It's easy to get negative in today's real estate market. I come across all types of negative Realtors, home owners, home buyers and people who love to complain about the market.
Ever worked with a complainer? Have someone on your team who is always negative, finding an endless stream of critical things to say?
Have you noticed how these people suck the life out of a business and take the fun out of work?
I just read through Jon Gordon’s The No Complaining Rule. The short, 136 page book was easy to read and hit on some of my favorite points about working as a team.
As a rule, I avoid negative people and I work hard to be a solutions-oriented person at work and at home. I gravitate towards enthusiastic and positive people and like most people I avoid negative people like the plague. I believe this is critical in a down real estate market - people are looking for a message of hope and a solution to the crisis. Complaining simply helps no one.
Here are some points I learned from reading this book:
1. Complaining serves little purpose. It sucks the life out of company, is hurtful to those around you and kills both productivity and moral.
2. One negative person can create a miserable office environment for everyone else.
3. Complaining and negativie emotions are associated with:
- decreased life span
- fewer friends
- increased risk of heart attack
- more stress
- less success
The book is worth a read for anyone who works with others or has a family. In other words, it should be manditory reading for anyone in your office or family!
The book focuses on positive thoughts and behavior as the key to eradicating negativity:
- Start with yourself – you might be more of a complainer than you realize. Lead by example!
- Try not to complain. At all.
- If you can’t avoid a complaint or a negative statement, add a ‘but’ to the end and stack on two solutions.
- Start your day with gratitude – be thankful for the things you have. If you are stuck in traffic, be thankful you have a nice car to drive.
- Avoid saying ‘I have to…’ and replace it with “I get to….” Don’t say “I have to work late to finish this job.’ Say, ‘I GET TO finish this job!’
If you’ve read it, let me know by leaving a comment. I’m going to make my kids read it and buy some copies for my office. How about you?
Thomas Scott, Showhomes
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Good post! We all complain on different levels. All the results of complaining you listed are very true and accurate. Someone told me that complaining is a habit that one builds over time. The more you complain, the more you feed the habit of complaining. Breaking a complaining habit will have to be a conscious decision made by the person. If a person wants to stop complaining, then they need to realize that since this habit has been developing over a long period of time, it will take a lot of time and effort to break. It could get frustrating at times, but one shouldn't quit because it is definitely worth the effort! Your whole life changes for the better when you stop complaining and start seeing the good in things vs. the bad.