The art of humanizing and connecting with a reader through a blog

OK, guys and dolls, let’s get into the meat of how to connect on a personal and human level with your audience in each post.  Blogging is a very personal media channel.  People want to learn more about you, your expertise and your life.  The rub is, they don’t want you to just come out and tell them about yourself.  You need to create a soap opera in your blog posts where you disclose personal things about yourself in small doses.  That way it makes people feel as though they have come to know you slowly.  Basically, think of a blog as one big date with your dream mate. You don’t go telling your dream date your life story- the good the bad and the ugly on the first date.  You slowly let them into your life one date at a time.  That is exactly the way you should blog. 

Example:

The following excerpt is an example of how to humanize and personalize your blog post.  As some of you may know that have spoken with me, I am a competitive fitness/bodybuilder in my spare time so the paragraph below is how I would leverage my hobby into a post to create intimacy while maintaining mystery and professionalism.

“Blogging, just like bodybuilding requires discipline.  Frequency is the key.  If I were to stop training in the gym tomorrow, I may keep the definition in my abs and quads for a few weeks or months, but eventually they would revert to the gelatinous mush from whence they came.  Same thing with blogging.  You can clearly watch your traffic statistics and comments increase with frequent blog posts, but if you stop or become inconsistent with your posts, your traffic will drop off rather quickly.  You need to flex your blogging muscle frequently to drive and maintain the results you are looing for...”

Leveraging experience to create comfort:

Fact, very few people are going to read and remember everything on your “about” page.  So, remind them of key facts about yourself through posts. For example, I frequently include that I am an SEO specialist, web programmer or Fortune 500 consultant in my posts.  That makes people feel more comfortable with my expertise. You should take the time to reiterate your experiences and education or certifications in your posts.  That being said, you don’t want to do it in every post or post all your commendations in one post.  Just one or two in a post is good.

Ideas to leverage expertise in a blog post:

For example if you just attended a seminar that increased your knowledge in one area, mention it and write a post that showcases that knowledge. 

If you won an award, mention it.  Don’t toot your own horn, just mention it briefly in a post about something else.  For example, “at Conference X, while accepting the X Realtor award, I learned….”

If you have helped sellers work through difficult situations to sell a home, discuss that (it won’t sound preachy if you talk about solving problems with specific examples).  It makes people feel like they know you and you know their problem and have the expertise to solve that problem. 

Leveraging hobbies and interests to create intimacy:

As a real estate professional, you need to develop a level of intimacy with your visitors just as you would while touring homes with a buyer.  One of the most effective ways to do that is to leverage you hobbies and interests in a post. 

Ideas to leverage hobbies and interests  in a blog post:

If you are a soccer mom, mention it along with the local soccer facilities in a post about what your town has for kids.  Do not go too deeply into your child’s amazing prowess at the sport, just tickle the reader with a small slice of your life.  By telling a reader you are a soccer mom- you just connected with all the other moms out there- you have said-“You can trust me because I am like you!”

If you are a boater and are selling a waterfront home, mention the recreational boating clubs in the area and your personal recommendations on where to rent a slip.  Again, don’t go into what a great weekend you had on your sailboat and how your wife went overboard after one too many margarita’s.  Don’t get that personal.  You still want to maintain professionalism and, in this example, a wife. 

If you are a golfer and have a golf course home for sale, be sure to connect with your potential buyers by posting about all the great local pro shops and which pros you recommend.  Stay away from disclosing your amazing handicap.  People like humble people.

 

31 Comments on Humanizing a blog: how blogging is like bodybuilding

OCT
15
2006
118,125 Points 7 Featured Posts Outside Blog

Exactly Mary! displaying our individuality allows readers to connect with us. If we stray from who we really are and protray ourselves as something we are not, we will end up unhappy with the relationships or circumstances we put ourselves in!

Good post.

2:44pm • #1
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Thanks Mary, I love reading your posts, thanks for taking uch time and effort!
3:11pm • #3
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Mary, Great post. I agree 100% with what you are saying. There are ways to deliver pertinent info in an informative, entertaining and personable way. This is exactly what I try to achieve when I write a post. From a business point of view, people want to work with someone they can relate to and that they like. Having the most knowledge will not necesarily win the business.
3:19pm • #4
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"The Lovely Mary"

This has to be my favorite post by you. 

It tells me that even though I am a Rookie Blogger I have, in fact, been doing things my way, which just happens to be your way which is the right way. Yipee.

My hobby "Guns" and I am an EXCELLENT shot. I love to shoot guns! Most people that know me, know that. I have many guns and they match my Gucci handbags!

You have reminded me I should get back to going to the gym!

BAM...I just shot me a steak=cow. Beef it's what's for dinner!

TLW "The Lovely Wife"...Kum La Ka Lakka...ROAR!

4:05pm • #5
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Girl, you are my kind of woman.  A well dressed, meat eating, gun toting, NRA member.  Let's hang out!
4:31pm • #6
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Mary..... One more reason I added you as an associate.....

