Today is my birthday and no one I know has even rememberd to wish me Happy Birthday

or anything!

But I'm a "big girl," so I've grown out of getting gifts/cards over the years, but 2 simple words shouldn't matter that much should they?

Then why am I almost in TEARS as I write this??  Not even my husband said anything to me this morning when I woke up for work! We are not at odds or anything like that! We just celebrated our 1yr anniversary this past Sunday and had a WONDERFUL & delightful evening, and were pondering what a celebratory this week was gonna be: anniversary AND my birthday all in the same week!  He even knows because we've been talking about getting the new iPhone and how cool it is that it was being released ON MY BIRTHDAY! We've been seeing the commercials on tv reminding that hey, JUNE 29, the iPhone is out!! That's FRIDAY, my birthday--the big day!!

When he came to pick up my check on my lunch break to deposit in the bank....not a word.  My children were with him and I was just telling them the other day that FRIDAY is the big day (they are 13 & 9).  They greeted me, but no "Happy Birthday Mommie" from them either!

I don't really expect much from other folks on stuff like this, but my own family who I care for an a DAILY basis?? And yet they expect ME to remember EVERYTHING that concerns them and would just FALL APART if I EVER forgot their birthday, Christmas or whatever significant thing in their world!

Now, the rational, "mature," thick-skinned adult in me says, "Hey, let it roll off! No big deal! The greatest gift you could ever recieve is LIFE!  Your Father & Lord remembered you today! You are in good health, and you are blessed by leaps & bounds, regardless of what you may not have or who didn't say what!  BE THANKFUL for the TRUE riches you have in life...the things that REALLY matter!

Love & respect... of your friends & family...hey, just cuz they don't remember your birthday doesn't mean they don't love you, right?! 

Peace of mind & spirit.....you don't have to live in fear or worry about your life; watching your back, wondering if someone is going to attack you for some wrong you've done!

Wisdom/Knowledge.....look at all you've learned over the years ~ the lessons, and obstacles you have overcome!! When you were lost & without guideance, remember how the Lord was Lamp unto your feet & a LIGHT unto your path leading you to exactly where you needed to be!!   How the Lord has kept you in tact & on track!! ---and has revealed so much wisdom to you to be the leader you are to even be ABLE to speak into the lives of others and make life-changing impact on the lives of those around you!

Protection..... from the wicked one & your enimies (motivated by the same).....the potholes and traps that were set that did not entrap me ~ think of all the weapons that formed, but never prosperd! 

Provision....the abundance of resources that the Lord blessed you with in all the times of apparent lack! During your financial famines, the Lord STILL provided you a feast!

 Joy..... in times of sadness & distress; when you should have been broken and depressed ~ you were filled with joy in the very face of it all!!

             These are the TRUE gifts of life that have been given to you CONTINUALLY---not just for a day!

How the Lord celebrates your existance everyday since the day you woke up into conciousness; how you have been His desire and delight to watch grow up in Him!

As I've written this, my tears have dried, because in the writing this, the Spirit has already answered my question of what REALLY matters....

                                      My relationship/life with HIM

!

 

 

26 Comments on Does it REALLY Matter?

JUN
29
2007

and therein lies the blessing that you were intended to receive

happy birthday, Toya!

6:39pm • #1
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Sorry about that. But it is true that it can hurt when people forget especially those around us. Maybe there's a surprise coming later? If not, Happy Birthday!
6:41pm • #2
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Toya, happy birthday.  I hope you have a fabulous year.  My birthday was pretty bad this year, too.  I called a do-over two days later and it worked much better. 
6:48pm • #3
Happy Birthday Toya!
6:48pm • #4
HAPPY BIRTHDAY TOYA!!  From  Darlene Wurth with Exit Realty Showcase  Rome, GA  
6:54pm • #5

Happy Birthday Toya! From the HomeIndustry.com.  Hope your day goes well.  Take care.

HI

6:59pm • #6
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Happy Birthday Toya! Maybe they will surprise you, it is still early!

This reminds when I was first marrried, 8 days after our wedding day was my birthday - my new husband forgot. He hasn't fogotten since:)

7:18pm • #7

Thanks everybody!

Jordan: I agree totally!

MLM: I doubt it. My husband is not the "surprise"- giving, organizing-events type. That's my dept. If I didn't do these things, my family wouldn't ever get out and do ANYTHING! But thanks. 

Sarah: Part of me (a very large part) wants to throw a fit and give "nobody appreciates me" speeches at everyone, but then, the sentiments will not be sincere next time around--only a precautionary measure so that Toya doesn't "go off" on an emotinal tangent like she did last year! I'll take genuine sincerity over charity ANY DAY!  But we'll see if I'm really over it when their birthdays come around! (**winks**) LOL!

Paul/Darlene/HI.com: Thanks alot. a little bit goes a long way!

