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Would the virtual YOU like to meet the real YOU? Life lessons from a slow learner.

By
Real Estate Broker/Owner with Richard Weisser Realty

 

The real and virtual personae of the blogger!One of the greatest ancillary benefits of writing a daily blog post is that I have crafted a non-confrontational style of communication.

In order to appeal to the broadest range of readers, it is essential to present information in a manner that is not only informative, but also in a way that is not condescending of offensive.

The result is the genesis of an online persona that is familiar to those that are kind enough to regularly peruse these pages.

The problem is that I have a little trouble when it comes to applying these passive personality principles to the offline world of genuine human interaction.

I have also had a must-win attitude accompanied by a fiery temperament and I have to really work hard at suppressing my urge to pounce on any prey that happens to stand in my way.

I have come to realize that I have an incredible amount of time invested in solidifying an online image of compassion, understanding, and credibility. And so it would be foolhardy to extinguish the authoritative aura of a calm demeanor with a reactionary outburst!

So blogging has not only enhanced my online celebrity.

It has actually made me a better person! One post at a time.

 

Tammy Lankford,
Lane Realty Eatonton, GA Lake Sinclair, Milledgeville, 706-485-9668 - Eatonton, GA
Broker GA Lake Sinclair/Eatonton/Milledgeville

Richard- I really think it would be like looking in the mirror.  Sometimes I don't write for the broader base and figure... like me or don't.  take it or leave it...

Which is why I'm glad I work lead conversion in my office and place some buyers with other agents that are a better fit than me working with them.

Jul 02, 2010 06:03 AM
J. Philip Faranda
Howard Hanna Rand Realty - Yorktown Heights, NY
Associate Broker / Office Manager

My punctuation and verb conjugation is better. 

Jul 02, 2010 06:06 AM
Richard Weisser
Richard Weisser Realty - Newnan, GA
Richard Weisser Retired Real Estate Professional

I think that since we are in the real estate or related industry, we are for the most part, we are all mostly Type "A" personalities, and we want to take control of any situation.

However, sometimes it's interesting to sit back and listen, and all of the fantastic comments seem to indicate that my situation is not much different from the norm!

Jul 02, 2010 07:22 AM
Elliott S. Topkins
Topkins & Bevans-etopkins@topbev.com - Boston, MA
Massachusetts Real Estate and Title Atty

Richard the Lion-Hearted.

You Go, Man!!!

Jul 02, 2010 08:15 AM
Jody Keating
Jody Keating Connective Realty,LLC, Bryan/College Station,TX - Bryan, TX
Broker/MM/Realtor, Bryan / College Station, TX

Richard, really good insite. I tend to be a LITTLE firey myself offline and sometimes thats reflected in my writing which is probably not a really good thing. However for me what you see online is what you get offline.

:)

Jul 02, 2010 08:30 AM
Carla Muss-Jacobs, RETIRED
RETIRED / State License is Inactive - Portland, OR

Words are so powerful, and there's a way to say something in the non-confrontational way.  The written word has a life of its own.  What's on paper is read, and interpreted by the reader -- not by the writer.  Few realize that. 

Jul 02, 2010 08:44 AM
Ann Gravel
Pat Bennett Realty - Plaistow, NH

I am full Italian and believe me it's not easy to contain my emotions.  I grew up in a family that talked over one another and every other day there was some arugment that had to be settled.  So you see Richard, it's good to have emotion and passion and even a little temper....as long as they can be served up in the right place.  I am what I am but, I try to be pleasant because it doesn't cost a penny.  Look forward to your posts.

Ann

Jul 02, 2010 09:41 AM
Vickie McCartney
Maverick Realty - Owensboro, KY
Broker, Real Estate Agent Owensboro KY

Hi Richard~  I am Italian also.  My mother full blooded.  So, I can totally relate to the tempermant you are speaking of.  There are times that I have to really hold back from saying just what I think!  It is much easier to do in writing than it is in person!

Jul 02, 2010 11:35 AM
Pam Turner, REALTOR®, e-PRO®, SFR
Century 21 Belk Realtors Dalton GA - Dalton, GA

If only we could control those real life situations as much as we can our online personality!!! We set the tone in our blogs - but offline, there's always somebody shaking things up!

Jul 02, 2010 01:19 PM
JL Boney, III
Coldwell Banker - Columbia, SC
Columbia, SC Real Estate

I tend to stay pretty laid back whether I am online or not. No need to get too wound up you know.

Jul 02, 2010 01:42 PM
Kate Elim
Dockside Realty - Spotsylvania, VA
Realtor 540-226-1964, Selling Homes & Land a

Hi Richard...What a thought provoking post.  As I was reading it I thought to myself, this deserves to be featured.  I'm so glad it was. 

I hadn't thought about it before but now that I am, I guess I pretty much say what I think most of the time whether blogging or face to face.  However, someone that knows me well might see some difference.  Interesting topic.

Kate

P.S.  I'm 3/4 Irish so I guess fiery could apply to me on occasion.  I can get riled up if I think someone is not being treated fairly.  Well, enough true confessions!

Jul 02, 2010 02:40 PM
Patricia Aulson
BERKSHIRE HATHAWAY HOME SERVICES Verani Realty NH Real Estate - Exeter, NH
Realtor - Portsmouth NH Homes-Hampton NH Homes

I think that the real meaning of what you are saying is often lost in writing. It's much easer in person to say what you really feel I think.

Patricia/Seacoast NH

Jul 02, 2010 02:57 PM
Rob Lang
At Home Kansas - Shawnee, KS
Local Expert in NE Central Kansas Real Estate Home

Keep on keepin on.  Glad that you're seeing growth along the way.

 

Thank you for sharing this post.

Jul 02, 2010 03:13 PM
Ruthmarie Hicks
Keller Williams NY Realty - 120 Bloomingdale Road #101, White Plains NY 10605 - White Plains, NY

Its interesting.  I never thought of you as firey at all.  I'm thought of as that way in my posts, but am not like that in person. 

Jul 02, 2010 04:10 PM
TeamCHI - Complete Home Inspections, Inc.
Complete Home Inspections, Inc. - Brentwood, TN
Home Inspectons - Nashville, TN area - 615.661.029

Richard, congrats on the feature!!! Yes, writing in a non-confrontational way does help with our psyche doesn't it...

Jul 02, 2010 09:36 PM
Stephanie Arnett
Mississippi Magnolia - Starkville, MS
Forbes | Inman | BossBabe | Newsweek | Tom Ferry

Great post.  I'm going with Lenn though...

My hero is Popeye.

"I yam what I yam."

Jul 03, 2010 03:30 AM
John Walters
Frank Rubi Real Estate - Slidell, LA
Licensed in Louisiana

I tend to get a little too political in many of my posts.  I make it no secret I don't care for our current administration in charge.  After all a blog is a representation of your personality. 

Jul 03, 2010 06:06 AM
Speed Equity® Mortgage Acceleration System
Speed Equity® - Olympia, WA
We help your clients Own Their Homes Years Sooner

Point well stated Richard.  

Jul 03, 2010 10:11 AM
Catherine Ulrey
Keller Williams Capital City - Salem, OR
Equestrian and Acreage Property Specialist

An unexpected side effect of blogging!

Jul 04, 2010 09:27 AM
John Howard
Century 21 LeMac Realty - Mountain Home, AR
GRI, Mountain Home, Arkansas 870-404-3614

Richard,  Some of us are more type A than others...I agree that blogging is a concerted effort, and the smart agents will learn to apply what they learn will composing and publishing their blogs to their real estate business!

Jul 04, 2010 04:24 PM