I am so glad you blog the way you do...... informative, professional...and just enough about you to make the read intresting.....

I hope you get a medal the next time you compete, lady....:-)

4:34pm • #7
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"The Lovely Mary"

LMBO...Here...Anytime Baby Anytime.

The body building Godess of Blogging and The Gun toting Lovely Wife. Now, there's a picture!

Cape Coral is not that far...Not to mention how beautiful it is there. Do you have cows. If not rabbits are good practice.

I can teach you to shoot...Save the greasy rabbit meat for my dogs. Then you can teach me more about Blogging.

When we finish all that we can then shop and buy anything we want that is "NOT" on sale! Including Prada.

TLW "The Lovely Wife"...Kum La Ka Lakka...ROAR!  

4:45pm • #8
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Mary....  a great blog and boat load of info. Things to think of as we write our blogs....  like I said... I need 8 days a week now. Just one day to think and write. I don't know how some of you do it. ie. Broker Bryant....  KK - Kristal Kroft and so many others. Even those not in the top 50. I have read some of Carol William's blogs, Washington State......  just so many.

But Mary...thanks for the info. Expect an e-mail from by sometime tomorrow... I had a few more questions...

4:48pm • #9
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Great blog Mary. I see you are in Cape Coral too. Very cool.
4:57pm • #10
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So packed full of ideas! I really enjoyed reading this. Thanks! 

6:10pm • #11
130,028 Points Outside Blog

I understand where you are going with this. Specializing.

I also believe that once you get your client talking you will also find something in common with them to keep a conversation going. It could be where you are from or some type of sports and so forth.

Great blog

6:38pm • #12
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Mary really hit the jackpot with this post. 

As a former champion trap and skeet shooter, I can attest to the importance of understanding the methodology of skill development - in any endeaver.

Show me a competitor - in anything - and I'll show you a successful REALTOR.

 

6:59pm • #13
Thank you Mary I will be book marking your post for future refrence.
7:09pm • #14
189,714 Points 18 Featured Posts Outside Blog

Great post Mary,

 I actually never thought of incorporating my boat stories into my Real Estate, but I do sell Waterfront and Coastal Homes and I do know where the good marinas are and quite a bit about boats for that matter.

Thanks for the inspiration

7:12pm • #15
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thanks for your post! i have always learned so many valuable info on your blog.
7:23pm • #16
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Great post as usual Mary, the info you share on a daily basis is awesome!

Alpharetta Real Estate

7:25pm • #17
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What a great post. I think many people think that good blogging is easy, but you have really helped us to think about writing in a way that only captures who we are while sharing information that is fun and informative for readers. While this sounds like an easy thing to do I find it pretty challenging. It's clear many here do take time to to write carefully and think about what they are saying and to whom, but that is not always the case. I really enjoy reading everythng you write. Keep up the good work.
7:44pm • #18
Great information Mary. It is easy to forget that sharing is good while sharing too much can be overkill. Thank you for a great reminder.
8:09pm • #19
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Great Post. Your blogging insight is very inspirational. With each post, there is always new information.
8:58pm • #20
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Another quality post. Keep up the good work. A joy to read!
9:42pm • #21
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I can clearly watch my traffic increase by writing a post or two in a short period on my other blog. Let it go for a while and it decreases. Interesting whating the traffic stats and how many people come via links from their e-mail. When it's good enough for others to e-mail friends that's when you know you had a good post IMO. 
11:33pm • #22
OCT
16
2006
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Joining AR has been a boost to me personally.  My blogs previously have been too dry.  Although very personable, I have always found it a little difficult to bring that through in my blogs.  I am getting better, i think, just by reading the many posts here
12:04am • #23
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Thanks, Mary, for yet another insightful and interesting blog. Great suggestion to "slip in" information about ourselves gradually. So much better than the I, I, I.
5:36am • #24
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This is very good, good job and content that everyone should read on this site.
6:44am • #25
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You always have to many good ideas Mary, Keep them coming we can all use to learn something
7:32am • #26
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Mary, sorry such a late response, but excellent post.  Now I have more ways to formulate my next blogs.
8:53am • #27

Mary, you never cease to amaze. We're all ears.. keep those pearls of wisdom coming!

 

9:17am • #28
191,771 Points 48 Featured Posts Outside Blog

Hey Mary,

You obviously don't subscribe to the school of thought that says you shouldn't post duplicate content as you post your posts here, and on your rsspieces site.  What is your reasoning behind that?

I'm trying to decide whether or not I should post in 2 places or not...  what are your thoughts on the subject?

Thanks! 

1:12pm • #29
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we use a "content rotation" system that prevents posts I tag from indexing in Google on our site until I say they can.  You can also use JavaScript to do a similar thing.  It was created so agents in the same office can share content without tripping duplicate content filters.  
3:14pm • #30
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25
2008

Mary,

I could not agree with you more. THe better we can humanize or personalize our blogs and web marketing the better chance we have of connecting with prospects and leads who can see a human side of us not a salesman.

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