Special offer

Losing The Spark But Seeing The Light...

By
Real Estate Agent with I.V.P.G. - Inland Valley Professional Group

Hi All,

Long time, no talk.  I know that after Inman I pretty much fell off the face of the earth for a while, but I think I really needed to.  The Project Blogger experience was one of the most intense in my life and I really needed to regroup, re-evaluate and re-energize myself a bit before I sallied forth yet again.

I think I lost a little bit of my "spark" but I don't think that was necessarily a bad thing.  Here's why... I love to write, generally speaking it comes easily to me and, believe me I am very grateful for that.  But, as much as I love to write, I love knowing that what I write is being read and enjoyed.  I feel a great responsibility to those of you who choose to read my offerings and, as a result, I don't want to pump out meaningless drivel. 

But, while I am blessed with the ability to string words together, that takes time.  Sometimes a lot of time.  Sometimes a WHOLE lot of time.   It was not unusual while the contest was going on for me to spend six, seven or eight hours or more in front of my computer each and every day, not working on my business per se, but writing here and on Route66Living.com.  And, if I was not writing, I was reading. 

You can't keep that schedule up and not have something suffer in the process.  Either the writing quality was going to head straight for the toilet, or my business might.  As you all know, a lead is only a lead if you follow up, and I was finding that I had time for the competition, but not for the follow up.  And, it cost me.  It cost me a whole lot. 

Before I headed off for San Francisco, I had met a family that wanted to see homes while I was gone.  I pulled properties to show them, set a showing date for the Tuesday while I was away (they knew that I would be at a conference but were not willing to wait to view homes until I returned.  I had someone else working with me who would take them out.)  I went over everything with my partner on this project, hit the road for SF and focused entirely on Inman, my visit with Mary and the PB wrap up. 

Long story short, while I was away, I was so focused on my blogging friends, blogging conference and what I was going to write next, that I neglected to call my partner to see how the showing went.  Boy, I wish I had... because the showing didn't.  These prospects didn't get called by her or me, had gotten all fired up to view homes, went out and found another agent and made an offer all before I got home from SF.  My first real buyer's, gone.  Poof! 

Before anyone misunderstands, this is not a "poor me" article, nor is it a finger pointing piece.  But it is the chronicling of a realization.  I realized that I was spending so much time focusing on my blogging efforts that I was neglecting the reason why I started blogging in the first place. 

I am very pleased and proud to say that I am on the first page of Google when you search for a Claremont California Realtor (I was number seven :-) and I am also pleased and proud to say that I am getting clients contacting me from my blogging efforts on my site as well.  So I don't feel that what I have done here or there has been anything but extremely worthwhile and rewarding.  But I do feel that in an effort to not shortchange my readers, I certainly have been shortchanging myself.

Unfortunately, I don't make my living as a writer (I would love to and who knows, perhaps that may be what comes to pass) but, unless I do a better job of time management where writing and followup are concerned, I won't be making my living as a Realtor either.

I am grateful for the lesson learned, and I will never again allow anything like that to happen.  So, ultimately the loss of that potential first sale, may prove to be more valuable as a lesson then it could ever have been as a transaction.

I will of course continue to remain an active part of the Active Rain community, and I look forward to hearing from each and every one of my friends here as I have truly missed you all.  I will also be finishing up writing about my PB experience including my time in San Francisco, my meander back down the coast and most of all what I learned at Blogger's Connect.  And, I will still be writing here for fun.  I just won't be trying to do it all at mach-50 with my hair on fire as I had done. 

So, while I did lose my spark for a little while, I truly feel that I have seen the light.  And what a pretty light it is too.

Take care all, help lots of people and have a wonderful day!

Tisza

Mary Warren
Las Vegas, NV
Tisza...you are an AWESOME writer/bloger and will be just as awesome of a Realtor...all you need to do is keep focused and do all things in moderation.  It's too bad that you had to lose your possible first buyers to figure this out.  But another first buyer will come along SOON.....just keep on keeping on.  We love you here, enjoy reading your posts and don't want you to leave...but you are NOT superwoman :)  Go get 'em girl!
Aug 12, 2007 06:07 PM
ARDELL DellaLoggia
Better Properties Seattle - Kirkland, WA
Sad story, Tisza.  But yes, a good lesson learned the hard way.  It's why we say the only way to become a good agent is to "pay your dues" in blood, sweat and tears.  We all have stories, usually from our 1st listings and not our first buyers.  But don't looke back.  Onward and upward!
Aug 12, 2007 06:09 PM
Mary Pope-Handy
Christie's International Real Estate Sereno - Los Gatos, CA
CRS, CIPS, ABR, SRES, Silicon Valley
Tisza I'm sorry to hear about this. I'm guessing that you did give them your partner's telephone number too, so it may be a loyalty issue as much as a follow up issue.

