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The Neverending Honeymoon

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Services for Real Estate Pros with ActiveRain

One of the things we did at our wedding was a couples dance. Every couple in the crowd came out on the dance floor and the DJ started counting up (the number of years each couple has been married) until there was only one couple left on the floor. Then we shared the floor with them and they gave us a little advice on how the heck they've been married for 60 years.

Her advice: Never let the honeymoon end

His advice: her advice is always right (that might not be exactly what he said, but that's how I remember it)

So I had someone send me something that other day asking for help and they apologized because they weren't sure if our honeymoon was over. Well it's not.....and we don't intend on letting it end.....so stop sending me stuff and asking for help (haha, I kid)

I've been taking a less visible role in the community over the last few months. In my stead, Kerrie, Brad, Sarah and Steven have been handling just about everything. Now that Brad has transitioned to a fantastic opportunity with a little known company in a related field, Kerrie is in big trouble is getting more experience then she ever bargained for. She can handle it though, I have no doubt about it. I'm still here supporting her and making sure that if I step off the curb tomorrow and get hit by the ice cream man (I love ice cream......I can't be the only one who chases the truck when it comes through their neighborhood), there is someone that knows every in and out of the site.

If you send me an email, don't be offended if I use it as an opportunity to teach Kerrie how to answer it. Rarely a week goes by that something doesn't still come up that even I have to scratch my head and investigate to figure it out. So we are having plenty of fun teaching Kerrie a few years worth of head scratching answers to be able to assist you better.

WIth the little bit of extra time I've found on my hands, I'm getting used to being married, thanking my lucky stars that God put my amazing wife in my life and figuring out a way that our paying Rainmakers can earn their grandfathered status and be able to be a Rainmaker without having to pay. We have a couple of other fun projects around the company that I get to be involved in as well and we can't wait to share some of that stuff with you in the coming months........and I think it's probably getting close to time to give away ridiculous amounts of points for writing posts you should be writing every week anyway. Does anyone smell a contest coming?

If you are going to be at the NAR Conference in November in New Orleans, I look forward to seeing you there as I will be there representing ActiveRain and bringing you a great RainCamp New Orleans with my buddy Ben.

 

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Bob Stewart
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Comments (107)

Sharon Alters
Coldwell Banker Vanguard Realty - 904-673-2308 - Fleming Island, FL
Realtor - Homes for Sale Fleming Island FL

Bob, great to hear from you and that you're back in gear! We loved Kerrie when we met her at RainCamp :) and hope to see you in New Orleans!

Oct 05, 2010 05:03 PM
Jon Zolsky, Daytona Beach, FL
Daytona Condo Realty, 386-405-4408 - Daytona Beach, FL
Buy Daytona condos for heavenly good prices

Bob, and I thought I would be the last one on the floor withh the count of 40, but you got 60... wow. The difference is that  I still do not know the answer, and they do (LOL)

I guess we missed you at Orlando RainCamp.

Oh, well...

Oct 05, 2010 06:02 PM
Satar Naghshineh
Satar - Amiri Property and Financial Services Corp. - Irvine, CA

If you put the following in order, then you will always stay married:

1. God or some type of moral belief system. Your morals will come first.

2. Spouse. Your spouse should always have top priority. No matter how insignificant you might feel the subject matter is.

3. Your Children. Your kids come before anyone else, except for morals and spouse.

4. Friends and Family. They come last. So your son's birthday party takes priority over your mom's dinner party.

Alot of people make the mistake of putting their children before their spouse. They wake up one day as strangers. They sometimes retreat into themselves and follow down paths that lead to adultry and self-interests instead of focusing on the family.

Good luck to you. I'm glad you eventually got married.

Oct 05, 2010 07:19 PM
Jim Hale
ACTIONAGENTS.NET - Eugene, OR
Eugene Oregon's Best Home Search Website

Bob-

Funny thing about great advice:

 

I attended a wedding recently:  Same dance format.  Same advice given by the 60-year husband.

Must be something to it.

I've only been married 39 years.  But if we live long enough to be the last dancers standing, I will happily give the same happiness advice.

