When you let someone else win an argument, often you both end up winners. If one of my children says, "You never spend any time with me," my impulse might be to respond, "But I spend lots of time with you. Don't you remember just yesterday we went out to lunch?" My willing participation in the argument does nothing more than keep it alive by feeding it with attention.
Sometimes a better response is, "You're right. I hope we'll start spending more time together. I love you so much."
from Richard Carlson in Don't Sweat the Small Stuff With Your Family (Hyperion)
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