Every part of the world is different, so these tips will certainly not apply to all cultures.  I happen to be from Central Asia, so these customs will certainly apply to that area.  Iran and the Middle East have similar customs and many of these apply to Russians as well.

When entering a house, remove your shoes

When we first bought our house, a salesman from a security company came in with boots.  As we stared at his boots on our beautiful new hardwood floors he noticed that and responded - "don't worry, I wiped them first".  We did not buy anything.  Note that most people provide slippers for guests in the entry.  For us real estate agents, this is probably obvious.

If you are male, always shake the hands of other men in the room upon entering and leaving

I still have to tell my husband to do this.  Not doing so is a mark of disrespect and considered rude.

If you cannot make it to an event, call to say you are not coming

Most people from my country come very late to events, but if they say they'll be there they come.  If they cannot make it they call.  I have noticed that when many people are invited, Americans will often say they are coming and then never show up.  This is extremely rude, as in my culture it is custom to not serve the food until all guests are accounted for.

If you are a man, when dealing with a foreign couple do not speak too much directly to the wife

Most likely, the wife is truly the decision maker, but may not say very much.  She will listen carefully to what you say to her husband, but addressing her directly too often will be considered rude by both the husband and the wife.

When food is served, try to eat at least a little bit

Not trying the food is considered very rude since a lot of time was likely spent preparing it.

 
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Nelya: So nicely stated.  My wife grew up in the middle east, has an adopted Lebanese brother, and I am very aware of most of the culture of the middle east.  One HUGE mistake agents make is either confusing a country of origin or talking about a neighboring country.  To some prospects, the agent may be comparing them to people that live in hell.  I really believe that it is vital that agent take international courses or get international designations to understand that we are a country of diverse cultures.

Masalama........

6:19pm • #1
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Thank you, Nelya for your tips as there are aome times I do wonder how to address people of another culture and I doubt I always make the best choice.

6:19pm • #2

Hi Nelya
You speak mainly of men; who should the female agent speak to and what would a woman do that would be considered disrespectful or inappropriate when entering a home or speaking to the home owners?

 

6:30pm • #3
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Always so important to know "what's what" when we deal with a different cultural background.    Thank you for some ground rules.

6:41pm • #4
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Lois for women agent's: its OK talk to the wife since she probably is the decision maker.She may not make it look like it, but she is the one that turns husbands neck anywhere she wants. Don't ignore the husband though.

Don't giggle too much with the husband that will be disrespectful. I guess the best way to explain their mentality: "women only speak when spoken to". But we can do it, be professional talk business and you will win!!!

6:47pm • #5
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almost all of these seem like common sense, in addition to a cultural issue...

7:09pm • #6
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Cultural differences are interesting, and too many times we forget to consider the values/customs of different cultures. I've twice spent time in the Amazon with an indigenous tribe who have an interesting cultural difference. Direct eye contact with a man's wife is considered sexual enticement; do it and the husband will have to kill you. Glad we don't do that here. : )

7:18pm • #7
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John I agree with you. Eye contacts with another man's wife is not a good thing. And for female agents direct eye contact wtih husband would give him a wrong idea especially if you add a little smile to it.

7:26pm • #8
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Hi Neyla, thank you for the tips!  It sounds like common sense.

7:33pm • #9

Neyla,  Thanks for the tips.  Although I really think they apply here in the US although so many people don't seem to follow them.

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Thank you Neyla, this is very interesting. 

9:17pm • #11
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Do they apply in California????

I ones came across an open house in a upscale neighborhood and the sales person was dress on shorts and dirty tennis shoes. I waited for another day to show this property.

We have to use commonsense and should apply to all cultural groups.

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Very interesting.  We have to be very careful.  I found it interesting that you shouldn't speak too much with the wife.  I find it very insulting when sales people only speak to my husband and seem to ignore me.  The seller of our current home was an older gentlemen and he would only address my husband at the closing.  I found him very rude.

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