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Remember this little fellow? You won't believe how things have changed.

By
Real Estate Agent with Kimberly Howell Properties (210) 646-HOME

Angry black cat in a box.

image courtesy of g.originals

The angry cat in a box.

Anyone who's been reading me for sometime, might recall the story of the cat under my deck that I wrote back on December 21, 2008.  The story was a bit of a parable about the cat we find in our backyard and how we were building trust and a relationship.  I never actually compared the cat to real estate in any way (except for a note at the bottom saying I think most people would get exactly what I was getting at).  The cat in the photo above wasn't the cat, but it did a pretty good job of representing the little hissing monster that I wanted to be friends with, but couldn't seem to make a connection with.

The story behind the cat.

That little cat, named Spaghetti Cat by my wife and I, hated me.  He hissed, growled and swatted at me every chance he had.  I kept feeding him though, kept trying, and kept making it know to him that I wanted to be friends.  The obvious parable that I mentioned was that he represented a client - the kind of client that you couldn't seem to nail down, you weren't sure of the future with, but you had that feeling that something would come out of it some day.

Sticking by a cat or a client is a great idea.  Learning what makes them tick, what they like/don't like, and learning to understand them is key to building a relationship.  A relationship is key to the goal at hand.  In the case of the cat, it's having a friendly cat to hang out with.  In the case of the client, it's about finding them a home and delivering on the promise to help them realize their dreams.

Since I wrote the original post, that cat has done everything it could to make me know that it wasn't ready to be "friends" anytime soon.  I have the scratches to prove it.  Both my wife and I have bled for this cat.  We tried our best and even got discouraged at times.  We didn't, however, give up.

Spaghetti Cat getting friendly.

Don't let the photo fool you.

This is Spaghetti Cat.  Photographed over the Labor Day weekend, it may look like he's mad, but he's not.  Instead he was crying for more attention after I had spent 15 minutes rubbing his head and scratching his back.  He's become quite the little lovely cat.  He enjoys rubbing your legs when you stand beside him and often won't eat unless you sit nearby or scratch his back.  He's still no indoor cat, but he is friendly once again.  He still turns occasionally and threatens with a look (and occasionally a raised paw), but he is slowly coming around all the way to domesticated bliss.

This blog is about real estate, isn't it?

Well yes, it is.  And that's where the parable comes in.  This weekend.  I submitted an offer for some clients.  It was accepted.  I have been working with these clients since November 2008.  Almost a year.  We've had our ups and downs and there have been times where I thought they were going to walk away or perhaps that I might as well.  But somewhere, I knew that they were going to buy eventually and I just needed to help guide them along the path and work hard to find that perfect home and get them the best terms on their offer.  It takes investment of time in some clients.  The rewards can be be great though, just like the morning meows that I face everyday now.

Not every client buys in a day or two.  Some take a long time and those are the ones we must stick by and work towards the goals with.  These clients made it much easier than usual, as they were always very upfront with their goal and where we stood in getting there.  It wasn't easy, but a little perseverance got me everywhere.

Next time you have a buyer or seller who's a little skittish or "hides under the deck" when you call, stop and think about my little cat for a moment.  Perhaps they just need some time.  Perhaps they need to build trust in you.  Perhaps they could be the best client you've ever had.  Sometimes you have to put the work in to get the rewards.

Randy Hooker
Dreamcatcher Realty / Greater Phoenix Area - Gilbert, AZ
Gilbert, Chandler, Mesa, Queen Creek

I hear ya, man!  Exercising patience and perseverance can be a tough road to hoe, but often has its reqards.   :)

Sep 08, 2009 07:58 AM
Russell Lewis
Realty Austin, Austin Texas Real Estate - Austin, TX
Broker,CLHMS,GRI

Excellent post and yes sometimes it takes patience! I am not sure I would have been as patient with a bad tempered GATO but who knows...My record is 21 months for a family in my neighborhood that found a wonderful home in a much higher price range and then I sold their home. It was not an every day thing, just once in awhile and when the right home came up they pounced on it! BTW I saw this on TWITTER!

Sep 08, 2009 09:01 AM
Shirley Parks
Sands Realty 210-414-0966 - San Antonio, TX
Broker, 210-414-0966, San Antonio TX Real Estate

Sometimes the people (or cats) who are the most unloveable are the ones who need the most love.  Congratulations on turning the cat and the clients around. :o)

Sep 08, 2009 09:09 AM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
St. George Utah Area Residential Sales Agent

Matt, Some relationships are quick starts and others, like your kitty, take a longer amount of time but once you build that trust, it's well earned and rewarded. Congrats on becoming friends with your Spaghetti Cat!

Sep 08, 2009 09:14 AM
Matt Stigliano
Kimberly Howell Properties (210) 646-HOME - San Antonio, TX

Randy - It also helps to have thick skin - at least when it comes to cat claws!

