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Is This a One Night Stand or a Relationship

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Mortgage and Lending with C2 Financial NMLS #279125

Most of us would agree that we prefer doing business with people we know and  with who we have established a relationship.  And, the strength of the relationship is built upon trust and mutual respect.  It also usually involves some degree of commitment.  We also know that in the course of time "a little rain must fall".  Some relationships will weather any storm, others fall apart at the gathering is the first storm clouds.



For many years I tried valiantly to protect my clients and agents from any hiccup or obstacles throughout the entire financing process.  In a very real sense, I have always taken the stance that I am personally accountable for every aspect of the lending process.  So, if the appraiser didn't show up, or the title company didn't send the prelim, or the credit bureau didn't send the credit supplement, or the listing agent won't return my call, or the clients didn't tell me about the $600 child support payment.......whatever the "thing" that throws a monkey wrench into a file was.........I took on the accountability and responsibility.



And, in the first two years in the mortgage business I cracked three teeth!  People were always commenting on how calm I was...what they didn't see was the clenched jaws!  Eventually, I learned that, control freak that I was, there is no realistic possibility to guaranteeing a friction free process in something as complicated as mortgage financing.  I can, and do, attempt to look at every situation with a cynics view of "what could possibly go wrong" and do everything possible to navigate around shark infested waters.



But at the end of day, there are other people and procedures (can we say HVCC?) that are out of my control.  I frequently tell clients and agents alike:  "I won't guarantee we won't get in the soup, but I can guarantee I know how to get out of the soup".  And, after over twenty years, I can still say I have managed to successfully close and fund EVERY purchase transaction I have ever originated (unless, of course, the deal fell apart by things outside of the realm of financing). And, I always remind myself that at least 52 people touch every mortgage file...and everyone of them have their opportunity to have a "bad hair day" and cause havoc.



What I look for in all relationships, business and personal, is respect.  And, I based my performance on my respect for ALL parties involved in the entire finance process.  Respect that the clients have trusted me with their largest purchase, respect that every agent literally handed me their  commission check on every file and respect of the processing and underwriting staff by submitting quality files.



Years ago I had a processor named Theresa.  Lovely young woman (so was I at the time....young, that is).  She was not the most focused and organized of people.......which are BAD traits for a processor...but, I was just the loan officer and the broker was her employer.  So, we worked together on my files.  One of my recent clients referred a friend to me for a refinance of an FHA loan.  It should be note the client was in a position to refer me LOTS of business.



So, we gathered the paperwork, submitted the file, ordered the appraisal, cleared all the conditions, and, then.........Theresa did nothing. No docs were ordered.  And, at that time, lenders required 48 hours for docs.  For the clarification of people outside of finance, an FHA loan must be paid in full by the last day of the month or the borrower has to pay a full month of interest with the payoff.  Close on the first and pay thirty days of interest!  In this case, the tab was about $1600.00.



Now, I was in a horrible situation.  I was a single mother and had only been in the business about a year and a half.  And, I needed the money from each and every loan I originated.  But, I also wanted to continue to get referrals and I knew the borrower would be none too happy with paying an additional $1600 on this loan payoff.



In the meantime, Theresa is in a panic.  Lots of tears and apologies.  Broker is threatening to fire her (seems this had happened before).  The whole office is abuzz with news that Deborah was not happy (Nope, I wasn't). 



I took a deep breath and told Theresa to order the docs and we would go forward and close the loan....taking the $1600 out of my commission.  Then I left the office, cried a bit, said some not to nice words, walked and stewed some more...then I calmed down.  I knew Theresa did not mean to make this mistake and I certainly did not want her to lose her job on my account.  I knew at that moment what I had to do.



I went to my favorite florist and ordered a dozen yellow roses (symbol of friendship) and wrote on the card:

"One loan does not a relationship make.  There will be others."  Love, Deborah


Yes, I succeeded in convincing the broker not to fire her.  And, Theresa remained my processor for over two years.  In fact, I left the brokerage to follow her to another brokerage.  After this little hiccup she was completely dedicated to taking care of me and my clients.  In fact, I have never worked with a processor since who was as committed as Theresa was to me. (By the way, I left retail to go into wholesale...only reason we didn't work together much longer).


