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What is a Legacy?

What is your Legacy? Is it your name remembered by an action, a quote, or a change to the world? I have finally made another "life" discovery! It's not about me and my legacy, it's about what I will leave behind one day. What contributions I have made to the world with the miracles given me.

THESE PAST FEW DAYS HAVE ROCKED MY WORLD

I just spent this entire past weekend moving my baby, that's right, my 21 year old baby son Sean, down to Cal Poly in San Luis Obispo, CA. That's about 4 1/2 hours from our home. This was one of the most emotional and overwhelming experiences of my life! One of the most Happy/Sad moments I have ever experienced. We drove all his things down in a u-haul truck, moved him into his new apartment, took a walking tour of the campus, stocked his fridge, purchased his supplies, and then waved goodbye as these two grown men, father and son... cried! I will never forget his face with those tears in his eyes, and a smile from ear to ear. I don't think I will ever be the same!!

Tonight my heart aches, yet my spirit is over-joyed! My emotions are on this massive roller-coaster, and it seems I am having trouble focusing. He is all alone in a strange place, no job, no friends (yet), and he starts classes this Wednesday. His friend will move in with him mid August. I know he'll be ok. Why? Because he is a straight A student, with 4.0 GPA. Sean just transferred in from De Anza College as an Undergraduate. He will be starting his Junior year with Cal Poly. His Major is Business Administration. Sean's a great photographer, a musician, and just a down to earth, great human being. He has never drank alcohol, smoked, or done drugs, and he's at the Top of his classes. This is how I know he'll be ok!! I am the proudest father on this entire planet tonight!

SUGGESTION: THE ACTIVE RAIN SCHOLARSHIP FUND

Seans tuition over the next two years will cost nearly $40,000. If each member of Active Rain donated just one dollar, that would be $39,758 dollars (send to the address on my profile of course), (BIG SMILE) Am I getting creative here or what? LOL! I thought about coming to all your homes and washing your cars, but I don't have two years to raise the money! :-) Just kidding! I'll come wash your cars!

A LIVING LEGACY

Seriously though, here is my legacy. When it is my time to go, I will be leaving behind a trust-worthy and positive contibuter to society, my son Sean. I dedicate this post to his achievements, his dedication to education, and his "new life" at Cal Poly! He is a godly young man with a huge future ahead! It's so hard to believe twenty years have passed, and now my son is gone. Guess I have a bit of empty nestor syndrome, but I couldn't be happier or prouder of him. Sean will carry on our name for the next generations. For me, today is one I will always remember as long as I live. I have discovered that my Legacy is not all about me, it is all about the ones I love and truly care about!! My son Sean, today and forever, my Hero and my Legacy!

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Posted by Brad Andersohn ~ Community Manager on 07/25/2007 12:31 AM

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93 Comments on What is a Legacy?

JUL

2007

Brad... that's a great tribute to your son. I remember when I went into the service and watching my dad cry that morning. But he didn't tear when I went to college.... lol Maybe because I was spending his money.... lol Well, that didn't last long. And when I went back after the Army, it was my own money.

In any case... I enjoyed this. And the college fund,....lol cute... I have .50. Will that do? I need to save .40 for the stamp... lol nite

jeff belonger

Brad what a great post about your son. It sounds like you have done a great job with him and now he will test his wings on his own.

Brad,

We cried as each child left the nest, but it did get easier with each one. By the time number five flew the coop, we were veterans at watching them go. Being a parent is the best job we'll ever have.

Your son sounds like an exceptional young man.

God Bless,

Fran

Brad

My heart aches for you but at the same time I feel your joy. I know how you feel. Now you might think "oh no you don't." But yes, as close as one can get I do. Short story to follow.

When we moved to Guatemala my then 18 year old daughter didn't want to go. But I convinced her to give it a try for 6 months and if she didn't find it to her liking I would fly her back to the states. She too was at the top of her class when she graduated and also included in Whos Who of American Students. Yes a very proud momma. Well of course almost to the day her 6 months were up she told me she wanted to go back to the states. So I called my dad and made arrangements for her to go there until she could get on her feet. No I have always prided myself in being a down to earth mom. I knew my kids were going to leave one day and in a way, for them I was looking forward to it. I took her to the air port. Just a few tears, hugs and off she went. On the way home I was fine. It was about a 40 minute drive. But the minute I would into the house it hit me. She wasn't there, and she never would be again. Not in the same way. I cried for three days. I was more shocked than anyone. I adore my daughter. She has made such a success of her life and she is a stellar person in all ways. This happened 22 years ago but it is as fresh in my mind and heart as the day I walked into the house and her room was empty.

