way into our culture, I used to ask " Did you Think there was a Problem?"

 

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Ed, this is a good post, and I can think of lots of words to avoid. I like this list and agree with most of them. "at the end of the day" - what about the beginning or middle?

9:30am • #88
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If I see another bumper sticker that says "get er' done,"  I'm damn certain to scream.

9:33am • #89
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I am so tired of "Win-Win" being used to manipulate negotiations. I have noticed that many of the people using the phrase Win-Win want both of the "Wins" for themselves!

9:40am • #90

Actually I actually believe this word is actually overused and actually superfluous.

10:03am • #91

I vote to ban "perfect storm". Who knew the world was in such a tempest, perfect storms everywhere...

10:14am • #92

Ed - "LOL" Has to go, I HATE those 3 little letters. Who is REALLY "Laughing Out Loud" when they use that???

Another one was "ROTFLMAO", I saw that somewhere and stared at it for several minutes trying to figure it out, then "Googled it" to find that it meant "Rolling On The Floor Laughing My "Arse" Off". Again, WHO is actually doing that??? "Inquiring minds want to know" That is several minutes of my life that I can never get back :)

I have to say that Lonn Dugan's comment above was a really funny use of almost every hated word. #17

10:25am • #93

 O ya, UM, UM there is another UM word that UM drives me crazy, UM I cannot, UM think of it, UM right now though, UM. Maybe UM it will, UM come to me, UM later, UM, I'll let you know, UM, OK?

10:30am • #95
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I agree with Patrick's comment above...

"The leveraging our comprehensive technical platform, highlighting our overriding commitment to dynamic strategic solutions." 

  HUH? So often I ran into this too and I feel companies and/or sales people are trying to impress somebody by just slapping as many big words together as possible. If I have to go back to read it over and over again... sorry I won't. ~Rita

10:44am • #96
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In regards to Jason (#93) about LOL and ROTFLMAO, while I agree that some people do use those words too much, some of us may actually being laughing out loud or rolling on the floor, laughing my @$$ off.

There have been so many times I have read something here on AR that I am literally laughing so hard, I'm doubled over laughing with tears coming out of my eyes.  There have been times, that I was laughing so hard, I couldn't stop laughing long enough to type a coherent comment because I was still laughing.

So don't be so quick to judge those particular phrases.  They may just be true.  As for UM?  ARGH!  I hate that.  As a former Toastmaster, I absolutely cringe whenever I hear someone, who happens to standing before us telling us what an expert and professional they are, and they have so many UM's, I couldn't keep count anymore (yes, I actually count them sometimes - a weird habit, I know).

11:12am • #98
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Hi Ed,  " Crunch the numbers "  drives me nuts.

11:58am • #99
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Good stuff. These businessisms need to go. They explain nothing while placing distance between the speaker and audience--worst of both worlds. 

12:26pm • #100

How about not using "at the end of the day" unless you literally mean it's time to go to bed!

1:38pm • #101

Great post; and great comments!  My pet peeve is using anxious when meaning eager!

Renée Hoover
2:37pm • #102
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I can't believe no one's mentioned 'the next level'. The time has come for that one.  My favorite mis-pronunciation:  Jew-ler-ee.

2:52pm • #103

Love this discussion!  I love words and phraseology too.  My biggest dislikes are "How are you today" at the beginning of every conversation...I know it's polite way to start to conversation but it really bugs me....Also at the end of everyone's voice mail message is "Have a Nice Day" or Make it a Great Day, or some such thing.

Oooooh sound like a grumpy old woman!

Have a Great Day! (LOL) - oops is that one wrong now too?

Deidre St. Romain, GRI

 

3:14pm • #104
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I see you have all your "ducks in a row" on this post.  Well done.

3:30pm • #105

Paradigm Shift - What is that?

 

Tom Larsen

3:43pm • #106
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I'm another, who hates to hear "At the end of the day...".  Makes me think of Donald Trump, since he seems to be the one who coined that phrase.

3:56pm • #107
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If you are a word lover, you should check out some books by Charles Harrington Elster. He hosted a show on public radio for a few years called, A Way With Words, and wrote a book (not his only book) titled, The  Big Book of Beastly Mispronunciations. It's a good book if you love words and want to pronounce them correctly.

For example, my pet peeve is hearing 'comptroller' pronounced as comp troller -- I once heard this pronounced by a military person working in a finance department! It's pronounced kun-TROH-lur, just like controller.

I'm a home stager, so I giggle when I hear people pronounce niche as NEESH or NISH. It's NICH! Rhymes with ditch.

Also, foyer is FOY-ur. Not FOY-YAY!

Good English everyone.

4:15pm • #108
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My first job was as a telemarketer. My job was to renew magazine subscriptions. When I said I was calling about  their magazines, it never failed. They would always say:

Oh no. I don't want to renew my perscription.

Huh?

6:13pm • #109
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In reply to Donne Knudsen (#98) there is absolutely no way anybody is ROFLMAOing and typing at the same time.

In another reply, somebody brought up "diamond in the rough".  Now I will have to remove that phrase from my company profile.  Rats.  I sort of thought it added some value at the end of the day.

7:21pm • #110

Another excellent post Ed.  By the response it appears as though you hit a cord.  My least favorite misuse of words is the modification of un-modifiable words.  UNIQUE: A quality of oneness.  Nothing else like it.  How many times have you heard something called "most" unique?  No such thing.  My other gripe (in print) is misuse of loose and lose.  Loose means free; Lose means you can't find something. 

David Helm
7:48pm • #111

Love this topic! How about when you ask someone how they have been, and their answer..week after week..is "Same old,same old." I want to scream back to them, "then do something to change it, for --- sake!"

