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A Family Homecoming and a Family Leave-taking

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Real Estate Agent with Donovan Blatt Realty 01267479

Today we had another family party.  They used to seem pretty commonplace.  Almost every month, we would have a family get together for that month's birthdays.  There can be a lot of them when you get 30 or so people together.

 Family Gathering in the OC

One of the nice things about our gatherings is that it's not just the family; "the kids" (15-21 years old) usually have numerous friends who love to join us, simply adding to the gathering.  The result is that we've gotten to know many of their friends nearly as well as we do the family and have watched them grow over the years as well.

 Boy in Box

Tonight, it was a totally different feel.   One of my brothers has decided to move his family across country.  He feels it will be better for them.

 

His two, young adult children, both of who live at home and attend school, want to stay here in Southern California, this is home to them, where they grew up, where the rest of their friends and family are.

 

For my niece, she is hoping that the move will be temporary, that she'll be able to save some money up over the next six months, reposition herself and come home, permanently.

 

My nephew on the other hand is still hanging on to the hope that he can make a go here despite the fact that his parents are leaving in less than a week.

 

Tonight was both sad and happy.  My brother's been gone a couple of months working on their new home, and it was nice to have him home, but it was also sad knowing that our family get togethers are going to be missing a big chunk of people.

 

They should all be coming back in September for a wedding, but our get togethers will no longer be the same.

 

Would it seem strange if I added that this group is actually my stepfamily, and that I've been part of it for only 15 years or so?  It doesn't to us.  Mom raised us to believe family is family, regardless of how it comes together.

 

My husband has been part of my life for 12 years, and he doesn't remember my family before them.

 

Fact is, I almost don't remember a time before them, and I'm so happy they've become such an integral part of our lives and am sad to see any of them moving so far away that they'll no longer be a short car ride away.

 

Who do you count as family, and how do you keep in touch with them?

 

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Comments(4)

Irene Kennedy Realtor® in Northwestern NJ
Weichert - Lopatcong, NJ

Christine,

My stepsister and her family moved far away a couple of years ago. Despite email, Facebook, phone calls and rare visits, it IS a loss.  I particularly miss spending time with my 2 nephews who change on a daily basis.

I have no solution to offer you but do empathize!

May 24, 2009 11:08 PM
Connie Harvey
Pilkerton Realtors - Brentwood, TN
Realtor - Nashville TN Real Estate

Christine - I've always missed having that type of closeness with my family. They have always lived far away. I don't really think it matters that it's family, step-family, or just good friends that you're used to seeing so regularly. When they move away it changes things. I feel for you!

May 24, 2009 11:17 PM
Sylvie Conde
Sutton Group-Associates Realty Inc., Brokerage - Toronto, ON
Broker, Toronto Real Estate

Christine, my parents live in Europe, and my 2 sisters and 1 brother live out of town, so we don't see each other very often.  I get together with my sisters a few times a year, either at their house, or at mine.  We have a Summer BBQ, and get together for East, Christmas, etc.  My brother is mostly too busy to join us, but I do miss my niece and nephew.

Other than that, there never seems to be a lack of gatherings.  I have 6 friends I have been getting together with for the last 30 years.  We see each other at very least, twice a year, and I always look forward to seeing them.  There are a few other friends I see on a regular basis.  My friends are family.  I see them more often than my 'real' family.  Family is who you feel comfortable sharing yourself, your time and your home with.

No matter how far away they move, you can stay in touch in different ways...
Plan something now ...put a date in your daytimer that works for everyone ... it will give you all something to look forward to.

 

May 26, 2009 12:40 AM
Not a real person
San Diego, CA

I'm actually estranged from both sides of the families I was born into, but as Louise Hay says, "You can't choose which family you are born into, but you can sure choose your family now."

May 30, 2009 09:05 PM