Something else that you are learning is the downside of real estate: it can be really hard to TRULY take a vacation, to unplug. Having just come back from one myself, I'll admit it: I do not feel rested. This is mostly my own fault because we don't tend to have the lie-on-the-beach kind of vacations but instead the go, go, go kind. But also I was always checking my email and making several calls a day about the biz. (ANd yes, I did have someone covering for me.)

With clients and prospects, know that even really seasons agents don't get 'em all. It's hard when this happens but it's also just part of the field to have some prospects not buy or sell with you (even when you do put in a lot of work).

You'll get the next one!!
Aug 12, 2007 06:47 PM
Brian Brady
Matthews Capital Markets - Tampa, FL
858-699-4590

If it means anything...you're not alone.  Blogging can consume a lot of time.  Time that can be spent showing or financing homes.

You've laid a great foundation; time to reap what you've sown.  Another will call very soon! 

Aug 12, 2007 07:03 PM
Kaushik Sirkar
Call Realty, Inc. - Chandler, AZ
Time blogging is potentially a great investment.  But you are right...one truly needs to balance the time put into this investment with other activities that an agent needs to perform....I have definitely cut back in the last month or so in my blogging....
Aug 12, 2007 07:15 PM
Tisza Major-Posner
I.V.P.G. - Inland Valley Professional Group - Claremont, CA
DRE#01784679

Hi All,

Mary - Thanks for the kind words, I plan to get the next one... and the one after that... and the one after that...

ARDELL - The hardest lessons usually are the best learned and the harder I fall, the higher I bounce, right?

Mary - Yes, they had her number and she had theirs, things just got kerfleweed.  The loyalty was not there for sure as they had spent all of their time with me and met her practically in passing.  My error entirely as I need to learn the art of being a balanced control freak - I need to be able to turn over the wheel but not to get out of the car entirely.  Lesson learned.  I am glad to have learned it and now I want to make it a point not to have to learn it again.   Glad you had a good vacation and I am THRILLED to hear that you got your first blogging client. 

Brian - I have every confidence that it will, I just need to make sure that I am using my time wisely.  I need to learn from the masters ;-)

Kaushik - Blogging is a very important activity for me as it is one of my two primary means of prospecting, but prospecting only works if you follow up with the leads.  So, I need to just schedule my time more wisely so that I can be more productive here, there and everywhere.  Quantity is important too, but without quality, it is pretty much worthless.

Take care all, help lots of people and have a wonderful day!

Tisza

Aug 12, 2007 07:35 PM
Chris Griffith
Downing-Frye Realty, Bonita Springs, FL - Bonita Springs, FL
Bonita Springs Listing Specialist - Agent
Everybody needs a break sometime. It was nice to share that you do too.  You're human, not a website after all! :)
Aug 12, 2007 10:21 PM
Cheryl Johnson
Highland Park, CA

Tisza:  You're well on your way to a master's degree <s> -- The $17,000 story a few weeks back, now this one. 

Ardell's and Mary's comments Told It Like It Is. 

I've read some conversations here on AR about "being your own boss"!  What a joke!  In this business, your clients are your bosses.  You say you have 10 clients? Great, you are working for 10 different bosses, and guaranteed, each boss wants you to take care of his or her needs first!  It can be challenging, and no, it does not usually allow for much time to take care of your own needs.

That said .... Do you have some names and numbers of potential buyers from working the Street Fair, or sitting those Open Houses a while back?  Give some of those folks a friendly, non-threatening call or email, ask 'em if they're still looking to buy, tell 'em about anything new that's come on the market and how you'd be delighted to show it to them .......

Aug 12, 2007 11:03 PM
Gary Smith
Agent Marketing Today - Commerce Township, MI

Tisza,  I was glad to see you were finally taking a break.  Keep in mind that whenever you plan a vacation, Murphys Law kicks into overdrive. People you spoke to months before, suddenly want your undivided attention.

Aug 13, 2007 02:18 AM
Tracey Thomas
BrokerInTrust Real Estate - Calabasas, CA
CA Real Estate Broker

Tisza, I understand you how you feel.  Balance is very difficult when you're running your own business.  I was coached by Brian Bufinni many years ago and we spent lots of time learning how to manage our five circles of life and getting them balanced.  The five circles are business, financial, family, spiritual, and personal.

