How do I start this without just coming out and saying "Get over yourself"?  You're making a name for yourself all right, but what name is it, probably not the one you envisioned.  There have been a lot of chances for people around the country to see you, both on your Blog and other Social Media Sites, and in person.  So what image have you given? 

It's been a few weeks that the Lil Devil has been behaving himself, guess he finally had something to do other than watch what others were doing :) How to win friends and influence enemies is how the saying goes, but that's not how I want to say it today. 

Today, I am hearing rumblings.....dissent from some of the masses about the self proclaimed "chosen few." and also about the ones whose in real life social behavior is a great example of niche marketing You know the ones that somehow have declared their importance, yet when you meet them their behavior is anything but what you expected.

     Lil Devil- Grow....darn right people grow!  Look around you at who you associate with online....now think back to when you all first started blogging, tweeting, and catching up with each other on Face Book.  Well, some of us didn't use Twitter and FB, but that's besides the point.  The point is we all started out the same.

But now look....go look at some of those signature lines....and profiles.  They've changed, they've grown, and some have grown some mighty big heads.

Oh.... you're having a Bloggers get together, wonderful, I'll be there.  Oh, and Susie Q. yea, she'll be there too.  Without us it wouldn't be as much fun, or as successful, now would it?  Don't you just fall all over yourself when I comment on your Post, or come to your Venue....I'm one of the "Chosen Few" didn't you know that?  Whatever I want I get, and if you have to put up with an inconvenience or two, well not a big deal...you get to meet me don't you...I'll be sitting over there in the corner with the other chosen ones!

     Lil Angel- Grow...yes, we all grow. Many times, just as in real life, we outgrow the friends we started with.  Oh they may have a special place in our collective blogging conscious, but for all practical purposes we might have moved on.  The reasons vary, but people grow....it's the direction that matters.  Oh, and that group in the corner, the ones that have an "adoring following"...so many people have grown past their initial adoration, that initial "oh thank you for helping us" stage that they no longer think the same...just like kids going from Kindergarten to Junior High.

Then we have the "Niche" Crowd....they have to be a niche, that's the only excuse I can think of......

     Lil Devil- Oh my Gawd did you see what she's doing over there?  I saw her online but that's not the person I thought I was talking to all this time.  Be Yourself" should come with a disclaimer....

Wait guys I am not really that   partying, egotistical, it's all about me, had way too many drinks and said way too many things person.......

     Lil Angel- Once again it seems some people have different persona's online than they do off.  And hey that's OK if you never meet anyone in Real Life.  But now what..now what do you do when so many people have a completely different idea of who you are?  To tell you the truth several people commented on your behavior, and said if that's the kind of person you are they aren't impressed.

And then last but certainly not least ....

     Lil Devil- Hey there's a spot open at the next gathering, and I want to tell everyone how to use the XYZ method and how it made me as important as I am.  I am important you know, just listen to the Group of people that I'll name drop.  What? You don't care about the names I drop? You care about "your own needs....sounds kind of selfish don't cha think?

     Lil Angel- Oh my.....let me just say that enough is enough with the "chosen crowd".  The names you drop many people don't know, and don't care about.  Not everyone that is a good Blogger is a good Public Speaker....they're totally different skills.  So next time you're on a panel, or giving a talk...try to engage the audience and not toot your own horn, or spend your time with the other panelists telling inside jokes.  People will respect you more, and get more from your talk if you can show them how it will help "them"....after all we are narcistic you know :)

By: Kathy McGraw