Have you ever wished that your words were like a fishing line? 

     Ever cast your line only to find that it ended up far from its intended target? Perhaps dangling from that low hanging branch you were so sure you could avoid? I would imagine that anyone who has ever gone fishing has had this happen at least once.

      This can happen with our words as well.  

     Have you ever had something come out of your mouth that you wished you could reel back in quickly, before anyone noticed? It seems that sometimes our mouths work much, much faster than our brains. We hear our own words spill out of our mouths and then wish immediately we could take them back. . Perhaps it wasn’t even the words that were the problem, maybe you just used a tone of voice that was much harsher than you intended. I bet anyone with children can relate to that.  Maybe we’ve had a bad day or are just in a rotten mood for whatever reason.  

     Unfortunately, once the words are out, they’re out. Dangling from that tree for all the world to see. You can’t reel it back in. Your bad day doesn’t really matter any more. So how do we avoid situations like this?  What do we do if we slip up and say something in the  heat of the moment that could have been worded differently or was better left unsaid at all?

     I would love to hear from some of you on how you avoid these situations, or how you have handled it if you’ve found yourself in this situation in the past.

 
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14 Comments on Tangled 'Lines'

AUG
18
2007
146,627 Points 5 Featured Posts Outside Blog

Yes I know the feeling- trust me. It's too bad that we jump the gun and spill out what we want to say or even say something not exactly what we expected- then we regret it later.

I feel you!

2:29pm • #1
Hi Maureen and thanks for stopping by.  Guess we've all been there and done that at one time or another. 
5:05pm • #2
AUG
20
2007
288,256 Points Outside Blog
 I think the best way to slow down your mouth is to actively work on becoming a better listener. If you are concentrating on actually hearing and listening to what is being said it will give you a moment or so to stop some ridiculous thing from exiting your mouth. The secret is to slow down the conversation.
1:50pm • #3
AUG
27
2007
Hi Hugh and thanks for stopping by. I agree, being a good listener is essential.
10:00pm • #4
AUG
28
2007
146,627 Points 5 Featured Posts Outside Blog
Yes Hugh- I agree- sometimes we don't listen as much as we should and that really is a big rule that we can not ignore in real estate- got to know what the clients wants and needs are so we can make their goals happen!
4:20pm • #5
SEP
12
2007
Don Imus is the perfect example, and he talks fast.  Most fast talkers are talking while they're thinking, when they should be thinking first and then talking.   Slow down, and you'll probably catch yourself before you say something hurtful.
3:35pm • #6
SEP
13
2007
I agree Patsy. Sometimes if we can make ourselves take the time to think through what we want to say, we can avoid saying what we shouldn't. 
8:34am • #7
146,627 Points 5 Featured Posts Outside Blog
There are times I just want to let my mouth run ahead of my thinking and it is hard sometimes to bite your tongue, but you got to do it!!!
8:55pm • #8
OCT
05
2007
OCT
19
2007

I find myself doing that with my children more than clients.  And trust me, I feel a million times worse when I speak in anger/frustration to the boys.

I try to really be "in the moment" when speaking to them.  But it's not always easy...

8:36pm • #10
OCT
20
2007
Open mouth and insert foot.  Happens to me more often than I would care to admit.  Also sometimes when I'm nervous I start to blab and I just can't stop.  I need to slow down, listen more and think before I talk.  Easier said than done sometimes!
9:03pm • #11
JAN
12
2008
Melissa, Oh my gosh. My wife and I ahev talked about reeling the words back in for years! Did you bug our house? :) Great post.
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10:56pm • #12
FEB
22
2008
231,333 Points 64 Featured Posts Outside Blog

Where'd you go, girl?  

Wanna go to C Gallery for lunch? :) Call me!!!

4:21pm • #13
NOV
21
2008
249,184 Points 1 Featured Post

Thanks for the great advice. I will check back often. I really like the blog. I am new at blogging but I am beginning to learn quite a bit from reading blogs like the ones I find on Active Rain. If I can ever be of help just visit my blog or my website: http://yournowwhat.com   

                                                                 Thanks, Terry

12:13am • #14

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