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Are You Married and Don't Even Know It?

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Services for Real Estate Pros with Alamo City Homes Magazine

Instead of getting married and moving in together, a lot of couples are skipping the former and just going to the latter. 

             "It's just easier this way!"

             "I'm just trying to see if marriage with this person is going to work out."

             "I don't need a peice of paper to tell me what I am!"

You've heard it all before. Maybe you've even said it yourself. Maybe you're doing it right now.  Now this article is not to judge anyone. You might have to talk to one if things don't work out too well in the end. First you have to prove if you were even married in the first place.

To Prove A Common Law In Texas

In order to get married, whether with a ceremony  or common law, all parties must possess the required capacity to get married.  In order for a marriage to be valid in Texas, the parties in question must:

  1. Be a man and a woman
  2. Not have been divorced with in the past thirty days
  3. Not be presently married to a third party
  4. Be 18 years of age, unless the underage party has received an order from the court giving them permission to marry, or show proof of consent from parents
  5. Not be releated as an ancestor or decendant, related by blood or adoption, nor be siblings by whole of half blood, nor be the child of a brother or sister by whole or half blood

Practically, like a ceremonial marriage, the parties of an informal marriage must be of the opposite sex, be of legal age, and have no legal qualms above, such as those dealing with kinship or currently married.

The Three Prong Test

To find the existence of a common law or informal marriage, it is only justified if the evidence determines that the parties have agreed to be married, that they lived together in Texas as husband and wife, and they have represented themselves publically as being married. All three of these requirements must exist at the same time. 

In short, if it looks like a duck, acts like a duck, and quacks like a duck, it's a marriage!

If there is any question about any situation you're in and it's legal classification, please contact an attorney.

Comments(14)

Nicolette Ceballos, Fountain Valley Now Serving all of California
Bilingual Escrow Officer - Fountain Valley, CA
I really liked this post.  I think it's a great post and it's very true.  MANY people now do this and there is nothing wrong with, I think.  Thanks for the info.  I am curious to see what the other states consider common law marriage to be...
Aug 08, 2007 06:23 AM
Erica Wallace
the Wallace Consulting Group - Boston, MA
Great post. I think we will be seeing this more and more. Most of my friends are not married now in the 28-30 age group and some are also living with their boyfriend/girlfriend - I will forward this to them. Thanks again. 
Aug 10, 2007 11:01 AM
Calie Waterhouse
Chandler, AZ
Community Builder

Eric - In all my months here on A/R, this is the first post I have come across on common law.  Decades ago when I got married (in CA)- it seemed like "everyone was doing it" - now a days, seems like people are shying away from the legalities of it or afraid of becoming another divorce statistic.  I'm going to forward this to a few of my friends.  Thanks.

Aug 10, 2007 03:03 PM
The TaxMan
Self Employed - Oakland, CA
I wish I was married and didn't know about it... my wife doesn't let me forget for a minute!
Aug 11, 2007 04:29 PM
Leigh Bates
Atlantic & Pacific Real Estate - Flower Mound, TX
The Trinity Group
Great Post! I think it's a very interesting subject!
Aug 11, 2007 05:00 PM
Maureen Maureen
Orangeburg, NY
There are 15 states that recognize common law marriage.  I always thought that if you lived together for 7 years or more you had a common law marriage.  That is what we always heard growing up in Brooklyn.  It turns out NY doesn't even recognize common law marriage and none of the states have any time frame in the CL guidelines.  hmmmm  You learn something new every day. 
Aug 12, 2007 01:21 AM
Arina Hanciulescu
RealtyPros - Las Vegas, NV
RealtyPros

I heard this before... about this common law marriage in Texas and it is a great one! With such smart and uncomplicated law Texas should be having the greatest increase in population...

To bad I am the old fashion one and believe in a traditional marriage with all the papers and all the crap!

