Liar, liar, pants on fire! Well, I guess I could have titled this "Every lie takes an hour off your life." I must be honest, the childhood chant was a shameless attempt to get your attention.
I have this quandary and I am curious what my fellow Rainers think. A long time ago, I made the active decision to never lie, and I mean NEVER. Not to myself (no pretending I look like I did when I was 20,) not to my children (yes, that includes Santa Claus,) not to anyone. This is how my family lives, quite happily, although my husband is still working on the tact end of total honesty. It works for us and I can sleep at night - every night.
I am not a prude, a saint, or a righteous person holding on to some grand ideal. Aside from the normal ethics concepts, I subscribe to total honesty for purely selfish reasons. Guilt is an emotion I have no use or desire for and I discovered as a teenager just how annoying and difficult it can be to remember who you said what to and maintain a lie. This brings me to my quandary.
I don't run around announcing to people that I don't lie, it has just come up a few times when others have asked me to participate in their lies or just outright lie for them. I am constantly amazed by the shock in their faces when I answer "no." Apparently there is this whole sliding scale out there of lies that I must not understand. Many people I have discussed this with don't even consider their "untruths" to be lies.
I firmly believe, you can go through life, even work in sales as we do, even negotiate aggressively, and not lie- I've done it. It can be challenging to remain tactful, but the challenge is half the fun. I know there are those who disagree with me. I think my deep, dark, bold line in the sand is easy not to cross, especially in real estate. We are not supposed to lie anyway!
I am disappointed in my apparent lack of ability to get others to understand that losing the lies, even the "little" ones could add years to their lives! Imagine your life without the guilt and stress of all those little lies. It does build up. I know it's not my job, or even my place to change other people. I guess I had just hoped that there would be someone who would get it and enjoy the benefits of ceasing the lies. What do you think? Could you go 24 hours without a single lie? Do you think the varying degrees of lies makes a difference?
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