uly 4th, 2007 

One of the most difficult diseases for families to accept is Alzheimer’s Disease. It is also common enough to wreak havoc on the best of financial situations if denial is present.

Having experienced it first hand with my Grandmother, I’d like to share an exceptional book that will guide you through the maze. Additionally, some pointers learned the hard way. The book is titled, “The 36 Hour Day”, authored by Nancy L. Mace MA and Peter V. Rabins, MD.

Some pointers (learned the hard way, in my own experience):

If behavior becomes odd- repetitive communication, name confusion (in our case, Grandma would answer the phone, “hi, LyLauriSu”- a combination of all of our names) start paying attention. Alzheimer’s creates a “void” in the memory bank. Just imagine a space in your brain that is suddenly blank. Nothing there when called upon to remember. For an interesting view, please link to: http://www.alz.org/alzheimers_disease_4719.asp

Purchase the book to have all aspects of the disease illustrated. The purpose of this blog is to assist you with the real estate end of this devastating disease. If you REMOTELY SUSPECT that your loved one is dealing with this affliction, I cannot emphasize enough the importance of making sure that you are in possession of a DURABLE POWER OF ATTORNEY . This document CANNOT be procured once the victim is unaware of the implications, so act early. What many people do not understand is that a simple power of attorney is void if the individual is deemed “incompetent” with respect to decisions being made on their behalf. A durable power of attorney permits you to assist them regardless of their mental capacity.

HERE IS WHAT OCCURRED WITH MY OUT OF STATE GRANDMOTHER:

Because of the insidious gradual nature of the disease, while things seemed odd, she was able to “fool” us for a time. Unaware of her day to day, the phone calls (while occasionally alarming) were often enough normal that we delayed action. Unbeknownst to us, the predators were in full swing in her daily life. Her “lawn guy” discovered that if he brought a full bag of leaves to the door, she’d pay him. He figured out that whatever afflicted her, he could bring the same bag to her door several times a day, and she would pay him again and again. Terminix, the pest control company, was employed by her to rid her of pests. The individual employed at the company (I’ll never forget his name on all of those checks- Robert Auvil) returned several times a week, and informed her that she still had “snakes in the crawl space”. At 400-800.00 a pop, he had the checks made out to himself, several times a month. Her banker became alarmed when she appeared at the bank to withdraw a large amount of money for new siding on her house- he was aware that just a few short years earlier, she’d had the house sided. Unable to stop her, it was re-sided.

All the while, the alarm increased as she repeated, over and over again, that it was sweltering hot, and that Readers Digest was going to be arriving any minute with the Grand Prize. Day after day.

The end result was to put her in an environment that created safety. For most families, this is the most difficult decision- after all, if her memory was leaving, pulling her out of her home would surely create further damage, wouldn’t it? We were absolutely shocked when she not only forgot all about “home”, but embraced the new living environment. Shocked.

WE DID NOT HAVE A DURABLE POWER OF ATTORNEY. In order to provide her with the best care, her house needed to be sold, and the proceeds put into an account for her care. Without the durable power of attorney, control over the sale price, and the proceeds, fell to the state of Virginia.

While this in and of itself was not impossible to work with, what was enormously stressful for my mother was working with the time line. The government is not known for speed. Documentation, court appearances, the sale of personal items via auction (all proceeds recorded and reported) and the ultimate sale of the house went from simple to extraordinarily complicated. All the while, Grandma was safely ensconced in her new environment, but the bills were piling up.

For the families going through the difficulty of the disease, the hours spent dealing with the system in place adds enormous stress to an already heartbreaking situation. It’s not necessary to go through the legal aspects if you get a durable power of attorney early enough in the progress of the disease.
For anyone in this situation, my heart goes out to you. You’ll get through it, and have some surprises with your loved one that you never expected- I don’t recall ever laughing with Grandma as hard as I did during one of my last visits to her house. She was hilarious, despite the disease, and enjoyed roaring with laughter.

IF YOU SUSPECT THAT A FAMILY MEMBER IS IN THE EARLIEST STAGES OF THIS DISEASE, GET A DURABLE POWER OF ATTORNEY IMMEDIATELY. IF YOU FIND YOURSELF WONDERING IF THIS MIGHT EVER AFFECT YOU, PROVIDE A DURABLE POWER OF ATTORNEY TO A TRUSTED FAMILY MEMBER. Speak with your attorney to assist you with the decision. Some available resource links:

http://www.oag.state.ny.us/seniors/pwrat.html,

http://docs.google.com/Doc?docid=dgps2bbf_45d4qfmp&hl=en_us

http://www.alz.org/living_with_alzheimers_legal_issues.asp

Real estate is often the source of funds for future care. Don’t find yourself at the mercy of a state entity to make decisions that you would be able to resolve with integrity yourself. Having the benefit of fast action, if necessary, is paramount for the safety of your family member.

****This is not to be construed as legal advice. This is a real life situation that became complicated due to ignorance of the disease, and available options. Talk with your family lawyer about preventative solutions.