 

7:25pm • #9
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 Toya, just sending you birthday balloons, I hope you like them.
7:29pm • #10
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HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!

I hate having my bday in the summer because people ALWAYS forget.  This year, I sent out an email to everyone on Monday letting them know that I was finding out the sex of my baby on my BDAY and I reminded them what day that was (July 11).  We'll see how many people call/email to ask about the baby, and/or wish me a happy bday. Nice experiment...

7:43pm • #11

Pretend I'm  singing...(be happy you can't really hear me)

     Happy Birthday to you,

     Happy Birthday to you,

     Happy Birthday dear Toya,

     Happy Birthday to you.     

                         

                                 

Betty

8:27pm • #12
JUN
30
2007
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Tomorrow when you wake up announce that you are going shopping:  "Since no-one remembered, I'm going to buy myself a birthday present".
12:51am • #13
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                                                Happy Birthday Toya. 

                        Forgive the kids, smack your husband in the head.  

 

 

 

 

 

 

3:32am • #15
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Toya --   Wishing you a Belated but Very Happy Birthday!!!

 

                                                                            

10:11am • #16
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Toya,  Happy Belated Birthday -- have a gift for you...see below...

Enjoy this. . .click here -- 

10:28am • #17
JUL
02
2007
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Toya,

Happy Birthday!!! Don't feel too badly. Everyone gets caught up in their own lives and sometimes don't realize how important peoples birthdays are to the people they most love! My birthday is right after Xmas. Do you think people forget? Of course they do, especially at that time of year.

Heres a little gift for you, and hope you are cheered up by now.

11:41am • #18

Wow! I am absolutely OVERWHELMED! 

The Blessing of God BE upon each and everyone of you who took the time out of your valued schedule to read this post.  It has nothing to do with real estate or anything, yet you opened your heart for a few moments to cheer me up. 

No wonder God Loves YOU!

2:21pm • #19
JUL
12
2007

Never too late to say it....HAPPY BELATED BIRTHDAY!

and I know exactly how you felt. That happened to me two years ago and I felt horrible. But it's never to late to say it again...HAPPY BELATED BIRTHDAY! God bless you!

4:28pm • #20
JUL
23
2007
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I once made the mistake of telling my husband that I didn't want to do anything for my birthday, and he took me at my word! Silly me! At midnight I finally broke into tears and told him that I couldn't believe that he didn't even buy me a card. The next day, he went to a jewelry store at 6 am, and waited for them to open!!! LOL. Happy belated birthday, next year will be even better!
12:09pm • #21

I MUST UPDATE THIS:

They pulled a good one on me!  It just goes to show how you can really influence loved ones without even knowing that u did!

I called a friend and she said her and her husband will celebrate with me.  My family is usually at home waiting for me to return and when I got home I found them absent. This made my pain sink even deeper!  As I was sniffling on my way out the door to my friends' house, my husband and children are walking up with bags and a larger than life size birthday cake!!!

I was FLOORED!  They yelled surpise and laughed their little narrow butts off pointing at me cuz they KNEW they got me good!

I felt soooo DOOFUS!!  All that emotion, and drama and they were surprising me the WHOLE TIME!!! My hubby was all clean shaven and freshly dressed and ready to take me out a movie for my birthday.  We had a great time!  When we came home, they sang happy b-day, cut the cake and called it a day!  WHAT A BLESSING!

 

I'm still glad it happend the way it did, because it caused me to examine myself.  I think I matured to a degree through all this, and at the same time God showed me that no matter how old I get....I'm still a child in HIS eyes!

Although it was cold how He did it, I got the point and He showed me what REALLY matters the most...His Love for me!  

 

Thank you LUISA for the cake!  Thank you show caring enough to comment!   

6:13pm • #22
JUL
26
2007
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I'm so glad they surprised you.  Happy VERY belated birthday.
6:36pm • #23
JUL
27
2007
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Toya,

thanks for the post. My birthday is Saturday and I find over the years that fewer people remember and fail to send best wishes. While I am aware of what really matters, I also know the joy of being remembered by your fellow man. For this reason, I make the effort to acknowledge the birthdays of family, friends and colleagues. Its a good thing!

 

Happy Birthday

5:03am • #24
JUL
30
2007
4 Featured Posts

Toya

I'm so glad you wrote that your family really did remember your birthday.  Our birthdays are important to us because that is the day God put us here.  It is a celebration of His faith in us. 

HAPPY BIRTHDAY!

 Birthday Banner  Happy Birthday 





11:54pm • #25
AUG
01
2007

Awww Roberta!  Thank yoooou!! I like the way you put it:

 "Our birthdays are important to us because that is the day God put us here"

I know this, but never thought about it that way WHY we see it as so important!

How did you know chocolate cupcackes were my favorite??!  I bet that's buttercream icing too!!! :)

Thanks!

7:20pm • #26

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