If you leave a comment, Russel will visit your blog and comment.I'm always amazed when I hear how much money today's children get as an allowance.

Up until the age of almost 11, I had to steal to get what I wanted. There was no such thing as an allowance.

When my wise old grandmother adopted me in December 1965, she gave me a dime a week. Well, actually she didn't give it to me. I had to take out the trash, dry dishes, and eat Brussels sprouts and okra gumbo.

Today's children almost demand an allowance, and for little work around the home. Of course, most of the work around the home nowadays seems to be done by the live-in maid, the cleaning service, the yard keepers, etc., so that all a child has to do is exist and s/he is rewarded with $25 a week, or more.

I want a car!Several months ago a Client was complaining about having too much work to do, not having enough month to hire someone to help, not having enough time, etc., etc., etc., ad nauseum. Yet there in her household was her mother and five children. After finding out that her children got $25 a week just for existing, I suggested that she find a way to not only get her children involved but her mom, too. I was pretty sure that the children weren't going to work for $25 a week since they already were getting it free, but I suspected that her children and her mom would work much less expensively than an actual employee. And, if she framed it right by explaining that if they helped her for an extra $25 a week, she would be able to make ever more money, perhaps then providing a raise in their allowances or being able to provide bonuses, or buying more Christmas presents, or, or, or.

Well, I got a phone call yesterday evening telling me that all my suggestions had worked. She also told me that her mom appeared to have perked up quite a lot since she was now involved in helping with the business. In other words, she felt like she was still useful to someone and not a drag on society. Self-worth is very important, especially as we get older.

Need a little help, please.Made me feel real good.

If you're getting squeezed by a lack of time, or too much work, or not enough people helping you, look around you in your own home and in your own family. You just might find what you need.

Getting help doesn't always mean actually hiring someone and paying payroll taxes and doing all that paperwork. Oftentimes it just takes a little creativity, ingenuity, and time on your part, very similar to Guerrilla Marketing. 

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16 Comments on Need a little help?

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Russel, you gave her some really good advice. I never gave an allowance, but I did reward for help around the house. As the kids got older that turned into help around the businesses. Now it's no longer and allowance, now it's turned into steady weekly pay.

When Mike and I are ready to retire, they're that ones who will get the businesses and our job as parents will have gone the full circle. Have I ever told you that you are a wise and clever guy? Well, consider yourself told.

BTW ... I heard you gave Mike some blogging advice the other day ... LOL.
Sue

5:13pm • #1
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Russel, Very good advice. Our boys do chores and behavior plays a large part on whether they are rewarded. Thank you for the great reading!

5:33pm • #2
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First I have to say that I agree completely. Today's children are for the most part spoiled rotten.  They expect the world and expect to do nothing at all to get it.  All of it.

On that note, my children are probably an anomoly in our city (definitely among their friends).  Just as we did growing up, our children have chore charts of daily chores they are responsible to complete.  In addition, the older children are expected to help out with the small ones on occasion, not to mention seasonal help with things like getting the vegetable garden ready for planting, shoveling, etc.

But I completely agree with what you said about having family members help out as your first line of defense when you need help.  Once you outgrow them or if you have tasks that need to be completed that need a more professional or higher skillset, then you most definitely need to go outside the house, possibly looking for a Virtual Assistant before you go all the way to hiring an employee.

~Renae

5:52pm • #3
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Russel - I had to make my own money when I was a kid.  I had some natural art talent, so I would embellish tees with a magic marker and sell them to my friends.  I ended up making a fair amount of money from age nine up.  By the time I had finished college I started my own screenprint company (ST.CROIX SCREENPRINTING, INC.) and owned it for 30 years.  I still supplement my Real Estate income with sales of tees, sweats & hats.  Now I'm selling tees, etc. nationwide to Realtors.  Weird stuff, huh?  Let me know if you have any needs in that department.  I always give my AR buddies great pricing.

6:19pm • #4
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Russel - We don't have a cleaning lady or a landscaper, our entire family chips in and gets the job done.  My 10 year old son mops the floors and empties the dishwasher everyday.  He doesn't get one cent for this work, he gets a Thank You I appreciate your help.

Now do my children have TV's hanging from the wall and $80 shoes?  Yep, they get what they want within reason.  My sons also have a dog walking job, so if they want something I won't purchase they have the option of using their money.

Too many kids are handed everything today.  My children get "handed" things, but they also have daily responsibilities around the house and they never complain.  Making beds, taking out the garbage, raking, pulling weeds, dishes, etc.

6:21pm • #5
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I think your wise old grandmother helped to create a wise grandchild!