But that day was a new beginning, a new chapter in our book of life, as it is with you and your son. You will grow to more proud of him as the years roll by, even if you think you couldn't be more proud of him than you are today.

Your post moved me as you can tell. It was great! Thank you for sharing a wonderful moment in time and in your life.

Jeff - I feel much better now, thanks!! :-) The college fund was a great idea, never considered the postage. oooopppsss....Guess I need to wait until AR membership gets to 80,000 now! LOL!! Nite....

Ashley - he will soar with the eagles this one. We new the nest was going to crack on APRIL 19, when we received this letter from Sean and Cal Poly. I just have to post this in the comments here! Yes, I am a proud father!!

Brad

Isn't it wonderful?

Fran - thanks! This is my first of 3 boys to leave the local nest! The tears are more from joy for his accomplishments, but I do miss him already. I have an uncontrollable amount of pride and an unconditional love that I think most fathers have with their first born sons. Being a parent is the best
experience in life.... and yes, my son is an exceptional young man! Thank you for your words of support and encouragement, this post has really helped me to accept and understand, that I am not alone, or the only person who has gone through this. It helps to know other people have shared these moments, and are available for others to learn from. Thank you. :-)

Holy Cow Roberta - that was a 5 hanky comment! Man, I have to wipe my eyes to see my keyboard so I can type. You have in turn, moved me with your posted comment. Thank you for sharing that! I can totally relate. So you remember that knot in your throat, that pain in your chest, and having those quiet moments of memories and tears! Ahhh yes, but I will say this: I know how proud you are of your daughter, it's clear! I don't think I can ever be more proud of my son, but as the years do and will roll by, I am excited and optimistic about witnessing the journey his life will take. It's a beautiful thing, By the same token, I don't want to miss the "value" of these moments in time either, there is always something to be learned. Thanks Roberta for a fantastic conversation and for your absolutely wonderful story and comment! I have a whole new outlook thanks to you!! (Gigantic Smile)

Roberta - I'd have to say Yes and No! Just kidding...yes, all the way!! Now the selfish part of me...NO! :-)

Brad,

My daughter is only going to be 11 so we have a few more years before waving goodbye:)

We did plan ahead by purchasing Florida prepaid which is a guaranteed fund to cover all of my daughters college expenses. The only thing we would need additionally would be for dorm costs. We had the choice of paying the fund in monthly payments but we had the money and paid the whole thing up front. Every year that goes by..the price goes up about 2,000.so we are covered and she can go to almost any college in Florida and other states and if the money is not used we can get it back. It is in a government guaranteed fund.I am glad we did it now because who knows where we will be in another 10 yrs.

What a great post about your son. Sounds like he grew up to be a fine young man, I am sure he has a great role model and that is why he hasn't been in any trouble. It is hard when they leave but they will always be in your heart and guess what.... They come back!! At least for a while when in transision in their life. As parents we don't want them to get hurt, but he will be fine. You taught him well and your voice is in his head helping him everyday.

What a great post. Thanks for sharing that. I have so many friends with worthless children it's nice to hear a story of such a fine young man! Checks in the mail.

Brad, Our children are our legacy and I am planning to write on mine too. I know you are so proud of him and all he accomplished to get to this place in life. I have been playing boom a rang with 3 of my kids, they leave, they come home, they leave. Never a dull moment. Congratulations on raising and continuing to raise a fine son. With 2 in college and 1 next year..............I like your idea of the Activerain Scholarship fund. :)

Brad, It is far too early to be crying...but I've been there with my daughter and remember trying SO hard not to cry; and then she did. It was a long time pulling myself together and I too remember walking into the house for the first time, knowing she wouldn't be coming "home" again. She is home for the summer but will be going back and I'm so proud of her as well! We did our jobs--and we must have done SOME things right!

Brad, your post gave me goosebumps. Sean sounds like a wonderful young man that you raised to be that way. He is the person he is today because of his parents! He will make you even more proud of him in the years to come. Wait till the day he gets married or has his first child....your grandchild!

Congratulations on raising such a fantastic person in this world we live in today! Tell him we all wish him the best of luck!!

Brad as a parent you can be proud. You did a great job and your son sound like a wonderful son, I wish him success. I can also relate to the tuition cost I am facing the same situation but it will be worth it.

Hi Brad, What a story! You must be so proud of him. I can imagine how it must feel to be left on campus and all that adventure just waiting ahead. Fun stuff ahead for him!

