Have you ever heard the phrase "Buyers Are Liars?" I am here to tell you that they are not liars! Buyers need us to discover their needs and wants. Most buyers also need our professional help, our guidance, and look to us to educate them.

Never Assume that Buyers...

1) Understand the local market. Most buyers believe what they hear. What they hear from other Realtors, from the media, and from friends and family. It is our job to educated them on the true local market conditions in their target area. We need to make them understand the AVG days on market, List to sale ratios, absorption rates and area pricing trends. Educate!

2) Understand Agency. Most buyers, especially first time home buyers do not understand agency. It always amazes me how some buyers find properties. They search online, gather listings, and then call the Listing agent to set up a showing. Most buyers are unaware of agency and do not understand the fiduciary duties of a Listing agent. It is your job to educate potential buyers on the importance of agency before they look for homes.

3) Understand How We Get Paid. Most buyers think they have to pay a buyers agent. In my area the seller always pays the buyers agent (unless the property is listed by a For Sale by owner, and no compensation is offered). I meet a lot of buyers for the first time and they always ask me what my fees are? Buyers are confused! Let buyers know that they do not pay you if the property is represented in the multiple listing service.  Make this clear in your marketing messages to buyers.

4) Understand Our Real Estate Contracts.  Most buyers do not understand our contracts. We sometimes assume that they understand real estate terminology, the purchase offer contracts, and all the addendum's / disclosures of the seller. It is our responsibility to explain the whole contract. This can be explained at the beginning of the buying process or once an offer is written.  Take the time to educate your client of the contract process. This will show professionalism and build trust through the whole process.

 5) Understand the Purpose of a Home Inspection.  Most buyers do not understand that the home inspection is a contingency to the contract if performed. This home inspection is for their protection. Most are unaware of how contingencies work, and that they need to remove their contingency or decide not to purchase the home. Some buyers think the purpose of the home inspection is to give the buyer the ability to negotiate again to get the home for less money. Of course this can happen, but it is usually not the purpose of a home inspection.

 6) Understand the Negotiation Process. Most buyers do not know how to negotiate and look to us to help them. Most first time homebuyers are unaware with how the process works. Most do not understand the market as most real estate professionals do. Most do not understand pricing trends in neighborhoods. Most do not understand that offering the wrong amount on a home can hurt them and not help them reach their goals. Most do not understand multiple offers or contingent and recall clauses. The buyer make the final decision, but it is our job to guide them by education and professional advice.

 7) Understand Their Legal Rights. Most buyers do not understand the legal aspect to real estate transactions. Instead of advising buyers of their legal rights, I always recommend that they hire a real estate attorney. Where I practice, there are three attorneys involved in the real estate transaction ( the sellers, buyers, and bank attorney) You can educate them to the roles of each, and elementary real estate law, but leave the legal advice to the professionals.

 8) Understand the Purpose of the Final Walk Through. Most buyers do not understand why a final walk through is necessary. I have found many issues with a property at the time of a final walk through that did not exist when the offer was made. Or, items were missing from the property that should have stayed in the home, such as a refrigerator. Moreover, items were left at the property that did not belong, such as paint cans, or furniture and debris.

9) Understand the Loan Process. Most Buyers that have never purchased a home do not uunderstand how the loan process works. I would recommend obtaining at least three mortgage professionals that you can recommend to buyers. Make sure that these mortgage professionals operate their business as you would. Their job is going to be to educate and explain the mortgage process to your buyers.

10) Understand Your Website, IDX, and How to Search for Homes. With 87% of buyers starting the process on the Internet, as agents we assume that these buyers understand real estate technology and how to process all this information. Think about it, most real estate agents do not understand this new technology. The shift in real estate to the Internet is a good thing, but also a bad thing if we do not make our websites user friendly and still provide guidance on how to search for homes online. Example:When I meet a new buyer for the first time, often the buyer is holding pages and pages of real estate printouts from the Internet. The reason for this is that buyers do not understand that they can obtain all this information from one source, rather than going to 10 different websites... Once I explain that I want to simplify their search and they no longer have to search on 10 different brokers websites, my clients can not thank me enough. Instead of terms such as "Search the MLS", use the phrase, "Search for Homes", or "Home Search" Most buyers do not know what MLS or IDX stands for.

 

This is only a short list on what buyers need our help on. We as an industry must understand that even though real estate has transformed into an open exchange of data and information, most buyers today need our help in processing this information. One step for all agents is to design a buyer packet or a simple checklist for the buyer client. Another suggestion would be to have email campaigns or video to explain the buying process to potential prospects on your search. Bottom line, educate your clients and you will be different than your competition!

For more information visit my website at http://www.CNYAgent.com or call 315-882-6610

 

 

 

119 Comments on Never Assume What Buyers Know!

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Love your post. Hate the phrase "buyers are liars."

5:08pm • #1

Have bookmarked this, to be certain I cover all bases when talking with buyers.

5:09pm • #2
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Bob...

I assume nothing because I'm well aware that assumptions can make or break our nose :)

TLW...ROAR!

5:09pm • #3

Lottie,

I agree, this phrase is overused and misused in our industry!

"The Lovely Wife",

Never assume anything in real estate! Thank you!

5:13pm • #4

Well said.  I like your writing style.

5:14pm • #5
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Okay...  But sometimes, on the mortgage end....you know, the phrase can often be true.  Many people do not realize that their mortgage loan officer isn't the boogeyman from the movies, and it's best to be totally upfront about everything.  But....sometimes...I am lied to and everytime it happens, I still manage to be stunned.

