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Neighbors helping neighbors... happens a lot in my community.

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Real Estate Broker/Owner with Lane Realty Eatonton, GA Lake Sinclair, Milledgeville, 706-485-9668 GREC# 169695

Neighbors helping neighbors... happens a lot in my community.

This post was inspired by Gary Woltol and a post he wrote earlier today.

Do you know what distressed property owners need?

In the fall of 1992 I was recently divorced with a very young daughter.  I'd changed jobs in July of that year and was just starting my career in Real Estate.  I'd moved back into my parents house with my baby girl into my old room and was saving money as best I could to move on with my life.  On Sunday, November 22, 1992 I attended a class meeting in preparation for my high school 10 year reunion.  I was at that meeting with friends when a storm rolled in around 4 p.m.  I left the meeting early to head home because I had my baby girl with me and the weather was REALLY bad.

On the road home the black cloud just seemed to come all the way down the meet the road in front of me.  It was very scary.  Then I heard a noise I'd never heard before and it didn't sound like what I'd heard described as a train, to me it sounded like a rumble of thunder that just didn't stop.  It began to hail on my windshield about the size of golf balls.  I pulled over (and I was on a highway in the rural area where I live on a stretch of road without homes) and unbuckled my baby girl from her car seat and put her in the floorboard and leaned over her with my jacket over us and sang to her until the hail stopped pounding on my truck.

I got back on the road and headed for home.  One mile before my house there was a tree that blocked the road.  A neighbor I knew well (I had worked as a babysitter for his two older children) and been neighbors and best friends with his sister for several years in my early childhood.  I pulled into his driveway and he was in his yard.  A tree had gone through his dining room window.  I told him when I got home I'd tell my dad, who I was sure would come and help him so rain would stop coming into his house.  He allowed me to drive across his lawn to avoid the huge tree in the road.

As I rounded the next curve my horror grew larger.  7 homes in row were completely gone.  Foundations and a basement were all that was left where these homes had been two hours before as I drove past that day.  More trees and downed power lines were also in the road way.  I was in a panic by this time about my parents.  I had to pull over again and move a tree out the street.  I know today I couldn't budge a tree that large, but let me tell you fear can move mountains.  Then I met a car, a car not familiar to me, but the driver was my father.  He was driving one of our neighbors to the hospital.  I was happy to see him and hear that he and mom were alright and he was happy to see me and his only grandchild.

When I arrived home to my folks house the damage was pretty bad.  A huge tree was on the storage building, the one with all my "stuff" in it waiting for me to move out on my own again.  Another 5 trees on and in the house.  The ski boat was crushed under trees.  All in all over 100 fallen trees on the 2.5 acre property.  My dad had been driving another neighbor's car because all three of their cars were blocked in by huge trees that had fallen.  We'd had a tornado that afternoon.  Three people in my communtiy lost their lives that day.  Many others lost all their stuff.

But this story is about my community and what they did for me in the following days and weeks.

It was the Sunday before Thanksgiving.  We had no power for over a week at my parent's house.  Yet on Thanksgiving Day... we had delivered by people across the community a turkey, dressing, and all the trimmings.  We stopped working on clearing the debris's and branches long enough to give thanks for our lives and the blessings of what we still had and the blessings of having a community that would not let Thanksgiving Day pass without my family having a traditional Thanksgiving meal.

Ladies from my community came and drove away with soggy bags filled with my daughter's toys and clothes and returned them washed and folded and packed into new dry boxes days later.  The work of cleaning, burning tree tops, the repairs to the house were grueling and tiring.  I've NEVER worked that hard.  Before I knew it it was a couple of days before Christmas and my baby girl was about to have nothing.  I'd not had time to shop.  But I got a call from the Women's Jr. Service league.  One of my friends had told them about the damage to my parent's house and that year my daughter got to have Christmas because of the compassion of others in my community. 

It was a very humbling experience to rely on others for Thanksgiving and Christmas for my family.  It certainly changed me.  I was just 27  years old and until that time had always thought that someday I'd "escape" Eatonton, Georgia.  But then I knew I was in the community where I wanted to raise my child.  In the community where neighbors help neighbors and that small town rural Georgia was indeed my destiny.

People ask me sometimes about "community" when thinking of relocating here and I have no problem telling them it's the best place I can think of to live.  Since that time I also try to do my part in giving back to not only my own community, but sometimes even to strangers in other towns who have disaster strike. 

When I left a comment on Gary's post today... he answered it in saying it sounded like "compassion was a specialty" of mine  and IF it is, the love and compassion my entire community showed me in my time of need is why.  I'm simply paying forward what my Lake Sinclair neighbors showed me.  I've always believed that all things happen with purpose and meaning.  And the silver lining of my dark cloud from November 22, 1992 was the love I feel for the community I call home.

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Andrea Swiedler
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices New England Properties - New Milford, CT
Realtor, Southern Litchfield County CT

Tammy, what a wonderful story! I think you really said... don't be so worried if it seems like things are the worst, in this time the light will come on and things will be wonderful!

