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Do I Really Want to Know?

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Real Estate Agent with Indigo Home Team powered by Compass NC: 277197

… That you spend hours and hours of every day posting and commenting on political and social posts that have no potential for advancing my home buying or selling endeavor?

… That you are sarcastic, contentious, an extremist, a know-it-all or just downright hateful? Because when I read your posts and comments to others on this forum, I am truly appalled.

… That you are not really the professional that you hold yourself up to be? Instead, you spend your day more focused upon shoving your ego into overdrive the moment a new controversy arises?

… That you will treat the potential buyer, seller, agent, or inspector of my property with total disdain and prejudice if she is gay, muslim, a republican, or fat?

The more I think about, the more I DO want to know these things about you. Before it’s too late!

I am your client, your referral source, your colleague and everyone who is looking for a Real Estate Professional. I happened upon your link while searching the internet to learn more about YOU. What I found is that you are simply one among a parade of losers who deplete the productive hours of your day in a worthless discussion about religion, politics and rag magazine banter.

I don’t mind if you engage in a healthy debate now and again, but I plan to run, not walk to the next professional who presents themselves in the manner to which I’d like to be represented. Fortunately, you have plenty of competition. Their quality posts and congenial commentary here have really impressed me.

Think about that when you next log on.

 

Comments(151)

Chrysti Tovani
Nick Sadek Sothebys International Realty - Sacramento, CA
Sacramento Real Estate Agent

I so enjoyed reading your post along with the comments.  I do pay attention to the way people treat others, especially their peers.  If I had a referral, I would not necessarily give it to the "know it all" even if they do know it all.  Attitude matters most to me. 

Oct 14, 2009 01:22 PM
Debe Maxwell, CRS
Savvy + Company (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
The RIGHT CHARLOTTE REALTOR!

Hi Jen!  I've been trying to get over to comment on this post since yesterday!  I TOTALLY agree with you and I have to say, that even though we may enjoy reading them as purely entertainment--they are a reflection of US, of our forum, or their professional peers--ALL of US!  I just read a post the other day that my buddy, Russell in Austin wrote about this same thing.  Basically, a why can't we have healthy debate, rather than nasty rants?! 

I try to stay away from those posts at all costs but, I will, on occasion, give a LOW-key personal opinion if I am ABSOLUTELY passionate about something!  But, it's so low-key, it rarely even receives a return comment from the original author!!  LOL  (Thankfully--I don't think I've ever had anyone here upset with me and I don't ever want to encounter that publically so, I do avoid the controversial posts the majority of the time)!

EXCELLENT and well-written post and SO deserving of the attention that it's received! Congrats on the feature too!

Debe in Charlotte

Oct 14, 2009 07:40 PM
Sandra Cummings
William Raveis Real Estate - Guilford, CT
Real Estate Agent, Guilford Connecticut

My Jen - I remember when this place used to be fun. sigh. Wonderful post and congratulations on the star.

Oct 14, 2009 11:07 PM
Steve, Joel & Steve A. Chain
Chain Real Estate Investments & Mortgage, Steve & Joel Chain - Cottonwood, CA

Jennifer, I like writing that causes readers to think.  Nice job.

Oct 15, 2009 04:46 AM
Jennifer Monroe
Indigo Home Team powered by Compass - Charlotte, NC
Real Estate REALTOR®/Broker/Designer

TO ALL OF THE WONDERFUL COMMENTERS:

I really appreciate the wide array of supportive comments this thread has engendered. I cannot seem to keep up with you all so I wanted to thank everyone for taking the time to think about the ways in which we present ourselves as a profesional community and your insightful comments.

I want to be the first to admit that I do occassionally comment on off-topic posts and have posted many myself. Jason and I have done some pretty crazy things here on AR and we love that most of it has been well tolerated. In no way am I a priss nor do I advocate limiting our exposure here to straight up real estate posts. On the contrary... I feel our clients will bond with us because they can relate to us as people first - quirks and all. I just wanted to remind everyone that the world is watching and bashing is just bad business for all of us.

 

And To YOU at comment #99...

Are you freaking kidding me??? Did you even read my post? I can't imagine anything here on AR that has the capacity to really make me angry. I'm a pretty laid back girl, as anyone who has followed me here for the past couple of years can tell you. In fact, as thoughtless as your comment seems to be, I'm not even mad at you :) So chill, will you??!

Oct 15, 2009 10:41 AM
Patrick Scott
OConnor Title Guaranty, Inc. - Chicago, IL

Jennifer, in your last comment you said "Jason and I have done some pretty crazy things here on AR and we love that most of it has been well tolerated."

A wise person once said, "We only show our ass to the ones we love".  That is generally interpreted to suggest that people will behave badly in front of people whom they are most comfortable with.  But if we were to take it literally, it would mean that Jason loves us all!  Get it?  For those who don't get it, I am referring to a video posted a while back - one that still has me chuckling.

 

Oct 15, 2009 11:58 AM
Jennifer Monroe
Indigo Home Team powered by Compass - Charlotte, NC
Real Estate REALTOR®/Broker/Designer

Patrick... Yes!! How funny that you remember that. Sneak around his comment section on one his posts since then and you'll find that I posted a pic of my ass as well. You can view the entire set if you know where to look! LMAO :))

You may be assured that Jason DOES love you all!!!

