What do you want to be when you grow up?

Oh, the eternal question...It's is, of course, ok, and it is uniquely ours, my Susan.  What else is there?  Personally, I never wanted to grow up in that sense, and still don't.  Drifting with the changes of seasons, the tides and the moonrises, we find our own wherever it is.  In the uneven textures in between the worry lines and those, imprinted on our faces by laughter...  In the way only those who truly love us look at us, hold us, carry us through the untended gardens of our lives - that's there for all of us.  Everything else 'these women' are hoping to find on a couch of a shrink or in a career change is always going to be so much less and oh so temporary:-)

Hugs, my dear Susan! 

Susan,

So many people search only to find out that what they have is infinitely better. Often times its too late than.

Non crescono mai, sei perfetto come sei.

Rich

I am happy to report that I Know what I want to be when I grow up.  Exactly who I am now.  I'm happy, successful, love my hubby, adore my kids, have volunteered a ton, have good values, and always do the right thing.  I wanted to play the guitar before I die, so I took lessons last year.  I still want to speak Spanish fluently, but that will have to come.  Otherwise, I'm good.

Susan, most people only too late discover that, "Wherever I go---there I am."  Those who forget the thrill of the journey are bound to find arriving at the destination disappointing.

Susan, you resonated with me today. I don't think I have EVER grown up or even could figure out what I want to be when I grow up. I want to be multiple things. Never one. Never "completely" satisfied. I don't want to "arrive." You are hitting the mid life crisis big time that we all do that begs the question, "is this all there is?" Usually at around 50 there is a sense of wanting a shift from success to significance. Happiness is VERY HARD to define. You know it when you feel it. But in self-discovery and self-examination of getting comfortable in your own skin it has to do with truly understanding what you "value." Figure that out, then do more things in those areas and you will be well on your way to a happy, fulfilled life. Happiness cannot come from another person. I think unhappiness can though. Happiness for you and all of us as they say is an inside job. Keep working on what is important to you on the inside, and more of your answers will come to you. I do like the phrase of wisdom you came up with though that you'd like to grow up before you die. How about just a variation of that, be truly happy before you die in whatever makes you happy. I agree with what Charles said too, part of it is the journey, not just the destination. BTW, the destination can be boring cause then you set off on a new destination. I'm with you on the journey. I'm not going anywhere.

Hi Susan, Deep thoughts today.... I think if people are truly unhappy with what they are doing, and without blaming those around them see that they need to change, then they will remain unhappy until they seek those changes.   I don't know, if this is all there is, Susan :-)

Susan, I thought maybe I could "grow up" someday.  I thought that I would be like my parents and grandparents.  However, I find myself still sitting cross-legged at the computer.  (We used to say Indian-style, but that has fallen out of favor for some reason.  And it stil seems right to me. No disrepect, just objective.)  I still with the dogs, I can't imagine either my mother, grandmother or any forebear running at my age, unless it was from something or to something in an emergency.  I still keep up on the rock scene and love technology.  I wonder what they would think of that.  I'm Peter Pan.  I won't grow up, Wendy.  And that is okay with me.  Yes, I'm still searching for happiness, but I have found some contentment.  And, that is good enough for me. 

Susan...

It's funny, because I really feel grown up, and overall, am quite satisfied.

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Susan, you sound grown up to me. I just want to be a happy retired Realtor someday! Maybe when I am 89??

DEEP Susie, DEEEEEP!!  First off, I dont think any of us should EVER grow up completely, we need to have fun and that requires our inner child.  Happiness is not having what you want, it is wanting what you have. The question really is are we happy being on the merri-go-round, or are we brave enough to jump off the merri-go round and hop on the roller coaster?

I want to be a Realtor!

The first thing I ever wanted to be was a band director, like the one I adored in junior high school, Mr. Schultz. I often wonder if I'd been happier if I'd actually followed that dream!

Cheers,

Robin