If you link up with a person where you want to change 90% of who they are, that is not a good match.

It presents a heck of a challenge if you go in with short term attraction but not long term compatibility. Real estate is like dating. The process of elimination, selection, locating a good "fit" for you. It starts with knowing who you are, what makes you tick.  There may be nothing wrong with the "girl next door" real estate you locate, but just not a good link up for you based on your strengths, weaknesses in time, money, resources. If the real estate needs this changed, that overhauled, replacement of many major construction components, walk away. Unless you have unlimited financial resources, are clever with a hammer and possess tons of patience along with Bob Vila's cell phone number as your mentor, run away.

     Like a tendency to be attracted to extremely high maintenance partners, the wrong ones for you, the real estate "dating"and "match making" process will not have a happy ending. Except with real estate, unlike something you like, buy and then leave in the closet because it is no longer your cup of tea, you are stuck with the place, the mortgage. The stakes are way way higher. Recovery is long. The "divorce" or sale is going to be painful, expensive, and take some time. So take a number, have a seat. Like a knack of hooking up with the wrong person at the wrong time for you, the home that intially makes your heart race may have a job jar that is the size of a 55 gallon drum. You made excuses as your heart flutters during the early dating and minimized this, that.

    

Or just did not see with your puppy dog saucer size moon eyes the real place, the real picture..is that the problem?

What were you thinking...or were you thinking when you first wined and dined and flirted with real estate that was way way over your head? I think the technical term is back when you were "ga ga" about the place. Now the light bulb comes on and your sense of reason in your head takes over the thinking process from just following your heart, your feelings.

     It boils down to just a bad match with no hope of lasting because of "compatibility" issues. Real estate where your third date is the last date. Except you own the place.You are stuck, mismatched. And the intial real estate spell that tractor beamed you in to the purchase is gone, a fleeting memory. At the time, maybe you were on real estate rebound, it was too soon to buy. You were vulnerable, not seeing things the way they were. Missing real estate clues...shopping when you were hungry, desperate and thinking the new place would fix your life. Change things. Is any of this ringing a bell?

     "I think our 55 minutes is up... (sound of leather couch as Mr Wounded Heart Real Estate Owner gets up) and here is the number of a quality, aggressive, passionate realtor to get the place listed. Get the home sold so you can get on with your life. And next time, maybe let someone else like a home inspector  "pick your dates", help you find a real estate "partner" that is compatible. One you can afford in many ways. Not scolding, I'm just saying."

Maine REALTOR Andrew Mooers