5:15pm • #6
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Bob,

This is a great list of things we need to remember about our buyers. I think with us talking about this stuff all day with our colleagues we have a tendency to make assumptions that everyone understands the terminology we use. Great reminder!

5:16pm • #7

Charlie,

Thank you!

Michael & Karen,

I see your point...but once a great agent explains and educated the procedure to their clients it is mcuh easier for the mortgage broker/bank at that point to qualify the client

Stephanie,

Our industry has so many secrets... it is time to unveil everything and fully disclose and educate

5:24pm • #8
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Bob, nice job on this post. Nice refresher to remind us what Buyers do not know and how we should not assume they do know.

5:25pm • #9

Thats funny. I wrote a blog about buyers being liars and used that same picture. perhaps not in your industry, but in mine i am lied to quite often. you wouldnt believe how many times people try to keep debts hidden from us, than later we find them on the credit report. We ask the client and they say somethiing like "oh i didnt think that would show up, sorry but yah i lied." Even one time there was a husband and wife in my office and i was reviewing credit and there was a car loan the wife didnt know about, and when i explained it was an auto debt, she shot her husband an extreme look. Turns out it was a car he co-signed on for his mistress. We still closed the deal.

 

JP

5:26pm • #10

Cheryl,

Thank you!

 

JP,

Never read your post, but obviously great minds think alike... As real estate   tend to use this term in a different context... It is sometimes our job to qualify correctly and to uncover the truths by asking TOUGH questions! When it comes to finances, most people do not like to tell the truth, so I understand where you are coming from.

5:37pm • #11

I agree, this maxim doesnt hold true across industries. Great post!

 

JP

5:39pm • #12

As a REALTOR® I have not experience my buyers lying to me.  At least not that I am aware of!  I can absolutely see that happening on the mortgage end...especially if there are loans out there for mistresses!  Thanks for reminding us to not assume buyers know anything.

5:44pm • #13
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You are right-- there are more things they either do not know or are confused about than not many times.

6:01pm • #14

Great post Bob.  I never like to start a business relationship thinking someone is lying to me.  Everything you say is true and I also will keep your points in mind with each new buyer I get.  Take care and have a great day.

6:03pm • #15

Bob I like your post!

It serves as a great reminder as to why our clients still need us! Working on the buyer side, we have to constantly remind buyers (especially first time buyers) that we are not merely property finders & that we work hard for our commissions!

6:04pm • #16
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Hi Bob -- You are so right.  I am amazed all the time at how different my understanding of where a buyer is versus how they see things.  Never assuming is critical.  Asking lots of open ended questions is also very helpful.

6:11pm • #17

Sometimes its hard to know where to start with a buyer. Some need a full education as to how it all comes together. Others are sophisticated and don't want to be talked down to.

6:40pm • #18

Aja,

Thank you for reading my post!

 

Bob & Carolin,

Buyers rely on us, more than we think...

 

Gary,

I never work with anyone who does not want to work with me, and if they are really lying, then they do not want o work with me.

 

Monique,

With Web 2.0 etc... Many agents have become property finders, it is those same agents that can embrace the internet and really offer buyers the next level of real estate service through technology, consultation, and education...

 

Chris,

Do you know how many buyers still do not understand how the $8,000 tax credit works? The auto industry is no longer a mystery and buyers finally get what is going on, the same thing will eventually happen with real estate as the market remains stable, We as great agents just need to be on the front lines educating our clients now!

 

6:51pm • #19
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Hi Bob~ Buyers are NOT liars!  They just do not know what they do not know!  It is not that often that they buy homes and it is our responsibility to educate them, and to do it with a smile on our face.  I know I do!

6:51pm • #20

AMEN to that!!!!!!! Seriously, AMEN to that!!!!!!!!!! I think most buyers need a full education because much may have changed since they last bought or sold. Surely the market is different at this time or in this town. And, often what other Realtors have told them, they've read, or heard, does not ring true or I disagree with.

Some familiar comments; Didn't know you could help me with a NEW home, thought you got paid a base salary plus commission etc. My Dad says to NEVER put in a full price offer regardless of asking price.

I know I need to be careful what I ask for but "sometimes"... I wish attorneys were involved in California. In a rare instance I make sure they speak with an attorney.

Fantastic Blog! Great reminder. Thanks.

PS. I think most often if a buyer fibs a little it's because they don't trust us yet.

7:11pm • #21

Most buyers are a quick study.  They are for the most part happy to learn all they can about one of the biggest investments. 

7:11pm • #22
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Bob - You really tapped into a sensitive topic.  An overconfident buyer can be their own worst enemy because they do;t want to listen to someone who is "boots on the ground".  Thanks for a great reminder on the continuing education that we bring to the table.

7:13pm • #23
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we bill ourselves as the proffesionals. It is up to us to know what we are doing and guide our buyers through the process, even when they are nodding their heads with that blank stare on their face.

7:34pm • #24

Rob,

Everyone needs a little education, especially the ones that seem to think they know too much!

 

Vicki,

My point exactly!

 

Linda,

Uneducated and misinformed agents are some of the problems, especially with sellers (different blog) Yes, trust is very important...

 

Lani,

Yes, buyers want to be involved in the process

 

Michael,

Yes, buyers do not "Listen" , which is a different problem

 

7:39pm • #25
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I agree that we are there to focus, refocus, and refocus.  After viewing houses, it is really important to reprioritize the list. I recently had a buyer who only wanted contemporary houses, would not look at colonials because they were all the same, etc.  What did she end up buying? A colonial!  And it met all her needs.  So it is important to go back over preferences, rationale, likes, and dislikes.

