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Reach Out And Touch Someone Requires Three Things

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Real Estate Agent with Keller Williams Realty 0575737

Little Girl In RainThe phone company years ago had an ad campaign to promote the use of their expensive service of long distance with a slogan, "Reach out and touch someone." With the use of free cell minutes on the weekend nowadays kind of seems like dinosaur times. But it was about warm and effective communication with those we choose to connect.

Reach Out And Touch Someone Requires Three Things.

1. Caring. You first have to want to connect, caring about the other person beyond them being a stranger. This is a conscious decision.

2. Energy. No doubt this is true. You have to pick up the phone, type the email, meet them for coffee, reach over and shake their hand or hug them. No tired people allowed for connection.

3. Active Listening. Once touching someone you go into one mouth two ears mode and PAY ATTENTION to verbal and non-verbal expressions. Then talk back based on THAT.

Reaching out and touching someone with these three things in mind makes the world such a better place to live in. ONE PERSON AT A TIME!!

Comments (16)

Colleen Fischesser Northwest Property Shop
NextHome Experience - Chelan, WA
A Tradition of Trust in the Pacific NW since 1990!

Not only does this remind me of the commercial but the song...We can get so caught up in our hectic lives that we don't take the time for a simple phone call. I know there's very little that makes my Mom's day as much as a call. We email, but she's always so happy to get a call.

Jun 28, 2009 06:32 AM
Vickie McCartney
Maverick Realty - Owensboro, KY
Broker, Real Estate Agent Owensboro KY

Hi Gary~ This is so important.  I know how great it feels when I am on the receiving end, so I try to brighten someone elses life as often as I can.  It is so worth the effort!   

Jun 28, 2009 06:37 AM
Irene Kennedy RealtorĀ® in Northwestern NJ
Weichert - Lopatcong, NJ

Way to AR hearts with that photo, Gary.

While I agree with you, sometimes I'm delighted to get a machine when I reach out. I get all the snaps for calling but don't really have to chat. Somehow I suspect we ALL have that one obligatory person...

Jun 28, 2009 06:45 AM
Gary Woltal
Keller Williams Realty - Flower Mound, TX
Assoc. Broker Realtor SFR Dallas Ft. Worth

Colleen: A call is precious you are right.

Vickie: It does feel good you are right.

Irene: Sometimes the exchange in communication in email and voice mail lets the other know we are thinking of them in our fast paced days.

Jun 28, 2009 07:17 AM
June Lewis
Northwood Realty Services - New Castle, PA
Realtor Northwood Realty - New Castle,Pa Lawrence Co 7247304571

Wow Gary..... a beautiful blog to remember and the photo is so touching. The innocence of a child reaching out reminds us,  we  should continually make reaching out part of our life   It's a little thing that means so much and as you eloquently said

Reaching out and touching someone with these three things in mind makes the world such a better place to live in. ONE PERSON AT A TIME!!

what is it they say about one little candle needed to break through the darkness?

 
Jun 28, 2009 09:30 AM
William Feela
WHISPERING PINES REALTY - North Branch, MN
Realtor, Whispering Pines Realty 651-674-5999 No.

Gary...Reaching out to someone is a good way to make their day and maybe even turn a life around!

Jun 28, 2009 04:13 PM
John Cannata
214-728-0449 http://TexasLoanGuy.com - Frisco, TX
Texas Home Mortgage - Purchase or Refinance

That is so funny. I did a post about that commercial about 2 weeks ago. I can TOTALLY hear the song each time I hear 'Reach out'.

Jun 28, 2009 04:49 PM
Bob Dunn
Sutton Group West Coast Realty - Abbotsford, BC

As recently survey of found that the thing seniors living alone missed the most was being touched. The telephone is a powerful second choice.

 

Jun 28, 2009 06:17 PM
Sharon Lee
Sharon Lee's Virtual Assistance - Jonesborough, TN
Retired and loving life

Gary-This paragraph. I think you do this VERY well. Reaching out and touching someone with these three things in mind makes the world such a better place to live in. ONE PERSON AT A TIME!!

Jun 29, 2009 12:24 AM
Irene Tron
Valparaiso, IN

Technology sure has changed the way we reach out and touch.  I am more likely to email someone than call.  I also find I listen better through an email because I can read it slowyly when I have the time.  A call would be more personal but I just don't seem to get around to it.

Jun 29, 2009 02:01 AM
Sandy Nelson
Riley Jackson Real Estate Inc. - Olympia, WA
your Olympia area Realtor

Gary,

Sometimes the only step is to literally reach out out to touch. Many older people are so deprived of physical contact, they light up if someone simply reaches out to touch their hands.

Jun 29, 2009 12:30 PM
Lori Churchill Cofer
Beasley Realty - Pullman, WA
Realtor - 509-330-0086 - Pullman, WA

Gary,

These points are all too true.  I love the way you summed them up into caring, energy and active listening.  The caring part for me comes naturally....maybe the energy part to...I like to connect with people.  Active listening is something that I don't think comes quite so naturally...and something I think we must always strive to do...it is so important to get outside of ourselves and truly connect....

Jun 29, 2009 12:48 PM
Sharon Tara
Sharon Tara Transformations - Portsmouth, NH
Retired New Hampshire Home Stager

Our time is one of the most prescious things we have to give.  Making that decision to give time to another is a great gift.

Jun 30, 2009 01:29 AM
Esko Kiuru
Bethesda, MD

Gary,

Active listening is such a key part of this. Sometimes we get so busy talking about our own stuff that we forget about paying attention to what someone else is saying.

Jun 30, 2009 06:08 AM
Peggy Wester
Realty Executives Integrity - Grafton, WI
Real Estate Agent Ozaukee & Washington County

Couldn't help but think about my 17-year old nephew as I was reading this. He was constantly texting his friends the other night when we had gathered for some "family time." I asked him -- half jokingly yet serious -- "Don't you talk to your friends anymore?" Makes me sad to thing this generation may never know what's it's like to really talk with and listen to someone. Great reminder for all of us.

Jun 30, 2009 07:01 AM
Dorie Dillard Austin TX
Coldwell Banker Realty ~ 512.750.6899 - Austin, TX
NW Austin ~ Canyon Creek and Spicewood/Balcones

Gary,

I love this photo!Texting has become so universal and many dod not take the time to talk and listen..great message. Thanks for the reminder.

Jun 30, 2009 12:06 PM