It's tough, but you did the right thing by taking time to regroup and restructure.  It's all part of building a business.  The foundation has to be strong so you can thrive.  Go get em girl!

 

Aug 13, 2007 03:49 AM
Sandi Bauman
Chico Homes Real Estate - Chico, CA
Chico CA Realtor

Tisza,

It truly is ridiculously difficult to balance.  There is only so much time in a day, and it's impossible to accomplish everything we want, all the time.  I always tend to get a little left of center!  Just do the best you can to focus on the most important things.  That was definitely a worthwhile lesson, and one that I'm sure you won't need to repeat  :)

Aug 13, 2007 08:18 AM
Michele Connors
The Overton Group, LLC Pitt & Carteret County - Greenville, NC
Your Eastern North Carolina Realtor
Tisza, The point is you found the lesson in all of this...You have done a fantastic job with the PB and the journey along the way. It is time to spread your wings, go out and be that great Realtor you are and of course, bring back those awesome stories you tell..this time about your successful business !
Aug 13, 2007 08:44 AM
ARDELL DellaLoggia
Better Properties Seattle - Kirkland, WA
I can't believe you don't have a skazillion comments on this post.
Aug 14, 2007 04:55 PM
Harold Watts
Teles Properties - Palm Springs, CA
Palm Springs Real Estate Blog

Tisza,

Trying to create balance in our business & personal lives is probably one of the most difficult things to accomplish.  We have all had "the one that got away", but we just pick ourselves off the ground & shake off the dirt.  You are little wiser now, but just keep the focus on what you want to accomplish with your writings: to grow your business.  Based on what I have read these last few months, you're going to succeed!!

Aug 15, 2007 06:33 PM
Carol Spengel
Prudential Rubloff - Wheaton, IL
Wheaton IL

This may sound obvious, but you need to find another partner.  You were gone (it doesn't really matter where and God forbid it could have been a funeral).  You planned ahead, researched properties, set a date and handed off the information to someone you trusted.  It seems that person owes you an apology for not following through.  Don't beat yourself up over this.  Sherry 

Aug 16, 2007 02:44 PM
Michelle DeRepentigny
Success Realty - Athens, GA
Broker Athens, GA

Crud happens. I've had to make adjustments to my office after taking a few days away several times, it really does show you what systems work and who you can depend on, but it can be a bitter lesson, as you've learned. 

I can only imagine the burnout from PB!  You are an excellent writer and I look forward to seeing more of your musings in the future, but now we know why so many prolific bloggers write shorter posts and use alot of graphics, right?  Not near as much development time, and of course alot less "meat" also than you typically deliver.

Aug 16, 2007 04:58 PM
Kevin Tomlinson
One Sotheby's International Realty- Miami Beach Real Estate - Miami Beach, FL
Miami Beach Real Estate

OH T!

Now that you are in REAL ESTATE -O-SPHERE---Things like this have to happen for you to "pay your dues."  It's tough and sucks and YES you are and should be a REALTOR first and blogger second.  It HAS to be your reality. 

You will come out of the funk, shake it off and feel better than before.  Usually when those things happen to me, I hear about them AT the convention, so it really puts me in a tailspin while I'm there.

I hope the new Tisza emerges all charged up and ready to go.

 

 

Aug 17, 2007 07:06 PM
Deborah Burns ~ Seattle Real Estate Agent
Realty Executives -BRIO - Seattle, WA
Hi Tisza, I have also hit the blog wall from time to time and have disappeared a few times to focus on business.  I am sorry to hear that you suffered some real con$equence$ because of it, but you will reap greater reward$ from your blogging efforts in the long run!
Aug 19, 2007 12:34 AM
Sandra Williams
Rancon Real Estate - Temecula, CA
Awful deal and just hearing about it would blow any Realtor away. Just don't ever look back. I had a broker that said that you can't ever fall in love with any deal because Murphy's Law will come around and knock you down. Just try to put this out of your mind and go on being yourself and you will flourish.
Aug 19, 2007 05:46 PM
Connie Ragen Green
Small Business UnMarketing - Santa Barbara, CA
Online Marketing Strategist
I was in your position when I started in real estate back in 1983. Time management becomes easier over time and, also, you learn how to attract the right clients and other people into your life. Stick with what you love. Your passion will carry you to whatever you want to achieve. The joy truly is in the journey.
Aug 25, 2007 05:51 PM