8:22pm • #26

Peggy,

This happens a lot and this is why we need to keep them in check with a needs analysis and be a good listener, most often "buyers" do not know what they really want... Sometimes they need a push without steering them.  Over 70% of my business is buyer representation, so I hear it all... You have to be a good listener

8:45pm • #27

True buyers are liars, but the sentence is not complete it goes like this (buyers are liars, sellers are yellers) and that refers to when asked by the agent if they are working with another agent they tell no I.m working with you and after taking them around for what seem eon's they end up buying a house from other agent. So hence " Buyers are Liars." and seller are yellers go to fact that if you don't something the seller wants they are yelling you are not serviceing my housse right. But it's still a great profession.

Nick Florio C21 Prevete RE. Long Island NY
8:48pm • #28

Nick,

Thank you for the comments... I work with a lot of buyers that had agents before me... not one had a buyer agency agreement with the previous agent. It seems that the previous agents did not listen and communicate effectively and only concerned with the outcome. killing sellers with kindness and giving them more information that they can handle always works best. Did you ever hear a seller complain that their agent communicated too much with them?

9:04pm • #29

Buyer's Rep Agreements don't always work...I had a couple that signed one with me and we went out and looked at some very nice homes.  They didn't find any that they really liked and said that they were going away for the weekend and would be in touch when they got back.  Sure enough, they contacted me when they got back only to inform me that they had found the home of their dreams...(five hours away) in Lubbock!  LOL! 

9:38pm • #30
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Hi Bob,

Buyers are liars has been said for as long as I've been in r.e. (and that's decades) and you've covered many of the issues exceptionally well.

Another aspect in the beginning I've also had many buyers who weren't exactly sure what they wanted, I think that's also part of the process. They may think they want one thing in the beginning, yet change their mind mid-stream. It happens all the time, I've done it myself.

10:14pm • #31

Great post and love the photo. I do hate the saying that "buyers are liars"   I often hear this for other Realtors and it get me mad.

10:26pm • #32
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The saying people to care how much you know until they know how much you care has a direct connection to a buyer's openiness with their real estate agents.  It is our job to gain trust thus gaining truth. 

12:11am • #33
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Great input and for the most part I can agree that the phrase "buyers are liars" is for the most part not true. However every once in awhile I get some real players... Thanks for the insight!

4:57am • #34
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Some very good points in this post. Thanks for sharing.

6:21am • #35
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Bob:

I have such disdain for that expression, "Buyers are liars." It was one of the first phrases I heard from a fellow Realtor when I started in the business. My reaction to it was - How can she work in business in which she has such disrespect for her clients or customers?

Buyers need our guidance, not our disrespect. 

 

8:07am • #36
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When I first heard this phrase, it was in real estate prelicensure training and my instructor said it.  The context, though, was with regard to loan prequalification, and he was stressing its importance to our running our business.  I understood what he meant.  But, I think too many people expand that phrase into more than what it should be.

8:20am • #37

Great post!  It is difficult sometimes for buyers to see the value of having a buyer's agent represent them.  Even when explained thoroughly they just sometimes don't get it.

8:25am • #39

Agree 100%.  I never liked the phrase "buyers are liars" either.

8:30am • #40

So much of what we do is routine for us.  The onus's is on us to look at each client as the first one ever and it is our job to educate each one of them with the process.

I know I have been guilty of doing this and I appreciate your taking the time to remind me to stay on top of my game.  Joy

8:32am • #41
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I understand the points... and this is good for a refresher for most agents...

BUT ... I believe the context of the quote needs to be really hashed out - "Buyers are liars and Sellers are worse"...

to me this means that Buyers know when they're telling half-truths or omitting key facts like:

1) They already signed in with that builder and just want you to show them resales to firm up their decision to buy new construction

2) They have a cousin who has a license and they want you to do all the leg work while Cousin Annie finishes her day job @ the nail salon and then when they want to write then they'll hand the right MLS sheet to Annie.

3) They aren't even in the ballpark of being approved for a loan and they're just long term lookie-loos

 

The Sellers are Worse part is simply about all the inconveniences and hissy fits thrown during a listing...

1) "How dare he offer me that little?? My house is worth $50K more... I could buy and sell that buyer all day long! Tell him to come back when he wants to make a big boy offer"

2) "I know I told you I'd keep the place clean but my son needs a place to live for a year and so we signed a lease and he's a giant slob...just get it sold anyway"

3) "No...really?? I built my deck over both neighbors' yards??"

4) "To get to that price you're just going to have to put all your hard work in the crapper and cut your commissions"...

5) "I don't care what the market will bear, my house is worth X"

8:33am • #42
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Wonderful post Bob, a nice breakdown and great guidance for us all ~ Brad

8:34am • #43
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The one I have heard is " Buyers are liars and sellers are too" I agree that most of the time it is simply misinformation or ignorance, but I have come across the manipulative ones too. I simply extricate myself post haste. If all of these points are explained it is far less likely to happen. Great post!

8:42am • #44

So true!  I remember well buying our first house and making many of those mistakes.  We didn't understand the importance of having a buyer's agent. We do now :-)  I am now the first to tell friends, family and clients how important the role of a buyer's agent is.

Thanks for a good, informative post. 

8:51am • #45

Bob, Excellent post.  I couldn't agree with you more especially with first time home buyers who don't know, what they don't know.  I have found that Buyers and Sellers alike, just don't want to be seen as being ignorant.  I think that much of this is caused by REALTORS not educating Buyers and Sellers on all of the things we do, from listing to closing.

