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Does it REALLY Matter?

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Real Estate Agent with Exit Realty Results

Today is my birthday and no one I know has even rememberd to wish me Happy Birthday

or anything!

But I'm a "big girl," so I've grown out of getting gifts/cards over the years, but 2 simple words shouldn't matter that much should they?

Then why am I almost in TEARS as I write this??  Not even my husband said anything to me this morning when I woke up for work! We are not at odds or anything like that! We just celebrated our 1yr anniversary this past Sunday and had a WONDERFUL & delightful evening, and were pondering what a celebratory this week was gonna be: anniversary AND my birthday all in the same week!  He even knows because we've been talking about getting the new iPhone and how cool it is that it was being released ON MY BIRTHDAY! We've been seeing the commercials on tv reminding that hey, JUNE 29, the iPhone is out!! That's FRIDAY, my birthday--the big day!!

When he came to pick up my check on my lunch break to deposit in the bank....not a word.  My children were with him and I was just telling them the other day that FRIDAY is the big day (they are 13 & 9).  They greeted me, but no "Happy Birthday Mommie" from them either!

I don't really expect much from other folks on stuff like this, but my own family who I care for an a DAILY basis?? And yet they expect ME to remember EVERYTHING that concerns them and would just FALL APART if I EVER forgot their birthday, Christmas or whatever significant thing in their world!

Now, the rational, "mature," thick-skinned adult in me says, "Hey, let it roll off! No big deal! The greatest gift you could ever recieve is LIFE!  Your Father & Lord remembered you today! You are in good health, and you are blessed by leaps & bounds, regardless of what you may not have or who didn't say what!  BE THANKFUL for the TRUE riches you have in life...the things that REALLY matter!

Love & respect... of your friends & family...hey, just cuz they don't remember your birthday doesn't mean they don't love you, right?! 

Peace of mind & spirit.....you don't have to live in fear or worry about your life; watching your back, wondering if someone is going to attack you for some wrong you've done!

Wisdom/Knowledge.....look at all you've learned over the years ~ the lessons, and obstacles you have overcome!! When you were lost & without guideance, remember how the Lord was Lamp unto your feet & a LIGHT unto your path leading you to exactly where you needed to be!!   How the Lord has kept you in tact & on track!! ---and has revealed so much wisdom to you to be the leader you are to even be ABLE to speak into the lives of others and make life-changing impact on the lives of those around you!

Protection..... from the wicked one & your enimies (motivated by the same).....the potholes and traps that were set that did not entrap me ~ think of all the weapons that formed, but never prosperd! 

Provision....the abundance of resources that the Lord blessed you with in all the times of apparent lack! During your financial famines, the Lord STILL provided you a feast!

 Joy..... in times of sadness & distress; when you should have been broken and depressed ~ you were filled with joy in the very face of it all!!

             These are the TRUE gifts of life that have been given to you CONTINUALLY---not just for a day!

How the Lord celebrates your existance everyday since the day you woke up into conciousness; how you have been His desire and delight to watch grow up in Him!

As I've written this, my tears have dried, because in the writing this, the Spirit has already answered my question of what REALLY matters....

                                      My relationship/life with HIM

!

 

Paula Henry
Home to Indy Team @ HomeSmart Realty Group - Avon, IN
Realtor - Indianapolis Real Estate - 317-605-4174

Happy Birthday Toya! Maybe they will surprise you, it is still early!

This reminds when I was first marrried, 8 days after our wedding day was my birthday - my new husband forgot. He hasn't fogotten since:)

Jun 29, 2007 12:18 PM
Suzanne Sands
Pavao Real Estate - Somerset, MA
Somerset MA Real Estate
Happy Birthday Toya! :)
Jun 29, 2007 12:24 PM
Toya Condelee
Exit Realty Results - Carson, CA

Thanks everybody!

Jordan: I agree totally!

MLM: I doubt it. My husband is not the "surprise"- giving, organizing-events type. That's my dept. If I didn't do these things, my family wouldn't ever get out and do ANYTHING! But thanks. 

Sarah: Part of me (a very large part) wants to throw a fit and give "nobody appreciates me" speeches at everyone, but then, the sentiments will not be sincere next time around--only a precautionary measure so that Toya doesn't "go off" on an emotinal tangent like she did last year! I'll take genuine sincerity over charity ANY DAY!  But we'll see if I'm really over it when their birthdays come around! (**winks**) LOL!

Paul/Darlene/HI.com: Thanks alot. a little bit goes a long way!

 

Jun 29, 2007 12:25 PM
Jeannette Neerpat
CondoDomain.com - Coral Springs, FL
e-Pro Coral Springs/Parkland Real Estate
 Toya, just sending you birthday balloons, I hope you like them.
Jun 29, 2007 12:29 PM
Donna Harris
Donna Homes, powered by JPAR - TexasRealEstateMediationServices.com - Austin, TX
Realtor,Mediator,Ombudsman,Property Tax Arbitrator

HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!

I hate having my bday in the summer because people ALWAYS forget.  This year, I sent out an email to everyone on Monday letting them know that I was finding out the sex of my baby on my BDAY and I reminded them what day that was (July 11).  We'll see how many people call/email to ask about the baby, and/or wish me a happy bday. Nice experiment...

Jun 29, 2007 12:43 PM
Betty Haney
Haney Consulting - Calgary, AB

Pretend I'm  singing...(be happy you can't really hear me)

     Happy Birthday to you,

     Happy Birthday to you,

     Happy Birthday dear Toya,

     Happy Birthday to you.     

