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Shouldn't We Be Forgiving While We Are Thanking?

By
Real Estate Broker/Owner with Rice Prprty Mgmnt & Rlty, LLC, South Holland, IL 481.010183

Expressions of gratitude are poured out from homes and gatherings all over America annually, on the last Thursday in November.  A spirit of fellowship is suspended in the atmosphere.... permeating, lingering, and being celebrated, as lengthy orations of thanks are exchanged.

It's Thanksgiving Day!  A time set aside to remember the goodness of God who has faithfully provided us with nourishment, protection, clothing, shelter, family, our freedoms, and our country. 

The Holiday, a festive occasion most commonly shared with relatives breaking bread together around the dining room table is hungrily anticipated!   We bow our heads in prayer to thank God, and as the meal commences with the traditional carving of the turkey, the feast is soon consumed as hearty helpings are digested by gougers bearing ravenous appetites....

We are thankful aren't we?   Yes, but shouldn't we forgive the one sitting next to or across from us first? Isn't sharing our thankfulness to God a little tainted and hypocritical if we are harboring hatred, jealousy, envy, selfishness, malice and ill content toward one another?

Let us remember to let go of grudges and the disguised bitterness masked behind smiling faces.  This year is just about up.  We do not want to carry that anger over unto 2010 do we?

If we would examine ourselves and be honest, we'd find something there to clean out, won't we?  When will we put away childish things?  It's fine to differ with one another.... but let us not allow our diversities to fester long enough to take root. 

No better time than today to forgive.

 

And when you stand praying, forgive, if you have ought against any: that your Father also which is in heaven may forgive you your trespasses.  But if ye do not forgive, neither will your Father which is in heaven forgive your trespasses.

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Tammie White, Broker
Franklin Homes Realty LLC - Franklin, TN
Franklin TN Homes for Sale

This is a good time to be forgiving.

Nov 27, 2009 03:59 PM
Tim Lorenz
TIM LORENZ - Elite Home Sales Team - Mission Viejo, CA
949 874-2247

Always we should but sometimes that is sooo hard to do.  God bless you for trying.

Nov 27, 2009 04:11 PM
Dan Tabit
Keller Williams Bellevue - Sammamish, WA

I've always heard that in forgiving others, we are freeing ourselves.  Thanks for the reminder.

Nov 27, 2009 04:17 PM
Fernando Herboso - Associate Broker MD, & VA
Maxus Realty Group of Samson Properties - Clarksburg, MD
301-246-0001 Serving Maryland, DC and Northern VA

Those "issues" are more present in my own family that I'm willing to admit. . we never have a truce period. . someone is always between fights. .

then again I have a big family 

Nov 27, 2009 10:08 PM
Laura Cerrano
Feng Shui Manhattan Long Island - Locust Valley, NY
Certified Feng Shui Expert, Speaker & Researcher

Diane, I too think that the person we help the most by forgiving is ourselves.  It gets very heavy to carry around negative feelings and I'd just as soon let go of them.  You don't have to forget but you can forgive.

Nov 27, 2009 10:47 PM
Mike Morgan
Internet Marketing for Real Estate Agents and Brokers - Jensen Beach, FL

When I was younger, I held grudges.  Now with a bit of age and wisdom, I let it go almost immediately.  But letting it going and forgiving are two different things.  I also make sure I make a mental note of foregiveness.

Nov 27, 2009 11:50 PM
Lee & Carol Barbour, REALTORS
Murphy and Hayesville, NC; Hiawassee, Blairsville, Blue Ridge GA - Murphy, NC
Mountain Living Team in Murphy NC and North GA

Excellent post Diane. I have to keep reminding myself of Psalm 51:10: Create in me a clean heart, O God; and renew a right spirit within me.

Nov 28, 2009 01:08 AM
Rebecca Gaujot, Realtor®
Lewisburg, WV
Lewisburg WV, the go to agent for all real estate

Hi Diane, I do not hold grudges.  Life is just toooo short. Great post.

Nov 28, 2009 02:19 AM
Diane Rice
Rice Prprty Mgmnt & Rlty, LLC, South Holland, IL - Lansing, IL
SFR, SRES, CNC

Tammie - for sure... why not?....  while we are all in the spirit of thanksgiving... great time!

Tim:  YES... we should!  Come on - try it!  Look to your left and say... will you please forgive me for_______________!  See how easy that was?  Good!  Now, look to your right and carry on! :-)

Dan:  You are absolutely correct in that assessment... it's freeing indeed!

Fernando:  See there!  A great opportunity for you to CHANGE the environment... starting with YOU! Just think of the transformation that could happen in your family!  I encourage YOU to take the initiative!

Carole:  It's evident that you practice forgiveness, for you flow with much freedom!

Mike:  Good for you!  We can all take a lesson from you... thanks for adding the "how to" 

Carol:  And it's as simple as that... confessing and asking... good scripture reference... thanks for adding it!

Rebecca:  I believe MOST can see by your smile that there is nothing held in.... otherwise, a snarl would appear!  (your spirit exudes fruit.... transferring it to your countenance!)

 

Nov 28, 2009 02:57 AM
Alexander Harb
Knights Investing - Mesquite, TX
Dallas, Texas Real Estate Investing

Some of forgiveness involves confrontation of the other persons wrong... weather real or percieved.

The best thing to do is get everything taken care of...before something bad happens.... wrong perceptions have caused a LOT of strife between persons. If people could just talk out things and come to an understanding.... there would be less hypertension in the world....

Nice post, Diane.....

=-)

Nov 28, 2009 04:20 AM
Diane Rice
Rice Prprty Mgmnt & Rlty, LLC, South Holland, IL - Lansing, IL
SFR, SRES, CNC

Hi Alex!  Simplistic repentance works best... acknowledging in sincere humility is easy to be received. 

I wrote this thinking of family grudges that have been present for decades like what Fernando said.  I know of a family member who has been wroth for over 50 years with every one in his family except for 2 because he thought that after his mother died, a particular member of the family should have allowed him instead of his brother to stay with them.

Nov 28, 2009 05:26 AM
Deena Cottingham
GreenApple Staging & Images, Calgary Staging & Photography - Calgary, AB
Home Stager & Photographer

A great parallel to draw, Diane. Can we really be thankful when we are also holding a grudge? Isn't gratitude an attitude of seeing the positive, or at least a lesson learned, in all situations?

Nov 28, 2009 09:00 AM
Diane Rice
Rice Prprty Mgmnt & Rlty, LLC, South Holland, IL - Lansing, IL
SFR, SRES, CNC

Hi Deena!  Perceptive you are!  We hold entirely too much inside, and paint untrue pictures to cover up!  Even with this hidden, it's felt! 

Nov 28, 2009 02:41 PM
Irene Tron
Valparaiso, IN

Such great advice.  I learned a few years back that holding on to a grudge was only hurting myself.  Better to let it go. 

Nov 29, 2009 11:19 AM
Diane Rice
Rice Prprty Mgmnt & Rlty, LLC, South Holland, IL - Lansing, IL
SFR, SRES, CNC

Irene:  And the relief that a goes with it frees! 

Nov 29, 2009 02:05 PM