Jerry G. Hill, Exit Realty Deaton Group
8:52am • #46

Great Post. We must remember we should be in a position of serving, not just standing in line at the end of the transaction, or soon there will be no transaction.

8:56am • #47
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Bob, I LOVED your post, and I agree with everything.  If we take the time to educate our buyers and earn their trust by helping them through this gigantic investment, then I believe they will be honest and straightforward. I subscribe to the golden rule, and if I get burned once in a while, I still consider it gaining experience.  Thanks!

8:56am • #48

And don't forget that "Sellers are Yellers!"  Although, I haven't experienced that myself (yet!! ...grin.) :)  Very well-written post and a good reminder for me to assume nothing about a prospective client!

8:58am • #49

My house was sold before it went into foreclosure... Yes, I took care of that collection account.  Borrower was clearly told that both conditions must be present before closing could take place - both verbally on more than one occasion, and in writing.  Collection account was to be paid in full/settled/creditor agreed was incorrect and removed.

When we asked for HUD1 from sale, borrower didn't have a copy of it... Red Flag!  Title transferred from borrower to trustee to VA to new owner.  HELLO????? 

Clearing conditions before closing (borrower was paying off collections up to the end) showed a large collection was still present.  Borrower stated he thought it would be ok to set up payment arrangements!  Nope, not ok.  Read above...

Postmortem...  deal did not close.  We learned new ways to ask questions to make sure the borrower was clear on what was expected...  trouble is new borrowers will feel patronized, because we're attempting to communicate as clearly as possible.

Was this buyer a liar or a "victim" of miscommunication?  Hmmmmm....

 

8:59am • #50
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Great title...how many times do we hear listing agents tell us that buyers are liars! It always annoys me...first I don't like my clients being put down, but also it implies that I am a fool for trusting my buyers.

Great list of things we need to do to educate buyers.

8:59am • #51

Bob, you're right! Most buyers are so honest we end up knowing allot more then we need to, but; that makes discovery fun in relationship building. I have found myself being a teacher in almost every instance. Being a good teacher requires us to be well prepared to answer many questions. I don't know all the answers all the time Bob, but since I'm honest with them always I never have them lying to me. People sense genuine desires to help them reach their goal.

Thank for the good read.

Terry Hughes
9:00am • #52

Great article, "Buyers Are Liars" was an old phrase used for many years which I have always disliked. Buyers are not liars, they are just short on information. It's up to us as professional Realtors to put their needs above our commissions. When you service your buyers like you expect to be serviced then the results prove beneficial to both parties.

Keep up the good posts.

www.FindYourMyrtlebeachHome.com

 

Myrtle Beach Real Estate
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Bob -  you wrote a nice post and I would love to agree with you but unfortunately, this business is simply a numbers game -  the longer you're in it, the more people you meet and therefore, the likelihood of meeting up with dishonesty increases:   

number of years in business x 50 transactions per year = 150 people (including another realtor in each transaction)  Twenty years in real estate brings 3000 people into your life that you wouldn't normally meet.  

Sadly, in my career and my market, I would guestimate that 10% are not honest, ethical people and I have 'fired' them, never wanting to work with them or anyone they would want to refer to me. That includes Buyers, Sellers and Realtors!!!

I too, was disgusted with this term when I was fresh in my career and thought how jaded these older realtors were.  Sadly, it takes all kinds to make the world go round and they're out there - wait for it!

9:03am • #54
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Hi Bob,

Nice post, and so true.  I also hate the phrase, but sometimes no matter how much 'Educating' we do, it just happens sometimes.  However, I loved reading the book, "Buyer's are Liars, and Seller's are Too".  It's a humorous book about the most common lies told by all parties of the transaction.  

9:03am • #55
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Buyers are NOT real estate agents is closer to the truth. Thanks for an excellent post. Well worth bookmarking to make sure I go over those points with every buyer.

9:08am • #56
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Bob,  You're post is spot on in that we should never assume that they know anything. All of those things you list are things that we must, as Realtors take the time to explain.  I have a series of pre-written text that I past into emails explaining the various steps in the process.

Where I split from you in your post is that it doesn't really address the subject of the phrase 'Buyers are Liars'

The origin of that phrase goes way beyond the Real Estate business.  I've heard it in every industry I've worked in over the last 35 years.

While it is a crass and insulting phrase, it has some origins in truth. There is no question that a great many people who are engaging with sales folks are not totally forthcoming - and with good reason - they don't trust the sales people.  

When a sales person and a client, in any industry, first meet, they do not know each other.  Unfortunately, there are many shady and deceptive sales people in the world.  Your new client has no way of knowing if you are "one of the good guys" or some charlatan who is only looking to make a buck at their expense.

Have you ever walked into a car dealership and held back information from the salesperson.  When they first ask you "will you be trading your car in"  do you tell them the truth or hedge a bit because you don't trust they'll give you the best price - you don't feel that the price should be dependent on whether or not you are trading.You are less than completely honest because you don't trust him.

How many new prospects do you talk to (other than solid referrals from mutual acquaintances) that begin by saying - they're not sure whether they want to move, they just wanted to "get an idea" of what their house is worth for future reference, and when you meet them you find out the they have 3 kids and are expecting their fourth and the 2 BR 1 BA condo just isn't big enough for them.   You know and they know that they have a strong motivation to move - but they didn't trust you enough to tell you, lest you might pressure them.

How many new buyers tell you that they can only afford to buy a house up to a certain price and that they can only afford to put $XX as a down payment and then as you go through the process you find they can go higher and have more down payment but they didn't share that with you at the beginning because they have this underlying fear that you will show them houses only at the highest end because you'll earn more commission.