I cherish the relationships I have built through the years and look forward to developing more quality relationships in the future.

 

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Deborah "Dee Dee" Garvin

NMLS #279125

 

 

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Terry Chenier
Homelife Glenayre Realty - Mission, BC

Deborah,

Good for you for taking the high road. Most people would not have.

Jul 11, 2010 11:30 AM
Anonymous
Jan Mullins

Deborah, where do I start!?  With as many years in this industry, my philosophy has been much the same as yours.  Most of the time it has been to everyone's benefit, and other times I've been "kicked around" by "colleagues" and the "old boys club" for not focusing on the good ol' dollar.

Reciprocal respect is so important in our business, as is doing what needs to be done just because it is the right thing to do.

Your story about Theresa brought a lump to my throat.  That you treated her with dignity and respect...and roses...says so much about you as a person and as a professional.  Your reward was her continued dedication to you and your clients.  You are both credits to our profession.

What an inspiring post.  Thank you.

 

 

Jul 11, 2010 11:43 AM
#66
Speed Equity® Mortgage Acceleration System
Speed Equity® - Olympia, WA
We help your clients Own Their Homes Years Sooner

Great blog Debrah. Thank you for your honesty.

Jul 11, 2010 12:33 PM
Jon Zolsky, Daytona Beach, FL
Daytona Condo Realty, 386-405-4408 - Daytona Beach, FL
Buy Daytona condos for heavenly good prices

Deborah,

Thhis is a very clever post, and I envy your ability to go beyond the anger. I know how difficult it is, and I know how difficult it would have been for me.

I am not sure I would be smart enough to go the yellow roses route, but I sure find it a matter of classs.

Thanks

Jul 11, 2010 12:48 PM
Melissa Merriman
Keller Williams Realty - Irwin, PA
Realtor Irwin PA

nice post Deborah, 

Jul 11, 2010 12:54 PM
Deborah "Dee Dee" Garvin
C2 Financial - San Diego, CA
C2 Financial

Pam,Ya know, I think she got out of the business with her second child.  LOL!

Terry,  My Irish-Scot background coming through.  "Oh ye take the low road and I'll take the high road".  Or, something like that.

Jan, Something tells me I would like to meet you.  Blessings....

Harj, Thank you, count on it...I will remain silent before I will compromise honesty.

Jon, I appreciate your comments very much.  Believe me, it took a little while to calm my spirit.  I wish I could say I have acted with the same grace throughout my life.  I am still a work in progress, I confess.

Melissa, Thank you!

 

Jul 11, 2010 01:21 PM
Barbara Altieri
Better Homes and Gardens RE Shore and Country Properties - Shelton, CT
REALTOR-Fairfield County CT Homes/Condos For Sale

Deborah -- I love how you handled the situation with your processor.  You are the type of person it is a true privilege to work with.  I hope you have been blessed with many good things in return for your kindness.

Jul 11, 2010 01:38 PM
Pippa Mac
Chevaux Group Realtor, The Woodlands and Spring - The Woodlands, TX
The Woodlands TX Real Estate

Deborah,  did you REALLY crack three teeth????   ouch!!!

Jul 11, 2010 04:05 PM
Jon Zolsky, Daytona Beach, FL
Daytona Condo Realty, 386-405-4408 - Daytona Beach, FL
Buy Daytona condos for heavenly good prices

Deborah,

I liked to see how you interact with commenters. I am just afraid that the more your base become, the more time it takes.

But for now I wish you that problem.

And... have rest, no need to respond to it. Skip it, I know  you read it and said "Thank you" ;-)

Jul 11, 2010 05:40 PM
Deborah "Dee Dee" Garvin
C2 Financial - San Diego, CA
C2 Financial

Barbara, I think blessings come in all forms.....but, yes, I think so.  ;=)

Pippa,  Alas, true story.  Hey, that's a 10k smile I have....used to support a dentist or two! LOL!

