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Mortgage and Lending with Zenith Mortgage Advisors NMLS# 5016

When I listen to the way that people communicate these days, I am a bit embarrassed. To be truthful though, I am equally guilty, at least some of the time. People use texting, which is the most bastardized form of english that a person can imagine.

While many of us, if not most, txt, hopefully we know better than to use it for important conversations.  The same cannot be said for email.

Now, I'm not an old grouch, hiding in a technology vacuum, in fact far from it.  I send emails constantly, and probably receive about 100 per day on average.  I think it is an amazing, and convenient tool to communicate information that has limited importance.  Here's the downfall: people use email to avoid having tough conversations where full meaning should be conveyed by tone, context, and purposeful pauses in speech.

I am guilty of sending an email when I really should have called.  It would be better customer service, but I have chosen the easy way out.  I send an email to avoid the conflict, the tension, the discomfort. It's a shortcoming that I work to control.

Here's my point: If you want to understand your clients, and have your clients appreciate the service you provide, talk with them.  Voice to voice, better still, face to face. It doesn't matter if it's good news or bad, it's better delivered the old fashioned way.  Technology has a definite and ever increasing place in our society, but it will never replace a solid relationship where candid comunication is placed at the forefront.

You rarely lose a client by over-communication.  I know I never have.

Nick Bastian
Realty Executives - Tempe, AZ
Real Estate Agent - Tempe

Interesting point. There is a LOT to be said about communicating via text and email. Yes, it is quick and convenient but, there are MANY times when an email can seem very different than it's true meaning. You are right, a good "old fashioned" phone call or face to face meeting can make a lot of difference.

Dec 22, 2009 01:30 PM
Amy Law
Alliance Properties - Crosby, TX

I completely agree. As a jr. high school English teacher for several years before taking up Real Estate, the current path of lack of English skills is disturbing. However, I do see that writing skills of the general public will only become more important if this trend continues. May the best writer win...

Dec 22, 2009 01:32 PM
Karin Elliott
IBA Realty Group - Big Canoe, GA
14 Years as a Broker & Making Dreams Come True

Great post Bob! You are so right it is very easy for us to hide behind techonology! There are some calls you just don't want to make. Sometimes you just have to bite the bullet and limit your conversation to 5 minutes. :)

Dec 22, 2009 01:33 PM
Bristol Restoration
Bristol Restoration, Inc 661-294-1812 - Santa Clarita, CA
When you need it done right and done right now!

Email only business evens the playing field with most professionals. You don't have to master the English language, you don't have to have an immediate answer to a question, and you can avoid conflict. It's amazing that you can actually stand out from the crowd if you just pick up the phone. 

Dec 22, 2009 01:40 PM
Joel Prince
The Principle Group, Inc - Hixson, TN
Hixson/Soddy Real Estate Broker

Bob -

I agree.  And while I use email regularly, it cannot convey the nuances a human voice can.  Especially when it comes to difficult communication.

Dec 22, 2009 01:41 PM
Wayne and Lynda Gomillion
Real Living Hagan Realtors | Pinehurst ~ Southern Pines, NC - Pinehurst, NC

Bob... Thanks for the post.

Hand written notes are a terrific way to stay in touch as well. As you indicated, seldom is a client upset or lost by their agent over communicating.

Think Big - Aim High!

The Pinehurst Home Team

Dec 22, 2009 01:57 PM
Bob Prevelige
Zenith Mortgage Advisors - Hopkinton, MA
CMPS

Amy: Being a teacher of english, you must especially disturbed by the "developments" we seem to have taken over the past couple of years. Are we doomed to clipped sentences?

Karin:  Sometimes it does feel like biting a bullet, but the more we do it, the better we'll be at skillfully dodging the dangerous ones.

Jerry:  It is hard to imagine that a phone call can make you unique, but it does.

Wayne and Lynda: I am a huge proponent of personal notes. I write them, and I encourage all my staff to do the same.  Powerful, and easy to do, perfect combo.

Dec 22, 2009 02:37 PM
Paul McFadden
Responsive Pest Control - Seattle, WA
Pest Control, Seattle, WA.

Bob: Thanks. I agree with you. We can never communicate enough. Thanks again for the post!

Dec 23, 2009 02:02 AM
Bob Prevelige
Zenith Mortgage Advisors - Hopkinton, MA
CMPS

Paul: Even though we all know it, it's easy to lose perspective sometimes.  I write these blogs as much to remind myself as others out there.

Dec 23, 2009 03:23 AM
J Perrin Cornell
Coldwell Banker Cascade Real Estate - Wenatchee, WA
Broker, ABR, VAMRES

I agree on communication enough! Also the email thing can really get you in a pickle if not written correctly!

Dec 26, 2009 03:56 AM
Frances C. Rokicki
Fran Rokicki Realty, LLC - Bolton, CT
Broker-Mentor,CRS

Bob, Using the Buffini system, has taught me to use more face to face communication.  Writing the notes, follow up with a phone call and then, stopping by with a small item of value (popbys).  This stuff is what works.  My production, last year, was up, more than 60%.  Not only do we have good communication, we have a wonderful sense of community.

It's a Good Life,

Fran

Jan 05, 2010 01:49 AM