Etc etc.   Are these people "lying".  In the strict definition of the word - yes.  The thing is though that there is no malice in what they say. They are not deceitful people who are chronically dishonest.  They just aren't going to give straight information to someone until they have developed a trust level that enables them to feel that you will not use their information in a self-serving manner.

It is our responsibility to earn their trust.  Showing our expertise in all the things you listed is one part of earning trust.  We also need to earn their trust but being responsive, being diligent, being available to answer questions.  Taking the time to answer the questions fully - giving them both the good and the bad side of any proposed course of action. 

When they want to make an offer on a home, do you do a CMA for them or just tell them that you think they need to offer 5% - 6% off list in order for the seller to take then seriously?

If there is a defect of some kind in the house, do you minimize it and say "ahh don't worry about it" or do you just give them the facts about remediation and let them know that you'll support their decision about whether or not the defect is  deal breaker?

It's all of those things (which I suspect most Realtors actually do) that slowly teach the buyer that being completely forthcoming with us in in their best interest. 

There are folks who simply do lie - such as is pointed out by the gentleman in comment #42 but in my opinion they are not the majority.  They aren't lying because they are buyers or sellers - they are lying because they are liars.

 

 

9:08am • #57

Loved your post and so true. Very well written and you made some very good points. When I first heard that phrase I was stunned.

9:16am • #58
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I have encountered recently buyers who were not honest with me.  I did not ask the right questions and it turned out they had an agent already.

9:17am • #59

Very good post, timely reminder thtat our buyers do not purchase a home every week or understand the process as we do.   

Personally don't care for the phrase, 'Buyers are liars & Sellers are too'...

Dianne Clayton
9:29am • #60

I belive half of what I see, and a quarter of what I hear.

Just when I think that I have heard it all, BAM...A new batch of BS. Just as buyers have to decode what they learn about real estate, we realtors have to do the same with buyer speak.

9:48am • #61

Once upon a time, before we had MLS online just published books that came out once every so many weeks, before buyer brokerage, sub-agency was the norm. The wisdom that the seasoned agents had for the "Newbie" agents were:

"Buyers are Liars", "Listers Last" and I remember a story about an agent on floor who didn't take a potential buyer seriously because they had an older vehicle only to find out the person was very wealthy, you know a guy like Sam Walton, founder of Walmart who used to drive an old truck.

The seasoned agents were just trying to keep agents from wasting their time and being forced out of the business for lack of success. I've had my share of dishonest buyers that have wasted my time and if they were one of my first clients, perhaps would have convinced me real estate wasn't for me. In fact, I'm laughing as I write this as it just happened to me recently where a buyer was completely uncooperative, dishonest and a huge time waster that I normally wouldn't have worked, but it was a few months ago when things were slow and I decided to flow with it fully knowing I might get thumped, and I did. 

That saying isn't for seasoned agents who know how to spot the red flags and pre-qualify their buyers, if for only by inuendo. The saying "Buyers are Liars" is not for you.... it's for that new agent that can't afford the client from hell as one of their first.

Going back to my first point, the saying was also created when No One represented buyers and 99% of all homes were sold with "Sub-Agency" and of course like Bob in post #57 pointed out, Buyers had to represent their selves so of course it was in their best interest to hold their cards close to their vest.

So, I hope this helps....

 

Mark Antonowsky
10:01am • #63

Number 3 seems to be a big issue for me.  I often have buyers ask me how much they must pay a realtor.  They do need to be informed as to how we actually get paid.

10:02am • #64

Bob -

Great Post, I also appreciate Rick Schwartz comments on #57.

 

THANKS!!!!!

 

-Phil Graves-

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10:03am • #65
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Most buyers do not know what they really want, they might think they know.  A lender told me most buyers have more money than the let you know about; and this has proved true in many cases. 

10:04am • #66

Bob,

I agree with your comments. We train at Keller Williams to ask questions 3 levels deep. Only then can we come close to discovering, and the buyers truly discovering what they are ultimatley looking for in their purchase. Thank you for educating the masses.

 

Scott Riedel
10:10am • #67

Love this post!  Used it in my sales meeting this morning, thank you!

 

 Pamela Sovich - Prudential Preferred Realty, Pittsburgh, PA

10:15am • #69

Sorry to disagree with the theme.

 

The statement "buyers are liars" is not an attack on their character but a description of the natural wall buyers have when being exposed to a sales situation. I believe in real estate it may be unique as there is more than one type of sales situation

The first is when the agent is looking to drum up business searching for listings. He speaks on the phone to an owner and is immediately put off by a variety of statements or lies.  He pushes forward and obtains a listing or be believes the lies and calls someone else. It happens in every market when salesmen cold call.

The other situation is in the home at an open house or when the buyers are viewing the property. Even though the husband pictures himself watching the football game in the rec room and likes the house, he starts picking apart the room, the closet space etc because he thinks it will help him in the negotiation.

So to me, as someone said earlier, you have to always ask the right questions to minimize the "lies" fluff and "FUD".

If you don't know what FUD is, its  FEAR, UNCERTAINTY, DOUBT.

FUD leads to lies. Your list is an outline of "FUD" of your buyers.

Michael Fahey
10:15am • #70

Great Information!  I have been telliny my team this information forever!  Amy

Amy
10:18am • #71
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It is hard not to be cynical.  I get to talk to the buyer (borrower) after the realtor has dealt with them.  They may not lie to me but they do withhold information.  As mentioned in comments above, they do not tell me about outstanding debts, business losses declared on their tax returns, etc.  Unfortunately, as it becomes harder and harder to qualify for a mortgage, they incentive to withold or cover up negative information increases.