Oct 06, 2010 10:23 AM
Patricia Kennedy
RLAH@Properties - Washington, DC
Home in the Capital

Bob, you, and all of us who blog on Active Rain, lucked out when you hired Kerrie.  She is amazing.

Oct 06, 2010 03:47 PM
William J. Archambault, Jr.
The Real Estate Investment Institute - Houston, TX

Bob,

We're two weeks away from the 40th anniversary of the day Brenda and I met and decided to marry. Yes, we picked the day the day we met. Our 40th won't come up until April.

I've spent the years trying to live up to the image Brenda sees in me. Brenda has spent the time spoiling me!

You just can't do better than those Southern Michigan grils!

Bill

Oct 06, 2010 11:20 PM
Margaret Woda
Long & Foster Real Estate, Inc. - Crofton, MD
Maryland Real Estate & Military Relocation

At the last two weddings we attended, my husband and I "won" the wedding dance, with 47 years.  One of my sons said that's when he realized how OLD we are.  LOL.  Great, that's what we wanted to hear.  Well, at least we got a bottle of sparkling for the recent win... nothing for the first one.

My internet was down for several days last week, so I missed your post and went looking for you this morning.  I miss you!  Kerrie is doing a great job, but our community needs a Bob-fix every now and then...

Oct 06, 2010 11:31 PM
Dorie Dillard Austin TX
Coldwell Banker Realty ~ 512.750.6899 - Austin, TX
NW Austin ~ Canyon Creek and Spicewood/Balcones

Good morning Bob,

I have no doubt you and Kerrie will keep that honeymoon going and she is doing a fabulous job! Margaret is right we do still need a Bob "fix" once in awhile. I wish Brad great success!

Oct 07, 2010 12:07 AM
Karen Fiddler, Broker/Owner
Karen Parsons-Fiddler, Broker 949-510-2395 - Mission Viejo, CA
Orange County & Lake Arrowhead, CA (949)510-2395

Focus on the marriage.....and the rest of life will take care of itself. We are all grown-ups here, and Kerrie is fantastic.

Oct 07, 2010 03:41 AM
Virginia Thomas
Virginia Thomas (Keller Williams Realty) Silicon Valley - San Jose, CA
Silicon Valley

Bob,

I will be attending the conference in New Orleans but I won't be bringing you a wedding gift (ha)although I'm happy to hear your honeymoon isn't over.  I just attended the seminar in Mountain View and am now signed up.  I'm plan to visit friends in New Orleans and spending a day at Rebuilding Together so if you and Kerrie want to join me in painting, I'll listen to your love story.  My parents have been married 66 years and I don't even know their secret.  I think it's just that generation. Funny thing, I've never been married. 

I'm bringing my frail father with me to New Orleans so we can visit the WWII History Museum.  He served in WWII, Korea, and Viet Nam in the USMC for 27 years before retiring as a Major...another long-term committment. 

Oct 07, 2010 09:06 AM
Yolanda Hoversten
Self Employed - O'Fallon, IL
Referrals for O’Fallon, IL & the Metro East

Hi, Bob!  Congrats to you and best wishes to your bride--that's really how it goes.  The groom gets the congratulations since you're so lucky to have the bride marry you, and best wishes to the bride because she needs all the help she can get.  :)

Marriage is a lot of work and requires lots of compromises, but it's all worth it!

Oct 07, 2010 12:10 PM
"The Lovely Wife" The One And Only TLW.
President-Tutas Towne Realty, Inc. - Kissimmee, FL

WidowMaker...

I'm still tongue tied. Maybe some ice cream would help :)

And you know, and I've said it before, it's not the destination that matters, it's who you're traveling with. The journey is key :)

TLW...ROAR!

Oct 07, 2010 11:48 PM
Karen Anne Stone
New Home Hunters of Fort Worth and Tarrant County - Fort Worth, TX
Fort Worth Real Estate

Bob:  I just hope that this is NOT a sign that you will soon be leaving Active Rain as well.  Things are starting to look a little "iffy" around here... like a sale happening pretty soon is coming.