Aug 12, 2007 07:05 PM
Barbara-Jo Roberts Berberi, MA, PSA, TRC - Greater Clearwater Florida Residential Real Estate Professional
Charles Rutenberg Realty - Clearwater, FL
Palm Harbor, Dunedin, Clearwater, Safety Harbor
Glad I live in Florida!
Aug 16, 2007 08:28 AM
Ann Krewson
A.L.I. Designs, Inc. - Houston, TX
A.L.I. Designs; Staging Houston Homes; Allied Member of A.S.I.D.
I am from Texas and I just recently go remarried. I lived with my husband for two years before we got married. Its funny that we were basically legally married years before the actual ceremony!
Aug 16, 2007 09:38 AM
Valarie Grisham
Keller Williams - Lake Stevens, WA
i never knew this...thanks for the insightful post....
Aug 17, 2007 02:17 PM
Cheri Smith
Prudential Gary Greene, Cypress TX - Cypress, TX
Realtor Prudential Gary Greene

Speaking as a Texan......my husband had to go to mediation with his ex-wife. She'd been living with this guy she left my husband for for about 5 years. At the mediation she announces she and her bf just got married. Our attorney asked how the wedding went and she said there was no wedding, they just decided they wanted to be common law married and so they said a few words in front of the kids holding hands. Our attorney, her attorney and the mediator ALL said, well, it takes more than just declaring you are married to be married in the state of Texas. Our attorney figures she did that because she thought we were going to try to make her look bad living in "sin" because of our religious beliefs. She said..".well my brother lives in California and he told us that was all we needed to do. In our eyes we are married. " This same woman posted on classmates.com that she was divorced and would never get remarried right next to the pic of her and her boyfriend. She still uses her maiden name. They had a child together. In my eyes, they are not married. They are not fully committed. They are playing a waiting game. They don't want to make that final committment. You could say that a guy is a Realtor or an agent but without his LICENSE he most certainly is not a Realtor or agent. I say that without a marriage license.....you are creating just as much a scam as someone trying to practice real estate without a license. If you are really truly committed to someone, which is what a marriage is supposed to be, then the license is just a formality but a NECESSARY formality just as it is in real estate.

Aug 18, 2007 05:30 AM
Tricia Jumonville
Bradfield Properties - Georgetown, TX
Texas REALTOR , Agent With Horse Sense

I'm married both common law and "traditionally" - in the State of Texas.  Way back in the day, my current husband and I decided, after living together for a while, to get married common law, which was a new law in Texas.  You could go down and register with the county clerk's office and, voila!  You were married.  (What can I say, I'm an old hippy.)

We were living in Dallas County at the time and went down to do that.  A little backstory:  the County Clerk of Dallas at that time didn't like the new law and publicly announced that he was not going to honor it.  Oh, yes, you will, said the State Legislature (and his bosses, too).  So we went down to register in his office. 

When we finished doing what they told us we needed to do and were leaving, we got on the courthouse steps and looked carefully at the document and realized that they had given us a marriage license.  NOT what we had asked for.  So we went back upstairs and pointed this out.  The woman pouted a bit, said, "Well, we can't unfile it, and we can't refund your money, but we can go ahead and register you common law if you REALLY want us to!"  We did, and they did.  You had to declare a date on which you started living together, which we did.

Then we decided, what the heck, we have a marriage license, let's have a wedding.  So we pulled together a wedding in two weeks time (the license expired in two weeks).  We therefore have THREE "anniversary dates" - the date we gave that we started living together, the date we filed for common law, and the date of the actual wedding.  We count the day we filed for common law as our real anniversary, as that's when WE declared that we were.

The marriage, by the way, has lasted for over 35 years thusfar. 

 

Aug 18, 2007 06:16 AM
Jeffrey Malburg
RE/MAX Acclaim - Roseville, MI
That's interesting! I'll have to see if the same thing applies in Michigan?
Aug 20, 2007 09:28 AM
Stephen Joos & Chris Brubaker- HouseFront
HouseFront - Denver, CO
I think a lot of people are living together these days, and don't know the legal obligations they are falling into.  More people need to know the actual laws about living together and marriage.  Thanks for the post, great info.
Aug 20, 2007 12:02 PM