10:38am • #72

Great info; simple and easy to understand outline of how to ensure your buyer understands their transaction.

10:38am • #73

Great post.  I always disliked the 'Buyers Are Liars' and it does truly take some educating along the way to help them truly understand the market and process of buying a house.  We sell in a luxury market where there are several foreclosure and short sales that skew the market a bit.  They seem to start there as they see the prices are so enticing and then as you help them explore the market you will quickly learn what they can and will afford and what they like so you can find them the perfect home! 

10:48am • #74

According to Seth Godin (best selling authour All Marketers are Liars)

"Marketers tell the true story that allows the listener to tell himself the lies he must tell himself to buy what he really wanted and needed anyway"

Well put, Seth: related:

http://www.realtown.com/john/groups/real-estate-experts/view/19278

10:49am • #75

Carolyn,

I actually do not use buyers agent contracts... I never lost a client over it, and if I did, either I did not communicate effectively or they just were not a good fit... sorry to hear that!

Lynda,

Well Said!

Kate,

Thank You!

Joe,

"TRUST" it goes both ways

Mark,

We all meet some "Real Players"

Dave,

Thank You!

Claudette,

Agents do make stupid comments!

Eric,

The mortgage industry can have a lot of liars, I see your point.

Peter,

Thanks!

Joyce,

Always, Keep it simple!

Tom,

Thanks!

Joy & Jeff,

Thank You!

David,

Good Explanation!

Brad,

Thanks!

Vanessa,

Good Communication is the key!

Lisa,

Thank You!

Jerry,

It all starts with the Realtor!

Anthony,

Yes, do not be an outcome agent

Melissa,

Thanks!

Sonja,

Sellers, a whole different story...

Linda,

Sorry that happened to you!

Karen,

Thanks!

Terry,

There are a lot of Teachers in our industry... you need to wear many "hats"

Susan,

Yes, I like to "fire" clients...

Becky,

Thanks, I will read the book!

Linda,

Thanks

Rick,

Good observation, however, I was not attempting to explain why buyers lie or why the phrase was started, just a intro to my post and the fact that some agents confuse lying with ignorance. Thank you for the comments and your insight.

10:57am • #76

Michael,

#70, the theme is "Do not assume what buyers know! We sometimes mistake what they do not know as lying, when they put these boundaries up... you break down these boundaries with asking the right questions and educating the consumer to build trust... It is a process

Thanks

11:01am • #77

Absolutely agree with you!  It is our job to help buyers throughout the entire process and understand what they need.  At the beginning of the search, most buyers have no idea what they want.  It is an overwhelming process at first but it's our job to inform and have fun with our clients.  Thanks so much for the post.  Most helpful.

11:09am • #78
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Bob... You are right, for the most part buyers just believe what they hear.. and need to be educated.  If you have a good communication basis with your client and they are open to what you have to say... and the other way around.  The purchasing of a home usually goods well.

valerie osterhoudt

11:10am • #79
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Great points, it simply is a matter of education for ourself, the buyer, the seller and often the agent on the other side of the transaction.

11:13am • #80
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Hi Bob,  Terrific list of what we need to understand and then ty to educate the customers we work with !

11:14am • #81

Very true, the more honest and upfront we are at the begining and the more we educate the easier the transaction will be in the end.

11:14am • #82
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Bob,

True; and the consumer is bombarded with a plethora of information and opinion that needs interpretation.  Helping with that interpretation is where the professional comes in shows his value.  Love the post!

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What a great post! It's a lot of education that a buyer needs to get started in the process and trying to communicate all of that is a long relationship. Those are the best

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Hi Bob,

All your points are good ones and especially the one about buyer fees (normally none).  I hit that right up front with my buyer intake form which addresses this and also how FSBO's are handled.

12:02pm • #85
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Bob, I hope your blog is a wake up call for a lot of people. I have found that the more I could explain the process to a first time buyer and even 2nd or 3rd time buyer, the more loyal and easier to deal with they became.

Ty

12:03pm • #86
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I never assume anything in this day and age.... Since we have people from all over the United States buying in Las Vegas.. it's amazing how many people think that real estate procedures are universal.

Of course... even I did not know how different procedures / norms were until I got a Brokers License in another state.

12:43pm • #87

I really like the fact that you took the time to 'educate' in this posting. As a home stager and PRES home staging instructor I find that through educating my sellers they have a much better idea of what home staging is all about, and more importantly which services will help to sell their home. There are great misconceptions as to all the different services professionally trained home stagers can offer our clients  (sellers and realtors). 

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Dana J. Smithers
12:45pm • #88
Great post. So true, an informed client is a loyal client.
12:49pm • #89

Good information!  Buyers may not really know what they want until they start looking--hence, the phrase.

I find if I go over our Agreement to Buy and Sell almost line by line with their having a blank copy in front of them as I'm completing their offer and telling them to stop me with any questions to be the most helpful method.  Then, because it is such a lengthy process, remind them every step of the process, because it is just too much to process.

However, I have had a buyer take a sudden new turn; i.e., a condo when we had been looking for single family homes, and then try to say I had not provided thorough service.  I thwarted that by having a copy of EVERY E-mail that had transpired between us, and he never mentioned condo until the very end.  He was angry because by the time he mentioned it and I checked, it had been leased.