Oct 15, 2009 12:08 PM
Mercedes E. Santana
Santana Property Group - New York, NY
Investment Properties

Jennifer,

As a relative newbie to AR your post is timely for me.  Recently I have read some quite disturbing ranting political posts that surprised the hell out of me, since I thought AR was a channel to advance forging new friendships and professional collaborations.  It is fine to go "off topic" but when bloggers get downright nasty,(ugh) who would want to refer a client or business to them?  Thanks for bringing attention to this.

Oct 16, 2009 01:49 AM
Lyn Sims
Schaumburg, IL
Real Estate Broker Retired

Jennifer:  Sorry it came across as 'harsh' to me.  Same way the people you were discussing came across to you.  IMO

Oct 16, 2009 08:03 AM
Jennifer Monroe
Indigo Home Team powered by Compass - Charlotte, NC
Real Estate REALTOR®/Broker/Designer

Mercedes... As a newbie, your instincts are more likely to be similar to someone looking 'in' from the outside. But even after all this time, I still see it in the same unflattering light.Thanks for your comment, and welcome to the rain!

Lyn... The truth often appears that way. If it scrapes something inside of us, then we more than likely see something uncomfortable that mirrors an element within ourselves. IMO. I didn't intend to sound harsh, but I know the outsiders looking in at us certainly see it that way.

Oct 16, 2009 01:30 PM
Charles Stallions Real Estate Services
Charles Stallions Real Estate Services Inc - Gulf Breeze, FL
Buyers Agent 800-309-3414 Pace and Gulf Breeze,Fl.

My customers. at least most think like I think. I say the same things in my newsletters, news articles when asked. I do 77% referrals and I can pick the rest. I have a lot of opposing friends but they know I hate there policies and if the bring it up IT"S ON. At my age I choose to totally be me and people either like it or we don't hang together.

Oct 17, 2009 12:42 AM
Jennifer Monroe
Indigo Home Team powered by Compass - Charlotte, NC
Real Estate REALTOR®/Broker/Designer

Joyce... I'm pretty choosy about whom I work with as well so I appreciate your perspective. More than just being like-minded however, I was trying to speak to the idea that our clients would also like to see us as hard working individuals who spend our time working on finding them a property or selling the property they've listed with us. Not just spending countless hours arguing and berating one another online. You are very fortunate that you have such a strong referral business and I hope that continues to be the core of your success.

Oct 17, 2009 12:49 AM
Mark Velasco
West Shores Realty - Whittier, CA
Top Producing Broker Associate

Stong opinions on this post Jennifer. Thankfully, I have behaved as a professional on all of my online sites.

Oct 18, 2009 05:21 PM
Jennifer Monroe
Indigo Home Team powered by Compass - Charlotte, NC
Real Estate REALTOR®/Broker/Designer

Mark... Well if you think the opinions on THIS post are strong, just wander around the halls of the political groups here in the Rain and you'll really get an eyeful. Remaining professional will certainly pay dividends and I applaud you for your discipline. Thanks for the comment :)

Oct 19, 2009 01:35 AM
Jeff Belonger
Social Media - Infinity Home Mortgage Company, Inc - Cherry Hill, NJ
The FHA Expert - FHA Loans - FHA mortgages - USDA loans - VA Loans

Jennifer.... darn, you finally know me...  ;o)   Seriously, I am sooo late to this party.  Excellent job and I know what prompted this post.  I couldn't agree any more than how you wrote this. Unfortunately, I got semi caught up in that blog, because it just pushed my buttons on how someone thinks.  Yet if you read their posts, over 80% of them were on the political nature. And so many hateful types... so many negative comments.  Overall, your main point about those that just blog and comment, yet you wonder if they work. I have always had those same thoughts...  ;o)  Nice job here and hope all is well...

jeff belonger

Oct 19, 2009 02:40 AM
Jennifer Monroe
Indigo Home Team powered by Compass - Charlotte, NC
Real Estate REALTOR®/Broker/Designer

Ummm Jeff.... I was actually talking about YOU!!! LOL!

Oct 19, 2009 06:42 AM
Jeff Belonger
Social Media - Infinity Home Mortgage Company, Inc - Cherry Hill, NJ
The FHA Expert - FHA Loans - FHA mortgages - USDA loans - VA Loans

cool... at least I was mentioned, good or bad.  ;o)

jeff belonger

Oct 19, 2009 08:15 PM
Neal Bloom
Brokered by eXp Realty LLC - Weston, FL
Realtor CRS-Weston FL Real Estate

Boy...I go away for a while and come back to such excitement...I guess I don't have to ask how you guys are doing...lol

Oct 20, 2009 09:09 AM
Jennifer Monroe
Indigo Home Team powered by Compass - Charlotte, NC
Real Estate REALTOR®/Broker/Designer

Neal... We're doing great and hope the same is true of you as well!

Oct 20, 2009 01:14 PM
Alexsandra Stewart
Remax equity group - Portland, OR
Broker - Portland Oregon Real Estate

Jen -- have been gone awhile myself from AR -- you were on my mind the other day and almost texted you about something, but got distracted!  All that to say, is nice to see a wonderful post by you when I got back on today. As always, great writing and thought provoking. Haven't read much of the types of posts you are talking about -  though  the one thing that sticks in my mind is your comment -- I do want to know who you are, before it's too late.   Me too.  One of the reasons I like AR is that it gives me a chance to know people around the continent - be friends, send referrals, etc.  So I want to know who you are and how you treat people.  Disagree is fine, different views, opinions all okay.  None of us are all alike, and the variety is a gift.  For me the important part is the respect and care for the human under the difference, the disagreement. You know what I mean.

Oct 31, 2009 08:57 AM