John, How kind of you...and I know you are right.  Blessings to you for your advice.

Jul 11, 2010 11:34 PM
Karen Feltman
Cedar Rapids/Iowa City, IA KW Legacy Group - Cedar Rapids, IA
Relocation Specialist in Cedar Rapids, Iowa

What an inspiring story especially to anyone that gets tightly wound about the process!! We all like to feel that we are completely in control, but sometimes it is better to accept that you can work it out if something goes awry.  Great reminder to keep things in perspective and look to the future opportunities.

Keep smling,

Karen

Jul 12, 2010 04:29 AM
Deborah "Dee Dee" Garvin
C2 Financial - San Diego, CA
C2 Financial

Karen, Thanks for your comments..........one won't last in this business long without smiling! 

Jul 12, 2010 06:14 AM
Dawn A Fabiszak
Private Label Realty ( Denver metro area, Colorado - Aurora, CO
The Dawn of a New Real Estate Experience!

Deborah ~ great story.  Your character shines through! You certainly focused on the big picture.

Jul 12, 2010 11:28 AM
Deborah "Dee Dee" Garvin
C2 Financial - San Diego, CA
C2 Financial

Dawn, Thanks for your comment.  Keeping everything focused on the big picture is the only way to keep abreast of all areas of a file........and of life, I think.

Jul 13, 2010 04:39 AM
Lori Gilmore
Baird & Warner Real Estate - Joliet, IL
Realtor - Will County Illinois

Hi Deborah, I found your post via Lenn Harley and I am glad I did.  I've had a week of others dropping the ball and sometimes it is enough to drive me under my desk and into a catatonic state.  But the wiser, more responsible and professional response is to do everything in my power to piece things back together and move forward with grace.

Thank you for the reminder and the shining example.

Jul 13, 2010 09:08 AM
Deborah "Dee Dee" Garvin
C2 Financial - San Diego, CA
C2 Financial

Lori,  Thank you for your kind words.  I hope your week gets better....sometimes things come at us faster than we can deal.  Best wishes for some tranquility.

Jul 13, 2010 09:15 AM
Kyle Jan
Scottsdale, AZ
Phoenix AZ Homes for Sale

How true it is.  We are only as good as our weakest link.  If that weak link is our processor, we have major problems.  You handled the situation with class and professionalism.  Early in my career, I would not have handled it as you did.  I wouldn't have called for her to be fired, but I wouldn't have bought her roses either.  I would have taken the blame though because I always have felt that certain things in the loan process are my responsibility if I make the choice to use something or someone.  That includes my processor, I chose to work with her when I accepted the job.  It is our job to make sure that they are on top of the files.  Was an interest credit not an option? (allowed if loan funds within the first 5 days of the new month)

Jul 14, 2010 09:28 AM
Deborah "Dee Dee" Garvin
C2 Financial - San Diego, CA
C2 Financial

Kyle,  Best advice I was ever given in mortgage came from my initial training at Directors Mortgage Company (a company that actually invested in training their LO's...a full week in CA on all aspects of mortgage). "There will be times you will have problems and you will want to blame your processor, the underwriter, the appraiser..even the client.......but it is YOUR file.  You are paid the big bucks and you need to be responsible for all aspects of the loan."  That tutelage may well be why I took the actions I did...I took those words to heart and have built my career on them.

Remember, it was an FHA loan...FHA does not allow for interest credit.  At least not years ago.  None of the wholesale or retail companies I have worked with in Washington or California would allow interest credit on FHA files.  Outside of that, I have actually done a couple interest credits up to seven days.....boy, did I do some negotiating!  LOL!

Jul 15, 2010 02:31 AM
Kyle Jan
Scottsdale, AZ
Phoenix AZ Homes for Sale

It was a refinance, sorry wasn't paying attention.  A thousand apologies, I was thinking purchase money.  You are correct and I will make sure that I reprimand myself.

Jul 15, 2010 08:37 AM
Robert Havana
Park and Protect- Alberta Real Estate License Parking - Calgary, AB
Alberta Real Estate License Parking

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Jul 23, 2010 06:40 AM