 

1:11pm • #90

You are so right on Bob.  I believe I saw a couple people comment that they dislike (okay, they might have said hate) that phrase.  I couldn't agree more.  However, I will admit there was a time when I thought the same thing.  But you are absolutely right about one thing (much more of course).  It is OUR job to educate the consumer.  It is NOT their job to come to us full of knowledge, otherwise, what the heck are we good for? 

We also need to start telling the "deep" truths and stop living in fear that someone will not use us becuase we don't. I think a lot of tell the truth (I hope so anyway) but we don't go too deep cause we fear they might not meet with us etc.

By the way, case in point.  We purchased our last house 7 yrs ago and we were adamant about a home with the master suite down.  Guess what we live in today?

Yep, you guessed it.   A home with the master up.  The reality is, what I really wanted was seperation from my kids (one has since moved- YAY!).  We found a unique floor plan with bedrooms spread out on the second level.  And I got my tranquility.

Again, thank you for a great article.  I do not like that phrase either.

John

PS I Hired a GREAT stager by the way and my clients love it.  Plus the ones she's staged so far are sold in less than 2 weeks.  Again, I'm educating my clients.

John Duncan
1:12pm • #91

Absolutely Bob. Most buyer's come us because they don't really know what to do... if they did we all might be singing a different tune. Fortunately for us, buyers frequently need help bringing all the information that they get into focus, and a little selling to help crystalize their intent into an action. Buyers are just buyers.

By the way... where do you get those cool noses?

 

1:15pm • #92

Great Blog! I agree with you 100%! I continiously tell Agents the same. It is us that make them liars. Good Stuff!

Doug Williams
1:20pm • #93

Good post, lots of comments, agents have to remember it's our job to address the needs of our clients, most of the time buyers are only liars when agents don't listen to what they are telling them!

1:37pm • #94

Very good post.  Education is a key to this business.  Buyers don't know about our business unless we teach them, just as we wouldn't know about other businesses without an education.  I consider myself a real estate teacher more than a salesperson.  My clients appreciate the education.  It allows them to make more sound decisions.

1:46pm • #95

I got a lot of great information out of your article.  Especially about agency.  I get so many questions at open houses from buyers asking if I am the listing agent ,,because they want to work out a deal directly with them.  We really need to educate tem about representation and negotiating.  They really do need a buyer's agent!

1:51pm • #96
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It would be great if you could get buyers to attend first time home buyers classes but they never seem to work.

1:56pm • #97

Great post.  This is about making things easier for them and educating them.

2:36pm • #98

Wow Bob! 

    What a great in depth reminder of what we should be doing amongst other things. I have often thought the old phrase " Buyer's are Liar's , Seller's are worse" Really should be

"Realtor's dont ask enough questions and Listen for the answers!"

    It is interesting when using an interview  or counseling process with buyer's as opposed to the "jump and run and show a house" process, how much we can really learn about  buyer's as well as be given the golden opportunity to educate them. We can find out things like; their level of experience with buying and selling Real Estate, their motivations for wanting to buy, and more importantly what having a certain feature in a home like (ex. a large backyard means to them.) Is it that they like to play games in their backyard? Does having that large back yard remind them of the acreage that they grew up on? Is it more prestigious to have a large back yard? We NEED to know the TRUE reason behind or benefit to the feature that each buyer has in order to be able to really help them. If we don't ask, they don't know how to tell us!

Buyer's otherwise known as PEOPLE, rattle off the number of bedrooms and baths, size of lot ,blah, blah, blah. WE as Realtors have set them up to look like liars! They have been trained BY Realtors to tell us those types of "Features"  thinking thats the language we speak, without the reasons that those features are important to them. Then when WE cant find them the house they want to make their HOME we say they lied! 

Oh, and the lender's may be seeing buyer's from a different perspective.For sure there are people who are less than honest about what would otherwise be private matters like financial info. It seems that goes back to educating them about the lending process from the mortgage person's perspective, not the Realtor's dept. In this casethe focus is on the old phrase describing why buyer's end up buying something different than what the Realtor thought they wanted.

Realtor's probablly made up  that phrase to make themselves feel better about their deals that were lost to other agents because they didn't take the time to ask more questions: WHY do you want that ...WHAT does it mean to you to have...WHEN did you want to... and then just sit quietly and LISTEN...

 

Barb Christensen
2:58pm • #99
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Bob - sometimes I forget and speak the re lingo without realizing it.  Also I have slipped up and assumed that buyers know more than they actually do.  Good reminders!

3:00pm • #100
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Point well taken. Good post...

3:02pm • #101

Remember, "Don't Show Until You Know That They've Got The Dough!"  Always Pre Qualify your buyers and then show them property. You will know their real price range and not have to worry about them being able to get the loan.

 

Sam Coleman

Sr. Loan Officer

Home Loan Specialists, Inc.

samcredit@gmail.com

Sam Coleman
3:05pm • #102

Sam,

Yes, you MUST qualify correctly before the appointment. This subject is one of my next blog posts... Qualifying the appointment... This is where buyers could lie Example: "Do you have a pre-approval?"Some buyers will tell you that they have a pre-approval when they do not... Many newer agents and struggling agents "JUMP" when a buyer wants to look at a home. Again, you must educate the buyer to why it is important to have a pre-approval, so they understand why you are asking them this question

3:13pm • #103
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Good point, not understanding the process doesn't make them a liar. Education on the homebuying process and protocols is a key duty of a good buyer's agent. -M

3:20pm • #104
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Thanks for the reminder about why we are here to guide, help and educate....now if they would just listen :)

3:44pm • #105

Bob,

Thanks for the post. I do not like trite statements and agree that most of us when in a Buying mode may have an idea of what we want, it is our job as Agents to as you stated "discover" what it is that a Buyer Client is really looking for.

