The Strengths To Being Genuine

Lies -- my biggest pet peeve. My dad always told us to never lie because you just have to tell another lie to cover up for that one and another to cover up for that one... The best advice ever. The  truth will always come out -- always.

I think most people just think that they appreciate someone being genuine.  Most people don't want the truth.  They want the dreams and the fantasy instead of what they see as the ugly reality.  Go out and tell people that you are concerned about them and really think that they should try to lose some weight.  They aren't going to thank you for being honest and genuine. They'll think that you are a rude jerk who should keep out of their business.  To function in society, you really can't be totally honest with everything.

Gary, life becomes difficult when you try to be someone else. Being genuine has to be more than skin deep.

Genuine and congruent is the key to being real. Sometimes in our business life, we are being challenged on that every day.

I love this line, Gary: Finally, your sense of oneness, that who you say you are and who you are, that synching up of the two, gives you high self-esteem

It also gives you power. Power to continue being who you are.

And for Lori (#7), I hate to say this, but there is little dignity in growing old, and I don't know why people use that phrase or hope to aspire to it because you will be sorely disappointed if you do. I think the best you can do is embrace the fact you're still kicking and be thankful your vision is going downhill. LOL.

Gary, wonderful post and great message....if you are not being truthful, and real, you are only kidding yourself!

Gary,

Excellent post and great points.  Being authentic will engender trust and people will be drawn to you.  Genuine people are a breath of fresh air, and it is delightful to talk to someone who is not choosing their words in order to seek approval from someone.  Thanks for sharing this with us.  All the best.

Gary: Bottom line is, I think people who are genuine are punished by a society that not only doesn't see value in being genuine, but rewards the insincere in many ways.

Great post and exactly how I conduct myself in life.  People appreciate honesty and integrity because they always know where they stand with me.  Most people can spot BS from a mile away and don't want to work with someone who isn't forthright.

I've had so many jobs where I was forced to be secretive, and I hated it, and I just want to say I am so happy that I work for a culture that encourages me to be me and where everyone is encouraged to be positive and share information.

Keller Williams Rocks!

I know several people in my personal life (who I no longer hang around) who are chronic liars..who tell lies to cover lies and cannot remember what they told to whom. They think they are being so smart, when really it is just sad.

I agree with you that the older we get, the more we care about the inner selves and less about the outer selves. After all, you won't be taking the outer self with you!

Gary, I always enjoy your posts.  There is so much you say in each one.  In our business, I believe it's vital to be genuine, but unforutanately, I find many that aren't....for a variety of reasons.  I must stay that I struggle with this aspect of our careers.  I put "me" out there every day and some work so hard at being someone else...sad to be and obvious many times.  Thanks for your post.

I alway say I'd be a terrible candidate for blackmail, because there isn't really ANYTHING in my life that I would care too much for everybody knowing it.

great post

yes everyone lies...

here's a great lie

Nazi's knock on the door of the house and ask if you're hiding anyone in the attic

You are

You say "No"

Great lie

Never saw that particular video, it's shocking to see what happened to that model with the final result. I like what you said 'sense of oneness'.  Thanks for the great post.

Great topic Gary. This goes for those sneaky buyers too! 

I encounter many people who are intimidated by me: other agents and consumers. They are often suprised when they meet me and Im genuine and sincere. I dont like or distort the truth. I talk to them and take the time to educate them, and it makes the process much smoother along the way.  

Having integrity and being genuine, are to me both essentials not only in running a business, but living a happy life and being at peace with yourself. Great post!

Gary - I have built my business on this principle since 1997.  No need to try to be someone or something that I'm not.  :)