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Who Are Your Middle Of The Night People To Call On? More Than Home Sweet Home

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Real Estate Agent with Keller Williams Realty 0575737

Batman ClockThere is that term home sweet home that refers to the comfort of your humble abode. Decorated and provisioned with all the right food in the fridge, it is the place you long to come home to after a long vacation. I met a man today who was RV traveling for like ten weeks and he was so homesick it was not funny. But there's another comfort feeling like home sweet home and that is with those insider people in your life.

Who Are Your Middle Of The Night People To Call On? More Than Home Sweet Home.

I heard this story recently. One afternoon after the death of her grandfather a little girl huddled in her bed, sobbing forlornly. Her mother asked what was wrong? The little girl replied that she missed her grandpa. And that she missed talking to him about her problems. The Mom said she missed him too but couldn't the little girl talk to her? The little girl shook her head. And the mother asked why not? "Because we talked about YOU," the little girl said. It is important to have at least one person in your life, a close one you can be emotionally intimate with.

Sadly, the majority of people do not have at least ONE person they can call on when their lives fall apart. There are some I have met here on Active Rain that know I am at least that ONE person for them if they need me and vice versa. Most believe no one wants to hear from them in a crisis.

Cube ClockThere is this great quote by the philosopher Goethe along this line:

"The world is so empty if one thinks only of mountains, rivers and cities; but to know someone here and there who thinks and feels with us, and who, though distant, is close to us in spirit, this makes the earth an inhabited garden."

We want to live in a beautiful garden. But we want to share our vulnerabilities in the garden with another.  So is it lonely desert for you or inhabited garden? The answer to THAT question will tell you if you have someone you can call in the middle of the night.

We all have wounded moments at some points in our lives. Do you have a person to share that with? Are you that person for someone else? We all talk about connections with social media. How about a "most prized" connection? These things take time to discover them and grow so if you are one in the desert, work on finding a source of water for you. It is vital for sustaining your life.

June Lewis
Northwood Realty Services - New Castle, PA
Realtor Northwood Realty - New Castle,Pa Lawrence Co 7247304571

Hi Gary  This had me teary then had me laugh when you spoke of the little girl and her grandfather,,,Hmmmmm I just wonder if that is why MY DAUGHTER misses her grandfather..  They too had a close relationship.

You know Gary....you are that Middle of the night person,  ...it is an honor to be that special person that people feel comfortable with and know that anytime you need inspired, motivated or even just a smile to lift your spirits...you are

here ...a click away..you have so many friends clingiing  to every wise and inspired word.   Maybe it is a good time to say..thank you...it is a rare quality you have.  I hope my friends feel I am a middle of a night person to call...but you...you are the  blog master...

BTW  another wonderful blog

 

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Aug 01, 2009 12:56 PM
Monika Depalo
GAFF'S REFERRAL'S INC. - Port Orange, FL
REAL ESTATE Agent/Stager

I've have been lucky to have people I can trust and confide in and it works both ways.

Aug 01, 2009 01:08 PM
Christine McInerney
Great Life RE - Knoxville, TN
The McInerney Team, Knoxville TN Homes For Sale

There have been times in my life where I have needed middle of the night people and I have been a middle of the night person.

I even had a client call me at 4:00 in the morning once as she was going through a hard time.  I stayed on the phone with her till 6 am.

 

Aug 01, 2009 01:09 PM
Robert Vegas Bob Swetz
Las Vegas, NV

Gary - Your words of wisdom are always so moving and you don't even need pictures to go with your words!

 I am with you on this one and there are many people at AR and around the world that don't have that one person to talk to when their down and out!

 My phone number has been the same for seven years now and I love helping people talk about their problems and if anyone needs a friend to listen, I am here for them. I have unlimited text and phone minutes any time.

 If you call me please try to call earlier than late, and I hope I can help!

 Robert Swetz (Vegas Bob) direct ............... 702.443.7156

 Gary, I know you have two features at the Love group and I am sorry to say now you have three! You are a huge asset to this group and we all love reading your material!.

Aug 01, 2009 01:17 PM
Sharon Lee
Sharon Lee's Virtual Assistance - Jonesborough, TN
Retired and loving life

Gary-I am lucky to have a middle of the night people.  One here in Va and several in NY and they have me.  Great post. <SMILE>

Aug 01, 2009 01:32 PM
Suzanne McLaughlin
Sabinske & Associates, Inc. (Albertville, St. Michael) - Saint Michael, MN
Sabinske & Associates, Realtor

Gary, I have no middle of the night people.  I am a solo bird.  But, I can bet, that if I really needed some great advice, I could call you around 7 a.m.!    This was, as usual, a great post.  Where in the world did you come up with this...you must have been a philosophy major.  Thanks for making me think about this. 

Aug 01, 2009 01:49 PM
Sheldon Neal
Bergen County, NJ - RE/MAX Real Estate Limited - Maywood, NJ
That British Agent Bergen County NJ

Very deep but poignant post Gary.

Those middle of the night peeps are priceless.

Cheers gary !

Sheldon

Aug 01, 2009 01:49 PM
Sara Goss
HatmakerGroup.com GMAC Real Estate - League City, TX
Realtor - Houston Bay Area, Texas

Nice way to describe true friendship, love and support that some provide. Just had an emergency in my family and the support was amazing. I am grateful for it and willing to do the same for my people.

