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Would you call this catnapping? I am feeling guilty.....Help me please....

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Real Estate Agent with RE/MAX Advantage

My cat, made famous by a blog that included Raven and Nutsy, has disappeared.

My cat, who just came up to our house and made her home on our back porch 7 years ago, has gone.

My cat either found a better place to live and ran away or she has been done in by something larger than she was.  We miss her.  My husband even admits that he misses her.  In fact, he was the one who told me to come see what was on our porch that day 7 years ago.  A cat and two kittens!!  He said, "If you give them some milk, they'll stay."

He swears that he said, "!!$$##&&%!! Don't you give them any milk or they'll stay!"  But that is just the red-neck-expected response.  He is really pretty gentle.  Once we got rid of the two kittens which quickly turned into 7 kittens, we had the cat spayed and the job became easier.

Back to my guilt feeling.  We were eating dinner a few nights ago and a big gray cat came right up to our door and started begging.  He was looking right at me and saying, "I'm hungry!  I'm friendly!  I understand you may have a vacancy on this back porch."  Hubby made that same remark again, "If you feed him, he'll stay. "

With his urging, I fed him.  He was back the next morning begging again.  He was back that night at 6:00 begging again.  Morning and night for several days he has come begging.  We had left-over cat food from the lost cat so why not feed this cat?  He eats like he's starving.

But is he?  Here's the thing I'm worried about.  Are we guilty of attempted alienation of affection?  Are we trying to steal someone's pet?  Are we too quick to think that we have been handed another cat just like the one that disappeared.  What do you think?  Should we shun this cat?  Shoo him away? 

Here's his picture.   This was made tonight after he'd stuffed his belly and was getting a little groggy and sleepy.  He's a little cross-eyed too.           Catnapped cat?

Steve Shatsky
Dallas, TX

Hi Barbara... perhaps word has spread throughout the neighborhood cat community that you are a "soft touch" for a free meal!  I like the idea of putting up some posters in the neighborhood with this kitty's pic on them.  Besides, maybe his owner needs to buy or sell a house and is looking for an agent who is a cat lover! 

Nov 27, 2009 02:19 PM
James Quarello
JRV Home Inspection Services, LLC - Wallingford, CT
Connecticut Home Inspector

He's a handsome cat and a little funny looking with thoses eyes. If he's no ones pet I say adopt him.

Nov 27, 2009 10:42 PM
Barbara S. Duncan
RE/MAX Advantage - Searcy, AR
GRI, e-PRO, Executive Broker, Searcy AR

Steve, I didn't put the cat inside.  I just fed him a little on the porch.  I'm sure he knows the way home and I think you are right.  All cats, possums, skunks, deer, etc., check our house for freebies.

James, we'll see what happens.  He didn't like what we fed him this morning and left quickly.  He'll be back tonight, I'm sure.

Nov 27, 2009 11:58 PM
Steven L. Smith
King of the House Home Inspection, Inc. - Bellingham, WA
Bellingham WA Home Inspector

Godmother,

I have adopted cats before and supported them, with the bosses help, on my certifried assistant's income. We call them the boys, but now there are three.

If he has no collar with ID, and nobody is hunting him, then I judge him as legally yours.

Nutsy

Nov 28, 2009 06:33 AM
Zane Coffin
Century-21 Homestar - Geneva, OH
(Geneva Ohio Real Estate Agent)

Barbara we have the same problem around here cats coming and going all the time....we even had a new cat show up out at the farm he/she showed up a couple weeks ago ....Becky gave he/she some food now my dad feeds it every day and when we go out there he/she is happy to see me....funny I really don't care for cats but he/she is pretty cool.....peace zane

Nov 28, 2009 06:41 AM
Barbara S. Duncan
RE/MAX Advantage - Searcy, AR
GRI, e-PRO, Executive Broker, Searcy AR

Judge Nutsy, you are so fair!  You just bang that gavel down and say, "Done!  Decided!"  Excellent advice, I must say!!

Zane, it's amazing how many of you guys, including my husband, profess to not like cats when you really can become attached to them.  I think cats are too much like girls for you guys.  You can't always read their minds and they are not always obedient!  LOL

Nov 28, 2009 06:57 AM
Anonymous
Anita Fuller

I don't think you're giving enough time to your former cat, who may or may not have disappeared for good.  You need to give her more "mourning time"....After all you had her for 7 years, she MUST mean something to y'all.   I'm predicting she'll show up one day.

Anita Fuller

Nov 28, 2009 08:20 AM
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Steven L. Smith
King of the House Home Inspection, Inc. - Bellingham, WA
Bellingham WA Home Inspector

Dear Godmother,

You should not reject this cat simply because the other one is gone. If she comes back, then you will have two, like the boys who work for the firm. I am their direct supervisor and they are excellent employees.

Nutsy

 

Nov 28, 2009 08:34 AM
Barbara S. Duncan
RE/MAX Advantage - Searcy, AR
GRI, e-PRO, Executive Broker, Searcy AR

Anita, cats do have nine lives, so they say.  They also say that cats go off, away from home, to die. 