Brad

It all goes so fast.

Brad,

I know your happy and so proud of your son. Does he know how lucky he is to have such a great dad? I bet he does. I have had one of mine to leave the nest and that leaves me with one my baby girl of 16. Just read this post and had to send you a comment. Take care!

Neal - that is a well thought out plan! I am very impressed with your ability to prepare for the future. Dropping her off or sending her to college is something you will never be able to prepare for. It is unique for each of us, I feel blessed to have great kids and great friends! Thanks Neal! :-)

So Brad, congrats. Now here's a heads up for you from someone who also has 3 kids.

When the first one leaves, the entire family dynamic changes. You never really consider the role the oldest child plays until he/she is gone. The first year our oldest daughter went to Cal..straight out of high school, was the worst year ever. Her younger sister had to cope without her and went into a mini depression (in our family, when we are depressed we become workaholics...which is what she did) The younger brother acted up and got suspended from school. All the while it never occured to me that maybe they missed her too...I was too involved in my own grief over losing her to comfort them...or consider how they were feeling.

Go ahead and laugh...I'm in Walnut Creek and she was only in Berkeley. But as you pointed out, its the closing the book on that chapter, and knowing things will never be the same. It breaks your heart to know its over.

Thank you for sharing your deep emotion and pride. What a boy you have.

Brad...that is what it's all about! We can all feel your joy. Thank you for sharing...

Oh...one more thing...How do I get mine to leave??? Could we start a fund for that too?

So nice--loved your post.... I remember the day my middle son left for boot camp. I held back crying until his "ride" showed up. OH, my. After he left, I sat in the middle of the floor with the box of baby clothes I had kept and went through every outfit. Sob...sob... He's 37 now and about to start his own family...but it still seems like yesterday.

Brad, I do understand your sentiment! My dollar is in the mail! :-) I too am honored with a wonderful son and daughter! Blessed is the real word for it!

JUL

2007

Brad,

It would be my guess that if we asked Sean, he'd tell us that you're his hero. God bless.

Congratulations on raising a fine, young, productive asset for our society. You sure sound proud of Sean and I can relate to that as I send my son off to the University of Hawaii in the fall. Sure, he will only be down the street but it wont be the same to not have "my boy" close by. Sean will do well I am sure.

Aloha!

Linda - that was absolutely true and meaningful. Sean sent me a photo today and I feel much better now. He took a shot of his "Study Place". When I asked him how was his first day at Cal Poly, he said great, then I got this photo.

This is his study hall? Now I'm just flat out jealous!! LOL! Way to go Sean. This tells me he's ok, he's back to his practical jokes again!

Sybil - I'll be waiting for that check...;-) LOL! Seriously, No child is worthless, but I think I know what you meant. I have some friends with those kind of kids too, I just try to hope the best for their lives someday.... :-) All parents are different and some kids don't even have any. That's sad, very sad!

Missy - I hope all is getting better for you and Allyssa. I can't imagine what it's been like for you. You're still in our thoughts and prayers. Loved your comment, so positive even with all that is going on around you, you still know how to make someone else smile. You're a true inspiration to me and others Missy.
Thanks for taking the time to comment. And for you, a Special "Checks in the mail!" Let's get that scholarship fund going!!!! SOMEONE START ANOTHER GROUP!! Just kidding!! NOT!! :-)

You know what's really comical.... I found a quarter in the couch today, and a dime on the street....and both times, my first thoughts were..."CAL POLY TUITION" LOL!!

Carole - I can tell how proud you are of your daughter, and rightfully so!! I know that feeling of walking into the house for the first time, and the second and the third.....his bed and clothes may be gone, but he is forever and always in my heart! I think that's what I've done right if anything at all!! I will get to see him in 2 weeks for his 21st Birthday! I can't wait.....did I say Birthday? Oh great...I better start yet another fund raiser!! (Big Smile)!!

Becky - thank you! I will tell him, and let's not push the wedding thing just yet and especially not the Grand Children thing...(though I can't wait till someday when I am) I just want him to get through school right now, the rest is inevitable. Thanks for helping me to get it all back into perspective. :-) Big Smile!!

Jennifer - it's nice to be able to relate to others going through the same things in life. I appreciate how hard you must have to work to put yours through colllege, I wish I could just pay for the whole thing, but it's one step at a time for us. I hope to help him anyway I can. He will eventually have to get some work down there, but for now, he just needs to let his roots start diggin in to that Cal Poly soil and absorb as much of those college nutrients as possible.

:-)

Here's a shot of our 3 when they were all just itty-bitty-boys!