Great community you live in, no wonder why you stayed.

Jul 24, 2010 05:44 PM
Renée Donohue~Home Photography
Savvy Home Pix - Allegan, MI
Western Michigan Real Estate Photographer

WOW!  I lived in the midwest and I really miss this spirit and attitude!  You have definitely overcome some very large obstacles in your life and it is apparent that you are giving back way more than what you were given!

Jul 25, 2010 08:52 AM
Aaron Vaughn 830-358-0455
Conifer Builders LLC - Canyon Lake, TX

Tammy ... what an incredible story! It's amazing the good that lives in the hearts of people when the circumstances are ripe for it.

Jul 25, 2010 01:01 PM
Jason Crouch
Austin Texas Homes, LLC - Austin, TX
Broker - Austin Texas Real Estate (512-796-7653)

Tammy - What an amazing story here.  You handled the hail in the same way I would have, or at least I like to think that's how I would handle it.  :)  Sounds like a terrific outpouring of support from the local community.  Good stuff!

Jul 25, 2010 02:10 PM
Sharon Alters
Coldwell Banker Vanguard Realty - 904-673-2308 - Fleming Island, FL
Realtor - Homes for Sale Fleming Island FL

Tammy, I knew it was a tornado when you started talking about the hail, and I am so thankful that you and your family are safe. Your story of community touches me. People in bigger cities don't experience that same closeness that you have.

Jul 25, 2010 02:43 PM
Tammy Lankford,
Lane Realty Eatonton, GA Lake Sinclair, Milledgeville, 706-485-9668 - Eatonton, GA
Broker GA Lake Sinclair/Eatonton/Milledgeville

Andrea- Growing up I didn't realize how great small town living was, but raising my family here, working here, the fellowship among my neighbors... it's the greatest.

Renee- I do try to give back.  I teach Sunday school and have not for 18 years.  Every year I get the local public school to provide me with a name of family in need and my children's Sunday school class saves money one quarter at time and we buy groceries and deliver them the week of Thanksgiving.  It ends up every single year that I'm in tears before it over, and usually the adults in the family are in tears too and all the children are laughing at us and just happy.  But giving back at Thanksgiving will always be a priority for me.

Aaron- most people I believe are truly good.  I've seen many neighbors helping neighbors in recent days with this heat as well.  In last weeks paper a family purchased 10 window A/C units and delivered them to families with no central A/C and gave them each  $100 to help pay the utility bills. 

Jason- It wasn't really a plan, it was just sort of one of those parent reactions to protect the little ones.  And my community was great.  Not only to my family, but so many of the families including those who lost so much more.

Sharon- I visit my in laws in a large city and it's a beautiful place to visit, but I couldn't live there.  One of my neighbors sells vegetables via the honor system.  He has a little table at the end of his drive with fresh vegetables from his garden, the prices listed, a scale a money box for leaving your money and taking your change.  I think that's SO cool.  Not once has he had either product or money stolen.  And his driveway is so long you can't see the house from the street.

Jul 25, 2010 03:00 PM
Michael Bergin
Coldwell Banker Residential Brokerage - ABR - SRES - Alexandria, VA
Northern Virginia Real Estate

Tammy -

Whether we are in large cities or rural enclaves, it is community that creates home and gives us strenght to withstand the daily obstacles that are life.  You are indeed fortunate to have found an amazing community - and even more - to recognize and celebrate it,

MB

Jul 25, 2010 03:33 PM
Tammy Lankford,
Lane Realty Eatonton, GA Lake Sinclair, Milledgeville, 706-485-9668 - Eatonton, GA
Broker GA Lake Sinclair/Eatonton/Milledgeville

Michael- I can't take credit for "finding it".  That happened over 200 years ago.  I have 7 generations buried in the local cemetery.

Jul 25, 2010 03:46 PM
Sharon Alters
Coldwell Banker Vanguard Realty - 904-673-2308 - Fleming Island, FL
Realtor - Homes for Sale Fleming Island FL

Tammy, we were just visiting my home town in Virginia. There was a nursery next door to our motel and they had thousands of dollars worth of flowers that they left out all night. I'm not sure they could do that in a big city.

Jul 25, 2010 04:17 PM
Tammy Lankford,
Lane Realty Eatonton, GA Lake Sinclair, Milledgeville, 706-485-9668 - Eatonton, GA
Broker GA Lake Sinclair/Eatonton/Milledgeville

Worst thing I've ever had happen was some teenagers "re-arranged" the letters on my reader board to say well... something a teenager would find funny.  All the local cops still tease me about it and actually threaten to change the sign themselves because I was so good natured about it.  After all... I still remember that silly side, I'm not THAT old.

Where is your hometown?  I have family in VA in the Chesapeake area.

