Do you ever wonder what is holding you back? Do you ever wonder what is stopping you from having all the clients, all the money, and all the transactions that you desire?

Chances are that you have all the skills and knowledge you need.

Have you ever said to yourself, “I know what I should be doing, I’m just not doing it.”? That is a clear signal that you are being undermined by self limiting beliefs that may not even be conscious, such as:

"I'm not worthy of success”,

“It's selfish to pray for money”,

“Rich people are dishonest”,

“I should just be happy with what I have and not want more”,

“I am a failure and not worthy of money.”

Let me give you an example from a client of mine: Although his efforts to be successful were sincere, he had unknowingly been carrying around “anti-success” beliefs his whole life, such as:

“I don't have what it takes”

“I can't be successful like others”

“I have to settle for less”

“I have to struggle and sacrifice to make money”

“I'm not worthy of having money”

In our weekly sessions, it became clear that the origins of these self limiting beliefs went back quite a ways. A real breakthrough for him came during one of our sessions, when he recalled that as a child he tried extremely hard to get his parents approval. Because his parents were not forthcoming with their approval, he concluded subconsciously that he was a “failure”, and that he did not deserve success. This resulted in him never achieving the level of success he wanted, not getting the transactions that he deserved, and beating himself up continually with self "put downs”.

When he realized where all of this came from, he had the insight that his whole feeling of unworthiness was false. He further realized that it was not his fault that his parents did not approve of him, as they were withholding people.

He began to install Empowered beliefs such as:

“I am successful”

“I am worthy”

“I am generous with my approval for myself”

His assignment was to practice giving himself a generous amount of positive self talk everyday. In fact if he caught himself putting himself down, he resolved to intervene, interrupt the process and put in a positive new thought in its place, such as “I can do anything I set my mind to do.” Once he began practicing his Empowered Beliefs, he could practice the Law of Attraction without the interference of counter intentions.

Not surprisingly, his energy increased, as well as his clients and income. His story illustrates the importance of identifying and reprogramming self limiting beliefs.

 

5 Comments on Real Estate Marketing Strategies: Are your Self-Limiting Beliefs holding you back?

JUN
29
120,827 Points 1 Featured Post Hit Router

I hear ya Maya...I always hear this type of story and to be totally honest, I just have trouble executing that type of behavior!

The self talk that is uplifting can be very difficult to do...

"Acting as if" is another one that I have trouble wrapping my head around...but I'm working on it!

2:20pm • #1
199,229 Points 19 Featured Posts Outside Blog

Maya - Nice post.  Self-confidence is a major part of sales.  When you lack the confidence, you convey a weak, unsure message to the customer.  The customer then lacks confidence in you and second guesses advice - whether deserved or not.

2:30pm • #2

Like any other exercise, the more we exercise our "focus" and  "goals" part of our mind, the stronger our focus and goal strategies will become. The stronger our focus and goals, the more we achieve...Success!

2:47pm • #3
449,885 Points Outside Blog

Great and very timely post... this is something I think we all struggle with from time to time.. :)

6:50pm • #4
JUN
30

Maya,

 

Self-limiting beliefs seem like such a natural part of most people's lives.

2:59am • #5

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