                         

                                 

Betty

Jun 29, 2007 01:27 PM
Carol Williams
Although I'm retired, I love sharing my knowledge and learning from other real estate industry professionals. - Wenatchee, WA
Retired Agent / Broker / Prop. Mgr, Wenatchee, WA
Tomorrow when you wake up announce that you are going shopping:  "Since no-one remembered, I'm going to buy myself a birthday present".
Jun 29, 2007 05:51 PM
Yolanda Hoversten
Self Employed - O'Fallon, IL
Referrals for O’Fallon, IL & the Metro East

I like Carol's way of celebrating.

 

Jun 29, 2007 06:02 PM
Laurie Manny
Long Beach CA Real Estate - Long Beach, CA

 

                                                Happy Birthday Toya. 

                        Forgive the kids, smack your husband in the head.  

 

 

 

 

 

 

Jun 29, 2007 08:32 PM
Judi Morgan
RETIRED - San Antonio, TX
San Antonio, TX Real Estate

Toya --   Wishing you a Belated but Very Happy Birthday!!!

 

                                                                            

Jun 30, 2007 03:11 AM
Judi Morgan
RETIRED - San Antonio, TX
San Antonio, TX Real Estate

Toya,  Happy Belated Birthday -- have a gift for you...see below...

Enjoy this. . .click here -- 

Jun 30, 2007 03:28 AM
Karen Hurst
RICOASTALLIVING.COM - Warwick, RI
Rhode Island Waterfront!

Toya,

Happy Birthday!!! Don't feel too badly. Everyone gets caught up in their own lives and sometimes don't realize how important peoples birthdays are to the people they most love! My birthday is right after Xmas. Do you think people forget? Of course they do, especially at that time of year.

Heres a little gift for you, and hope you are cheered up by now.

Jul 02, 2007 04:41 AM
Toya Condelee
Exit Realty Results - Carson, CA

Wow! I am absolutely OVERWHELMED! 

The Blessing of God BE upon each and everyone of you who took the time out of your valued schedule to read this post.  It has nothing to do with real estate or anything, yet you opened your heart for a few moments to cheer me up. 

No wonder God Loves YOU!

Jul 02, 2007 07:21 AM
Luisa , Orellana
Greater LA Escrow - Los Angeles, CA
Greater LA Escrow

Never too late to say it....HAPPY BELATED BIRTHDAY!

and I know exactly how you felt. That happened to me two years ago and I felt horrible. But it's never to late to say it again...HAPPY BELATED BIRTHDAY! God bless you!

Jul 12, 2007 09:28 AM
Portland Oregon Real Estate | Alecia Barnes - Broker
Portland, OR
I once made the mistake of telling my husband that I didn't want to do anything for my birthday, and he took me at my word! Silly me! At midnight I finally broke into tears and told him that I couldn't believe that he didn't even buy me a card. The next day, he went to a jewelry store at 6 am, and waited for them to open!!! LOL. Happy belated birthday, next year will be even better!
Jul 23, 2007 05:09 AM
Toya Condelee
Exit Realty Results - Carson, CA

I MUST UPDATE THIS:

They pulled a good one on me!  It just goes to show how you can really influence loved ones without even knowing that u did!

I called a friend and she said her and her husband will celebrate with me.  My family is usually at home waiting for me to return and when I got home I found them absent. This made my pain sink even deeper!  As I was sniffling on my way out the door to my friends' house, my husband and children are walking up with bags and a larger than life size birthday cake!!!

I was FLOORED!  They yelled surpise and laughed their little narrow butts off pointing at me cuz they KNEW they got me good!

I felt soooo DOOFUS!!  All that emotion, and drama and they were surprising me the WHOLE TIME!!! My hubby was all clean shaven and freshly dressed and ready to take me out a movie for my birthday.  We had a great time!  When we came home, they sang happy b-day, cut the cake and called it a day!  WHAT A BLESSING!

 

I'm still glad it happend the way it did, because it caused me to examine myself.  I think I matured to a degree through all this, and at the same time God showed me that no matter how old I get....I'm still a child in HIS eyes!

Although it was cold how He did it, I got the point and He showed me what REALLY matters the most...His Love for me!  

 

Thank you LUISA for the cake!  Thank you show caring enough to comment!   

Jul 23, 2007 11:13 AM
Robin Willis
eXp Realty - Tucson, AZ
CDPE, SRES, Associate Broker
I'm so glad they surprised you.  Happy VERY belated birthday.
Jul 26, 2007 11:36 AM
William Collins
ERA Queen City Realty - Scotch Plains, NJ
Property and Asset Management

Toya,

thanks for the post. My birthday is Saturday and I find over the years that fewer people remember and fail to send best wishes. While I am aware of what really matters, I also know the joy of being remembered by your fellow man. For this reason, I make the effort to acknowledge the birthdays of family, friends and colleagues. Its a good thing!

 

Happy Birthday

Jul 26, 2007 10:03 PM
Roberta Lee
Century 21 Olde Tyme - Norco, CA
Norco Corona Riversid Homes For Sale

Toya

I'm so glad you wrote that your family really did remember your birthday.  Our birthdays are important to us because that is the day God put us here.  It is a celebration of His faith in us. 

HAPPY BIRTHDAY!

 Birthday Banner  Happy Birthday 





Jul 30, 2007 04:54 PM
Toya Condelee
Exit Realty Results - Carson, CA

Awww Roberta!  Thank yoooou!! I like the way you put it:

 "Our birthdays are important to us because that is the day God put us here"

I know this, but never thought about it that way WHY we see it as so important!

How did you know chocolate cupcackes were my favorite??!  I bet that's buttercream icing too!!! :)

Thanks!

Aug 01, 2007 12:20 PM