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Me & My Life - One Year Later…

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Services for Real Estate Pros with Agent Assistant Network

OK, so it's really been one year and 44 days.  But who's counting, right?

In my last post "Where's Tracie been lately?", dated 10/13/08, I shared a few of the new and exciting things that had taken me away from Active Rain for about a month.  I also shared some thoughts on where my VA business might be going.

WOW...how things have changed....

Sadly, this most recent and lengthy departure from business and AR wasn't for good reasons.  A few years ago, my younger sister began a serious struggle with depression which continued to get worse over time.  The last year and half were the worst (and it came on so quickly), with my parents having to help her financially as well as emotionally.   

My parents and I all began to assist in raising my niece.  So in turn, my husband and I started helping my parents more emotionally, as well as financially from time to time.  Having experienced my own battles with depression in the past, it was a no brainer for me...family first in this case.

The past couple of years have been a bit of a blur at times.  I took a day job for a steady paycheck.  I started going home to Alabama every couple months or so.  I became even more active in depression/mental health awareness and education.  I wound down my VA business, finally even letting my dear friend and mentor Claudia Wicks go as my last client.  All so that I could have every available moment and cent to focus on pulling my sister and my family through. 

(Yep, believe it or not, a day job was easier during this past year.  Plus, I decided I'd rather let my clients work with another VA than run the risk of ever letting them down.)   

On March 14, 2009 we lost my sister Lesley Kay Mason to suicide.  She is desperately missed by my Mom & Dad, by my husband & me, by countless friends and family members.  She is missed most of all by her daughter Brelin and VIP Shea.

 

Over the past year, I've learned a lot about myself and what kind of life I want.  For now, I've kept my day job, and I still fly home to Bama as often as I can.  But now I fly home for want and not need.  While the steady paycheck has been a nice change, the work leaves me a little unfulfilled.  Plus, I really, REALLY miss having my own business.

So here I go...starting over again with my business and a new page in my life.  But it sure beats the alternative!

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~THW
Tracie Mason Holton
Coach, VA, & Happy Wife

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Tracie Mason Holton is a coach, trainer, writer and part-time VA.  She is "The Happy Wife (THW)."

Copyright© 2009 By Tracie Mason Holton, All Rights Reserved.  You may re-blog with links back to this post.

Scott Taylor
Realty Center - Orlando - Ocoee - Orlando, FL
REALTOR

So so sorry about your sister. My sister committed suicide about 9 years ago. She left her 5 year old son behind. Her suicide put me in a state of shock, it didn't feel real. There was nothing anyone can say that will make it better. I was not mad, I was sorry. Now that some time has passed I am angry that she left us all to deal with this. We adopted her son and he's turned out so normal, what a miracle.

Nov 27, 2009 11:24 AM
Mara Hawks
First Realty Auburn - Auburn, AL
Inactive-2012 REALTOR - Homes for Sale Auburn Real Estate, AL

Hi Tracie...I'm so very sorry about your younger sister. And I'm glad to read your story of immense courage, focus and strength. Keep reaching for the stars...you are such a bright one. Biggest blessings to you this Thanksgiving week, and welcome back to AR. Thank you for sharing your story.

Nov 27, 2009 11:26 AM
Tracie Mason
Agent Assistant Network - Seattle, WA
Holton, Coach & Virtual Assistant

Scott~ Thank you for sharing your survivor story.  I'm glad to hear your nephew/son is doing well.  Shock certainly does describe it.  We are all still working thru the emotions.  More importantly, we are all working together to give Brelin the most normal life she can have; my parents and Brett & I are still trying to figure that out.  

Mara~ Thank you for the kind words.  Sometimes I wonder if I share too much on this personal matter.  But then I think no; on such delicate and often misunderstood topics as depression and suicide, sharing is the right thing to do.  It both helps us heal and it might save someone else.

Nov 28, 2009 08:02 AM
Elizabeth Bolton
RE/MAX Destiny Real Estate Cambridge, MA - Cambridge, MA
Cambridge MA Realtor

Hi Tracie ~ I am so sorry to hear about your sister and her struggles.  You're so right - sharing your story is a gift - I've always been stunned at how people - even well educated people - know so little about mental illness.  It's a subject close to my heart as mental illness has affected several generations of my family.  The more we talk about it the better.

Liz

Dec 16, 2009 12:35 PM