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Really, I Am Not A Bitch - Please Respect My Need For Personal Safety!

By
Real Estate Broker/Owner with RED Properties NC #129285

I don't know why, but I still find it amazing when Potential Buyers get mad at me for not dropping everything at a moments notice and meeting them at a vacant house.  Mind you, complete strangers! 

By my nature, I am a friendly person, never met a stranger and can ALWAYS strike up a conversation. I love meeting new people and
Realtor Safetyfinding out what they are about, how they live their life, what they enjoy and what we have in common.  My career also dictates that I have this pre-determined outgoing nature - I mean, really?  How can one sell Real Estate if they don't like meeting new people.

What may be one of my greatest assets could one day be my demise if I didn't adhere to my own personal "Code of Safety" and listen to my common sense.  There are simple rules that I self-administer and well, quite frankly, if a Buyer or Seller can not appreciate them and/or respect them then we simply weren't meant for each other.

  1. I will NEVER respond to an email from a stranger and agree to meet them at a vacant home.
  2. I will NEVER respond to a phone call from a stranger and agree to meet them at a vacant house.
  3. I will NEVER host an Open House by myself.
  4. I will NEVER work with any buyer until there has been rapport established and identity verified.
  5. I will NEVER meet a COUPLE at a vacant home. 

If you call me/email me and I don't know you then be prepared to meet in a public place, answer questions, and verify your identity I am a wife, a mother, a daughter, an aunt, a friend to many and I love my life and security. 

If a Buyer can not respect these wishes and rules of mine then perhaps they are better suited with another Realtor®.  Keep in mind, though, I am not a bitch,  I am just smart.

Recent cases of Unpleasant Realities*:

  • St. Louis, MO - A man posing as a home buyer waited until he got a 24 year old real estate agent in an unfinished aprt of the basement and then pulled out a handgun.  He handcuffed her and sexually assaulted her, at one point putting a knife to her throat.  Afterward, he robbed her and warned her not to scream for help before leaving her alone in the new home she thought he wanted to buy.
  • Liberty Township, OH - A man wearing a ski mask showed up at a model home.  The on-site agent immediately asked the man to leave and closed the model home's door, but the agent later found the man standing inside the garage.  The man grabbed her, but she fought him off and he fled the scene.
  • Cary, NC - A man registered in a neighborhood's model home, then asked to see homes in the community.  Once the agent had taken the man to another home in the development, the man pulled out a knife and attacked the agent.  She was bound and sexually assaulted. 

*cited from the 2009-2010 NC Real Estate Update Course

The incident in Cary NC, for those of you that don't know, was literally 10 minutes away from me.  While many may always have the feeling "that could never happen here" - THINK AGAIN!

Realtor SafetyI would be remiss if I didn't also mention an incident that happened to my West Coast Sister, Cristal Drake.  She was robbed at an Open House in July 2009.  I'll never forget how I felt when I read her post - she really is my kindred and I just can't imagine.  You can read about her unfortunate event at her blog post......  Be On The Lookout for These Open House Thieves! North Orange County Agents PLEASE READY!

I don't care if you are a SEASONED AGENT or NEW TO THE BUSINESS - NO SALE IS WORTH YOUR PERSONAL SAFETY! 
End of story and there really is no discussion needed.  There are many tips that I could give as both an agent and a Broker-In-Charge.....

  • ALWAYS have new clients meet you at your office or public place such as coffee shop, etc.
  • When at all possible - have another agent go with you when working with new clients.
  • If you get that icky feeling - ALWAYS go with your instincts!
  • Have a code word set up between you and your office so that when you are out and about showing you can call your office and they will instantly know that you need help.
  • ALWAYS leave an itinerary of where you are showing with either your BIC or another agent in the office.
  • Keep you cell phone on you at ALL times!  Have 911 programmed into speed dial.
  • There are many "tools" that are available for protection now available nationwide through the various Association of Realtors® offices - explore them and find one that you are comfortable with.

