Assume the Best, Baby... Assume the Best

I'm another one who loves your mantra -- short, pithy, wise. Thanks!

So it's not all about me?!  It is very freeing to know the world is not picking on us--we can end the pity party and move on with high expectations of better things to come.

I actually drive my husband and family nuts because I always try to "rationalize" why something was said or done and assume it wasn't intentionally. I've gotten the sarcastice nickname "Pollyanna" at times because of that, but truthfully, this way makes me happier and I think I'm easier to be around because of that attitude. I know it's easier to be in my skin that way.

Jennifer, you are a wise young lady. I  realized after sulking, pouting and all the tools to hurt people, that life went on in their lives, but I was the one that was hurting and have it grow inside of me.  I wasn't hurting them at all. When I saw what was happening, I was able to "grow up" and instead of running and beating myself up, just asked the person outright, why they said or did what they did.  Many times they apologized and said they didn't realize what they said was hurting me. That was the end of the incident, which only took minutes, instead of me dragging it out for hours, months, even years. WOW, It even works in my marriage. Isn't that a treat?

So the world is not really out to get me? What a relief! I try to assume the best of people and their motives until proven wrong - which is rare!

There should be a featured post like this everyday.

Great thoughts to ease the pain of a deal gone bad! Thanks for the uplifting words

I have been reading the book, "How to win friends and influence people" and I have grown up a lot in the weeks that I have been reading it. Oh...it has not taken me weeks to read it but I have read it 2-3 times in the couple of weeks.  Tremendous book.

Glad you put this is black and white Jennifer. A few years ago I caught myself with all these negative thoughts and emotions. I shocked myself - actually scared myself! From that day on, I made a conscience effort to remember there are two sides to all stories and I cannot *assume* the worst. It's much easier today but it was a struggle at first.

Amazing how much better my day goes when I assume the best! When I step out in love and not fear! When I do this all with intention!

Thanks for the reminder!

Well Hello Jennifer my friend and what a wonderful post and I see"The Gods" really like it also! I have featured your very well written post to keep it alive and because it's fun of love ...........

LOVE AT ACTIVERAIN

Robert

What a treat to read such a refreshing post!  And the comments have been excellent -- I like what Dorie #18 said, about the atmosphere around you starting with you and your attitude!

This usually has better results than pouting and whining, plus it's just a nicer way to live life.

Jennifer, these are certianly words to live by...not just in personal life and business but in the great cosmic expanse of the universe! I have found that no matter what is happening, if I approach the situation with a positive attitude and a smile, things that are already going well, continue to go well and things that have not got as well as I would have like tend to get better. Thanks for posting the idea as a good reminder!

I always try to assume the best about people. Sometimes they make it very difficult to do that, but usually I am right. Thanks for the uplifting post.

One of your best advice posts; now to follow =)

Great advice,  I try to remember that I have no idea what troubles they have gone through to get to where they are now.

Thanks for the positive reinforcement...we all need it from time to time! 

Really good advice...tough to do, but necessary.  Thanks for the post...I'm taking it to heart.