Nutsy, two cats?  That might be a lot of food to buy! 

Nov 28, 2009 11:10 AM
Mary Douglas
United Country Ponderosa Realty, Red Feather Lakes, Colorado - Red Feather Lakes, CO
REALTOR, Red Feather Lakes, Colorado

Hi Barbara, I'm sorry to hear that your other cat is missing but I don't think you are a catnapper!  I couldn't turn away a hungry animal, and if he knows his way home he'll probably go back.  I like Paula's idea of a few signs, maybe you have a better brand of cat food and his owner is missing him :-)

Nov 28, 2009 11:13 AM
Robert Vegas Bob Swetz
Las Vegas, NV

Barbara - This is very strange and I hope you have found him by the time you get my comment!

VB ;o)

Nov 28, 2009 01:41 PM
Bonnie Vaughan
Scranton, PA
CNE SFR - Buyers/Sellers - Lackawanna & Surroundin

Barbara,  Feed him. If he was being fed at home he would not come to your door.  You are not alienating the affection of someone else's cat.  Cats are not piggy.  They only eat when the are hungry. 

I had a brother and sister stray plus the mother who lived around my house for years.  They would roam the neighborhood and come to my house at least once a day. During the winter I would turn a heater on in my garage shop and leave the door on a crack so they could get in when it was really cold. I finally took them in and had them spayed an neutered.  The mommy cat was just having kittens every 6  months.

The mother cat I kept in the house and let the brother and sister out once they were healed.  For a year everything went on as usual with both of them showing up at the door.  The day after Halloween only the male came around.  I never saw the female again.  A few days later I was so disturbed about it - I brought the male into the house.

Nov 28, 2009 10:45 PM
Barbara S. Duncan
RE/MAX Advantage - Searcy, AR
GRI, e-PRO, Executive Broker, Searcy AR

Mary, I think the cat is playing several people.  He appeared this morning.  I fed him.  He barely tasted it (guess he didn't like it) and off he went.  He has a lot of energy.

Robert, thanks!

Bonnie, that's a lovely cat story.  You are a cat-softie I can tell.  Sorta like my daughter who claims any cat that appears in her yard.  Isn't it amazing that a cat can have kittens every 6 months!  I guess that is why the story circulates that the old tom cats kill the young kittens when they are all out in the wild.  Otherwise the world would be overrun with cats. 

Nov 28, 2009 11:32 PM
Trey Thurmond
BCR Realtors - College Station, TX
College Station , Texas Homes

He looks just like Morris Gene our big ol feral tom cat! Grey coat and yellow eyes.  Hard to say no isn't it? :)

Nov 29, 2009 12:06 AM
Anonymous
Anita Fuller

My "mail person" (the lady who delivers our mail, in a car) is periodically knocking at my door asking if I would take a cat she has found as she goes around this rural area delivering the mail.  They are mostly ferel cats, but she catches them and tries to find them good homes.  Most of the time she just takes them back to her house...I would LOVE to take one but my husband and son are allergic to cats.  My daughter, In Kansas City, at one time had 16 cats.

Anita Fuller

Nov 29, 2009 01:31 AM
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Barbara S. Duncan
RE/MAX Advantage - Searcy, AR
GRI, e-PRO, Executive Broker, Searcy AR

Anita, your daughter at 16 cats beats our 8 at one time.  Remember the cat came with two kittens and promptly had 5 more.  That cat was on our back porch with those kittens and male cats circled all the time.  I saw one male cat rape her.  The beast!  Then she had the 5 others.  Your mail lady has to have talent to catch a feral cat.  I guess she uses traps.

Nov 29, 2009 02:15 AM
Steven L. Smith
King of the House Home Inspection, Inc. - Bellingham, WA
Bellingham WA Home Inspector

Barbara,

My back yard is full of feral cats. We have had all neutured, like several, but there is one mama kitty who we cannot catch. The boys as we call them are all from her. We now have three boys. They are the nicest cats but they are cats and claw things.

Dec 01, 2009 03:18 PM
Ruth Vogt
Fairway Independent Mortgage, LLS. Equal Housing Opportunity. Regulated by the Division of Real Estate. - Colorado Springs, CO
719-592-0855 www.ReverseLoansInColorado.com

Barbara, I'm going to use the same analagy you used in your response to Zane to all men who proclaim a dislike for cats going forward! It was priceless!

Dec 02, 2009 11:52 AM
Charles Buell
Charles Buell Inspections Inc. - Seattle, WA
Seattle Home Inspector

Raven de Croe

Dec 02, 2009 11:56 AM
Barbara S. Duncan
RE/MAX Advantage - Searcy, AR
GRI, e-PRO, Executive Broker, Searcy AR

Steven, you must have an animal doctor who loves you if you had all those cats neutered.  You've got one who is too smart to be caught! 

Ruth, it was a very true reason, wasn't it.  They all like dogs and dogs do their bidding willingly.  Cats and women are different!

Raven, have you seen my cat?  Is she out in the beyond with you?  If so, be nice!!

Dec 02, 2009 12:16 PM