And for all of you buyers reading this right now.  Yes, you are what keeps me going in my career and without you I wouldn't be as successful as I am.  However, there are quite a few "YOU'S" out there and if you can't respect my wishes then how can I possibly respect yours?

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Comments(140)

Kerry L Klun, Broker/Owner
Palm Realty - Melbourne, FL
321-626-5868

After a number of years in the business, I think it's easy to become complacent.  Thanks for putting it out there!

May 13, 2010 12:07 PM
Jane Peters
Home Jane Realty - Los Angeles, CA
Los Angeles real estate concierge services

And then there was the one here in L.A. not so long ago.  I am not sure of the details, but an agent sent to show a vacant open house which was on lockbox only to find the dead body of a male realtor.  Great advice, and some of the tips you are provided were cited after that discovery.

May 13, 2010 01:11 PM
Eric Michael
Remerica Integrity, Realtors®, Northville, MI - Livonia, MI
Metro Detroit Real Estate Professional 734.564.1519

I don't think you're a bitch at all! I think you're a person who kinda wants to make it home each night to your family. I'm kinda the same way.

May 13, 2010 02:23 PM
Jason Crouch
Austin Texas Homes, LLC - Austin, TX
Broker - Austin Texas Real Estate (512-796-7653)

Leesa - There was a murder here in Austin a few years ago - the guy wanted to see a FSBO and the female seller allowed him into the house.  Makes a strong case for having a Realtor, but a terribly sad story nonetheless.

May 13, 2010 02:45 PM
Cheryl Ritchie
RE/MAX Leading Edge www.GoldenResults.com - Huntingtown, MD
Southern Maryland 301-980-7566

Loan pre approval serves a lot of useful purposes. This added step enhances self protection in more ways than one.

May 13, 2010 03:23 PM
R. Michael Brown
R. Michael Brown LLC Digital Marketing & Public Relations - Lake Placid, FL
Communication that increases sales!

Leesa:
Yes! You must protect yourself! As a sales and marketing director with over 80 new home communities, I stressed safety above all else.  As big and ugly as I am, I wouldn't do the things you recommend against.  Other managers used to look at me funny when I told sales execs to NOT go in a model home alone with buyers.  I guess I spent too many years in public safety before real estate to trust anyone.  I believe in what you recommend and the buddy system. 

May 13, 2010 03:33 PM
Joan Whitebook
BHG The Masiello Group - Nashua, NH
Consumer Focused Real Estate Services

This is so important... I follow the same rules... it is important for all of us to be safe.  I had a very scary encounter last year and it was not fun!

May 13, 2010 04:29 PM
Debe Maxwell, CRS
Savvy + Company (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
The RIGHT CHARLOTTE REALTOR!

Hi Leesa!  Congrats on that little gold star first off!  I'm not too proud to be called bitchy either--never putting yourself in harms way is not bitchy though!  I think you're one smart cookie and you're doing what you should do.  I have to say that in the past, I've been a little too brave--I think that since I'm an Amazon Woman, no one will try to harm me but, as I've aged, I've realized that I'm not as tough as I once thought I was!  Our office strictly adheres to these policies to keep their agents safe and I am glad that they do. 

The articles that Nevin shares are great reminders for those who think as I used to!

Happy Friday...

May 13, 2010 05:06 PM
Gary Swanson
Century 21 Harris & Taylor - Grants Pass, OR

Leesa, I think you are super-smart.  This is such good advice for anyone who is self-employed or works on their own.  Even an old guy like me makes sure I let someone know where I'm going to be at any given time.

May 13, 2010 05:18 PM
Rhonda Burgess
Southern Living Realty Partners - Smyrna, TN
Moving to Nashville TN Real Estate Specialist

I'm with you - my safety comes first.

May 13, 2010 05:50 PM
Rhonda Burgess
Southern Living Realty Partners - Smyrna, TN
Moving to Nashville TN Real Estate Specialist

I'm with you - my safety comes first.