I have witnessed some friends over the years have what I describe as "fair-weather" boyfriends, husbands, etc. They disappear when the going gets tough in a crisis. But I can be there for them.

Nice post!

Aug 01, 2009 02:43 PM
Andrea Swiedler
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices New England Properties - New Milford, CT
Realtor, Southern Litchfield County CT

Gary, what a beautiful post. I know I have one person, one true friend that is my middle of the night person, and vice versa. No judgments, just support.

One time someone asked me what was most important about being a friend. I thought for half a second, only because I wasn't sure I wanted to tell, but I did share. When I am upset, I don't want to hear why I shouldn't be upset, I need someone to go with the flow. I really just need to talk it out. Nor do I want someone to remind me of what I have ranted about later on. When I get it out of my system, it's out.

That is what my one true friend does for me, and I for her.

But, I am thinking..... in case she is not available... :D

Aug 01, 2009 03:24 PM
Teral McDowell
Referral Patners LLC - Murphy, TX

I asked my husband that same question earlier tonight and we had an interesting conversation about it. Good post.

Aug 01, 2009 04:07 PM
William Feela
WHISPERING PINES REALTY - North Branch, MN
Realtor, Whispering Pines Realty 651-674-5999 No.

Gary, I seam to be that person.  I am the one that gets the calls and I don't have time to think about calling someone else.  But, that's OK

Aug 01, 2009 04:16 PM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
St. George Utah Area Residential Sales Agent

Gary, I do have the middle of the night support people but know that they have me as well! Give and you shall receive! I am so lucky to have such people who are there...not just for emergencies only! The best to you, really! 

Aug 01, 2009 04:34 PM
Lori Churchill Cofer
Beasley Realty - Pullman, WA
Realtor - 509-330-0086 - Pullman, WA

Gary,

I am fortunate....I have quite a few middle of the night people....as I would for them too....and I would suspect that all those who commented likewise have so many middle of the night people because they are likewise!

Aug 02, 2009 01:11 AM
Laura Giannotta
Keller Williams Realty - Atlantic Shore - Little Egg Harbor, NJ
Your Realtor Down the Shore!

Gary, what a thought provoking blog!  We do seem to be more isolated from the one on one in this age of social media. 

Aug 02, 2009 01:14 AM
Betina Foreman
WJK Realty - Austin, TX
Realtor, C.N.E., with WJK REALTY

Dear Gary,

I love this thoughtful post. It is important to have someone you can call on the "BatPhone" when your in crisis. I think the key is also being that person that someone else can call at midnight.

;)

 

Aug 02, 2009 01:43 AM
Anna "Banana" Kruchten
HomeSmart Real Estate - Phoenix, AZ
602-380-4886

Goodmorning Gary - what a lovely post!  You are an amazing guy - one I'd feel good about calling for sure!  I do have those 'middle of the night folks" and I feel very blessed.  My sister Lurana and I are like twins ( she's the baby) and her and I have been tight since we were kids.  My husband is another one of those wonderful guys - actually you and  he are a lot alike (but he shaved off his mustache etc).  He's a deep thinker and a kind, kind heart.  I have other friends as well that I know would be there for me and vice a versa.  It's all good - and thanks for a heartwarming post on Sunday!

PS  June (above ) would be another one of those folks.....I can tell!

Aug 02, 2009 03:53 AM
Thom Abbott
MyMidtownMojo.com |770.713.1505 | Intown Atlanta GA Condo Living - Atlanta, GA
Midtown Atlanta GA Condos For Sale

Gary...always great words from you...and such a good point about having that one person you can talk to.....I can relate to that! LOL!

There's another line I've always like, as funny as it may sound....

"When You Die, Who Would You TRUST to clean out your drawers?"

Aug 02, 2009 10:08 AM
Alexander Harb
Knights Investing - Mesquite, TX
Dallas, Texas Real Estate Investing

I have several that I can call on in ActiveRain....... My life has been VERY troubling lately.....

I know these people can pray with me and I will feel better after those prayers are said....God WILL listen....

Gary..I know you have people like this too, right?

=-)

Aug 02, 2009 05:06 PM
Allison Stewart
St.Cloud Homes - Saint Cloud, FL
St. Cloud Fl Realtor, Osceola County Real Estate 407-616-9904

Gary

Sometimes it is the right word at the right time from a  total stranger that can be the turning point for things to get better.  In a world that is so disenfranchised because of technology people are actually more isolated than they care to admit.

As a newcomer to an empty nest syndrome it feels like someone just puched me in the stomach... fortunately I found a former coworker who is going through it too- that really helped a lot.

Aug 03, 2009 10:52 PM
Carol Culkin
Diamond Partners Inc - Overland Park, KS
Overland Park Residential Real Estate

GAry - The story of the little girl who lost her grandpa reminds me of our very good friends who happen to be my son's go to people any time of the day or night when he can't talk to us, in return I am their pre-teen daughter's go to person. It's good to have people like this in our lives. Life would be very different if we did not have these friends.  

Aug 05, 2009 04:22 AM