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Get Kicked, You Kick Cause And Effect Real Estate Dominos.

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Real Estate Agent with MOOERS REALTY ME Broker License 106759

The usually mild mannered Maine real estate buyer suddenly makes unreasonable demands, is never quite happy and borderline difficult.

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What happened?

Everyone used to be so friendly, happy, easy to get along with and down right polite.

The Maine real estate domino sales don't give folks license to push other folks around.

But emotions running high and demands made by a buyer two Maine houses before the sale. The one you, the agent, broker, REALTOR is at the helm of carefully guiding around the "rocks". You can explain the eye brow raising new attitudes, activities from experience.

Add in some additional extra real estate agents, lawyers, bankers and mother in laws. Stir in some Facebook comments, other social media barbs. Now the stew is cooking, cauldron boiling, bubbling. And complaints, hurt feelings, second guessing "why why why Mr Anderson" happens.  And the fun and games of two cents here and there sprinkled in of "she said he said" can develop.

So like the airline pilot who comes on the intercom and warns of turbulence, extra gusts of head winds that may make the ride a little bumpier, the guy or gal wearing the "R" needs to use some Dr Phil compassion. Run interference and smooth the bumps before they cause derailment, hatred, seeds that germinate of discontentment.

When your buyer or seller or both are whining about why is the other party doing this, demanding that, it is always a case of don't take it personal. And consider that maybe the behavior of someone is a cause of another person's words, actions, events that explain it.

It pulls the buyer, seller back to consider the bigger picture, the rest of the real estate sale transaction forest.

How they fit in, which puzzle piece they hold on the way to the real estate closing.

If you were a little bird watching from a window sill. Or a fly on the wall in another home, eavesdropping on the supper or dinner conversations, answers would be forthcoming. Most folks are well intentioned but can be like the St Bernard who becomes a Cujo.

Maine, it's gorgeous four seasons outdoor beauty, wildlife, and fewer people. But the folks we have are friendlier.

I'm Maine REALTOR Andrew Mooers

Comments(6)

Glenn Roberts
Retired - Seattle, WA

Often a buyer or seller's back up group sings in harmony but drowns out the basic need of the principal you were once working with and carries the tune down some lost alleyway. (Raging metaphor gets away from commenter. Sorry)

Sep 27, 2010 04:44 AM
Andrew Mooers | 207.532.6573
MOOERS REALTY - Houlton, ME
Northern Maine Real Estate-Aroostook County Broker

Well put!

Sep 27, 2010 04:49 AM
Cal Yoder
Keller Williams Elite - Lititz, PA
Homes For Sale in Lancaster PA - 717.413.0744

And always helping keep a broader perspective/big picture is one of our biggest challenges. It is funny how a washing machine can become so important. Amazing.

Cal

Sep 27, 2010 04:57 AM
Roger D. Mucci
Shaken...with a Twist 216.633.2092 - Euclid, OH
Lets shake things up at your home today!

Many hats are worn by all of you in the industry...............focus on the big picture.

Sep 27, 2010 05:07 AM
Kristen Wheatley
Better Homes & Gardens | The Masiello Group - Brunswick, ME
Supporting Success - Best Job in the World!

There ought to be an honorary degree in psychology in there somewhere for you!

Sep 27, 2010 05:32 AM
Andrew Mooers | 207.532.6573
MOOERS REALTY - Houlton, ME
Northern Maine Real Estate-Aroostook County Broker

Cal ..you are right. And it is harvest gold or avocado colored too which means warranty...what warranty. Back from the days of Kcars.

Roger..can you say misunderstanding? Sure you can. Whisper down the line bucket brigade style (Time to eat) and the last guy says (You're primed to sleep? Get to work young fella..no gold brickers here on my watch.. (away we go))

Kristen..Its being able to walk in other mocassins (no high heels please) How does the other person feel, why they do and just listening helps difuse the situation. No one is wrong about how they feel. Home buying and selling is one big emotional experience.

Sep 27, 2010 09:52 AM