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Networking Basics Series: Nobody Wants to Do Business With a Deadbeat Part 2

Boy, if I had a dollar for every time I've heard someone in any area of the real estate industry whine, "Networking just doesn't work."

Here's the question I always ask in response: "Really? Welll, what are YOU bringing to the game?"

I belong to a Friday morning leads group through our Chamber of Commerce. Leads group - so it's one If you're texting, you're not listeningperson per industry. Shouldn't be too tough, then, to get a lead or two every now and again, right? Except for one guy. We'll just call him the Cranky CPA.

Every Friday he'd show up, sit away from everyone in a booth with his buddy, mumble through his 30-second intro, never speak to anyone before or after the event, and spend the whole hour texting. Yes, texting! Whenever I glanced over at him, there he was, texting. He didn't pay attention to the speakers or anything else that was going on.

When his renewal time came up, he emphatically declined. Know what his reason was? "I never get any business."

Seriously? He never got any business? But how could that be? Here's a tip for old CC from the Arizona Lottery: "You've got to be in it to win it."

If you've been in a networking group for a while and you're not getting any business, there could be a few factors at work. It could be that it's just not the right group for you. It could be that you're not doing as good a job as you could at teaching people how to refer business to you. Or ... and this may be a bitter pill to swallow ... it could be that the problem is you.

A Checklist to See How Well You're Doing

  • How often do you come late and leave early?
  • How many people in the core group do you know by name?
  • How many people know your name?
  • How many people's business or industry do you know?
  • How many people know your business or industry?
  • How often have you given a lead to someone else in the group?
  • How often have you talked about anything other than business at a meeting?
  • How often have you invited the members to coffee or lunch?
  • How often have you sent a handwritten thank you or congratulations note?
  • How often have you brought a door prize?

If you're honest, and these answers* aren't where you know they should be, you may have some work to do before you (a) blame the group for not working or (b) quit. 

Networking does work. It's not rocket science, but neither is it a magic potion. It takes time, energy, commitment, enthusiasm, and input. If your networking's been a bit sluggish lately, try a little attitude adjustment and see if things don't begin to look a little sunnier.

* Here's a tip about the answers: the more the better for all but the first one.

Read the other posts in this series:

Part 1 - How Memorable Is Your 30-Second Commercial?

Part 3 - "Anybody Who" Is Never a Good Lead

Part 4 - Do You Need Target Practice?

Part 5 - If You Think You're Too Cool to Learn Anything, You Probably Won't

 

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36 Comments on Networking Basics Series: Nobody Wants to Do Business With a Deadbeat Part 2

SEP
30
2009
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Hi Anna, an excellent article.

John Pusa

7:38pm • #1
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LOL !! We occasionally get this type of deadbeat in our network group ...but they are not around very long :o)


Nice tips for better networking AB !

Cheers :o)

Sheldon

7:49pm • #2
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I completely agree. I see over and over again people complaining that they don't get any business from their leads group and like you, i ask them, "Well how many leads have you given?" Slmost 100% of the time it's zero. These people want everything handed to them and can't fathom why they're not more successful.

As with anything in life, you get what you put into it.

7:58pm • #3
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I wonder why these people would even get out of their warm bed in the morning if they don't want to network with warm leads.

 

8:07pm • #4
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John - thanks glad you like it!

Sheldon (or should a say DUKU) They normally don't stay long and they don't show up often either.

Absolutely Richard - givers gain - takers take.  Seems pretty simple!

8:08pm • #5
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Jenny - no kidding. At 7 in the am it's pretty darn early to be wide awake and networking.  When I first started it took me awhile to 'ready to rock and roll' so darn early.  Now I love it - now that's just sick!

 

I duku'd last time. You promised me Sheldon you would next time - remember?   You Duku or else!!  LOL

8:38pm • #7
OCT
01
2009
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Anna

You make some really interesting points about INTERACTION- many people think just showing up is enough and leds by the banaboat load will be handed over- we all know that unless you're bananas, this is not how things work in general. 

Meeting new people means making the effort as you pointed out.  I thought everyone of your tips were very good.

7:31am • #8
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Anna B - those are good questions whether or not they relate to a business networking group.

8:22am • #9
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Anna - wish I lived by you.....you seem like you'd be tons of fun to hang around with!  Great post....lots to think about! Thanks!

9:28am • #11
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You have to care about the people that you network with and be genuinely interested in their lives. It's more about friendship

9:35am • #12
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Hi Anna - Really a good summary and I enjoyed the post.  Networking is a two way street!

9:54am • #13
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Hi Anna, great blog as usual!  I will have to work on this.  thanks for sharing

9:55am • #14
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Nice post Anna.  Networking is huge but it's more than just showing up at a function.  You have to continually work at it and give people a reason to remember you!   

10:07am • #15
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You either have to be there or not.  But you need to apply yourself to what you are doing.

10:24am • #16
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Anna,

There is no free lunch, or breakfast as it is for networkers.  You have to build those relationships at the meeting and outside of it.  There is no greater hour of my week than the one I spend at my networking meeting.

