This is a long one.  No worries if you don't want to take the time.  I warn you, this has nothing to do with real estate. 

The prodigal church family.  Yes, that's us.  To say we have drifted from our church would be a gross understatement. It's been years since we've attended a Sunday service and this morning, upon entering the building, I saw more than one person look at me and then look up at the ceiling, as if to see if the sky was falling! It's not that we didn't like the people at our church, they are wonderfully sincere.  We drifted mostly out of sheer laziness, and for me, an overwhelming feeling of doubt about organized religion in general. 

The church we attend is a wonderful small Lutheran church, filled with kind and generous souls.  We were greeted better than the prodigal son, with hugs and laughter and many welcome backs. It was actually kind of wonderful, and it was so genuine.  They seemed so happy to see us. 

We started attending this church when I was expecting my second child, Max.  I was very pregnant, and my older son who had attended nursery school at the church was attending Vacation Bible School.  I had gotten somewhat friendly with the pastor but hadn't seen him since Mike left nursery school.  The entire church had been praying for this pregnancy as they knew that I had had 3 miscarriages.  On family night, I leaned my considerable bulk against Pastor John's office door and coughed.  He looked up, then leaped up to hug me, laughing at the size of me!  Since we didn't attend church anywhere at this point, and I didn't want to travel 45 minutes one way to go to Jack's church, an Armenian Orthodox Church, and Jack was adamant against attending the local Catholic church (long story), I agreed to talk to Pastor John about baptizing the new baby on the condition that Jack agreed to attend church.  I wasn't going to just use the church for a baptism.  After the family show, Pastor John was sitting at a table with me and I asked him if we could talk business for a second.  I asked him if he would consider baptizing our new baby, and he said he would be honored.  We were welcomed into the Christ Memorial Family with open arms, and attended pretty regulary for more than a few years.

Things change.  Pastor John became District President and was off to bigger things.  There was an interim Pastor, then a new Pastor, and Mike made his confirmation.  Summer came, we got to skipping service, and, as these things happen, we drifted away.  The new Pastor (who I had become quite fond of) and I had a misunderstanding of sorts that I won't get into.  He left our church to pastor a church in a different state, and with him, after the misunderstanding, went any inclination that I had to become friendly with another Pastor. My Elder, a wonderful man, never stopped trying.  He kept us in his prayers, he sent me emails, invited us to all of the special things the church planned.  I told him a little bit about the misunderstanding I had and my disappointment and he let me know that while people might disappoint, God never does.  He let us know that the church has another new pastor, a wonderful man with young children and a great wife.  I wasn't ready.

Fast forward some years.  Max is now a 7th grader and it's time to decide if we are going to have him make his confirmation.  I received a letter from the new Pastor inviting Max to attend.  I put it aside to think on it, it's a huge time commitment - two years.  Then my elder emailed me.  He really wanted Max to attend.  I feel that kids need some kind of religious background.  If they then grow up and have their doubts, like me, they can make their own decisions.  I felt strongly that Max should have the opportunity to learn about the church and Jesus, and then go out into the world and do with that knowledge what he would.

On the first night at the introduction to the confirmation classes, our new Pastor, informed the group that if we thought this was something we could do by simply dropping our children off and then leaving, then we should probably leave now.  Well crap!    There I was, sitting in the front row, with an overwhelming desire to cut and run!  I even reached for my purse before I realized that it would be too obvious!  The pastor looked at me, and said "I saw that"!  We laughed.  I was honest with him.  I really had grown out of the desire to attend church.  I wanted to do this for Max.  He asked for a compromise.  He asked me to try baby steps.  He asked me to commit to twice a month services.  I agreed to do my best.  Ever the Realtor, I negotiated with my pastor.  He seems like a sweet, engaging and dedicated servant of the Lord and I really don't want to let him down.  I will try.

Today was the first day, and the best part of the day was that our old pastor, Pastor John, was in town visiting and his sermons are some of the best around.  After the service, I hugged him in the receiving line and said that his sermon was wonderful, as always, and that I got choked up.  He gave me a bear hug and said, "wow, that's a surprise, emotion coming from you"!  Of course, he was being sarcastic.  I'm a known crier.  I cry when I am sad, happy, mad, moved, hurt, you name it 

There you have it.  Back in the fold.  The prodigal family returns. 

 

 
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17 Comments on Back to Church, The Prodigal Church Family

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Susan - I think this is an awesome post, but that probably doesn't surprise you.  :)  As you know, we are in the midst of starting a new church nearby.  For people who knew me in the mid-90's, when our church attendance was......well, erratic, this would come as a surprise.  For those who knew me in the 80's, they wouldn't even believe it.  People change, and so do our priorities.  Kudos to you for returning!

6:36pm • #1
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Good luck, Susan.  You know where religion and I intersect, but I marvel at those who embrace it.  I hope that you find a permanent home this time around.  This was nice to read today.  Thank you for that :)

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Well now!  Comments from two of my all time favorites, right off the bat!

