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Differences Push Our Hot Buttons With Our Comfort Zones

By Gary Woltal

Real Estate Agent with Keller Williams Realty 0575737

September 29, 2009 06:16 AM

Boat So often I hear associates and customers say they can't stand someone, their personality or behavior. Hello? There are six billion plus people out there. The flip side they say is that variety is the spice of life. I think what it really is, is

Differences Push Our Hot Buttons With Our Comfort Zones.

Especially with family and friends we crave that birds of a feather comfort zone.

We want to CHANGE people to be like us. A more healthy approach would be to encourage and inspire others to be their BEST SELVES. We all have gifts, just not the same ones. Enjoy other people for whom they were created to be.

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JL Boney, III

Coldwell Banker - Columbia, SC

Columbia, SC Real Estate

I am fortunate in the way that I learned a long time ago to just accept people for who they are rather than who I thought they should be. This keeps me from getting frustrated with very many people, but once and a while I have to admit that I do.

Sep 29, 2009 07:59 AM

Toula Rosebrock

Diane Turton, Realtors, Forked River, NJ - Lacey Township, NJ

Broker/Sales Associate, Realtor, Lacey Township,

ToulaRosebrock,com

Hi Gary:

Very well said.

Being different is a good thing...we can all learn from that, rather than stay in your comfort zone and learn nothing.

Sep 29, 2009 08:43 AM

William Feela

WHISPERING PINES REALTY - North Branch, MN

Realtor, Whispering Pines Realty 651-674-5999 No.

The flip side of the coin....not everyone likes us either. That is just the nature of it all.

Sep 29, 2009 10:06 AM

Norma Toering Broker for Palos Verdes and Beach Cities

Charlemagne International Properties - Rancho Palos Verdes, CA

Palos Verdes Luxury Homes in L.A.

Most of my friends are not like me at all, and I like it that way --- it makes life more interesting. One of my favorite things about real estate is the wide variety of people we meet.

Sep 29, 2009 11:18 AM

Sharon Paxson

Sharon Paxson, Realtor® EQTY Forbes Global Properties - Newport Beach, CA

Newport Beach Real Estate

Gary - I think variety is the spice of life and what actually makes people interesting is that they are different.

Sep 29, 2009 11:37 AM

Kate Elim

Dockside Realty - Spotsylvania, VA

Realtor 540-226-1964, Selling Homes & Land a

Hi Gary...I'm so grateful that Jim is quite different. If he was like me, I'd never get a word in edgewise. As it is, I do most of the talking and he does most of the "listening" (I think).

Kate

Sep 29, 2009 11:49 AM

Susan Mangigian

RE/MAX Preferred - West Chester, PA

Chester & Delaware County Homes, Delaware and Ches

Hi Gary. Of course everyone can't be like me, then the entire world would be dusty and disorganized! I took a course long ago that got you to try to accept people as they are and most importantly, as they aren't.

Sep 29, 2009 12:05 PM

Cynthia Tilghman, Realtor® Onslow County NC Home Specialist

Kingsbridge Realty, Inc - Hubert, NC

Gary,
We always want others to change --- what about changing our own behaviors?

Sep 29, 2009 01:03 PM

Sharon Richards

Kirsten Realty Tampa Florida - Tampa, FL

Gary - I have friends with different personalities. If someone if different - just don't let them push your buttons - you can choose not to react to them.

Sep 29, 2009 01:21 PM

Rebecca Gaujot, Realtor®

Lewisburg, WV

Lewisburg WV, the go to agent for all real estate

Gary,, oh so true...great post.

Sep 29, 2009 01:23 PM

Hannah Williams

HomeStarr Realty - Philadelphia, PA

Expertise NE Philadelphia & Bucks 215-820-3376

Gary..i like variety in my life ..If we were all the same life would be dull..don't you think so??

HELPFULHANNAH

Sep 29, 2009 02:45 PM

William Johnson

Retired - La Jolla, CA

Retired

Hi Gary, A timely message. I was just thinking about this topic a couple hours ago. And while yes, you are so 100% correct and we all need to accept the differences and ecourage the best in ourselves as well as others. You know there is a but there right, OK then, enough said.

Sep 29, 2009 04:55 PM

Tony & Darcy Cannon

Aubrey and Associates Realty - Layton, UT

The C Team

Gary, great reminder, I find myself being a little to judgemental from time to time about people's differences instead of celebrating them and thinking of how boring it would be if everyone were like me!

Sep 29, 2009 05:12 PM

Dorie Dillard Austin TX

Coldwell Banker Realty ~ 512.750.6899 - Austin, TX

NW Austin ~ Canyon Creek and Spicewood/Balcones

Hi Gary,

Oh your message is so true. The different personalities is what makes for interesting relationships. We all learn from others and if keep an open mind can even learn something!

Sep 30, 2009 12:19 AM

Chris Ann Cleland

Long and Foster Real Estate - Gainesville, VA

Associate Broker, Bristow, VA

Gary: Yes, appreciating our differences can be a very rewarding thing. Sadly, too many in the world are happy to exploit our differences and get that anger bubbling. All you need to do is watch political shows. I really think when it comes to politics, that our two party system is content to get the voters having a mental battle between right and wrong, good and evil, etc. while all the elected officials continue to buddy around and cash in on their political power. We're so busy fighting with each other we don't notice.

Sep 30, 2009 01:49 AM

Donna Yates

BHGRE - Metro Brokers - Blue Ridge, GA

Blue Ridge Mountains

Gary: Differences between most peopel aren't what really hangs me up, but behaviors. I draw the line with some behaviors. But putting that aside, I know I can be judgmental and critical at times but that's just because I am always right!!! LOL

Sep 30, 2009 02:16 AM

Elizabeth Weintraub Sacramento Broker

Elizabeth Anne Weintraub, Broker - Sacramento, CA

Put 40 years of experience to work for you

I think we should all look at the positive sides of people we do not particularly care for. There is always something to like about a person. OK, maybe not Dick Cheney.