Russell - He just kind of made himself at home.  In the meantime, we've also picked up another one that is a housecat (that spends time outdoors) and is super friendly.  I think there's a sign over our house that says "All cats welcome."  The client has been great, if they weren't, I might have lost my mind over the time I spent with them!  The good thing was that they told me exactly what to expect from them, which makes it so much easier.  They are a lot of fun too, so that helps.

Shirley - Yeah, the cat was certainly a bit unloveable at times.  There were a few times I wanted to boot him.  The clients were loveable, but I was never sure if we'd ever get there.

Wanda - It's all about relationships and how you work with each one.  These particular clients weren't very interested in all the paperwork, so we took it slow and I had to invest a little bit of faith in them.  Sometimes, you have to go with your gut.

Sep 08, 2009 09:25 AM
Jamie Dumaine-Russell
RE/MAX Alliance - Branford, CT

Matt - What a great analogy.  We have adopted a cat from a friend of my son's who had a difficult time making the adjustment to new owners and environment.  It took him close to 3-4 months before he really began to feel at home.  Now he's a full-fledged member of the family.  Kind of how I feel with my clients too who have needed that little extra hand-holding along the way.

Sep 08, 2009 10:38 AM
Matt Stigliano
Kimberly Howell Properties (210) 646-HOME - San Antonio, TX

Donna - They didn't need hand holding, but they did need care and attention.  Without that, they would have gone away and I'd be left without the pleasure of working with them.

Sep 08, 2009 12:36 PM
Rita Minion
O'Brien Realty - Solomons, MD

Hello Matt,

I really enjoyed your post!  Your "Spaghetti Cat" is beautiful!  I'm glad to see that with patience & kindness, he has learned to trust you.  Same for your clients!  They are now buying a home!  Congratulations!  Thank you for sharing! 

Rita

 

Sep 08, 2009 01:10 PM
Steve Shatsky
Dallas, TX

Hi Matt... Great analogy and great feline fotos.  You wove a great story with a lesson for all of us at its core!

Sep 08, 2009 02:55 PM
Karen Anne Stone
New Home Hunters of Fort Worth and Tarrant County - Fort Worth, TX
Fort Worth Real Estate

Matt:  A great story.  I've been a cat-person for quite awhile... and fully understand what you and wifey have gone through to make nice with this kitty.  And yes, sometimes we do have to go through the same stuff with buyers... and sellers, too... until we can all "make nice."   :)

Sep 08, 2009 04:39 PM
Susie Blackmon
Ocala, FL
Ocala, Horses, Western Wear, Horse Farms, Marketing

Your kitty looks very much the Halloween cat in the top photo. ;-)

Sep 08, 2009 09:43 PM
Missy Caulk
Missy Caulk TEAM - Ann Arbor, MI
Savvy Realtor - Ann Arbor Real Estate

Matt, this is a great analogy on being persistant and how persistence pays off. Many give up too easily. Ahhh so cute...what a name. You built trust along the way with both the cat and the client. Now both of those were really in charge, don't ya think?

Sep 09, 2009 12:14 AM
Claudette Millette
The Buyers' Counsel - Ashland, MA
Buyer, Broker - Metrowest Mass

Matt:

It's a great feeling when a long-time client finally settles into a purchase that you helped them with. I have worked with people who have taken a year to buy.  When it eventually happens, it's so rewarding, and, you have to think about the times when you were ready to give up on them and be glad that you didn't. 

It takes some real insight to recognize that cat's hissing as a sign of affection.  That is a great cat story and fab photos.

Sep 09, 2009 12:59 AM
Russell Lewis
Realty Austin, Austin Texas Real Estate - Austin, TX
Broker,CLHMS,GRI

Matt, if you ever get the chance to make it to Austin, let us know. I have really enjoyed getting to know you, so to speak, here at AR. Just give us a little notice! Keep up the good work!

Sep 09, 2009 01:36 AM
Elizabeth Bolton
RE/MAX Destiny Real Estate Cambridge, MA - Cambridge, MA
Cambridge MA Realtor

Hi Matt ~ And I thought the cat's fur had grown! Glad to hear you're sticking by the kitty through thick and thin - and so nice to hear that she's softened so much. Sweet!

Liz

Sep 09, 2009 02:17 PM
Donne Knudsen
Los Angeles & Ventura Counties in CA - Simi Valley, CA
CalState Realty Services

Matt - What a great story!  As a animal lover (and former kitty mama), I love the part about spaghetti cat.  As for clients, it's true that some need a little more time and attentiib then others.  There's also some truth about them being really great clients though too.

Last year, I had a couple that were so challenging to work with but I hung in there and stuck with them when even when I felt like firing them and we made it to the closing table - relationship intact.  Since closing their escrow they have referred three other people to me.  Go figure!

Sep 11, 2009 03:22 AM