May 13, 2010 05:50 PM
Darrel Cook CRS, GRI, Broker
Darrel Cook Real Estate Service - Jonesboro, AR

Not only is it a safety factor, But a Professional one, I can Remember back in the day, When they

Would be Tv adds by the Realtors Assoc, That would say list your home with a Realtor, They show

show your homes to qualified buyers. I wish that was still true of Realtors. 

It amazes me how I would here an agent on phone duty take a call and rush out. Show someone

a house Without Even knowing if that person could buy that price range. This is one reason I work

very few week ends, If the buyer calls me at 8am on Saturday morning to see a house, Then they

be disapointed, If I had plans already. If I have no plans, then I will agree to meet with them, At my

office so I can pre Quail them, No need for me to bother a lender, I know how to figure ratios, and

Ask questions, before we burn gas, and cause a seller to have to leave for a showing. Your post is

about safety. But at the same time, We as Realtors would be more professional If we would go back

to requiring set down, talk , instead of running and unlocking doors to a stranger.

May 13, 2010 06:44 PM
Tawny Lynn
Washington First Mortgage Loan Corporation - Seattle, WA
NMLS-57806 Loan Officer Mortgage Originator

And it is not just the gals that need to be careful. Bad things can happen to anyone even guys. Michael Emert was a seasoned 40-year old vetern real estate agent working for Windermere in Bellevue, WA. He was found murdered in a home for sale by the seller.

 http://realtytimes.com/rtpages/20010111_safety.htm

May 13, 2010 07:11 PM
Gabe Sanders
Real Estate of Florida specializing in Martin County Residential Homes, Condos and Land Sales - Stuart, FL
Stuart Florida Real Estate

Great post and very true.  People just need to understand today's world and be willing to take the proper precautions.

May 14, 2010 12:41 AM
Lizette Fitzpatrick
Lizette Realty - Richmond KY - Lexington, KY
Lizette Realty, Lexington KY MLS - Kentucky Homes

I think good sense come with time in the business and successful closings so that there is money in the bank. When an agent is desperate for money they will meet anyone and take chances. I've had a few of those moments I've felt unsafe.

May 14, 2010 03:04 AM
Gail Robinson
William Raveis Real Estate - Southport, CT
CRS, GRI, e-PRO Fairfield County, CT

Great reminder!  Thank you.

May 15, 2010 02:02 AM
Damon Gettier
Damon Gettier & Associates, REALTORS- Roanoke Va Short Sale Expert - Roanoke, VA
Broker/Owner ABRM, GRI, CDPE

Leesa, I am a 38 year old, Army Veteran, ex prison guard in a Maximum Security Prison, 6 ft tall, 268 lb man who is in the gym every morning before work, I carry a Kimber .45 and/or a Kel Tec .32 daily.....and I don't do any of the things you don't do, so don't feel bad!

May 15, 2010 04:21 AM
Raylene Estabrook
Signature Homes Real Estate Group - Yarmouth, ME

As a fellow Realtor and the wife of a police detective. Thank you for sharing this reminder for our fellow agents. I too put my safety first at all times. No deal is worth a worst case senario. Safety First!!!

May 18, 2010 05:37 AM
Leesa Finley
RED Properties - Wake Forest, NC
RED Properties - Raleigh NC Real Estate

Thanks again to everyone who has helped to spread this message by way of reblogs and all of your comments!  Some of you have also shared some pretty scary stories that have hit home for you as well - so sad.

May 20, 2010 01:32 AM
Inna Ivchenko
Barcode Properties - Encino, CA
Realtor® • GRI • HAFA • PSC Calabasas CA

Leesa Finley 

your message is still very important.

We always need to remember to stay safe. Meeting someone for the first time in a vacant house is simply insane. And if the client does not understand why and becomes mad......., the agent should not take such client.

Dec 05, 2014 06:45 PM