Jul 25, 2010 04:24 PM
Mary Douglas
United Country Ponderosa Realty, Red Feather Lakes, Colorado - Red Feather Lakes, CO
REALTOR, Red Feather Lakes, Colorado

Hi Tammy, What a beautiful and touching story.  I have been fortunate in my life to not be in any natural disasters, but I see it over and over on the news how communities and neighbors pull together during those times, more so than any other time.  It's very powerful.  You forgot the hankie alert for this post though Tammy!

Jul 25, 2010 04:48 PM
Lisa Glowacki
Lisa Glowacki - Rhode Island & Massachusetts - Tiverton, RI
Real Estate Broker - RI & MA

Hi Tammy,  I love your stories.  Thank you for starting my Monday with this wonderful story.

Jul 26, 2010 01:38 AM
Irene Kennedy Realtor® in Northwestern NJ
Weichert - Lopatcong, NJ

A powerful story, Tammy. Chicken or egg? Are you a compassionate, giving person because of the love and support you got here or because you were raised in a caring community?  Who cares!  The upshot is what you are today.

Jul 26, 2010 01:42 AM
Stephanie Stringer
First Choice Loan Services NMLS#210764 - San Antonio, TX
Mortgage Loan Originator

Tammy,  You are so blessed to live in such a great community.  Good luck to you.

Jul 26, 2010 03:43 AM
Sheldon Neal
Bergen County, NJ - RE/MAX Real Estate Limited - Maywood, NJ
That British Agent Bergen County NJ

Now THAT is an example of the TRULY important reasons that 'Location Location Location' is so important !

I think living in a location and community like yours, has such huge value, above and beyond a monetary gain, to all who are lucky enough to live there !

... I remember you telling me of this story, or one very similar of another scary storm there, and both times, your family and the community rallied round, and came out the other end stronger and better :o)

And I KNOW you are one of the most compassionate people on this green Earth ;o)

Cheers partner !

Jul 26, 2010 05:28 AM
Tammy Lankford,
Lane Realty Eatonton, GA Lake Sinclair, Milledgeville, 706-485-9668 - Eatonton, GA
Broker GA Lake Sinclair/Eatonton/Milledgeville

Oh come on Mary- this was a happy story, no hankie needed. LOL  Another time I remember that same spirit in our community was when an arsonist burned three churches (mine was a total loss) in 1977.  Other churches immediately offered to let us have services in their facilities.  We ended up spending 5 years in the auditorium of my old grammar school.  When we walked the 3 blocks the morning our new building was dedicated from one building to the other people from other churches and the community came and lined the side of the road and sang hymns and cheered for us.

Lisa- I know you'd love this area too.  The town north of me has great antique stores that I know you'd really love.

Irene- I'd have to say it's a little of both... The community has always been this way, BUT being on the receiving end gives a entire new meaning to giving.

Stephanie- very blessed.

Sheldon- Yes, I believe I told a little part of this story about Abigail and her "swing set" that survived the tornado and of course YOU would remember that.  I'm gonna have to call you from one of my "secret" phone numbers soon to get you back off balance.  And thanks for the lovely compliment.

Jul 26, 2010 06:30 AM
Teri Eckholm
Boardman Realty - White Bear Lake, MN
REALTOR Serving Mpls/St Paul North & East Metro

Tammy--Oh my goodness...what a story! Your community really rallied around you and your family at your time of need and in return you learned so much about paying it foward. We should all have one such event early in our lives with such a positive outcome.

Jul 26, 2010 08:59 AM
Tammy Lankford,
Lane Realty Eatonton, GA Lake Sinclair, Milledgeville, 706-485-9668 - Eatonton, GA
Broker GA Lake Sinclair/Eatonton/Milledgeville

Teri- It would be my wish that others could learn this lesson through stories such as this than with such an event having to occur.  But at the tender age of 4 my daughter's future was somewhat shaped by this event.  She's a certified firefighter, in EMT school expected to graduate in September and then plans to get her bathchelor's in health and wellness by May and go on to get a master's in nursing.  She loves helping those in the most need.

Jul 26, 2010 09:16 AM
Debe Maxwell, CRS
Savvy + Company (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
The RIGHT CHARLOTTE REALTOR!

Hi Tammy!  What a wonderful story and so beautifully written too!  It IS amazing how communities come together in tmes of need and yours certainly did.  We experienced the same community bonding when hurricane Hugo came through Charlotte.  Three weeks of it and I was completely amazed at the level of giving from everyone.

I'm so glad that all of your family was saved from harm and you were able to experience that level of community involvement, caring and giving.

Jul 27, 2010 03:16 AM
Tammy Lankford,
Lane Realty Eatonton, GA Lake Sinclair, Milledgeville, 706-485-9668 - Eatonton, GA
Broker GA Lake Sinclair/Eatonton/Milledgeville

Debe- Funny what it sometimes takes to bring people together.  What a wonderful world it could be if all people behaved like that all the time huh?

Jul 27, 2010 05:06 AM