Sean(9) Dustin(4) and Baby Brandon (4mos)

Lizette - I know he's stoked about being there, and the adventures that lie ahead will be very exciting for him. One thing I am very proud to say (well there's way more than one)

He was my best man at my wedding...........................................

And he's still my Best Man Today!!!

Brad,

Don't worry, be happy , remember that song ? :) just sing that song !! I could understand that feeling, but I am still not there, but I have a very young daugther, so it will happen someday when she gets married or when it comes the school thing. BTW, is that the right side Bounty Hunter? Just teasing you my friend. :)

Ray Saenz

Roberta - thanks for the emoticon display of life! That was really cute. What a great display of how life passes us by in a flash, and we need to be reminded always to slow down, and savor the moments. Thanks for taking the time to create that little message!! You are awesome! :-)

Darlene - I hope he thinks of his Dad the way you say! I don't think any of us really appreciate our parents until we become one. I know that my parents had to work very hard to raise my brothers and sister, and that's back when folks worked harder and made less. Sean appreciates life and the hard work it takes to have the things we want in life! Thanks for making me out to be the great Dad, but it's really Sean that is a great Kid. I really can't take the credit for much of the fine young man he has turned out to be. Your comment sure made me feel good though!! :-)

Janet - We just experienced this yesterday with the youngest brother. A song came on the radio by Yellowcard, (one of the kids fav bands), and my 10 year old just started crying! They were in the car driving so my wife had the little guy call me on my cell. He needed Dad too, and really missed his brother!
I realized that it's NOT just my feelings that are affected, all those in my home are affected by this. Your comment is so true and timely.

I need to be there for them too in this time of transition. Things are really going ok now... that first day back home was a killer though!! I still have moments, but this post and commenting sure has helped me through it! Thanks to everyone here, I am able to cope much better. And thanks to technology like AOL IM, txt messaging, email, webcams, and Cell Phones, I am able to feel like I am right there for Sean if he needs me. Thanks Janet for sharing your comment and for pointing out that I need to not just think of my feelings, but ALL those around me who love Sean too. That was very kind hearted of you. :-)

Joan - you crack me up! Just what I needed!! Thanks for commenting, but I don't have the slightest idea how to get yours out, and a fund of any sort is always a great idea!! I have heard of a trail of bread crumbs to lead them home, maybe a trail of money would help lead them away...I don't know! LOL! B-)
Thanks Joan!!!

Kathy - thanks for sharing that, I guess this is just one of the experiences we all must face in life. It's what makes and shapes who we are, and what we become. If there are children in your life, you WILL have to go through this at some point! College or not. It's a life lesson, and for me, a really great one considering all the good and positive circumstances Sean has created, and pursued for himself!

Thanks. :-)

David - thanks! Keep the dollar, you'll need it for your son and daughter! :-) You are right about being blessed, that is the honor. I have truly been blessed with a great family, I couldn't ask for more....

....yes I could..... keep your dollar, and send me a $5! LOL!

Marlene - that was sweet, I think I may be up there on his list....at least I hope so!! :-)

David and Tonya - when we lived over there, we asked him to consider UH, but his heart has been set on Cal Poly for a long time. He will do fine and so will yours. Congrats on your sons accomplishments too!!
I know "my boy" is ok and going to do great, I hope the very best for you and "your boy" too! Ohana means Family and that means no one gets left behind! That's powerful!!

Ray - saw you slipped in here, yes, one day you will face this too and nothing can prepare you for it. It is and will be different for everyone. It won't be easy, but it is part of life and an experience that can be good or bad depending on how you take it! I am the proudest and luckiest Father on the earth, at least in my opinion! I'm sure every father has that same opinion..... Thanks Ray!!

BTW- Cute funny at the end there....

JUL

2007

Hi Brad,
I just had to add my 2 cents worth here to your heart warming post. Your son sounds like a wonderful kid and I agree with you, he'll be fine. As a parent of a 3 year old, I have a ways to go before reaching that stage you have just experienced. What a mixed bag of emotions it must be. Knowing you have helped prepare a human being to move on to the next step in life but the heartache it brings to drive away leaving him to fend for himself for the first time in his life. WOW! I get emotional just thinking about it. I remember the looks on my parents' faces when they left me that first day of boarding school. I was so excited and a little scared--they were too and also very sad. I remember my Mom telling me later she and Dad cried all the way home. My point, you're in good company!

Brad,

Congratulations on a job well done - you raised a boy into a man and now he has to take his place in the world and it seems like you have done a pretty good job of it.