Hi Jason!  I did know about your new church and I wish you all the best.  Max is grousing some about attending classes and church, not being used to attending, but I think he is secretly quite happy about it.  He even went to youth group tonight under the guise of not letting a friend of his go alone!  Thanks Jason!

Hi Paul!  I do know that you and church intersect rather like church and I intersect.  I marvel at the people in my church and their deep level of belief and I think that has always been part of the problem for me.  I feel like I don't belong there with people who seemingly have no doubts.  But you are a thinker, and thinkers will always doubt.  Thanks for reading.  Keep smiling Paul, and hug those beautiful little boys and Brandi.  A day at a time.  xxoo

7:31pm • #3
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Hi Susan...If this is the right time and the right thing for you to do I'm glad you are doing it. 

Organized religiion is a comfort to some.

Kate

7:40pm • #4
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Kate,  I've never felt the need and I really do envy those that feel it.  The folks are so nice there and I think it's a good thing for my son Max.  How are your new babies?

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Susan - If you think that people who are at church have no doubts, then I would suggest digging a little deeper.  :)  It took me a long time to embrace the importance of the church and the fellowship therein, but I'm happy that I did.

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I love this story Susan. I am on the other end of the spectrum seeming to go to church ALL THE TIME (it must be my wayward self I need a lot of help LOL), but my story for another day. I think choice of church, regularly attending or not, is just an evolving process in our lives. I like the history, the negotiation, and the Max prodding part of this story... stay tuned for the next chapter. I can see fireworks as a possibility already. Sometimes at communions, confirmations, weddings and funerals between regular members and even the prodigals there are a lot of awkward moments so don't feel bad. You are quite normal.

10:01pm • #7
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One baby step at a time. Just imagine me cheering you on each Sunday as you decide to take that baby step forward.

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You know Susie- I think God gave us the ability to question, reason and doubt and admit it or not, all of us have.  But on the other side of the coin  I have heard God speak to me and my doubts have been answered.  I started going when Abigail was small... back to the Baptist church were I was raised.  18 years ago I started teaching Sunday School to kindergartners.  Now I can can count the Sundays I have missed on my fingers and toes for 18 years.  And the great thing is, I'm the one who gets the blessing from those beautiful children each week, not the other way round.

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Susan, I applaud you for opening up such personal thoughts to us! I will pray for you that you find that God will always forgive you and church is a way to help you through the trials and tribulations of our grueling life in real estate!

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Jason, In my heart, I know you are right, that all people doubt.  And the fellowship is something that brings great benefit to family life.  I will keep trying. Thank you. 

Gary, not many people say that to me.  That I am quite normal, that is!  thanks!  Very refreshing!  xxoo

Sweet Loreena, thank you!!  xxoo

Tammy, I am sure that you are a blessing to everyone who crosses your path.  I know you are a blessing to me.  xxoo

Caren, thank you, my friend.

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Susan - you and I probably feel the same about organized religion, but congrats on your effort, and I hope that you find this working out. You may end up doing it for more than Max.

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Susan, I know how you feel.
I was born/raised a Roman Catholic, and although I didn't agree with many things the Catholic church taught and didn't agree with many of their 'punishments' or what they make people believe, if you 'sin', it wasn't until a priest refused to baptize my son, that I stopped attending and stopped all contact whatsoever with anything to do with Catholicism.  They were punishing my son, because I wasn't married when I decided I wanted to have a child. 


I have been inside a couple of churches recently, and felt good about it; but then again, I wasn't listening to anyone preach or deliver a sermon.  Had there been anyone else in there, I probably wouldn't have stayed.

Just yesterday someone walked into my house and saw two Buddhas and basically told me off and told me I am 'less than' (anyone who is not a Buddhist - although I don't know why anyone would assume I'm a practicing buddhist, just because there's a Buddha in my house).

I think everyone should be able to practice whatever makes them feel good, as long as they don't shove it down the throats of others who want to follow something else. :)

If this brings you some peace and makes you feel good, you have nothing to lose.
Maybe you want to do this for you, as much as for your son. :)

 

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Susan, I could have written much of Sylvie's comment.  I was brought up catholic and could not believe the way were were treated.  I was allowed by my parents to stop going after I made my confirmation.  Through the years they have had to change because they alienated so many people.  I do like to stop in when it's quiet but don't attend regular services anymore.

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Susan Darlin' this is a great read.  We all have our doubts and questions from time to time.  Heaven knows, I've certainly had mine over the years.  I've been known to sit in the sanctuary and look to Him for answers to questions and I don't think He minds that one little bit.  I can say that no matter where you wander, He is always with you... and that has been the source of more comfort than I can tell you.

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OOOOO, I have been bad at the church thing too.  Been a few years. I got mad at church when I called for a little guidance a few years back and they were no help, felt like they were all about the $$$... BuBYE! 

OHHH, my mom would be so mad.

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Susan...

Good for you. It's nice to have a place for like minded believers to come together for worship!

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