7:22pm • #6
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You are so right-- kids need to participate in a productive way -- just existing to play video games and text message and still get an allowance is not right. Our 2 cents.

7:48pm • #7
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Aloha Russel,

I agree, I think it's important for kids to learn the value of their labor and that getting something for nothing may be nice but it happens rarely once they leave home. It all comes down to responsible parenting.

Peace,

8:35pm • #8

Russel if I did ALL of my chores, did well in school, did not miss a day of school no matter what the cause, and didn't present a "holier than thou" attitude that we see so much today, I would get $2 a week.

8:41pm • #9
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I never got an allowance when I was a kid (single Mom with 5 kids and no child support hardly lends itself to allowances).  We were happy to get the big block of generic ice cream to eat after finishing our Saturday chores.  However, I am in a much better position than my mom was.  So, I get help with dishes, lawn care, vacuuming and general cleanup for the bargain basement price of $10/week.  My son is learning how to save up his money for those things he really wants (XBox 360 games, etc).

11:38pm • #10
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Hmmmmm - 10 cents a week? Wednesdays were 'nickle day' in our house.  We each got 5 cents to spend as we liked! Thankfully there was a lot of penny candy at the time! We had chores too. With my kids, my philosophy was - you live here, you help make the household run! We shared household tasks, and they recieved a 'share' of the money in the household. I remember when their share went to $1.00 a week -- couldn't help but look back at nickle day!

11:49pm • #11
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Hi Russel - When I was a kid, I had chores to do and never got an allowance for it.  I just did it because my parents said I had to pitch in as a member of the family.  I never felt put-upon and had a great childhood. 

When I went back to work after a divorce when my own kids were young, I sat them down and explained that WE had a new job, so that WE could earn some money to buy what we needed and wanted.  I told them what my duties were at my job at the Post Office, and I told them what their jobs were, around the house. 

On payday, I showed them the check that WE earned.  They felt very important, and when we ate dinner, they felt they had earned the money that bought that food.  I couldn't give them an allowance, but their increased self-image was worth more to them than a little money in their pockets.  After they grew up they told me how much that had meant to them.

12:27am • #12
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$25 for existing...now I know where all those no money down folks got their "entitlement attitude"..In this house,..just ask Cosmo and Magic...you would never get 25 cents for existing....there are some things you do for your family and others...as part of that relationship and others you get paid to do...paid for existing...not in this lifetime or family.....you really don't always get what you pay for !

7:40am • #13
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Hey, Russel. I have to agree with you on this one. I never received an allowance while growing up, but I certainly pulled my weight at the house. Thanks for sharing, Jim

10:11am • #14
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My kids had to earn their money and they appreciate it now that they are able to actually support themselves.  Giving money to kids without having them earn it is not doing them any favors.  Great advice you gave this woman and how great that the mom is now feeling useful again!

3:52pm • #15
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Hey, Sue - I think that's what children need around the house, responsibility to make themselves feel like they are part of the household, and appropriate pay to teach them financial responsibility. Hope Mike appreciated my blogging advice - LOL.

Hey, Wanda - It's a good thing I didn't get rewarded for my behavior, unless an oleander switch spanking was considered a reward - LOL.

Hey, Renae - Along with Virtual Assistants, the Internet world has opened up a whole new realm of job opportunities.

Hey, Kent - I'll have to keep you in mind for tees.

Hey, Michelle - $80 shoes? I don't have $80 shoes! LOL

Hey, Li - I hope so.

Hey, Bob & Carolin - Worth more than 2¢!

Hey, Kimo - The only time I got something for nothing was when it was illegal. Even then, though, it took a lot of planning time on my part to pull it off - LOL.

Hey, Dan - $2 a week. I'm jealous. I'm going to sue for a retroactive raise!

Hey, Heather - You know that saving money isn't kosher in today's world. You need to get him a credit card so he can learn how to make monthly payments - LOL.

Hey, Alexsandra - Penny candy reminds me of the Ben Franklin Five & Dime in downtown Kingsville, Texas. One of my favorite places to spend my money. Unfortunately, when inflation hit, Ben Franklin had an out-of-date name and went the way of Montgomery Ward and so many others that failed to adapt.

Hey, Susan - I love your WE attitude.

Hey, Sally and David - You mean you make Cosmo and Magic work for their food? Oh, how dastardly cruel - LOL.

Hey, Jim - Good. Finally someone who didn't get an allowance. Now I feel better, more entitled - LOL.

Hey, Sharon - When my Client told me about her mom, I think that made my day more than anything.

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