One other point I would make is that Buyers actually do pay our fee since it does effect & is based on commission from the sales price. I think that both the Buyer & the Seller ultimatly pay the fee. It is our job to earn & justify that fee.

Thanks,

Julie Keelan

Allen Tate Realtors

 

Julie Keelan
4:15pm • #106
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you have very clearly laid out some very important points that should definitely be discussed when first meeting with a potential buyer to a) determine their level of "sophistication" and b) ensure that they understand that unless you bind them to an exclusive buyer's agency agreement, they need to "stick" with you irregardless of what other realtors might say at the open house that they visit without your knowledge. 

4:55pm • #107
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Bob,

I completely agree with your post. It does a great job of laying out many of the things buyers need our help on. I would also state that we as an industry do a very poor job of communicating with our clients. Most of the time buyers don't know how to communicate what they want, haven't defined a specific need, or simply don't know what they don't know. We need to be better educated on how to do a comprehensive needs analysis that will help both buyer and agent understand their wants and needs.

This needs analysis is also a great time to build trust and rapport with a buyer. Until that happens, they will be guarded with their information (which leads us to feel they lied to us). Lastly, until we build that trust, we will never know what prior experiences our buyers have or the advice they receive from their trusted advisors.

When we take the extra time up front, everyone wins!

5:59pm • #108
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Bob...this is so true.  I always hated that pat phrase- I felt it was disrespectful to the people we are in business to help. 

From hosting many open houses and working with lots of buyers over the last while, I do know that it is important to assess their level of knowledge with the process....(and do it in a way that is not condescending).  Most people think they understand the process - from talking to their uncle Bill who thought about getting his RE license in 1974 or from watching House Hunters on TV - but the reality is different. 

The purchase of a home is too big of a deal to assume that the buyers know what they are doing.  They rely upon us to be competetant educators and facilitators in the process.  You have hit upon some great points.  Nice work!!!

7:30pm • #109

Great Post -- I agree that buyers are not liars.  They simply don't know what they really want or how to get it.  Sometimes, they throw up shields to protect themselves from devious real estate salespeople as well.  I don't encourage my agents to get a buyer broker agreement on the first meeting for that reason.  The buyer must feel comfortable with the agent first, then be prepared to go the distance together -- learning along the way.  In my office, we talk alot about babysitting a deal or babysitting a buyer.  That's how we feel -- we care for and educate our buyers through the home buying experience and have lost very few buyers.

 

Thanks for reminding us that buyers need us to do our jobs as professionals.

Kelly Fisher
7:47pm • #110

Thank you to all that commented on my post!

Great comments!

8:53pm • #111

Really great post.  One of the first phrases I learned in real estate was "buyers are liars".  You point out some important considerations that we need to be aware of.

9:43pm • #112
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This is a good reminder Bob. If everyone knew what we know, they would not need us. We need to explain these basics each time we have a new client.

10:37pm • #114

I agree - buyers need to be educated. I do think some of them lie - because I've run into a few who did - but for the most part, they just don't know what they're doing!

(Assuming that none of them lie is like assuming that no one lies... and that's just not so.)

Everyone is different. Many people, in an effort not to look stupid, try to bluff their way through and not admit to what they don't know.Then it's your turn to educate without letting on that you know they don't know.

Other people are pretty defensive and can be down right belligerent in asserting their "knowledge" of real estate. (This is especially true of the parents of the buyers or sellers.)I expect this is a defense mechanism, used because their cousin George got burned by a real estate agent who lied! (Yep, some do.)

I think you're on the right track when creating hand-outs or videos. Then they can learn in privacy and not have to admit to you that they don't know! And those who admit they don't know, but do want to know, can study what you offer at their leisure rather than try to absorb it all while you're talking to them.

Good post - good ideas.

11:13pm • #115
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I like the email campaign and video ideas to explain things to buyers.  Both buyers and sellers can be very confused about the process.

11:26pm • #116
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I learned many years ago assuming leads (most always) to unwanted implications.

7:57am • #117

Bob - What a fabulous summary on how to educate our buyers.  I hate sweeping generalizations such as "Buyers are liars".  A few are fibbers, though...

8:14am • #118

Bob - great post - I love the ones that inspire so many comments. Education and trust - those are key - and sometimes it's hard to educate people if they don't trust you. But, to get them to trust you, you need to educate them. Little circle here. With trust, everything else can fall into place. When we have new situations come up in sale after sale - even after 20 years, they cannot possibly know everything involved.

I always thought the saying had more to do with them not really knowing what they wanted to buy. My experience was someone looking for a big 4 bedroom colonial, had to have it, etc then walked into a smaller ranch home, but near the water - fell in love and that was it . . .

Always great tips and ideas come from thought provoking posts - thank you.

12:35pm • #119

Bob - Great post...I agree that education is number one.  Buyers coming into the market really have no idea how things work.  They've watched all the shows but real life can be considerably different.  Specially here on Long Island, NY.  The system here is not the same as it is across most of the country.  I think when you spend the time to educate buyers they begin to realize just how much they don't know.  Not only does that validate the benefits of a Realtor in general, it also shows the buyer how your knowledge and experience can help them.  Possibly leading to working for them as a buyer agent.

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Great post!  We shouldn't put everyone in the same category... However, some Buyers/Sellers definitely do ... & yet many are straight with you.  This is a people business & our role is largely counseling & educating. ~JC

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