Being an empty nester for 10 years now (can it really be THAT long?) I can tell you that life without the kids - regardless of how good it was with them - does get a whole lot better. You have no idea - once you let go and start living for you and your wife - doing what you guys want to do - it will be amazing - trust me.

Now Have a Blessed Day,

John Occhi, Hemet CA REALTOR®
Mission Grove Realty

Hi Brad, Your legacy is assured. You did well and you did good. Congratulations.

Bill Roberts

JUL

2007

Brad,

We will be fine, :) sons or daugthers are awesome !!!

Ray Saenz

JUL

2007

Hi Brad,

Congratualtions! Cal Poly SLO is a great school (I'm an alumni). You son is a assured a quality education. You must be proud because it's not an easy school to get into.

Alex

Brad ~ what a great post...to honor your son like that is awesome! I have 8 kids I'm super proud of and everytime I even think about the fact they'll be gone some day I get teary-eyed. You've obviously done a great job - honors to you as well!

JUL

2007

Cynthia - it is great to be in good company. There are so many reasons I am proud of my son, but mostly because he has worked so hard to get to this point in his life. He is dedicated and committed to his education above all else. He understands the benefits, and is doing all he can to be the best he can be. He will have a good life and go far in his journey to make a difference in this world. I couldn't be more proud than I am today!

John - thanks! We do live our lives everyday to the fullest. With or without children, we try to give to this world as much or more than we take. Our relationships with family and friends is all we really have that carries any real great value. With 2 more boys at home, we are in no rush to see them off, but will do everything in our power to see they have the best start possible at a fantastic and exciting life. My wife and I plan to travel more someday, but right now, our focus is on the family! Thanks for your encouraging comment and for being so positive all the time. Be blessed my friend!

Bill - thanks for your comment, reassurance is always good and much needed by those we trust and respect.

Ray - we will be fine, life just has a way of making us stop sometimes to really enjoy and be proud of our legacy. Mine is and always will be my children. Thanks my friend for your comment and support.

Alex - you are the first Alumni to comment! Thanks for your affirmation of Sean being at a great campus. I know Cal Poly has a great reputation, and my son has had his eyes set on this for the past 2 years. I know he is already enjoying the college and the classes he is taking, it's going to be a lot of work, but he is doing great right now. He just sent me this photo of his first home we set him up in last weekend. I am so proud of him! Thanks!

Joddie - *8 KIDS!?!? Oh my GOSH! You'll get to go through this 8 times. I will be here for you when it's your turn. :-) That is a large family that I am sure you are very proud of too. The best part of seeing my son in college right now is that he is HAPPY!!! That's what really matters to me! Congratulations to you on your family accomplishments, may all your dreams come true!! B-)

Wow Brad, I am glad (I think) I saw this post, You sure brought back memories for me. I have one child, a daughter. Well, I am certain that people have told you about fathers and daughters, especially having just one. Well, everything you heard is more than true. When she was born, it was the happiest day of my life, but it was a surprise to me as I had no idea beforehand how it would impact me and my life, from the day we brought her home to even now. But, that college drive was the one that stands out for me ( 15 years ago) and is most vivid in my mind still. We are in Ohio and as my girls "manager", she was a 3 sport athlete and scholar, she chose a scholarship to the University of Delaware in Newark, a 7 hour trip. What beautiful country and history up there. A 1774 building is still used! Anyway, we took two cars chock full of things and dropped my girl off at a dorm, as they had to live in a dorm for a year. We got her settled and then it was time, I am choking up still, I swear. My wife, girl and I hugged each other for a long time. We walked to the car and left. Well, my wife and I did not talk for over 3 hours and for the same reason, we couldn't! If I opened my mouth I would have bawled like a baby. You described so perfectly, the lump in the throat and the broken heart. We know we did the right thing, right? I left my baby 7 hours away! We had good schools in Ohio! Boy, my mind was racing. We got home and then had to face the empty room. My wife and I had a very rough week, believe me. Fast forward and my girl is an RN surgical nurse on the open heart team at Riverside in Columbus. She got her BS/RN at Ohio State, 2 hours away. Am I proud and happy now, sure. But I will never forget that day that I dropped my princess off!

Sorry I have rambled on, on your post and day, Brad. You always get me going, don't you? I apologise and thought about deleting this, but you opened up and you are my online friend, so here it is.

The great thing for you is the future. Today, my girl is still my best friend and confidant. I am really proud of that and that her mother and I have been together for 35 years. My girl was the biggest part of that, as we were a family and did everything together. Thanks for the memories!! Yours, David

My Princess and My Best Friend!