8:03pm • #112
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To Patrick - if you read my comment again, I didn't say I was ROTFLMAO and typing.  I said I was LOL and typing.  I assure you, I can LOL and type.  Maybe not very coherently but I can do it.

8:12pm • #113
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Donne, I did't say that you were ROTFLMAO and typing either.  You said "...some of us may actually being laughing out loud or rolling on the floor, laughing my @$$ off."    I replied, "there is absolutely no way anybody is ROFLMAOing and typing at the same time."

Now, this was not intended as a criticism of your post at all.  Just my little contribution to the conversation as it regards ROTFLMAO.  While I dislike the overuse of acronyms in general, I have a special kind of dislike for ROTFLMAO.

8:34pm • #114
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How about -

Must See!

And a note to #108, Teri - people who have studied French may opt for the original pronunciation of these words and they are not wrong.

Foyer -according to Merriam-Webster Online Dictionary

Pronunciation:
\ˈfi(-ə)r, ˈfi-ˌ(y)ā also ˈfwä-ˌyā\

Niche -

Pronunciation:
\ˈnich also ˈnēsh or ˈnish\

 

10:54pm • #115
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06
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Oh wow, having to work last night, I regretably was "out of the loop" of this continuing dialog.  It seems that many of us have individual "peeves" concerning overused (abused) words. 

Some expressions have been "riden hard and left out to dry." 

Don't you agree?

It might be fun to compile a list of the words, phrases, and expressions "brought to light" in this comment stream.

6:54am • #116
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"By the way" thank you everyone for adding so much to this post.   And thank you to the "rain-god" who brought the post to the "light of day" by featuring it.

6:57am • #117
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This is a good discussion.

Sharon (#115) You are right about ppl speaking their own words correctly. For example, Brisbane in Australia. The Australians pronounce it BRIZ-BIN, not BRIZ-BAYN, and that is correct, because it's their city. By the way, when there are two pronunciations listed in a dictionary, the first one listed is the preferred pronunciation.

8:24am • #118
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We have a county in Maryland named Anne Arundel.  Over the years I have heard numerous single word bastardizations sounding something like Anderundel.  Sheeesh!

8:33am • #119
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Ed,

Sheeesh is right!

People should be pronouncing Anne Arundel correctly. She is a part of Maryland history. She married Cecil Calvert, the 2nd Lord Baltimore at the age of 13.

10:54am • #120

Sorry if I digress, but seeing as I have been there,done that..this is all a little redundant to this babe in the woods.

11:46am • #121

It's late. I was only able to read halfway through, so someone may have already said this, but I had to be sure my favorite annoyance was mentioned. Realtors pronounced Relators. AAAAAH. Even some Realtors pronounce it that way! Just drives me nuts. 

9:42pm • #122
MAY
07

Realtor....is there an A after the REAL?? NO!!! so why do so many REALTORS call themselves REAL-A-TORS....

 

Real Estate 101 ---- REALTOR!!!!

Kay Bell Realtor
1:19am • #123

Ed,

What is "Newly renovated"?

Ursula Silva, GRI, eExecutive Realty
2:45pm • #124
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Uptick - that just brings up images of nasty little critters crawling on my skin.  Is there a corresponding downtick?

8:02pm • #125
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08
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Great post and wonderful replies. Thanks for the thought provoking article.

2:54pm • #126
MAY
11

Nice to take a break and toss out a softball or two for consideration in your blog...

 

Now how about an all time favorite.... preventative.      I still have trouble listening to people especially in the health care field use this made up lazy sound alike.

On the soldier battlefront.... how about "vetran".....  I thought we should always pay tribute to our Veteran's especially on Veteran's Day!

 

All for now.

 

David Andrick - Pres. A1 Home Inspection Svcs.
9:30pm • #127
MAY
14
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It makes me cringe when people say "my bad."

And when people "love" everything. Love is supposed to have special meaning and I think it is really overused.

3:46pm • #128

Great topic, great post and great comments. My pet peeve word is usually spoken, not written, and it is:

SUPPOSABLY.  I can't even spell it but it's supposed to be SUPPOSEDLY. Hope I spelled that one right. Spellcheck liked it.

10:10pm • #129
JUN
14

My personal favorite over-used term in Real Estate is "TLC."  Guys, this really should not be used when what you mean to say is "bring your bulldozer!" 

Also (for extra credit), it is NOT okay to use these words interchangeably just because they sound alike.  They have entirely different meanings and uses and if you just slow down and think about what's being said, it's very easy to distinguish which is correct.

YOUR vs. YOU'RE

THERE vs. THEIR vs. THEY'RE

ENSURE vs. INSURE

ACCEPT vs. EXCEPT

Wow ... I feel SO much better now just for getting that off my chest!  This may have just cured my insomnia problem! 

While I'm at it, I also agree with all of the acronym-haters out there.  I really have issues with OMG, BFF and LMAO.   And "last but not least," even though I've lived in Tennessee for almost 20 years now (and absolutely love it) I still don't understand how someone can be "fixing" to go to the store or wherever they're headed.  Fixing what?  If you're going to the store, just get up and go already!  There, I said it.  I know I'll be in trouble for that one, but I also know that life in TN has made its indellible mark on me in a friendly, upbeat sort of way.  I catch myself calling people I don't know "Hon," (which I used to think was SO rude), I drink far too much sweet tea, and every now and then, I'll even say "Y'all!"  Oh well ... I 'reckon' nobody's perfect!  :)

3:05am • #130
JUL
02

"but". You should say "yet" because anything that came before the word "but" is completely washed from their mind....

11:40am • #131
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