Oct 08, 2010 03:50 PM
Jennifer Fivelsdal
JFIVE Home Realty LLC | 845-758-6842|162 Deer Run Rd Red Hook NY 12571 - Rhinebeck, NY
Mid Hudson Valley real estate connection

Bob I agree, the honeymoon should never be over.  Congratulations again to you and Christa.  I won't forget your wedding since it was the first on-line wedding I have attended.

Well what can I say about Kerrie? she is awesome.  Just one advice,  too much head scratching will ruin her hair :)

Oct 09, 2010 05:37 PM
Debbie DiFonzo
Debbie DiFonzo - United Country VIP Realty, SW Missouri - Lebanon, MO
Lebanon MO and Buffalo Missouri Real Estate

Love the mans advice - probably the best you'll ever receive!

New stuff is always good and a CONTEST would be great!

Oct 13, 2010 12:02 PM
Emcee M. Arah
Remax Excellence - Silver Spring, MD - Silver Spring, MD
Realtor w/Architectural Dimension, AHWD CRS B-Arch

It's so funny how the majority of the people who responded to this post were asking about the contest!  Congratulations on keeping the honeymoon alive!

~Emcee

Oct 26, 2010 11:01 AM
Renae Bolton
Marketing 4 Realtors - Garfield Heights, OH
I'm your Professional Real Estate Marketing VA!

How awesome you are, Bob!  My husband and I celebrated our 14th anniversary back in August.  I love him more today than ever before.  After 6 kids, a mortgage, 2 cars, and all the other stuff that comes along with life, it's a little more difficult to keep ther honeymoon alive.  The trick is to treat each other with the love, respect, and admiration that you had for them from the beginning.

It's also a really great thing that you have someone like Kerrie to step in and take up the slack.  We all know that girls rule and boys drool!  Kerrie's just setting the standard in The Rain!  :-)

Congratulations again!

~Renae

Oct 26, 2010 11:34 AM
Renae Bolton
Marketing 4 Realtors - Garfield Heights, OH
I'm your Professional Real Estate Marketing VA!

I just had to come back here and tell you this.  Last night, my husband and I were talking about taking a little trip somewhere (sans bebes), maybe a long weekend while they are on Thanksgiving break (easier to get rid of them if they don't have to be shuttled here, there, and everywhere).  I said "Oh!  We could make it a 2nd honeymoon!" to which my beloved replied very casually, "A 2nd honeymoon?  I thought we were still on our 1st." I guess I was wrong - the honeymoon can actually last well after kids, mortgages, cars, and bills!

~Renae

Nov 04, 2010 03:16 AM
Bill Dean
Haggerty Team St. Louis, Mo. - Fenton, MO
William Dean - Broker, Salesperson

60 years!  Wow, My wife and I are only kids with 35 years!    But, they both gave you good advice, SHE is always right! May you have 60 years and more all happy ones.

 

 

I'm subscribed to your blog but somehw keep missing these contests.  I found the one for October in the last days and decided NOT to half-ass it, so close to deadline.

Also, to throow in a question- Why have so many people LOST FACE in their state and county blog rolls?  i checked Mo after mine face was gone and another state to compare, same thing there?  Is there a glitch?

Nov 04, 2010 08:12 PM
Jason Crouch
Austin Texas Homes, LLC - Austin, TX
Broker - Austin Texas Real Estate (512-796-7653)

Bob - I had missed this post until tonight.  It was good getting a chance to catch up with you a little bit via phone earlier.  With regard to your story of the couple that has been together for 60 years, it reminds me of my grandparents, who were married for 64 years until he passed away in 1999.  Believe it or not, they only knew each other for about 3 weeks before they were married.  He helped put out a fire in her father's chicken coop, and they fell in love.  :) 

I never saw them argue for more than a few seconds - he adored her, and he never let her forget it.  I do the same thing for my wife, and I bet you will, too. 

Have a great weekend, and I look forward to hanging out in Houston with you in early December!

Nov 12, 2010 01:58 PM