I have tears rolling down my cheek- I am sappy like that! Anyway, you have locked your legacy in place...with your actions and your love for these boys. We all know Sean will exceed your expectations, life works like that..he was raised with your values and in turn he has become the young man you admire. Your legacy is already intact! Congrats Brad on a nice post and a fine job as a father!

David - that was a 5 tissue comment!!! There's been a few of those here on this post! It's great to have friends in places who have or have had the same feelings and experiences. Your family is one to be proud of, you have made and will leave your mark on this planet. Some of our deepest and most special memories aren't always the one's that make us laugh, but they are th most heartfelt memories we have. I too will never forget that day driving away...helpless...confused...wanting to turn around and go back etc. It is better now that I have talked with him, emailed, texted and chatted on AOL IM. (thank God for technology). I truly appreciate you sharing that personal family experience, though you jerked some tears, it made me happy to know that Sean will be successful like your daughter someday when school is over, and I hope he'll live closer too. Love your photo, talk about a proud and happy father, it comes through in that picture. This post will be found by my son one day, and he'll get to see how proud I really am of him. I do tell him all the time, but this will hopefully make it that much more special!

Your Online Friend (and you're always welcome to ramble on my blog LOL!) Brad

Thanks alot Brad for understanding! Means a lot. David

Man, this is a melancholy night! It is good to reflect!

Princess and I at Horseshoe renovations

Michele - I'm all out of "Virtual Tissues" :-/ Sorry... Thanks for your comforting comment, I know he will exceed my expectations, he already has. Thanks so much for sharing your kind thoughts. My legacy has only just begun...and I still have two more to go!! Yikes!! I'll be a wreck in 10 more years...not really, I'll be proud just like I am today! :-)

Great photo David, here's a couple of my favs, Sean doing what he loves most!!

Great pictures, Brad, and you take some good one's. Isn't that the great thing about taking pictures? They capture our most precious moments with friends and family. David

Family and Friends doing what we love best!

You're right about that David, and that's what matters most!! Precious moments with Family and Friends!!

This post is so awesome!! OMG! I cried when my 6 yr. old went to kinder. Now he is going to 1st grade in September and the thought of having him leave off to college? :( It brings tears to my eyes. I can just imagine the feeling of both. Happy & Sad. I wished they stayed little. My little Sam turned 11 months today. I can't believe how time passes.

Sean looks like a great guy and being that he has you for a Dad, I know he will do well. You're Wife must be missing him a lot too. And your other boys also. I know you'll call him everyday so he won't feel home sick.

CONGRATULATIONS SEAN!!! KEEP UP THE GREAT WORK! ;)

Luisa - enjoy your babies every moment of every day!!! I do try to connect with him everyday, but both our busy lifestyles make that difficult! I think he's busier than me! LOL! He comes home next weekend for his 21st Birthday! WOW! 21, i feel too young to have a boy 21, but it will be the Birthday of a lifetime for him! I'll see to that!! His mom and brothers all miss him very much, and my wife (his step mom), misses him very much too...the other day a song came on and my 10 year old and wife started crying while driving down the road. Of course I got the call from them...and....yep..... had to pull over myself!! Thanks Luisa, you're the best!

JUL

2007

Brad: Touching post - I was teary eyed when reading it - and all the comments and similar experiences of other parents. I don't have children but I see how it must have been for my parents. I was the oldest and the only one who went to college. My mom counted on me for a lot of things - mostly emotional support and I have heard since how hard it was for her. We are going away to new experiences, new rooms and new people to meet but I know what a gap it creates in the hearts and homes of those who let us go.

Great post, Brad...... I have spoken to hundreds of people in the past 26 years since I became a Christian..... and many more than that after I became a Minister.....

But the one thing that really moves me is taking care of my grandkids and my step kids...they are a legacy that will live on after I am long gone......

Awesome way to express it, Brad....

=-)

Brad - thanks for the memories. I cut my apron strings 12 years ago this fall when I took my "baby" off to University in Vancouver, B.C. It was an emotional journey and one I will never forget. When I first read about the contest I too thought of my son as being my legacy however I felt that the contest was about the legacy I would leave behind on AR so I did not enter the contest. However, after reading your post I am reminded that I too have a legacy. Thanks.

AUG

2007

When my daughter left for the mainland (she's home now) I sobbed like a wounded animal. I knew though...that she was carrying something from me ....that eventually brought her home...sense.

Thanks for sharing yours Brad.. I enjoyed the pictures all the way down....