 

11:23am • #17

I just came back from my first networking breakfast/group as a guest.  It was great and fun.  You have to participate and build those relationships otherwise why would someone want to refer you?? Working by referral is the best way to grow your business and build relationships. Everything that is worth while takes effort and in this business you have to put forth the effort it will not just come to you.  Thanks for the great post.

12:06pm • #18
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Good article Anna. Do you know of any networking groups in the Henderson, Nevada area?

12:58pm • #19
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Allison - you're funny with the banana stuff!  Love it!  Thanks for your feedback, I appreciate it.

Mike - so true.  Applies to life!

Thanks Tina - are you new to the rain?

1:29pm • #20
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Coleen - get that house sold and move on up to Phoenix!  We do have a blast together and we work hard and smart.

Sandy - absolutley care about the folks!  People don't care as much as what you know until they know you care!

Hi Margaret - you got it - it's a two way street with lots of giving going on!

Ginger - thanks for your feedback!  Let me know how it goes for you!  Be sure to have fun with networking! For instance I'm going to sing a song tomorrow (and no my voice isn't that great) But it will wake them up tomorrow!!

Susan - that is such a key.  They must remember you!  Top of the mind awareness - but that's another post!

Gene - yup - show up and participate!

Jon - what a nice way to say tht.  It is a very special hour to me as well.  I love my main group of the chamber!  They're like an extended family to me.

Michelle - good for you!  Did you join?  I bet you have a lot to bring to the party!  Keep in touch with your progress!!

Steve - not off the top of my head but I bet the Chamber of Commerce would be a good first step.  Also - step up to being an Ambassador for the Chamber - that will give you the opportunity to meet a lot of people and get to know them fast - and be of service.

1:38pm • #21
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I call my secretary 'Anna Banana'.  You're right about some people and networking.  Maybe he just didn't want to be there, but was forced into it?  Like being polite & talking intellgently is somehow torture.  7am is torture.  Him texting, being rude, is torture.  Don't let the door hit you in the a ..........

2:31pm • #22
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You are right on, Anna.  It's like the Arizona Lottery slogan says, "You can't win, if you don't play".

2:43pm • #23
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Chamber leads groups bring a lot of small and medium business people together.  It's great to have an opportunity to refer someone to a member of my leads group.  They are definitely like family.  Truly, it is all about reaping what we sew.  Thanks for the blog.

5:29pm • #24
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Hi Lyn - some folk are 'requried' by their bosses and maybe that clouds their persepction. Wasn't the case in this situation as he's the owner.  Who knows!  7 am was torture at first - now I' love it!  You are funny girl!

Pam - you got it.  Gotta play to win!

You bet Ken - you are one of those master networkers and it's so natural for you.  So glad you're finally spending more time on Active Rain. Yeah!

7:17pm • #25
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Anna,

It all boils down to "we manifest what we believe."  If we believe we will not get leads.. guess what.. we won't get them.. So you are right.. adjust what you believe and you will connect..  engage and  GIVE expecting only good for everyone. 

If you don't want to play the game that way.. get out of the game.  Text somewhere else!  Leave that one CPA space for someone who cares..

7:27pm • #26
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Carra - you got it - don't take up the space that somebody who REALLY wants to participate could fill.  That dirves me a little bonkers and it's a pet peave of mine. Move on if you don't really want to be a giver folks!

7:46pm • #27
OCT
02
2009

Anna,

I know people exactly like this; some close to me. They will never learn.

12:37am • #28
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Hey Terry - some folks just don't want to get it and they don't want to change.  Oh well.....................

12:55pm • #29
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I love all of the networking groups that I have ever attended! It is so true that you get out what you put in. Any group that I have attended where a member did not participate or contribute to the group could be voted out. Especially in groups where only one member from each profession could participate. It gives other willing potential referral members an opportunity to join!

Great post, thanks for sharing!

6:05pm • #30
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I met someone at a mixer last week and was suppose to followup. You just reminded me, too.

8:13pm • #31
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Anna, I don't know.  I just don't like the idea of networking groups.  I want to refer people to professionals I really believe it.  I'd feel like I should refer people to the professionals in the group, especially if they referred people to me.  I know that's the point of networking groups.  I clearly wouldn't be a good fit for one.

11:00pm • #32
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Great tip Anna. People need to know you to be able to trust you. Simple, yet, a great reminder for busy people.

11:22pm • #33
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09
2009
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Stephanie - really voted out.  How long did it take to actually vote on someone?  We've got a few that haven't been participating as much as they should so we upped the anti with hopes they'll figure it out fast. If not that I agree, move over and let somebody who wants to participate have the opportunity,

6:45am • #34
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Stephanie - really voted out.  How long did it take to actually vote on someone?  We've got a few that haven't been participating as much as they should so we upped the anti with hopes they'll figure it out fast. If not that I agree, move over and let somebody who wants to participate have the opportunity,

6:45am • #35
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10
2010

Very good post. Interesting and informative.

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