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18 Comments on Alzheimers And Real Estate

JUL
04
2007
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Laurie - Excellent advice on a subject many do not quite understand. Having a Durable Power of Attorney sooner rather than later when a loved one is showing signs of Alzheimers is critical. Thanks for the book advice.
11:13pm • #1
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Great advice.  This is powerful information both for agents and sellers.  Thank you for taking the time to post this.
11:23pm • #2
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I have seen what havoc this disease can do . It is so sad for all involved...and so scary.

Great information laurie..I'm willing to bet you just helped someone...

11:30pm • #3

Laurie,

You are absolutely right!   I am so thankful that my Mom recognized early that she needed help with bills, predators, etc.  I thought that she was repeating herself to make a point but my best friend made me recognize there was more to it.  I was in denial.  One day my Mom took me to the bank and had my name added on all her accounts.  Also, she agreed to sign off on the Power of Attorney document drawn up by my personal attorney empowering me to make medical decisions, serve as a liaison for her creditors and also, make decisions about her personal and real estate property.  Without it, life could be hard for the family trying to get and give information and/or make decisions.  My Mom is in her advanced stages but she is still fighting the disease.

11:53pm • #4
JUL
05
2007
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Paula- you're welcome, and I hope that you never need the book!

Dan- the complications of the disease exposed us to some pretty horrible people, but was balanced when she found very kind people with whom to finish out the course of the disease- we felt lucky then, too.

Joan- I hope so.  There's no reason to go through a drawn out course of action- it took time away from focusing on Grandma (dealing with the state requirements, paperwork, etc.) when every day counted.

Joyce- you have a very wise mother- I'm sorry to hear that she is in the throes of the disease, but glad to know that you were able to avoid the pitfalls that occur without financial control.  My sympathies are with you- good luck, and laugh when you can!

1:16am • #5
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Laurie,

My grandmother put herself into a home when she started slipping.  She always told us she would do that, but I have to tell you it was shocking.  She is still with us-in body only, 95 years old and I cry when I even think about it.  She has no memory of her daughter, who visits daily, or her grandchildren.  She only remembers her mother and her siblings.  It is heartbreaking.  

We were fortunate, all the paperwork had been handled years before, but is was still a maize of bureaucracy.  My Dad was terrific, he handled and continues to handle it all.  

It is just awful when senior citizens begin to slip and are left on their own, thankfully your grandmother had family who loved and cared for her.   

5:13am • #6
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Laurie, such a sad story and a struggle your mother and your whole family had to go through.  My grandfather lived with us and had this and it was terribly hard.  My grandmother wouldn't hear of putting him in a home and it was round the clock watching him by all of us. I worry about my mother who is almost 85 but she has set up only what she is comfortable with.  Thanks for sharing such a personal story to help others.
8:15am • #7
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Laurie, I'm so sorry about your own grandmother.  I watched the process, and it's so very difficult for family, the deterioration.  I wish we'd been proactive sooner.

Carole, that's the hard part, if the disease is present- the various stages make the individual more and more reluctant to "let on", and more and more defensive about the "void".  I think that we all worry about our parents once they hit a certain age- I hope that your mom is OK.

9:02am • #8
JUL
06
2007
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Laurie,  what a powerful post.  I KNOW you did some of your readers a good turn today with this important information.  Alzheimer's is an insidious and hateful disease.  Please excuse the link, but there's a lot of good information at www.alz.org.  Your Durable Power of Attorney advice is spot on.  Thanks SO very much for this post!

Peg

1:27pm • #9
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Peg, any link that can assist people while working their way through the maze is welcomed and appreciated- thank you!
3:01pm • #10
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Laurie, I know this disease only too well. My mom, who died 11 years ago had Atzheimers and it was so difficult to watch the decline. We were very fortunate in finding an "angel" of a caretaker to help. We were able to keep her in her own place with 24 hour care. We also had the right legal advice.

Thanks for bringing this to AR.

8:26pm • #11
JUL
08
2007
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Wonderful information for consumers and professionals alike.  I have featured this in this weeks Localism Week in Review.

Lexa Montierth 

12:56pm • #12
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Lexa, thank you.  It appears to be more widespread than I might have guessed, and a simple document saves many, many hours of unneccessary TIME that could be spent with the afflicted family member.
1:56pm • #13
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Great post, unfortunately more and more people will be needing this advise in the years to come,
5:56pm • #14
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Michael- suffice it to say, being prepared for anything is key, but if hindsight assists someone else, great.
6:29pm • #15
JUL
19
2007
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Laurie, Thanks for the post.  I myself went through a very similiar process with my grandmother.  I think everyone needs a reminder of what and does happen all the time...  
12:29pm • #16
JUL
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2007
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Laurie - great post. I've seen this up close and personal as well as with my clients. It's critical that people have not only legal power to handle their loved ones assets but also health care powers of attorney. It's critical to have them in place for oneself too -- this disease can strike in the early 40s.
11:35pm • #17
JUL
21
2007
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Ann- the health proxy is huge, as well- thank you for the reminder!
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