Cathy - thanks for your perspective from the goers point of view. Also, I now you invested a lot of time in this post in order to conclude with that comment. There are some very touching comments from other members here and I too, was teary eyed through many of them. This is not only an open post for others, it's opened hearts beared for all to see. This is definately my most meaningful post, and is becoming a legacy in itself. Thanks for sharing your view and comment here!!

Mr Herb. - (only being formal because you're a minister)...just kidding!! Thank you for coming by my post to comment. I can wait for the grandkids (haha) but seriously, I am looking forward to watching them grow and be the legacy of my children and our family. May I request your prayers for my son Sean, that he would continue to be safe, make the right choices, and remember his christian morals and family values? Thanks again Alexander for your comment, your view of "The Legacy", and your prayers! God Bless!!

Cheryl Anne - I have to be honest...I never even new there was a contest! Sally emailed me after she saw this post and said I should enter it into this group and the contest. I had no idea she was doing this, but I am glad she did. I have been able to read some really great "Legacy" posts, and have been touched by many of the comments in my own. To me, it's not about winning any contest, it's about sharing with others what a father feels about a son. The real contest for me was finding the courage and strength to do this post. It's hard to concentrate or even write when emotions take you over. So that contest was won!!! The next contest for me is making it to "GRAD DAY" so I can celebrate yet once again, with my "Legacy"! My friend, my son...Sean.

Sally - thanks! Glad my son has sense too!! LOL! It's his 21st birthday this Sunday, he's driving up to see us all this weekend. But he will have to drive back on Sunday and I hope waving goodbye to him this second time will be easier. BTW - What do you get a young man ("Legacy") like Sean for his 21st Birthday.....hmmm

I KNOW.....MAYBE A BOX FROM "OLD HOME" HAWAII would be special....(hehehe)

Mahalo Sally and Aloha. :-)

BTW - my graphic for this comment is TARO, I have always said to myself, if I ever get pineapple, taro, or papaya on one of your comments, I'd have to tell you about it. It finally happend after all this time I have known you. LOL! Sorry...just had to share that!

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Good morning Brad and congratulations, I know you did not write this for any honors, but it IS a great post and will outlive all of us, which is scary and very cool at the same time!

I read Cathy's comment earlier today but did not feel it was appropriate to post until you did. Cathy, I was really moved by your comment because of your perspective as the "dropped off". You, my dear, give me hope because of your sensitivity to this subject at your young age. You will be a wonderful adult and parent! I know thru you how my girl felt! Thank you.

I actually envy you, Brad, because that was the best and the worst time of my life because of the love I had and have for my daughter. I miss that time as well as all the others we shared. Time is fleeting and is not really known until you have been there. Really, really everyone, enjoy every minute and experiance with your children! Brad, this is great therapy, thank you for such a great idea. Have a great weekend, but, I am sorry, it will NOT be easier on Sunday. But you will be near your room, know what I mean? Love, David

Love that golf pic!!!!

Good morning my friend. You made me laugh about the raccoon, and now you're going to make me cry? LOL!!! I know right where the room is...yes...I know what you mean! (HUGE SMILE)!

I am focusing on Seans Future, his successes, and looking forward with great anticipation to his destiny, my legacy...really...My tears are only those of joy and happiness for him now, I have the memories, the photos, the videos, the baby clothes and stuffed animals, but more than all that, I have him in my heart and nothing or no one can ever take that away from me. My weakness has really been my own strength! Of course having good friends like you David makes it a little easier to play MACHO when we both know the real story....We Are But MEN! Right? LOL! I will enjoy every second of every moment of every day with my kids that are home still. Time waits for no one and moves faster the older we get. Thanks for reminding me to value that time with my children. You are a good man!!

Time for bed...I am going to San Francisico this morning in 6 more hours to the Bloggers Connect at the Real Estate Connecty Conference. Better get some shut eye...Ciao for now David. B-)

PS. Sean loves to golf with me, I had to put that one up...thanks!

Brad- Congrats to you and your son. The two of you have the one thing that so many lack- a true, loving, supportive relationship. It's a testimonial to what a wonderful parent you have been and will continue to be and what a fine man your son is. I wish him the best as he tackle his new school!

Brad - yes, there is "Grad Day" yet to come. There was my son's graduation from elementary school (he was sort of a valedictorian at age 11), then there was graduation from junior high school, then high school and then University, all of which were emotional. Next spring there are two more to come as my son will have completed his Masters Degree. There are to be two ceremonies - one in Vancouver, B.C. and the other in Arizona. I plan on attending both. Emotions will run rampant I am sure. Happy 21st birthday to your son - a milestone that you both will feel very emotional about. Saying goodbye the second, the third, the fourth, the fifth time........... does get a "slight" bit easier each time. Not much though. Have fun and enjoy your time on Sunday.

Christina - thanks for you congrats comment. I appreciate your positive and kinds words. Again, thank you. :-)

Cheryl-Anne, sounds like you've been through the gammit of emotions and lifes child raising experiences. I look up to people like yourself who have lived through these times with their children and families, and come out in the long run that much stronger and prouder! I can tell you are very proud of your son and you should be. Us parents can only take so much credit. The truth is, kids now-a-days have to really apply themselves, it's not the same was when I was a kid. I'll let Sean know you wished him a happy B-Day! Thanks for your comment and for sharing a bit of your personal experiences here with me. :-)

My son hates it when I call hin son, he always says....OK FATHER (lovingly but sarcastic) I have to remember he is a young man now, and I probably shouldn't call him "Sunshine" anymore either. I guess I will just call him by the name I"ll always know as my legacy.... SEAN!

Just FYI - Quick update... Sean scored 48 out of 50 on his very first Cal Poly Stats test... "WOOHOO!!!!"
I just found out, I was at the Bloggers Connect all day in San Francisco. This is great news for Sean and for us. I am just so darn proud of this kid!! He's only just begun!! :-)

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2007

Brad - I relate to this is so many ways. My children have left for college, gotten married and moved on with their lives. I have one 20 year old left at home. Through it all, they have made their father and I proud. The emotional roller-coaster never ends though..........It is our inherent nature to want to protect our children from life and yet, we know they must face the challenge on their own.

It sounds like you have done a fabulous job preparing your son for creating his own legacy.

I am with you, if all I am ever known for is being a wonderful, loving Mom, I am happy.

Way to go, Sean! I think that is an "A"

Paula - Thanks! The roller coaster can be looked at as a scary thing, or an exciting thing. I am choosing the exciting thing for what happens in the future of Seans life and for my other kids as well. They are all my Legacy and I have the responsibility to make sure that their roller coaster ride is an exciting ride and full of adventure and thrills...no matter how emotional it gets for me. BTW - You are a wonderful Mom, so be happy!! You deserve that!! You have earned it!!!!! :-)

AUG

2007

Brad,

family will be a legacy always, :) including our appreciated sons or daugthers.

Ray Saenz

Said best by Ray Saenz!!

AUG

2007

Brad

:)

Ray Saenz

Here's a shot with Sean and I at his 21st Surprise Birthday party last week:

HAPPY 21st, BIRTHDAY SEAN MICHAEL!!
LOVE DAD!

AUG

2007

Brad - beautiful photo. "Sunshine" looks extremely happy and so do you. Congratulations on his great score also. Sounds like he is doing well which is what we all hope for our children. The whole world is out there just waiting for our children to make their mark and the opportunities are endless. I just received an email journal from my son who is presently working in Taiwan for six weeks. He has been able to see so much of the world both through work and vacation. It is humbling at times to think that at age 28 he has seen more of the world than I will see in my entire lifetime. Another emotional roller coaster that is as exciting for me as it is for my son!

Way to go Sean on your scores and success so early in life. And happy birthday young man! Sounds like you will do great in life and you have excellent role models in your parents. I know us old folks like to tell you, enjoy every moment because it zooms by, but it does. You WILLnot believe it when you are on stage receiving your degree!!!! It's that quick. Regards, DavidC

Hey Brad, knock the "sunshine" off old man, he-he, my girl calls me 'father' when I let a "princess" slip out, esp. in public!!! Ouch, the look I get!

I am so happy for you and your family!

Cheryl - he is doing GREAT!! I am so proud of him! Sounds like your son is doing some great things in Taiwan. The roller coaster ride is one to be enjoyed and remembered for years to come. Congrats on all your sons achievements and your success in raising him. Great job!! :-)

David - he is my sunshine, been calling him that since birth, but you're right, I do not make a habit of doing that in public, he's big enough now to give me a real go if he wanted to. LOL! But he wouldn't. haha

Thanks David for all your support, your kind words, and most of all, your friendship! You're a good man and very much appreciated by your friends and family. Make sure you tell your daughter that "princess" is something she should be proud of, that's what I call my wife, and she loves it!! Only because she is!! :-)

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2008

JUL

What a great post, the message here is something every parent and child experiences at some point in their lives. Thanks for sharing this...very touching.

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